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Whay dont men read a womans pfiel in full and not just the botton bit
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You know half the single men on here would get more messages back if there read pfiles in full before messageing soneone
If they did thier home work right they would know we all at drifftent levels at this from just look to full on
You only 15 secounds to get it right or most wont even give you the time if you get it wrong
Why send cock photos when woman pfile says no cock photos please
But most of all is this we all on for bit of fun not to treated as sex worker and respcet is needed at all times
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over a year ago
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To be honest it’s not just a male thing. I get messages from females, couples and TV’s who have clearly not read my profile. Occasionally I’ll take the trouble to reply but it’s rarely well received.
Also got a joint profile on here with my partner and the problem became so bad that we changed our profile completely. It now comes across as quite abrupt. Not who we are at all. |
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over a year ago
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"Don't judge yet people, there might be reason for the poor grammar  "
Never judged, just pointed out it could be a reason for not reading a whole profile. Plenty comments in the forums which support badly written profiles and messages being a nightmare or a turn off |
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They can't be arsed to read. They want you to be perfect in every way, hair makeup lingerie etc like that takes five seconds, expect an award winning blowjob, etc, and can't read something written primarily for their benefit. |
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over a year ago
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A lot of female profiles I see on here need an evening off just to read and they tend to just be a list of demands and expectations.
That's not time I want to waste when I have better things to do. I never message them anyway. |
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"To be honest it’s not just a male thing. I get messages from females, couples and TV’s who have clearly not read my profile. Occasionally I’ll take the trouble to reply but it’s rarely well received.
Also got a joint profile on here with my partner and the problem became so bad that we changed our profile completely. It now comes across as quite abrupt. Not who we are at all."
I've taken an approach recently of, if I choose to reply, I put in roughly the amount of effort they do. Apparently I'm a bitch 
No, if you send me a sentence, I'll (if I want to) give you a sentence back. If you want more out of me, give me more to work with. |
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"A lot of female profiles I see on here need an evening off just to read and they tend to just be a list of demands and expectations.
That's not time I want to waste when I have better things to do. I never message them anyway."
On the flip side, a lot of these profiles are a product of "ffs do we really need to tell people not to behave appallingly when trying to chat someone up? Apparently we do. Jesus Christ I despair" |
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over a year ago
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"You know half the single men on here would get more messages back if there read pfiles in full before messageing soneone
If they did thier home work right they would know we all at drifftent levels at this from just look to full on
You only 15 secounds to get it right or most wont even give you the time if you get it wrong
Why send cock photos when woman pfile says no cock photos please
But most of all is this we all on for bit of fun not to treated as sex worker and respcet is needed at all times
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I like these kind of messages because they save my time. I'm not what they're looking for so I can say no straight away.
It's a positive.  |
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"You know half the single men on here would get more messages back if there read pfiles in full before messageing soneone
If they did thier home work right they would know we all at drifftent levels at this from just look to full on
You only 15 secounds to get it right or most wont even give you the time if you get it wrong
Why send cock photos when woman pfile says no cock photos please
But most of all is this we all on for bit of fun not to treated as sex worker and respcet is needed at all times
I like these kind of messages because they save my time. I'm not what they're looking for so I can say no straight away.
It's a positive. "
It's a sad thing, but yes sometimes oddly pleasing in almost a cleansing way. Block, block, idiot won't bother me again. |
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over a year ago
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That's not time I want to waste when I have better things to do. I never message them anyway.
On the flip side, a lot of these profiles are a product of "ffs do we really need to tell people not to behave appallingly when trying to chat someone up? Apparently we do. Jesus Christ I despair" "
Yep, sadly. If ours is too tedious for someone to bother reading and not want to message, then I'm glad to have have ed them out. If only a few more of the non readers would also not message...
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"To be honest it’s not just a male thing. I get messages from females, couples and TV’s who have clearly not read my profile. Occasionally I’ll take the trouble to reply but it’s rarely well received.
Also got a joint profile on here with my partner and the problem became so bad that we changed our profile completely. It now comes across as quite abrupt. Not who we are at all.
I've taken an approach recently of, if I choose to reply, I put in roughly the amount of effort they do. Apparently I'm a bitch
No, if you send me a sentence, I'll (if I want to) give you a sentence back. If you want more out of me, give me more to work with. "
Yes, I’ve been accused of being one as well 
It all depends on my mood. Usually I’ll read a message and just feel exasperation. However, if they catch me on a bad day then a feisty reply is sent |
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over a year ago
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"Are you seesides bird?
