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So ... If someone in "vanilla" land...

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd walk away from here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would depend on the person but I'd definitely give it up and walk away never to look back.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

Not if I couldn't be 100% myself with that person. I would always want to be with someone who accepts me for all that I am including my kinks, my desires and how I express myself sexually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd walk away from here."

Without any pondering at all?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would depend on the person but I'd definitely give it up and walk away never to look back. "

Never...??? That's a very long time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would take a special man to tie me down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not if I couldn't be 100% myself with that person. I would always want to be with someone who accepts me for all that I am including my kinks, my desires and how I express myself sexually."

But would that include swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"? "

Having a just in case get out isn't having a real relationship is it?

I might stay here for the forums bit would be totally open honest and up front about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It would take a special man to tie me down.

How special?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yep. "

Which one?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would depend on the person but I'd definitely give it up and walk away never to look back.

Never...??? That's a very long time "

Well OK, assuming the relationship lasted. If it didn't I probably would return.

For the duration of the relationship I'd never look back.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Fab is just a past time its not my life. So it would be very easy to walk away.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Would depend. If I ever do settle down I want a swinging or open relationship x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"?

Having a just in case get out isn't having a real relationship is it?

I might stay here for the forums bit would be totally open honest and up front about it"

Like Seeside you mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nah"

Nah what??

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No. I'd want my cake and be able to eat it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would depend on the person but I'd definitely give it up and walk away never to look back.

Never...??? That's a very long time

Well OK, assuming the relationship lasted. If it didn't I probably would return.

For the duration of the relationship I'd never look back.

That's fair comment!

Would you delete your profile or just hide it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It would take a special man to tie me down.

How special? "

I don't know, I've yet to find him

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Fab is just a past time its not my life. So it would be very easy to walk away. "

Good point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd run a freaking mile in the other direction.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

Give it up (not that I’ve been in here long)

But I doubt I’d be with someone vanilla now

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS over a year ago

North west

Depends on the person , they would be alreadyu be aware that i swing etc , if I loved them an they had no interest in swinging an we had great sex together , I could drop fab instantly.

I would keep in touch with any real friends made though. As i did when dropping off trans scene when last in a relationship , i still invited my best mate who is trans to all house parties/xmas/special occasions .

I couldn't keep it hidden and don't cheat so it would go but maybe it wouldn't have too as i'd hope any relationship would involve someone off similar interests

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would depend. If I ever do settle down I want a swinging or open relationship x"

So that's really a no to a "vanilla" relationship really isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is one person who came back into my life towards the end of last year who, yes, I would definitely be with her and give up fab.

A pretty special lady and the only person I would ever consider having a relationship with now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No. I'd want my cake and be able to eat it

So you would keep fab in the background then, or just be really active in both areas?

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By *ll-Knight-longMan over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

A Fab in a relationship with a vanilla is a lovely Raspberry ripple mmmmmmmmm all that ice cream

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It would take a special man to tie me down.

How special?

I don't know, I've yet to find him

Haha, that's fair enough

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

this

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd run a freaking mile in the other direction. "

But you already have a husband ...

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By *Marvel-Man over a year ago

In The Gym

Yes. Without a doubt. Fab is just a past time for me I'm not using it as a way of life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Give it up (not that I’ve been in here long)

But I doubt I’d be with someone vanilla now "

Blimey, you must have made the most if your fab time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd walk away no problem. I meet very few men for anything more than friendship now so wouldn't be a big change.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would depend. If I ever do settle down I want a swinging or open relationship x

So that's really a no to a "vanilla" relationship really isn't it?

What do you mean by a vanilla relationship? Monogamy? No kink?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

"Not if I couldn't be 100% myself with that person. I would always want to be with someone who accepts me for all that I am including my kinks, my desires and how I express myself sexually.

But would that include swinging? "

For me personally yes and life is too short not be your self and proud of who you are. Would it be a healthy relationship if you couldn't fully be yourself with the person you love?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd run a freaking mile in the other direction.

But you already have a husband ..."

