Not sure what forum would be best for this topic, but since it’s not site/swinger related I thought here would be best.
I’ve taken a backseat on fab I resent months as I met a female but in resent weeks it’s become extremely complicated and don’t know wether I’m coming or going most of the time I’m mainly looking for a females perspective but if any guys think they can help it would be greatly appreciated  |
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"Not sure what forum would be best for this topic, but since it’s not site/swinger related I thought here would be best.
I’ve taken a backseat on fab I resent months as I met a female but in resent weeks it’s become extremely complicated and don’t know wether I’m coming or going most of the time I’m mainly looking for a females perspective but if any guys think they can help it would be greatly appreciated "
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Not sure what forum would be best for this topic, but since it’s not site/swinger related I thought here would be best.
I’ve taken a backseat on fab I resent months as I met a female but in resent weeks it’s become extremely complicated and don’t know wether I’m coming or going most of the time I’m mainly looking for a females perspective but if any guys think they can help it would be greatly appreciated
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Agreed, I think you need to be a bit more specific about the issues or you'll just get 'there there' etc |
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We were basically in a relationship we just had to make it official, but she ended it because I had become to affectionate and clingy (it’s a bad trait, I know and it turns a lot of females away) but a few days after we were talking and sorted things out because we both had bad relationships in the past and both have different issues we have to overcome, the main reason she doesn’t want to get in a relationship is because she’s scared I’m going to hurt her like her ex did even though she knows I’m not like that and all of mine and her friends have told her that and plus her mum adores me, sometimes she acts like we’re friends and we only send a few messages in the day and sometimes she’s all over me and won’t leave me alone. It’s really confusing, for me anyway I don’t know wether to stick it out and hope for the best or move on and find someone else |
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I think she has walls of steel and it needs to be baby steps for both of you .
You need to offer her reassurance and try to let some light in though those walls of steel .
Also be open and honest and speak to her about things .
Take it slow do not rush |
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"We were basically in a relationship we just had to make it official, but she ended it because I had become to affectionate and clingy (it’s a bad trait, I know and it turns a lot of females away) but a few days after we were talking and sorted things out because we both had bad relationships in the past and both have different issues we have to overcome, the main reason she doesn’t want to get in a relationship is because she’s scared I’m going to hurt her like her ex did even though she knows I’m not like that and all of mine and her friends have told her that and plus her mum adores me, sometimes she acts like we’re friends and we only send a few messages in the day and sometimes she’s all over me and won’t leave me alone. It’s really confusing, for me anyway I don’t know wether to stick it out and hope for the best or move on and find someone else "
It’s hard to comment, only hearing about one side of the relationship. Have you both sat and discussed what’s going on for you both?
You said you get too affectionate and clingy, I wonder if sometimes she doesn’t message because it becomes overwhelming?
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"I think she has walls of steel and it needs to be baby steps for both of you .
You need to offer her reassurance and try to let some light in though those walls of steel .
Also be open and honest and speak to her about things .
Take it slow do not rush "
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"We were basically in a relationship we just had to make it official, but she ended it because I had become to affectionate and clingy (it’s a bad trait, I know and it turns a lot of females away) but a few days after we were talking and sorted things out because we both had bad relationships in the past and both have different issues we have to overcome, the main reason she doesn’t want to get in a relationship is because she’s scared I’m going to hurt her like her ex did even though she knows I’m not like that and all of mine and her friends have told her that and plus her mum adores me, sometimes she acts like we’re friends and we only send a few messages in the day and sometimes she’s all over me and won’t leave me alone. It’s really confusing, for me anyway I don’t know wether to stick it out and hope for the best or move on and find someone else
It’s hard to comment, only hearing about one side of the relationship. Have you both sat and discussed what’s going on for you both?
You said you get too affectionate and clingy, I wonder if sometimes she doesn’t message because it becomes overwhelming?
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that’s what we talked about I said that I’ll stop being over affectionate and clingy if she starts to be more trusting and lower her massive wall she’s built up around herself but it seems like I’ve kept to what I said and she’s being more difficult than ever |
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