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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the downside of communicating behind a screen people feel that they no longer need to interact in a polite way as it's unlikely they will come I to contact with most of the people on here.
It would be I retested what would happen if alit of these people walked up to someone in a bar and say the same comments |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello Op. Inhope younsoon find something that changes your experience on here. I’ve been on the forum for over 5 years and the only reason I remain on it is the friendliness of some of the people on it.
Join in and be patient, it takes a while to get known. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
People who mail you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
People who mail you?"
In general....yes.
They seem to demand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people lose manners respect and politeness when they aren’t face to face. Please don’t take it personally OP. That’s why fab has a block button.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?"
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand."
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
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Don't say the 'C' word...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
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By a certain core,do you mean the illusive clique I’ve heard talk of???? Because I have to say, I do see evidence! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
By a certain core,do you mean the illusive clique I’ve heard talk of???? Because I have to say, I do see evidence!"
Sssshhhhhh! Don’t mention it! I’m not coming to forum purgatory with you! Bloody hell, I’ve only just escaped from my last faux pas...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t help but say...
“Yeah but, are you gonna bingo?”
Please stay, have some hot pictures up, be bisexual and have the unique sense of humour that your excellent username hints about.
Oh and most importantly, reply to my random musings
Welcome to the forum |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
By a certain core,do you mean the illusive clique I’ve heard talk of???? Because I have to say, I do see evidence!
Sssshhhhhh! Don’t mention it! I’m not coming to forum purgatory with you! Bloody hell, I’ve only just escaped from my last faux pas......"
I’m sorry, I think! What did I say? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello OP,
I don’t participate in many other forums aside of Fabs but the ones I have, have all the same elements except people ain’t posting with their bits on display :D - keyboard warriors, cliques and the overly opinionated are rife.
As for status updates and messaging - filter up and block those that rant, job done 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can’t help but say...
“Yeah but, are you gonna bingo?”
Please stay, have some hot pictures up, be bisexual and have the unique sense of humour that your excellent username hints about.
Oh and most importantly, reply to my random musings
Welcome to the forum "
Thank you and oh,,,is it a must,the unique sense of humour? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello OP,
I don’t participate in many other forums aside of Fabs but the ones I have, have all the same elements except people ain’t posting with their bits on display :D - keyboard warriors, cliques and the overly opinionated are rife.
As for status updates and messaging - filter up and block those that rant, job done
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Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
By a certain core,do you mean the illusive clique I’ve heard talk of???? Because I have to say, I do see evidence!
Sssshhhhhh! Don’t mention it! I’m not coming to forum purgatory with you! Bloody hell, I’ve only just escaped from my last faux pas......
I’m sorry, I think! What did I say?"
The 'c' word.... we have to pretend it doesn’t exist  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
By a certain core,do you mean the illusive clique I’ve heard talk of???? Because I have to say, I do see evidence!
Sssshhhhhh! Don’t mention it! I’m not coming to forum purgatory with you! Bloody hell, I’ve only just escaped from my last faux pas......
I’m sorry, I think! What did I say?
The 'c' word.... we have to pretend it doesn’t exist "
Why though. It so clearly does. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
By a certain core,do you mean the illusive clique I’ve heard talk of???? Because I have to say, I do see evidence!
Sssshhhhhh! Don’t mention it! I’m not coming to forum purgatory with you! Bloody hell, I’ve only just escaped from my last faux pas......
I’m sorry, I think! What did I say?
The 'c' word.... we have to pretend it doesn’t exist
Why though. It so clearly does."
Joking aside, probably because no one wants to admit being part of a group that can feel as though they exclude others.
It’s become more pronounced as the forums have become less busy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things "
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies . |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
Masked and Distant |
"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things "
Exactly right, fab after all is made up of a wide cross section of people. Yes they may have a common interest, but not everyone can get along with everyone.
Just enjoy the ride and diversity of opinions. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
By a certain core,do you mean the illusive clique I’ve heard talk of???? Because I have to say, I do see evidence!
Sssshhhhhh! Don’t mention it! I’m not coming to forum purgatory with you! Bloody hell, I’ve only just escaped from my last faux pas......
I’m sorry, I think! What did I say?