Yes. As do many others on this here swingers site

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I wouldn't do either. I'd tell them early on about fab etc so they'd only be with me if it was something they could accept and enjoy.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"No. I'd want my cake and be able to eat it

So you would keep fab in the background then, or just be really active in both areas? "

It doesn't apply to me but hypothetically I keep fab on the background, I'm not that 'active' on here anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends on the person , they would be alreadyu be aware that i swing etc , if I loved them an they had no interest in swinging an we had great sex together , I could drop fab instantly.

I couldn't keep it hidden and don't cheat so it would go but maybe it wouldn't have too as i'd hope any relationship would involve someone off similar interests

So that's also a kind of no to a "vanilla" relationship too then?

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By *ugar1000Woman over a year ago

taunton

Fuuuck no. I'm never getting tied down monogamously to a dude/dudette. I might consider a relationship with a couple...however I would expect the three of us swinging as high as possible

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

It would need to be someone I really felt strongly about to even consider a relationship. But if I did, I'd want to at least ask them to think about swinging. If it was a no and I really couldn't imagine not being with them, I'd give things a go away from Fab.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Has somebody offered you a full on relationship OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There is one person who came back into my life towards the end of last year who, yes, I would definitely be with her and give up fab.

A pretty special lady and the only person I would ever consider having a relationship with now."

That's fair enough, and she must be very special

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why does relationship away from here in the real world where we all live have to be "vanilla"?

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By *ll-Knight-longMan over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

Seriously I have done that move to the vanilla relationship and though I miss the social side of meeting as a couple within the swinging scene it's not the same as a single and mainly keep in touch in the Forums and long time friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

That's a good attitude

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Not if I couldn't be 100% myself with that person. I would always want to be with someone who accepts me for all that I am including my kinks, my desires and how I express myself sexually.

But would that include swinging?

For me personally yes and life is too short not be your self and proud of who you are. Would it be a healthy relationship if you couldn't fully be yourself with the person you love?"

I do struggle to understand people who say they would conceal this aspect of their life from a potential partner. I know I don't need to understand but I am of the same opinion as you that you need to be your true self with a partner

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

No.

I have absolutely no desire to ever be in a conventional 24/7 relationship ever again.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"Give it up (not that I’ve been in here long)

But I doubt I’d be with someone vanilla now

Blimey, you must have made the most if your fab time

not yet!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would depend on the person but I'd definitely give it up and walk away never to look back.

Never...??? That's a very long time

Well OK, assuming the relationship lasted. If it didn't I probably would return.

For the duration of the relationship I'd never look back.

That's fair comment!

Would you delete your profile or just hide it? "

Hide. No point starting over if it didn't work out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry. I'd walk away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. Without a doubt. Fab is just a past time for me I'm not using it as a way of life. "

I guess you mean you would leave it behind?

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

That's a good attitude

It's being honest. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by not being able to reciprocate any expectations or feelings they might have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd walk away no problem. I meet very few men for anything more than friendship now so wouldn't be a big change. "

I get that *nods*

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would depend. If I ever do settle down I want a swinging or open relationship x

So that's really a no to a "vanilla" relationship really isn't it?

What do you mean by a vanilla relationship? Monogamy? No kink?"

Monogamy I guess, the total opposite of fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No i like doing what i choose to

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not if I couldn't be 100% myself with that person. I would always want to be with someone who accepts me for all that I am including my kinks, my desires and how I express myself sexually.

But would that include swinging?

For me personally yes and life is too short not be your self and proud of who you are. Would it be a healthy relationship if you couldn't fully be yourself with the person you love?"

It was a question, not a critisism

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

Don’t be too sure about no muddying of waters on Fab....

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Would depend. If I ever do settle down I want a swinging or open relationship x

So that's really a no to a "vanilla" relationship really isn't it?