Ffs. I’m on a train. Stop these type of comments please. The other passengers keep wondering what I’m giggling to myself about "
Ps, love your fanny |
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over a year ago
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"Are you seesides bird?
Ffs. I’m on a train. Stop these type of comments please. The other passengers keep wondering what I’m giggling to myself about
Ps, love your fanny "
 thought I’d hidden that away again. Oopsie. |
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"To be honest it’s not just a male thing. I get messages from females, couples and TV’s who have clearly not read my profile. Occasionally I’ll take the trouble to reply but it’s rarely well received.
Also got a joint profile on here with my partner and the problem became so bad that we changed our profile completely. It now comes across as quite abrupt. Not who we are at all.
I've taken an approach recently of, if I choose to reply, I put in roughly the amount of effort they do. Apparently I'm a bitch
No, if you send me a sentence, I'll (if I want to) give you a sentence back. If you want more out of me, give me more to work with.
Yes, I’ve been accused of being one as well
It all depends on my mood. Usually I’ll read a message and just feel exasperation. However, if they catch me on a bad day then a feisty reply is sent "
Oh no, I mean, "hi how are you?" if I have time, feel like it, and the profile is appealing, I'll reply "I'm fine, and you?" I won't add anything, I won't make any extra effort, just meet them where they are. They expect me to make conversation happen out of thin air and, well, no. It's two sided. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Because they have to send a hundred messages to get a reply. Not how I would choose to work the site but they seem to think the law of averages will win out in the end. Good a tactic as any. I see it as an auto delete, so it works for me too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The men you are referring to aren’t going to be on the forums, so it’s like shouting into the void. But your last thread was in a similar vein of knocking men, it gets pretty boring, every group do things that are pretty shit. Like entitled couples messaging with breathtaking arrogance or women messaging asking for a face photo while they send none, cause they think you’ll jump through hoops for them.
But you just have to find the good ones. |
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"Because they have to send a hundred messages to get a reply. Not how I would choose to work the site but they seem to think the law of averages will win out in the end. Good a tactic as any. I see it as an auto delete, so it works for me too "
My profile actually spells out how to increase odds of a reply! |
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over a year ago
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"Are you seesides bird?
Ffs. I’m on a train. Stop these type of comments please. The other passengers keep wondering what I’m giggling to myself about
You’re on a what?"
Sorry.
Whoooo whooo. Tiddely Pom Tiddely Pom chuffa chuffa all aboard whooooooo. Whooooooo. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I tend to just ignore everyone just now!
It has just become tedious expecting men to actually give a shit about what I am looking for.
It goes for on here and on dating sites, the art of communication and social interaction seems to be a total loss of an art form. |
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted"
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment. |
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over a year ago
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted"
I suppose cannibalism could cut their numbers. It’s a good point  |
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment. "
It may appear rude but its in the proof that we all witness on here |
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment.
It may appear rude but its in the proof that we all witness on here"
I receive both awful and wonderful messages from people of all ages (where my filters allow). Older people have their own versions of disgusting, horrible, and off putting. Including implying that anyone younger than them is poorly educated and stupid. |
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment.
It may appear rude but its in the proof that we all witness on here"
Ignorance has nothing to do with either education or age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment.
It may appear rude but its in the proof that we all witness on here
Ignorance has nothing to do with either education or age. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest it’s not just a male thing. I get messages from females, couples and TV’s who have clearly not read my profile. Occasionally I’ll take the trouble to reply but it’s rarely well received.
Also got a joint profile on here with my partner and the problem became so bad that we changed our profile completely. It now comes across as quite abrupt. Not who we are at all.
I've taken an approach recently of, if I choose to reply, I put in roughly the amount of effort they do. Apparently I'm a bitch
No, if you send me a sentence, I'll (if I want to) give you a sentence back. If you want more out of me, give me more to work with.