The 'c' word.... we have to pretend it doesn’t exist
Why though. It so clearly does.
Joking aside, probably because no one wants to admit being part of a group that can feel as though they exclude others.
It’s become more pronounced as the forums have become less busy. "
I see.... well thank you for telling me all that |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies ."
I’m sorry - I don’t understand what you mean. What’s for the select ones? Totally confused here! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies .
I’m sorry - I don’t understand what you mean. What’s for the select ones? Totally confused here! "
The select people to post on these forums. I foolishly thought,they were for everyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can’t help but say...
“Yeah but, are you gonna bingo?”
Please stay, have some hot pictures up, be bisexual and have the unique sense of humour that your excellent username hints about.
Oh and most importantly, reply to my random musings
Welcome to the forum
Thank you and oh,,,is it a must,the unique sense of humour?"
I think so yeah.
Mind, if you’re pretty and have breasts then you’ve basically completed fab.
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I can see the OP,s point, I've only just started going into the forums, watched for a while....and in tht time I sussed out who,s who...you know what OP No1 is either above or beneath you on this site....you want to say something say it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
Get used to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
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That's the clique |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies .
I’m sorry - I don’t understand what you mean. What’s for the select ones? Totally confused here!
The select people to post on these forums. I foolishly thought,they were for everyone!"
How are you being excluded? I can you’re feeling frustrated and feel there are a group of people deliberately excluding certain people. However I’m wondering in what ways you’re being excluded? |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies .
I’m sorry - I don’t understand what you mean. What’s for the select ones? Totally confused here!
The select people to post on these forums. I foolishly thought,they were for everyone!"
That’s what I said...they are for everyone...I like new voices
Oooohhh....this convo is making my Sunday brain hurt. Negativity harshes my buzz and I can feel myself beginning to come down. I’m off to go hike to the farm shop in the sunshine instead with some good music - I hope you start enjoying the forums, Bingo, they really are lovely if you give them a chance. I wouldn’t keep coming back to them otherwise |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies .
I’m sorry - I don’t understand what you mean. What’s for the select ones? Totally confused here!
The select people to post on these forums. I foolishly thought,they were for everyone!
That’s what I said...they are for everyone...I like new voices
Oooohhh....this convo is making my Sunday brain hurt. Negativity harshes my buzz and I can feel myself beginning to come down. I’m off to go hike to the farm shop in the sunshine instead with some good music - I hope you start enjoying the forums, Bingo, they really are lovely if you give them a chance. I wouldn’t keep coming back to them otherwise "
That is my experience too. I’d be concerned if I felt I was part of deliberately excluding anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies .
I’m sorry - I don’t understand what you mean. What’s for the select ones? Totally confused here!
The select people to post on these forums. I foolishly thought,they were for everyone!
How are you being excluded? I can you’re feeling frustrated and feel there are a group of people deliberately excluding certain people. However I’m wondering in what ways you’re being excluded?"
I never really thought I was! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies .
I’m sorry - I don’t understand what you mean. What’s for the select ones? Totally confused here!
The select people to post on these forums. I foolishly thought,they were for everyone!
How are you being excluded? I can you’re feeling frustrated and feel there are a group of people deliberately excluding certain people. However I’m wondering in what ways you’re being excluded?
I never really thought I was!"
Ok. That’s good.
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"I’m not one of the core posters on here due to my transitory nature (I’m too fickle - I wander in and out too much). However, I’ve never been snapped at or ganged up on...even at the beginning. I’ve always found the forums to be welcoming, lively and interesting.
I think it’s less pushing new people out and more...you get to know each other very well after a while on here (god knows, we all post on the same topics over and over again). When you know someone’s views, the way they mean the things that they write, it’s hard not to defend them if that is misconstrued by someone who doesn’t know them.
People are people at the end of the day - some you’ll get on with and others you won’t. As long as you try to reign in the confrontation on your side and avoid insulting people for the sake of it...you’ll be fine! I personally love a new voice and a fresh take on things
So really it’s only for the select ones?
I thought it was for everyone. My mistake. Apologies ."
She didn't say that it's only for the select ones at all. It is for everyone.
There's lots of lovely people on the forums.