I've learned to keep an open mind and never say never x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I wouldn't do either. I'd tell them early on about fab etc so they'd only be with me if it was something they could accept and enjoy. "

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Fuuuck no. I'm never getting tied down monogamously to a dude/dudette. I might consider a relationship with a couple...however I would expect the three of us swinging as high as possible

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It would need to be someone I really felt strongly about to even consider a relationship. But if I did, I'd want to at least ask them to think about swinging. If it was a no and I really couldn't imagine not being with them, I'd give things a go away from Fab. "

That's fair

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

Swinging = pleasurable, but shallow

Vanilla = long term happiness, doesn't need to be dull though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Has somebody offered you a full on relationship OP?

No, I was just thinking about the scenario while chatting about "relationships" at work

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"? "

Always take real life.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

Depends on the person,and I would.

If she wanted to get involved swinging and fab I would not stand in her way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why does relationship away from here in the real world where we all live have to be "vanilla"?"

I didn't say it did, it was merely a question ... Maybe "traditional" would have been a better choice of word than "vanilla"

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

Don’t be too sure about no muddying of waters on Fab...."

I'm extraordinarily good at compartmentalizing. There would be no muddying on my end!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would depend if a full on relationship was what I wanted or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Seriously I have done that move to the vanilla relationship and though I miss the social side of meeting as a couple within the swinging scene it's not the same as a single and mainly keep in touch in the Forums and long time friends"

Fair enough

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS over a year ago

North west

So that's also a kind of no to a "vanilla" relationship too then? "

Not really because if i loved someone and they definitely didn't want to swing , as long as we satisfied each other sexually and emotionally i wouldn't swing.

The swinging is great etc , but i can have filthy satisfying sex without it

My pool of people i mix with for most nights out etc are nowadays mostly swinger or fetish types so the vanilla options are limited .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No.

I have absolutely no desire to ever be in a conventional 24/7 relationship ever again. "

I understand that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would depend on the person but I'd definitely give it up and walk away never to look back.

Never...??? That's a very long time

Well OK, assuming the relationship lasted. If it didn't I probably would return.

For the duration of the relationship I'd never look back.

That's fair comment!

Would you delete your profile or just hide it?

Hide. No point starting over if it didn't work out. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry. I'd walk away. "

Okay, that's fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

That's a good attitude

It's being honest. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by not being able to reciprocate any expectations or feelings they might have."

But it's a good attitude too because not everyone is honest on here in such a straightforward way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I happened to fall on love with someone from the 'real world' and I was considering a relationship with them, then I assume that they would already know about me being on here and accept me for who I am. If they didn't tick all my kinky boxes as well (as the regular boxes), then there would be no relationship. There's no way I'd continue on here behind anyone's back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No i like doing what i choose to"

I get that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Swinging = pleasurable, but shallow

Vanilla = long term happiness, doesn't need to be dull though"

Yea, I get that.

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By *imply_SensualMan over a year ago

warrington

I would walk away

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"?

Always take real life. "

That's fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends on the person,and I would.

If she wanted to get involved swinging and fab I would not stand in her way."

You would what? Walk away or keep fab in the background?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It would depend if a full on relationship was what I wanted or not

True enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So that's also a kind of no to a "vanilla" relationship too then?

Not really because if i loved someone and they definitely didn't want to swing , as long as we satisfied each other sexually and emotionally i wouldn't swing.

The swinging is great etc , but i can have filthy satisfying sex without it

My pool of people i mix with for most nights out etc are nowadays mostly swinger or fetish types so the vanilla options are limited ."

That makes your choices simpler then I guess ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could be monogamous-ish, hide my profile & log off fab but I would never want a typically vanilla relationship.

This mythical man would know about fab & would know my kinks. Ideally there would be a couples profile, I still want moresomes & I can't see that changing.

Saying that, if a relationship was what I wanted, I'd probably put more time into looking than being on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I happened to fall on love with someone from the 'real world' and I was considering a relationship with them, then I assume that they would already know about me being on here and accept me for who I am. If they didn't tick all my kinky boxes as well (as the regular boxes), then there would be no relationship. There's no way I'd continue on here behind anyone's back. "

Good attitude

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would walk away

That's fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I could be monogamous-ish, hide my profile & log off fab but I would never want a typically vanilla relationship.

This mythical man would know about fab & would know my kinks. Ideally there would be a couples profile, I still want moresomes & I can't see that changing.