Yes, I’ve been accused of being one as well
It all depends on my mood. Usually I’ll read a message and just feel exasperation. However, if they catch me on a bad day then a feisty reply is sent
Oh no, I mean, "hi how are you?" if I have time, feel like it, and the profile is appealing, I'll reply "I'm fine, and you?" I won't add anything, I won't make any extra effort, just meet them where they are. They expect me to make conversation happen out of thin air and, well, no. It's two sided. "
Hahaha...Oh right. Those kind of messages drive me even more bonkers. I’ll have to give your way a try and see how long I can string a conversation along based on a couple of words
In all seriousness tho, how do people ever expect to get to know anything about you when they make so little effort?
Guess that’s a whole new thread! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont read any profiles until about 30 mins before i meet them i only go by what i see thru comments and messages not self made propaganda so to answer i deliberately choose not to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had just as bad messages from couples and women who haven’t read our profile as from men.
Couldn’t give a toss about grammar either I want them to fuck me not write up my cv |
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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago
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"We have had just as bad messages from couples and women who haven’t read our profile as from men.
Couldn’t give a toss about grammar either I want them to fuck me not write up my cv"
Looooool ???? Imagine puntcuating a full frontal ?? |
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"We have had just as bad messages from couples and women who haven’t read our profile as from men.
Couldn’t give a toss about grammar either I want them to fuck me not write up my cv"
Excatly what I was thinking lol |
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"Are you seesides bird?
Brilliant
No not at all. Just nasty.
Agreed! "
I’m the first to say it doesn’t matter about spelling and grammar on here , but that genuinely made me chuckle . Nothing nasty , nothing sinister , just amusing .
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you seesides bird?
Brilliant
No not at all. Just nasty.
Agreed!
I’m the first to say it doesn’t matter about spelling and grammar on here , but that genuinely made me chuckle . Nothing nasty , nothing sinister , just amusing .
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No not really when it's being rude about another user who is well known for being dyslexic as well. |
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"Are you seesides bird?
Brilliant
No not at all. Just nasty.
Agreed!
I’m the first to say it doesn’t matter about spelling and grammar on here , but that genuinely made me chuckle . Nothing nasty , nothing sinister , just amusing .
No not really when it's being rude about another user who is well known for being dyslexic as well. "
Cheap offensive call-out of someone (not involved) who's known to have a disability. That's all it was. |
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"Are you seesides bird?
Brilliant
No not at all. Just nasty.
Agreed!
I’m the first to say it doesn’t matter about spelling and grammar on here , but that genuinely made me chuckle . Nothing nasty , nothing sinister , just amusing .
No not really when it's being rude about another user who is well known for being dyslexic as well. "
I don’t want to get into a heated debate about this , it’s really not worth it . Quite simply I found it funny and I’m not going to apologise for that . Take it any way you will , but we are all different , and I can assure you I would have said the same if Seeside was here too . Indeed I have in the past and there’s no axe to grind between me and him , so he doesn’t need anyone to fight in his corner for him .
As an aside I have a very lazy eye , and I’m always so much more comfortable if when in company if I am able to make light of it with a joke and a laugh . Something like how I am at an advantage in being able to talk and make eye contact with people on both sides of the table at the same time . It makes life so much easier to be able to laugh at oneself too , and I’m more than happy to do just that . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one who messages me can have read and comprehended my profile.
It tells them to avoid like the plague and block and move on.
But still they message me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same old story in this place.im always polite when I message women, tbh I gave up writing long nice messages, because they just get deleted, then some women reply back with hey? I’m afraid women rule on here, it’s the men with there tails between there legs,women are actually spoilt for choice on here,as they receive 300 plus messages a day! And don’t take this wrong, but even the ones that ain’t attractive,give it 110% like they can do better! Makes me laugh tbh)))( |
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"You know half the single men on here would get more messages back if there read pfiles in full before messageing soneone
If they did thier home work right they would know we all at drifftent levels at this from just look to full on
You only 15 secounds to get it right or most wont even give you the time if you get it wrong
Why send cock photos when woman pfile says no cock photos please
But most of all is this we all on for bit of fun not to treated as sex worker and respcet is needed at all times
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I get a bit fed up of reading ‘man bashing’ posts when most of the stuff your complaining about I get from women and couples regularly. |
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"Peoples grammar and spelling might be a reason why they dont read a full profile."
I was just thinking that. Many people who use correct grammar and ensure spelling is correct have their profiles read. Many dislike using a translator. |
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"Peoples grammar and spelling might be a reason why they dont read a full profile."