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
The people you see on the forums are no different from the people you see in the real world.
Therefore you'd expect to see the same character traits. However I've found the forums to be have some of the friendliest, supportive and welcoming people you'll ever meet.
Yes, there's the occasional falling out or robust exchange of views, but if you need to some help, you'll not find a greater bunch of people.
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Hi Op, there are always going to be a few with a bad attitude, as with any forum, but it helps to be able to filter those out. Don't take it personally and don't let it affect your interactions with the nice people on here.
If it's fab in general, as opposed to the forums, I found it helpful in the past to put my message filters up really high and do all the first messaging myself. Cuts out a lot of hassle and saves a lot of time too.
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Of course the forums are for everyone.
Some posters will get overlooked, even regular well known posters get overlooked.
I personally sometimes don't know how to respond to some new posters, I don't know them and they don't know me. I can be a piss taking little bugger, the same as I am in the flesh. The difference is in the flesh people can see my body language, the smile on my face etc. They can see I'm just being cheeky. Online those who don't know me may think I'm being mean when that's not the case. I don't want to upset someone who hasn't got the "who" behind the post if that makes sense.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
These forums are like any other forums. You get all types of characters posting and makes for lively debate, at times! I have made many virtual friends on here, but there will always be those people that are annoying, I just tend to ignore them, as I would in real life. It's always best not to take things to seriously on here. Hope you enjoy. |
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
I know. I feel the same. So much so that I stopped going on the forums for months. I always go by the rule that I talk to people on here, how i would talk to people if i met them for real. Some people just get brave and arrogant behind a keyboard. |
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
That's the clique"
It’s nowhere near as cliquey as it used to be! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it helps not to be overly sensitive. Read it all through with a smile rather than jumping to the offensive straight away. Most controversial comments are generally a piss take or a wind up trying to catch the biters.
As for rude messages just ignore, ignore all the way. |
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Why would anyone take offence at what someone types on this site, this forum, or any other site/forum on the internet?
Unless of course, the judgement of someone you do not know defines your self worth.
Surely, only the opinion of those we know and love should matter to us. The internet does not reflect real life. |
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"Why would anyone take offence at what someone types on this site, this forum, or any other site/forum on the internet?
Unless of course, the judgement of someone you do not know defines your self worth.
Surely, only the opinion of those we know and love should matter to us. The internet does not reflect real life. "
In what way is the internet not real life? It’s humans both ends of the screen. Saying it’s not real life gives an excuse to those who do abuse, bully or intimidate on line.
It’s real life enough to cause teenage girls to commit suicide. You don’t get more real than that. |
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"Why would anyone take offence at what someone types on this site, this forum, or any other site/forum on the internet?
Unless of course, the judgement of someone you do not know defines your self worth.
Surely, only the opinion of those we know and love should matter to us. The internet does not reflect real life.
In what way is the internet not real life? It’s humans both ends of the screen. Saying it’s not real life gives an excuse to those who do abuse, bully or intimidate on line.
It’s real life enough to cause teenage girls to commit suicide. You don’t get more real than that. "
I totally get what you are saying but I'm glad it doesn't reflect real life!
Most of those internet bullies and trolls tend to be totally different people in "real life" and I've never understood it at all ... it's just so sad! |
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"Why would anyone take offence at what someone types on this site, this forum, or any other site/forum on the internet?
Unless of course, the judgement of someone you do not know defines your self worth.
Surely, only the opinion of those we know and love should matter to us. The internet does not reflect real life.
In what way is the internet not real life? It’s humans both ends of the screen. Saying it’s not real life gives an excuse to those who do abuse, bully or intimidate on line.
It’s real life enough to cause teenage girls to commit suicide. You don’t get more real than that. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Says she behind a blank profile pic  "
To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! Not my thing. I am entitled to use this site,how I CHOOSE love,as are you. |
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Says she behind a blank profile pic
To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! Not my thing. I am entitled to use this site,how I CHOOSE love,as are you."
If you value people so little on this site why do you expect them to be polite to you? |
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"Can you give an example, OP?
An example,an awful lot of messages tend to start ok,but very quickly go down to a primitive level!