Saying that, if a relationship was what I wanted, I'd probably put more time into looking than being on fab

So you would not walk away from fab then?

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By *uzzy NavelWoman over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Ive got the best of both worlds

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

I'd be gone from here

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By *he SeductionistMan over a year ago

Bristol

I actually did meet someone I fell in love with last year and I came off every dating app incl fabs...got my heartbroken and it’s taken 6months to even consider coming back on here..even thou I hardly get replies I still strive to make new friends how I can..so yes with the right person I’d come off here!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

You are implying that all fab females are of sound mind and won't get emotionally attached.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will let you know soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"? "

I'd tell them about Fab well before it got to that stage. I do that out of honesty, but also to observe their reaction. I'm not trying to convince them to get into swinging.

I fell in love with a woman from Plenty of Fish a while back, she wasn't sure if she could swing, but it didn't matter to me, I was just glad she wasn't horrified by it.

I'd have given up on Swinging, but only because she was special enough to make up for the loss

There are more important things in life.

I hid it from someone once, I've learnt my lesson. I'll never hide it again. I'm either IN or OUT. No betweenseys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive got the best of both worlds

I might have that option too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can quite easily delete my Fab account. Giving up my long term partner is another matter.

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I could only have a partner if they were quite happy for me to be on here and continue my journey of exploration.

I wouldn't do anything disingenuous or dishonest, but if they didn't understand the more adventurous sexual side of my lifestyle then we are not compatible.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

"Not if I couldn't be 100% myself with that person. I would always want to be with someone who accepts me for all that I am including my kinks, my desires and how I express myself sexually.

But would that include swinging?

For me personally yes and life is too short not be your self and proud of who you are. Would it be a healthy relationship if you couldn't fully be yourself with the person you love?

It was a question, not a critisism

No criticism taken, maybe my intent came across wrong in written text. I just think when people can't be them self in a relationship this is unhealthy. Its not good to force your self to try and fit in a box that is just not you. Unfortunately most people don't really start to get to know them self till later in life.

So it follows that ideally you should be with someone who loves you for who you are and revels in your deviance with you.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Maybe it's just me but I do find it a little weird that so many people on here would leave if they met someone outside of fab. Like they are using this as a 'stop gap' for sex between relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would be open with them and tell them about this part of my life.

I wouldn't rule out walking away, I'd rather have love than sex and am more than willing to compromise to make a relationship work.

Fab suits my life at the moment. If my life changes then I am open to changing how I approach sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't tell them about Fab and I wouldn't delete my account.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe it's just me but I do find it a little weird that so many people on here would leave if they met someone outside of fab. Like they are using this as a 'stop gap' for sex between relationships. "

I've seen lots of people openly say they are only using the site for sex.

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Merton

As long as she knows my sexual appetite.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

90% of you guy's are not even fab olny meet men/women or do not meet at all us it as social media ..

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Why is that weird?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Couldn’t leave the swinging scene. It’s where my pals are.

He’d Have to take it or leave it

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By *adeiteWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire

This happened to me. I never deleted this account (obviously) but I never used it once we got together. A few years went by and we discussed again the topic of me finding a female play mate. I then came back on here and never say oh btw I'm on a swingers site, just one day said "here look at my profile" he then joined but has since left and we've discussed going to a club together but we're both a bit shy and we've also discussed perhaps having a 3some but neither of us are sure. My point is. I left. And I never thought I'd find someone willing to try new things and be daring. But I did.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Seems perfectly reasonable to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No.

I have absolutely no desire to ever be in a conventional 24/7 relationship ever again. "

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I could be monogamous-ish, hide my profile & log off fab but I would never want a typically vanilla relationship.

This mythical man would know about fab & would know my kinks. Ideally there would be a couples profile, I still want moresomes & I can't see that changing.

Saying that, if a relationship was what I wanted, I'd probably put more time into looking than being on fab

So you would not walk away from fab then? "

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Doesn't apply to me as i'm not looking for a relationship. Another reason why all my "funny business" is now exclusively on fab. No muddying of the waters.