I was just thinking that. Many people who use correct grammar and ensure spelling is correct have their profiles read. Many dislike using a translator. |
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"Peoples grammar and spelling might be a reason why they dont read a full profile.
I was just thinking that. Many people who use correct grammar and ensure spelling is correct have their profiles read. Many dislike using a translator."
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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honest it’s not just a male thing. I get messages from females, couples and TV’s who have clearly not read my profile. Occasionally I’ll take the trouble to reply but it’s rarely well received.
Also got a joint profile on here with my partner and the problem became so bad that we changed our profile completely. It now comes across as quite abrupt. Not who we are at all.
I've taken an approach recently of, if I choose to reply, I put in roughly the amount of effort they do. Apparently I'm a bitch
No, if you send me a sentence, I'll (if I want to) give you a sentence back. If you want more out of me, give me more to work with. "
thats exactly what ive been doing lol |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
"Are you seesides bird?
Ffs. I’m on a train. Stop these type of comments please. The other passengers keep wondering what I’m giggling to myself about
You’re on a what?
Sorry.
Whoooo whooo. Tiddely Pom Tiddely Pom chuffa chuffa all aboard whooooooo. Whooooooo. "
Now this is my kind of conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never read the profiles and just guess the word I have to put in the title, so far I’ve never guessed the word correct yet, but the law of averages says I will do at some point and hopefully then I may get a reply, or not as the case maybe. But anywho I digress. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get really tongue tied and don’t know what to write to “chat someone up” so to speak. I find it easier to chat f2f, but in order to do that you need to write a decent message to attract a lady or couple. I’m in a catch 22 situation. I expected I’m not the only one who has this problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do women complain about how men use this site?
If they want to choose men that meet their needs, and are fed up with messages from men who don't.
It is quite simple, just need to block all men from messaging, go through mens profiles and message the ones they think are suitable.
Please be certain to read the profiles first
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"Peoples grammar and spelling might be a reason why they dont read a full profile.
I was just thinking that. Many people who use correct grammar and ensure spelling is correct have their profiles read. Many dislike using a translator."
i think you missed a few commas out of your profile) |
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"Why do women complain about how men use this site?
If they want to choose men that meet their needs, and are fed up with messages from men who don't.
It is quite simple, just need to block all men from messaging, go through mens profiles and message the ones they think are suitable.
Please be certain to read the profiles first
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Because it's inefficient given the numbers involved and the search tools available.
And don't worry. I read profiles. |
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"Why do women complain about how men use this site?
If they want to choose men that meet their needs, and are fed up with messages from men who don't.
It is quite simple, just need to block all men from messaging, go through mens profiles and message the ones they think are suitable.
Please be certain to read the profiles first
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Excellent advice , and no reason at all why this wouldn’t work .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do women complain about how men use this site?
If they want to choose men that meet their needs, and are fed up with messages from men who don't.
It is quite simple, just need to block all men from messaging, go through mens profiles and message the ones they think are suitable.
Please be certain to read the profiles first
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Because then they wouldn’t get the attention they crave or the Fabs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do women complain about how men use this site?
If they want to choose men that meet their needs, and are fed up with messages from men who don't.
It is quite simple, just need to block all men from messaging, go through mens profiles and message the ones they think are suitable.
Please be certain to read the profiles first
Because then they wouldn’t get the attention they crave or the Fabs."
Cynical but true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth. "
This is also true, it's like another filter. I also assume by not doing this, they'd ignore preferences and boundaries too. |
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth.
This is also true, it's like another filter. I also assume by not doing this, they'd ignore preferences and boundaries too. "
Also thinking about it......we all know there are 100’s of guys to every women/couple here. How does the OP know how many guys read the profile, realised they didn’t match and never messaged....could be a lot more than those that message without reading! |
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth.
This is also true, it's like another filter. I also assume by not doing this, they'd ignore preferences and boundaries too. "
I try to be vague enough in mine to not give a road map for those looking to "cheat", as it were. |
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth.
This is also true, it's like another filter. I also assume by not doing this, they'd ignore preferences and boundaries too.
Also thinking about it......we all know there are 100’s of guys to every women/couple here. How does the OP know how many guys read the profile, realised they didn’t match and never messaged....could be a lot more than those that message without reading!"
home work is must beofr you message you got to get it right or you could ofend someone very easy hun |
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over a year ago
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"Are you seesides bird?