People’s status updates, they either seem to be really huge attention seekers or just plain awful.... not sure which is worse!
I’ve sat back and watched a lot, on the forums too. There does seem to be quite a bit of tension,ganging up,so to speak....why? Is it because new people aren’t wanted,as they’ve probably got fresh stuff to say? Please help me understand.
I’d say regarding messages, that your profile might well attract a certain type of message.
The forums have a certain core of posters, who are on here day in, day out and interact amongst themselves with in jokes. Everyone else pops in and out and is either ignored or, if they offend one, is then snapped at by forum friends.
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
Just like the rest of the internet to be fair. Have you ever looked at the comments section on YouTube?
Say what you want to say, this is an open platform. I've been bashed a few times, banned a couple and really at the end of it I've voiced my opinion and have seen the good, bad and ugly of people on here. It is what it is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Says she behind a blank profile pic
To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! Not my thing. I am entitled to use this site,how I CHOOSE love,as are you.
If you value people so little on this site why do you expect them to be polite to you?"
I don’t Expect anyone to be any particular way towards me, not at all. I must admit this site has jaded me somewhat. Hey ho! Such is life. It passes the time. |
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over a year ago
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On the forum, it can be a bit cliquey and spme people get a bit above themselves or act within a pack mentality.
Message wise, if it's women/couples it's usually sheer exasperation from constant messages from people who shouldn't have contacted you or who who write really thoughtless messages. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Says she behind a blank profile pic
To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! Not my thing. I am entitled to use this site,how I CHOOSE love,as are you.
If you value people so little on this site why do you expect them to be polite to you?
I don’t Expect anyone to be any particular way towards me, not at all. I must admit this site has jaded me somewhat. Hey ho! Such is life. It passes the time."
But some people do' flaunt themselves to strangers' , it's a swingers site. But yes, use it how you want to. |
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Says she behind a blank profile pic
To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! Not my thing. I am entitled to use this site,how I CHOOSE love,as are you.
If you value people so little on this site why do you expect them to be polite to you?
I don’t Expect anyone to be any particular way towards me, not at all. I must admit this site has jaded me somewhat. Hey ho! Such is life. It passes the time."
Don't let this site be your only view of swinging. The people who post on the forums are only a tiny %, and of that tiny % only a tiny % are in the clique (I said it....shoot me)...and the amount of them that are swingers ....you guessed it ....a tiny %. Best to try clubs and socials - Meet people for real. |
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To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! "
Whoa!
Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most likely people don't always intend to be rude. It just comes across that way due the choice of wording used and grammer. It also doesn't help when some people have to use text speak in everything so they come across as looking illiterate.
My spelling and grammar isn't the best but I do try and be polite.
Some people however just enjoy being rude and offensive. I wouldn't want to judge but they most likely haven't had a very good life and that's the only way they can feel better about themselves. |
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over a year ago
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I've been lucky and not had any rude messages yet. I've probably set myself up for some saying that now.
But I have been on the receiving end on another forum and it's not pleasant esp if it turns into a gang of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
I don't encounter any of this attitude. Do you worry that it's just you? |
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over a year ago
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To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet!
Whoa!
Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!"
Chuckles.
Feel like I'm being looked down the nose by someone who believes they're better than I am. If it wasn't intended that way it's a quick lesson in the way you write something may not be interpreted as it was meant.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet!
Whoa!
Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Chuckles.
Feel like I'm being looked down the nose by someone who believes they're better than I am. If it wasn't intended that way it's a quick lesson in the way you write something may not be interpreted as it was meant.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the people who post stuff on someone's else post about nothing to do with the post. Or they make a joke or try to make the person posting look bad.
Like the other day a lady asked about longer stockings because she had long legs
And some guy said I want to lick between your legs.WHY.
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"It's the people who post stuff on someone's else post about nothing to do with the post. Or they make a joke or try to make the person posting look bad.
Like the other day a lady asked about longer stockings because she had long legs
And some guy said I want to lick between your legs.WHY.
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The other day somebody started a thread asking what we thought his new username should be, so I told him what I thought would be appropriate name and he starts pm-ing me complaining about the name I chose?!?!
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over a year ago
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Says she behind a blank profile pic
To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! Not my thing. I am entitled to use this site,how I CHOOSE love,as are you.