You are implying that all fab females are of sound mind and won't get emotionally attached."

I'm not implying anything, but in theory everyone knows why we're here and can be completely honest in intent. There is the risk of emotional attachment but that wouldn't occur from my end of that i'm certain. It works both ways and men here can get emotionally attached as well and i've seen some extreme examples of this.

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If I was single then I would walk away from here.

I might just hide my profile until I was certain that the relationship was going to work, but the opportunity to have a loving relationship, with friendship, sharing things other than sex far out way the odd shag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why does relationship away from here in the real world where we all live have to be "vanilla"?

I didn't say it did, it was merely a question ... Maybe "traditional" would have been a better choice of word than "vanilla" "

For the right person and the right relationship where it was what we both wanted I'd walk away from here without a backwards glance.

Not sure if that makes me traditional,an incurable romantic, or just an idiot....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why does relationship away from here in the real world where we all live have to be "vanilla"?

I didn't say it did, it was merely a question ... Maybe "traditional" would have been a better choice of word than "vanilla"

For the right person and the right relationship where it was what we both wanted I'd walk away from here without a backwards glance.

Not sure if that makes me traditional,an incurable romantic, or just an idiot....

You just want to feel complete ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why does relationship away from here in the real world where we all live have to be "vanilla"?

I didn't say it did, it was merely a question ... Maybe "traditional" would have been a better choice of word than "vanilla"

For the right person and the right relationship where it was what we both wanted I'd walk away from here without a backwards glance.

Not sure if that makes me traditional,an incurable romantic, or just an idiot....

You just want to feel complete ?"

All my parts are still here and in working order

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why does relationship away from here in the real world where we all live have to be "vanilla"?

I didn't say it did, it was merely a question ... Maybe "traditional" would have been a better choice of word than "vanilla"

For the right person and the right relationship where it was what we both wanted I'd walk away from here without a backwards glance.

Not sure if that makes me traditional,an incurable romantic, or just an idiot....

You just want to feel complete ?

All my parts are still here and in working order

Holistically

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never had a relationship before never needed one and could never find one.

So I doubt I'll ever find one on here or anywhere else.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Ten years ago: no chance.

Now, I'm older and slowing down...yes.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Maybe it's just me but I do find it a little weird that so many people on here would leave if they met someone outside of fab. Like they are using this as a 'stop gap' for sex between relationships.

Why is that weird? "

I guess it comes down to what people want and how they view fab. Personally I don't see why you can't enjoy fab things as well as have a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I wouldn't tell them about Fab and I wouldn't delete my account. "

Very honest response

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why does relationship away from here in the real world where we all live have to be "vanilla"?

I didn't say it did, it was merely a question ... Maybe "traditional" would have been a better choice of word than "vanilla"

For the right person and the right relationship where it was what we both wanted I'd walk away from here without a backwards glance.

Not sure if that makes me traditional,an incurable romantic, or just an idiot....

Frustratingly, I know exactly what you mean and think my honest answer to my OP would most probably be this

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I doubt I’ll ever have to make that decision. One man? Sounds hellish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have issues with monogamy, I don't think it's the way we should be. Monogamy just makes people cheat. I would rather be in a honest open relationship and they would only be perfect for me if they could accept that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I doubt I’ll ever have to make that decision. One man? Sounds hellish. "

That's fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I doubt I’ll ever have to make that decision. One man? Sounds hellish. "

I can do the one man bit.

It's the different kinks, adventures and women that I'd find the hardest!

Luckily I have my own perv who celebrates that side of me

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

"Never had a relationship before never needed one and could never find one.

So I doubt I'll ever find one on here or anywhere else.

Same here but if it happened I would as I posted earlier be gone from here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The day i leave i will choose a heir to my kingdom teach them the secret of life pass them my login and move on

but untill that day your stuck with me

Pmf forever

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have issues with monogamy, I don't think it's the way we should be. Monogamy just makes people cheat. I would rather be in a honest open relationship and they would only be perfect for me if they could accept that "

When I was happy in my previous marriage I had no desire to cheat.

When it fell apart, I was tempted but never fully cheated.