Ffs. I’m on a train. Stop these type of comments please. The other passengers keep wondering what I’m giggling to myself about
You’re on a what?
Sorry.
Whoooo whooo. Tiddely Pom Tiddely Pom chuffa chuffa all aboard whooooooo. Whooooooo.
Now this is my kind of conversation. "
Can we just call it like it is....... A choo choo |
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth.
This is also true, it's like another filter. I also assume by not doing this, they'd ignore preferences and boundaries too.
Also thinking about it......we all know there are 100’s of guys to every women/couple here. How does the OP know how many guys read the profile, realised they didn’t match and never messaged....could be a lot more than those that message without reading!
home work is must beofr you message you got to get it right or you could ofend someone very easy hun"
Sorry I’m not sure how that is relevant to my post? |
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"Same old story in this place.im always polite when I message women, tbh I gave up writing long nice messages, because they just get deleted, then some women reply back with hey? I’m afraid women rule on here, it’s the men with there tails between there legs,women are actually spoilt for choice on here,as they receive 300 plus messages a day! And don’t take this wrong, but even the ones that ain’t attractive,give it 110% like they can do better! Makes me laugh tbh)))("
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Absolutely! Some won't even consider talking to you unless they've checked out ur goods & some are disgusted if you dare show them ur bits. It is a cock fest on here, I'm sure you girls do have to wade through piles of the same messages, what a struggle it must be. Boo fucking hoo! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth.
This is also true, it's like another filter. I also assume by not doing this, they'd ignore preferences and boundaries too.
Also thinking about it......we all know there are 100’s of guys to every women/couple here. How does the OP know how many guys read the profile, realised they didn’t match and never messaged....could be a lot more than those that message without reading! home work is must beofr you message you got to get it right or you could ofend someone very easy hun"
Agreed. Thanks for this thread OP it's working great as an extra filter x |
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"You know half the single men on here would get more messages back if there read pfiles in full before messageing soneone
If they did thier home work right they would know we all at drifftent levels at this from just look to full on
You only 15 secounds to get it right or most wont even give you the time if you get it wrong
Why send cock photos when woman pfile says no cock photos please
But most of all is this we all on for bit of fun not to treated as sex worker and respcet is needed at all times
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Same could be said of women?. Both do it,so not quite sure why it's always the men that seem to be called out for it . Is because most men secretly hope that if they don't slag off women for doing what some men do,means they'll still have a chance or better chance of meeting said woman or women off here haha. Have a word with yourself eh |
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By *r MoriartyMan
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"I don't think I've sent a woman on here a first message in nearly two years, can't be arsed. I'm here, they'll find me eventually. hwy havnt you sent any messages hun?"
I think when I was meeting alone I learned better ways to go about getting meets. Now I meet as a couple we are very laid back about meets and don't feel any great need for them, if the right people come along then great but if not we aren't really too fussed. |
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"You know half the single men on here would get more messages back if there read pfiles in full before messageing soneone
If they did thier home work right they would know we all at drifftent levels at this from just look to full on
You only 15 secounds to get it right or most wont even give you the time if you get it wrong
Why send cock photos when woman pfile says no cock photos please
But most of all is this we all on for bit of fun not to treated as sex worker and respcet is needed at all times
Same could be said of women?. Both do it,so not quite sure why it's always the men that seem to be called out for it . Is because most men secretly hope that if they don't slag off women for doing what some men do,means they'll still have a chance or better chance of meeting said woman or women off here haha. Have a word with yourself eh"
It could be that women are speaking about their experiences? Heavens above. That might even be allowed. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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It isn't just men who don't read profiles.
Use your filters and it will save any unwanted mails
https://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters
Discussing a persons profile is not allowed on the forum unless they have asked for it
We don't have any rule to say someone has to spell perfectly, so please don't try and humiliate people because of it |
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"I don't think I've sent a woman on here a first message in nearly two years, can't be arsed. I'm here, they'll find me eventually. hwy havnt you sent any messages hun?"
It's pointless sending messages when they dont get read. So after a while you just sit back and wait for messages to come in. |
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth. "
No matter what I say on my profile, the same people mail saying they want the same. I find it works better to ask them what they're looking for.  |
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"I don't think I've sent a woman on here a first message in nearly two years, can't be arsed. I'm here, they'll find me eventually. hwy havnt you sent any messages hun?