If you value people so little on this site why do you expect them to be polite to you?
I don’t Expect anyone to be any particular way towards me, not at all. I must admit this site has jaded me somewhat. Hey ho! Such is life. It passes the time."
How has the site jaded you? |
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I've been on the site about a month and on the forum less than that. For me, it's like joining in a conversation with any group of friends: to start with you don't understand the language, there's too many in jokes and hardly anyone cares when you say something. Over time you learn the dynamics and characters of the group and start to be more involved. It takes effort, patience and understanding like everything. I've found it pretty funny and engaging so far.
Stick around, you might like it |
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over a year ago
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I agree OP. I posted an observation that more men post in the forum then women. Jesus! I was sent upon by a pack of hyenas followed by arse licking guys.  |
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"Why are people so rude on here?
The way they speak to others?
The things they say?
Their entitled attitude?
I’m finding the lack of friendliness odd!
Says she behind a blank profile pic
To be honest, I think I’m worth a bit more than flaunting myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet! Not my thing. I am entitled to use this site,how I CHOOSE love,as are you.
If you value people so little on this site why do you expect them to be polite to you?"
Exactly Kaitlin |
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"Welcome to Fab and the forums OP.
The secret of success is not to take yourself or Fab too seriously.
Positivity generally attracts positivity.
Happy fabbing!
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Yep.... absolutely this |
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"Welcome to Fab and the forums OP.
The secret of success is not to take yourself or Fab too seriously.
Positivity generally attracts positivity.
Happy fabbing!
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Pretty much the above & i love it at times, Yes.. the Pc brigade & keyboard warriors have joint forces at times to attack, but my fortress is too strong, lol.
Honestly.. kill em with kindness / dont take it too seriously, the world is full of "weird & wonderful".. Embrace it..  |
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We find there's some very nice people on the forums and we hang around here as generally we find them hilarious (not always for the right reasons) BUT there is a forum clique as lots of people seem to notice it and comment on it, we do comment on posts but to be fair they are usually ones we see a lot of judgemental comments on and being a swingers site we think its not necessary this hasn't always endeared us lol and quite often a comment from us kills a post stone dead  but being someone who will burst if I don't speak I haven't learnt lol
BUT as we said the majority are lovely so being rude back won't help and saying your above flaunting yourself online, it's a swingers sex site!  |
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"I agree OP. I posted an observation that more men post in the forum then women. Jesus! I was sent upon by a pack of hyenas followed by arse licking guys. "
Yep that's normal behaviour for some. Makes them feel special. The forums are supposed to be fun. No wonder so few members use them. |
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"I agree OP. I posted an observation that more men post in the forum then women. Jesus! I was sent upon by a pack of hyenas followed by arse licking guys. "
Arent you veing a bit overly dramatic there fella?
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/853052
You said only men start threads people pointed out you were wrong, you then started going on about "horribleness".
Now theyre a pack of hyenas? Either your really trying to play the victim or you're very thin skinned if people pointing out your wrong upsets you this much |
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"Why would anyone take offence at what someone types on this site, this forum, or any other site/forum on the internet?
Unless of course, the judgement of someone you do not know defines your self worth.
Surely, only the opinion of those we know and love should matter to us. The internet does not reflect real life.
In what way is the internet not real life? It’s humans both ends of the screen. Saying it’s not real life gives an excuse to those who do abuse, bully or intimidate on line.
It’s real life enough to cause teenage girls to commit suicide. You don’t get more real than that. "
I'm not giving an excuse to anyone so please do not accuse me of that unless I've stated it. Some humans are vile whether they're hiding behind a screen or not.
However, there's such a thing as an off button with any type of technology.
The pressure on young adults these days through social media is astounding, but it's another part of this dystopia we currently exist in.
Society is fucked. We may as well just accept it! |
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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago
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To each to there own......especially when told blah blah or not seeing. Then to find out people are humping like thumper from Bambi lol rather to told not interested and bye than told shitty lies |
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over a year ago
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"To each to there own......especially when told blah blah or not seeing. Then to find out people are humping like thumper from Bambi lol rather to told not interested and bye than told shitty lies "
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