I don't necessarily think monogamy makes people cheat, it depends on the dynamics of the relationship...I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The day i leave i will choose a heir to my kingdom teach them the secret of life pass them my login and move on

but untill that day your stuck with me

Pmf forever

You daft bugger

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

Yep. As long as he was filthy in the bedroom and his sex drive matched mine then i could happily walk away from here for good.

Some of the best and dirtiest sex i have had have been with boyfriends i met in the Vanilla world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The day i leave i will choose a heir to my kingdom teach them the secret of life pass them my login and move on

but untill that day your stuck with me

Pmf forever

You daft bugger

I must preserve my legacy

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By *r_PinkMan over a year ago

london stratford

I would try and "convert" her to the dark side.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"? "

No. Im a swinger. I like the lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yep. As long as he was filthy in the bedroom and his sex drive matched mine then i could happily walk away from here for good.

Some of the best and dirtiest sex i have had have been with boyfriends i met in the Vanilla world. "

That's a win then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The day i leave i will choose a heir to my kingdom teach them the secret of life pass them my login and move on

but untill that day your stuck with me

Pmf forever

You daft bugger

I must preserve my legacy

If you did go, you'd never be forgotten on here, that's for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d be typing my password and the words I UNDERSTAND quicker than anything if I had a real relationship. I’d miss the forums and the people but my attention would be on my relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’d be typing my password and the words I UNDERSTAND quicker than anything if I had a real relationship. I’d miss the forums and the people but my attention would be on my relationship. "

I knew if you posted here that would be your response, and it's great that you stand by what you always say about relationships

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

No woman in vanilla land is ever likely to meet or offer me anything.. unless she's a barmaid and has beer or a waitress with burger and fries

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surprised at the answers, no one mentions 'love'. I assume you would all leave if you fell in love?

Even before the chance of that I would leave in a heart beat. Vanilla is amazing with the right person, just that catching of eye contact- true connection. I am sure the couples on here would agree that what they have together is beyond swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Surprised at the answers, no one mentions 'love'. I assume you would all leave if you fell in love?

Judging by some responses, you might be partially right.

I guess, like everything, some would and some wouldn't

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Exactly that, always was !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe it's just me but I do find it a little weird that so many people on here would leave if they met someone outside of fab. Like they are using this as a 'stop gap' for sex between relationships.

Exactly that, always was !!"

Always was what?

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Surprised at the answers, no one mentions 'love'. I assume you would all leave if you fell in love?

Even before the chance of that I would leave in a heart beat. Vanilla is amazing with the right person, just that catching of eye contact- true connection. "

Some people don't want love of course, but I do, I would love to be gone forever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love conquers all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Love conquers all."

Most of the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"? "

It depends on how well you know that person, and kinda insert the subject of swinging into the conversation sometime and watch there reaction,And hopefully for your sake it works out that ye both are interested and can have a relationship.

But yes I would walk away from here for a relationship.

But I will be honest with them about been on here.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

"Surprised at the answers, no one mentions 'love'. I assume you would all leave if you fell in love?

Even before the chance of that I would leave in a heart beat. Vanilla is amazing with the right person, just that catching of eye contact- true connection.

Some people don't want love of course, but I do, I would love to be gone forever."

me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...was offering you a chance for a full on relationship, would you take it and give up fab or would you keep fab in the background "just in case"?

But yes I would walk away from here for a relationship.

But I will be honest with them about been on here. "

But you would still wish to swing ...? (Sorry if I misunderstood)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

That didn't answer my question!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

Pucker up buttercup

*smooooooch*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

That didn't answer my question!!

What was it? I shall look. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Weird in what way?

Can people who have been on here meeting random multiple people for sex not find one person that is enough for them?

Couples stop meeting after a while too, when they have had enough.

This isn't a stop gap for me; I'm here for sex. I'm not looking for a swinging partner and I'll be more than happy to stop meeting men from here and just have sex with one man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe it's just me but I do find it a little weird that so many people on here would leave if they met someone outside of fab. Like they are using this as a 'stop gap' for sex between relationships.