It's pointless sending messages when they dont get read. So after a while you just sit back and wait for messages to come in. "
when they come in yes? All you get from them is hi, hey,how are you, you good?its a bit double standard tbh... it’s the same as always the men have to make the effort not the women, and then go on forums complaining about it? 1 don’t get your boobs out? 2 don’t show your vagina? 3 sucking a mans cock. Of coarse men are going to think oh she’s up for some dirty fun? That’s the attention I’m afraid you’d attract,? Try putting a face picture on and leaving the nudes private?or they always say send a face pic first? Then don’t send there’s because there to damm ugly?) happy fabbing |
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"I don't think I've sent a woman on here a first message in nearly two years, can't be arsed. I'm here, they'll find me eventually. hwy havnt you sent any messages hun?
It's pointless sending messages when they dont get read. So after a while you just sit back and wait for messages to come in. when they come in yes? All you get from them is hi, hey,how are you, you good?its a bit double standard tbh... it’s the same as always the men have to make the effort not the women, and then go on forums complaining about it? 1 don’t get your boobs out? 2 don’t show your vagina? 3 sucking a mans cock. Of coarse men are going to think oh she’s up for some dirty fun? That’s the attention I’m afraid you’d attract,? Try putting a face picture on and leaving the nudes private?or they always say send a face pic first? Then don’t send there’s because there to damm ugly?) happy fabbing"
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I always read profiles if I’m interested in somone. I have to say, Ive given up sending messages too. You know there not going to get read, no matter how much effort you put into them.
I just wait and hope somone reads my profile, and sees me for the nice guy that I am.  |
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"I always read profiles if I’m interested in somone. I have to say, Ive given up sending messages too. You know there not going to get read, no matter how much effort you put into them.
I just wait and hope somone reads my profile, and sees me for the nice guy that I am. "
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"I don't think I've sent a woman on here a first message in nearly two years, can't be arsed. I'm here, they'll find me eventually. hwy havnt you sent any messages hun?
It's pointless sending messages when they dont get read. So after a while you just sit back and wait for messages to come in. when they come in yes? All you get from them is hi, hey,how are you, you good?its a bit double standard tbh... it’s the same as always the men have to make the effort not the women, and then go on forums complaining about it? 1 don’t get your boobs out? 2 don’t show your vagina? 3 sucking a mans cock. Of coarse men are going to think oh she’s up for some dirty fun? That’s the attention I’m afraid you’d attract,? Try putting a face picture on and leaving the nudes private?or they always say send a face pic first? Then don’t send there’s because there to damm ugly?) happy fabbing
Show me my hypocrisy. Go right ahead. "
I wasn’t pointing you out personally? |
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I get it lots also. You can even tell with out opening the message they haven't read with lots. To repay the honour I will reply back with a random answer. If they mail back I say I didn't read your mail as you didn't read my profile.
If I get dick pics I say would you not post me pics of a boys cock |
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I wounder if its obvious a man has not read your full profile by their open message then your probably not that intresting to them by worth a half arsed effort just in case? I think if a lot of men read the full profile of every woman they looked at and bulk mailed they'd not find time in day to anything other than fab. Surely this simply helps you to narrow down your choice? |
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"I wounder if its obvious a man has not read your full profile by their open message then your probably not that intresting to them by worth a half arsed effort just in case? I think if a lot of men read the full profile of every woman they looked at and bulk mailed they'd not find time in day to anything other than fab. Surely this simply helps you to narrow down your choice?"
Oh it does. Anyone who I can't tell has read my profile, I delete without a second thought. Unfortunately it's over 95% of messages. |
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"I wounder if its obvious a man has not read your full profile by their open message then your probably not that intresting to them by worth a half arsed effort just in case? I think if a lot of men read the full profile of every woman they looked at and bulk mailed they'd not find time in day to anything other than fab. Surely this simply helps you to narrow down your choice?
Oh it does. Anyone who I can't tell has read my profile, I delete without a second thought. Unfortunately it's over 95% of messages. "
Surely you have to read a profile to tell if your suited to someone or not? As an example, I wouldn’t even think about messaging somone with a demanding profile with a list of requirements, and what a guy has to write to have their message deleted instantly. It just sounds a bit aggressive. I personally don't get on with aggressive people. |
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"I wounder if its obvious a man has not read your full profile by their open message then your probably not that intresting to them by worth a half arsed effort just in case? I think if a lot of men read the full profile of every woman they looked at and bulk mailed they'd not find time in day to anything other than fab. Surely this simply helps you to narrow down your choice?