Weird in what way?

Can people who have been on here meeting random multiple people for sex not find one person that is enough for them?

Couples stop meeting after a while too, when they have had enough.

This isn't a stop gap for me; I'm here for sex. I'm not looking for a swinging partner and I'll be more than happy to stop meeting men from here and just have sex with one man. "

I totally understand where you're coming from there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

That didn't answer my question!!

What was it? I shall look. Sorry

Ah right. No. I don’t want a relationship on or off fab. I don’t really use fab like most people do though. It’s just a bit of entertainment. The thread’s a bit irrelevant to me really. Sorry. I’ll get my coat

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

"I doubt I’ll ever have to make that decision. One man? Sounds hellish.

I can do the one man bit.

It's the different kinks, adventures and women that I'd find the hardest!

Luckily I have my own perv who celebrates that side of me

That sounds wonderful. A couple of pervs would be doubly nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe it's just me but I do find it a little weird that so many people on here would leave if they met someone outside of fab. Like they are using this as a 'stop gap' for sex between relationships.

Weird in what way?

Can people who have been on here meeting random multiple people for sex not find one person that is enough for them?

Couples stop meeting after a while too, when they have had enough.

This isn't a stop gap for me; I'm here for sex. I'm not looking for a swinging partner and I'll be more than happy to stop meeting men from here and just have sex with one man. "

(Except change men to women

)

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By *ommyxyzMan over a year ago

Crawley

yep I did, 6 months it was fun.Back now of course.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

That didn't answer my question!!

What was it? I shall look. Sorry

. "

Don't be daft, you've answered the question now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

That didn't answer my question!!

What was it? I shall look. Sorry

Don't be daft, you've answered the question now

. Daft as a brush me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"yep I did, 6 months it was fun.Back now of course.

Ha"

This is why I asked if you would keep fab in the background "just in case" ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m just here for the forums and the entertainment

. And the odd snog

That didn't answer my question!!

What was it? I shall look. Sorry

Don't be daft, you've answered the question now

. Daft as a brush me "

Haha, so am I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love conquers all."

If only.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Love conquers all.

If only..... "

I'm sure that it can ... Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I doubt I’ll ever have to make that decision. One man? Sounds hellish.

I can do the one man bit.

It's the different kinks, adventures and women that I'd find the hardest!

Luckily I have my own perv who celebrates that side of me

That sounds wonderful. A couple of pervs would be doubly nice

Now now, don't be greedy

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By *winger212Woman over a year ago

Live in spain

Absolutely would walk away from here. Met nice guys on POF that I recognised from fab, no way would I date them as would never be able to trust that they also would 100% stay away from here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love conquers all.

If only..... "

You need to believe

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

"I doubt I’ll ever have to make that decision. One man? Sounds hellish.

I can do the one man bit.

It's the different kinks, adventures and women that I'd find the hardest!

Luckily I have my own perv who celebrates that side of me

That sounds wonderful. A couple of pervs would be doubly nice

Now now, don't be greedy

Spoilsport

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By *_Yeah19Couple over a year ago

Lincoln

I’ve always said I could probably give up swinging if I had to, but couldn’t give up the sexual openness we have. I wasn’t expecting to be swinging when I became single, but I knew that I’d need someone who could accept my commenting on other guys/girls, who liked porn and who was just generally open about sexual stuff.

Luckily I met SSS on here so never became an issue

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Hallelujah

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Absolutely would walk away from here. Met nice guys on POF that I recognised from fab, no way would I date them as would never be able to trust that they also would 100% stay away from here"

But you can't always know that for certain. You're on here too, they may think the same way...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve always said I could probably give up swinging if I had to, but couldn’t give up the sexual openness we have. I wasn’t expecting to be swinging when I became single, but I knew that I’d need someone who could accept my commenting on other guys/girls, who liked porn and who was just generally open about sexual stuff.

Luckily I met SSS on here so never became an issue

TB"

I do think nobody should think they "have to" give up swinging anyway, if you were to feel that way, it definitely wouldn't be right

You two definitely have a great dynamic in your relationship tho

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