Oh it does. Anyone who I can't tell has read my profile, I delete without a second thought. Unfortunately it's over 95% of messages.
Surely you have to read a profile to tell if your suited to someone or not? As an example, I wouldn’t even think about messaging somone with a demanding profile with a list of requirements, and what a guy has to write to have their message deleted instantly. It just sounds a bit aggressive. I personally don't get on with aggressive people. "
I think some women here get slowly more aggravated and aggressive over time. It's not oh, one bad message, off with your head. It's hundreds or thousands, like water torture, and by crude gag inducing message 7153 you finally lose it, sort of thing.
And honestly, most messages are of the "hi fancy a chat" variety. They may have read my profile. I suspect more likely they've sent it to every woman within 30 miles. |
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"I wounder if its obvious a man has not read your full profile by their open message then your probably not that intresting to them by worth a half arsed effort just in case? I think if a lot of men read the full profile of every woman they looked at and bulk mailed they'd not find time in day to anything other than fab. Surely this simply helps you to narrow down your choice?
Oh it does. Anyone who I can't tell has read my profile, I delete without a second thought. Unfortunately it's over 95% of messages.
Surely you have to read a profile to tell if your suited to someone or not? As an example, I wouldn’t even think about messaging somone with a demanding profile with a list of requirements, and what a guy has to write to have their message deleted instantly. It just sounds a bit aggressive. I personally don't get on with aggressive people.
I think some women here get slowly more aggravated and aggressive over time. It's not oh, one bad message, off with your head. It's hundreds or thousands, like water torture, and by crude gag inducing message 7153 you finally lose it, sort of thing.
And honestly, most messages are of the "hi fancy a chat" variety. They may have read my profile. I suspect more likely they've sent it to every woman within 30 miles. "
It must be frustrating, but by putting the aggression in your profile, the good guys (like me) will give you a miss and the knob heads will still send you an annoying message, because they haven’t read your profile. |
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"I wounder if its obvious a man has not read your full profile by their open message then your probably not that intresting to them by worth a half arsed effort just in case? I think if a lot of men read the full profile of every woman they looked at and bulk mailed they'd not find time in day to anything other than fab. Surely this simply helps you to narrow down your choice?
Oh it does. Anyone who I can't tell has read my profile, I delete without a second thought. Unfortunately it's over 95% of messages.
Surely you have to read a profile to tell if your suited to someone or not? As an example, I wouldn’t even think about messaging somone with a demanding profile with a list of requirements, and what a guy has to write to have their message deleted instantly. It just sounds a bit aggressive. I personally don't get on with aggressive people.
I think some women here get slowly more aggravated and aggressive over time. It's not oh, one bad message, off with your head. It's hundreds or thousands, like water torture, and by crude gag inducing message 7153 you finally lose it, sort of thing.
And honestly, most messages are of the "hi fancy a chat" variety. They may have read my profile. I suspect more likely they've sent it to every woman within 30 miles.
It must be frustrating, but by putting the aggression in your profile, the good guys (like me) will give you a miss and the knob heads will still send you an annoying message, because they haven’t read your profile. "
I know. I try to strike a balance between "ffs guys really don't do that" and interesting/ enticing. It's hard. |
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I can understand that no one likes an in box full of what is effectively junk mail. So I understand the frustration and why people seek to 'educate' others. But education seems to have little effect. So as far as I can see this is always just going to be the nature of the beast. Having said that I do wounder is fab had software that could block multiple cut and paste messages I think that could significantly reduce the flow of junk mail. |
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"I can understand that no one likes an in box full of what is effectively junk mail. So I understand the frustration and why people seek to 'educate' others. But education seems to have little effect. So as far as I can see this is always just going to be the nature of the beast. Having said that I do wounder is fab had software that could block multiple cut and paste messages I think that could significantly reduce the flow of junk mail."
If I had my way I'd set a minimum word count for a first message. Make it fifteen words (although I know I'd just get x x x etc). Yes, and do something to deter copy pasting like the stop think notice, at least. |
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"You know half the single men on here would get more messages back if there read pfiles in full before messageing soneone
If they did thier home work right they would know we all at drifftent levels at this from just look to full on
You only 15 secounds to get it right or most wont even give you the time if you get it wrong
Why send cock photos when woman pfile says no cock photos please
But most of all is this we all on for bit of fun not to treated as sex worker and respcet is needed at all times
Same could be said of women?. Both do it,so not quite sure why it's always the men that seem to be called out for it . Is because most men secretly hope that if they don't slag off women for doing what some men do,means they'll still have a chance or better chance of meeting said woman or women off here haha. Have a word with yourself eh
It could be that women are speaking about their experiences? Heavens above. That might even be allowed. "
More like they like to moan more. In the bedroom that's fine . Don't try turn it around like women aren't allowed a voice here or in society. Dark room for you |
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It could be that women are speaking about their experiences? Heavens above. That might even be allowed.
More like they like to moan more. In the bedroom that's fine . Don't try turn it around like women aren't allowed a voice here or in society. Dark room for you "
I didn't. People are dismissing and minimising what women are saying. You're doing it too by calling it moaning.
Sometimes my inbox is legitimately horrible. Threats, abuse, messages that have made me lose my lunch, and more. I don't deserve that. I have no doubt it's tough on the other side, I've never said otherwise. |
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It could be that women are speaking about their experiences? Heavens above. That might even be allowed.
More like they like to moan more. In the bedroom that's fine . Don't try turn it around like women aren't allowed a voice here or in society. Dark room for you
I didn't. People are dismissing and minimising what women are saying. You're doing it too by calling it moaning.
Sometimes my inbox is legitimately horrible. Threats, abuse, messages that have made me lose my lunch, and more. I don't deserve that. I have no doubt it's tough on the other side, I've never said otherwise. "
If that’s the case then surely you must be dong something wrong with your filters . It’s why they are there after all . No one on fab needs to suffer like this . |
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It could be that women are speaking about their experiences? Heavens above. That might even be allowed.
More like they like to moan more. In the bedroom that's fine . Don't try turn it around like women aren't allowed a voice here or in society. Dark room for you
I didn't. People are dismissing and minimising what women are saying. You're doing it too by calling it moaning.
Sometimes my inbox is legitimately horrible. Threats, abuse, messages that have made me lose my lunch, and more. I don't deserve that. I have no doubt it's tough on the other side, I've never said otherwise.
If that’s the case then surely you must be dong something wrong with your filters . It’s why they are there after all . No one on fab needs to suffer like this ."
I've found what works for me.
Maybe people should stop sending vile and/or abusive messages, rather than putting the burden on people receiving them. (I said people I did not say men) |
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment. "
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment. "
Talking about the less educated is ironic based on the spelling used |
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"As time goes on then the less educated join up and thier manners ate poor, try the older guys and gals that have been brought up properly, and you might get uplifted
Wow, for someone who implies he was brought up properly, that was an extraordinarily rude comment.
Talking about the less educated is ironic based on the spelling used "
Typos and occasional errors happen. Implying that a large swathe of the population are inferior because of their age is a character flaw. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
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It could be that women are speaking about their experiences? Heavens above. That might even be allowed.
More like they like to moan more. In the bedroom that's fine . Don't try turn it around like women aren't allowed a voice here or in society. Dark room for you
I didn't. People are dismissing and minimising what women are saying. You're doing it too by calling it moaning.
Sometimes my inbox is legitimately horrible. Threats, abuse, messages that have made me lose my lunch, and more. I don't deserve that. I have no doubt it's tough on the other side, I've never said otherwise.
If that’s the case then surely you must be dong something wrong with your filters . It’s why they are there after all . No one on fab needs to suffer like this .
I've found what works for me.
Maybe people should stop sending vile and/or abusive messages, rather than putting the burden on people receiving them. (I said people I did not say men) "
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"In my mind it works in your favour. If someone doesn’t read your profile then you immediately know they are not worth pursuing.
I actually used to have a lot more detail in my profile before. I had a few couples I was talking to who had read my profile but told me what I wanted to here rather than the truth.
This is also true, it's like another filter. I also assume by not doing this, they'd ignore preferences and boundaries too.
Also thinking about it......we all know there are 100’s of guys to every women/couple here. How does the OP know how many guys read the profile, realised they didn’t match and never messaged....could be a lot more than those that message without reading!"
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