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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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..... had a great profile but they were boring as fuck and the rest of their body wasn't as good as the carefully posed pics they'd posted?
Is giving profile advice a bad idea really? If they change their profile to make themselves seem more appealing, is it fair on the people they will end up meeting?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think giving general profile advice isn’t a bad thing, it’s really difficult to fake charisma on a profile and you can usually tell when advice as been given |
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The advice I tend to offer is such that it still tells you a lot about the person. My standard advice is who are you, what kind of person are you looking for, what do you have to offer, what makes you different?
I've seen people take that advice and get to something like (not an actual profile) "I'm a horny guy looking to meet ladies! I like sex! I'm genuine!"
And it's still sort of better than what was there? But it comes from them, ultimately. And it sorts sheep from goats. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I give out advice, I take it. Learn and grow doing both, hopefully. It's nice to hear an honest opinion from a random stranger sometimes, if only to serve as a reminder we're all different. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I do understand what you're getting at Op but I don't think it happens through profile text - they'd have to interact at some point. That being said, the carbon-copy profile text that can arise from these profile advice threads/some of the help that's given is dreary and lacking in any real vibrancy and personality.
I'd rather people were authentic in voice, to their desires and fab hopes, even if it means 'i want to fuck big titted milfs and spunk on their faces and go' instead of a spiel about wanting a connection etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do understand what you're getting at Op but I don't think it happens through profile text - they'd have to interact at some point. That being said, the carbon-copy profile text that can arise from these profile advice threads/some of the help that's given is dreary and lacking in any real vibrancy and personality.
I'd rather people were authentic in voice, to their desires and fab hopes, even if it means 'i want to fuck big titted milfs and spunk on their faces and go' instead of a spiel about wanting a connection etc."
But what if that's what they want? |
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"..... had a great profile but they were boring as fuck and the rest of their body wasn't as good as the carefully posed pics they'd posted?
Is giving profile advice a bad idea really? If they change their profile to make themselves seem more appealing, is it fair on the people they will end up meeting? "
I'd feel a bit fed up if they weren't like their photos but that has happened to us. We have also experienced boredom as I'm sure some of our meets have.
I don't think profile advice is a bad thing. Some people clearly struggle with the written word and I don't think a helping hand with that is a bad thing. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I do understand what you're getting at Op but I don't think it happens through profile text - they'd have to interact at some point. That being said, the carbon-copy profile text that can arise from these profile advice threads/some of the help that's given is dreary and lacking in any real vibrancy and personality.
I'd rather people were authentic in voice, to their desires and fab hopes, even if it means 'i want to fuck big titted milfs and spunk on their faces and go' instead of a spiel about wanting a connection etc.
But what if that's what they want?"
Erm - in my example it's not. They've changed what they actually want to what they think is "acceptable" and more successful.
My point *is* that people should put what they actually want etc. Not masquerade it under something else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do understand what you're getting at Op but I don't think it happens through profile text - they'd have to interact at some point. That being said, the carbon-copy profile text that can arise from these profile advice threads/some of the help that's given is dreary and lacking in any real vibrancy and personality.
I'd rather people were authentic in voice, to their desires and fab hopes, even if it means 'i want to fuck big titted milfs and spunk on their faces and go' instead of a spiel about wanting a connection etc.
But what if that's what they want?
Erm - in my example it's not. They've changed what they actually want to what they think is "acceptable" and more successful.
My point *is* that people should put what they actually want etc. Not masquerade it under something else."
Sorry. I'm easily confused. I agree with your view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's incredibly hard for even really nice guys to get their foot in the door, conversationally. Helping people to make a better impression on paper will merely assist them to have an opportunity to introduce themselves. What happens next comes down to personality so if they're dull or odd, that will show through conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"..... had a great profile but they were boring as fuck and the rest of their body wasn't as good as the carefully posed pics they'd posted?
Is giving profile advice a bad idea really? If they change their profile to make themselves seem more appealing, is it fair on the people they will end up meeting? "
I'd be confused as to how i had ended up meeting somone without speaking to them first?
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Caveat Emptor ......
Loads of things get advertised that are shite.....
Not the sellers fault you bought it. "
Nail. Head.
It's why you don't buy a car based on photos but view it in real life, maybe kick a tyre or two, lift the bonnet and possibly take it for a quick test drive to see if it's what you want long term.
And why if a deal on something looks too good to be true then it generally is.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do understand what you're getting at Op but I don't think it happens through profile text - they'd have to interact at some point. That being said, the carbon-copy profile text that can arise from these profile advice threads/some of the help that's given is dreary and lacking in any real vibrancy and personality.
I'd rather people were authentic in voice, to their desires and fab hopes, even if it means 'i want to fuck big titted milfs and spunk on their faces and go' instead of a spiel about wanting a connection etc.
But what if that's what they want?
Erm - in my example it's not. They've changed what they actually want to what they think is "acceptable" and more successful.
My point *is* that people should put what they actually want etc. Not masquerade it under something else."
Yes that's what I'm thinking. That they just change it to the generic Fab Ideal but then there's disappointment when "ugg ugg wanna fuck" turns up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's incredibly hard for even really nice guys to get their foot in the door, conversationally. Helping people to make a better impression on paper will merely assist them to have an opportunity to introduce themselves. What happens next comes down to personality so if they're dull or odd, that will show through conversation. "
That's a positive way of looking at it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do understand what you're getting at Op but I don't think it happens through profile text - they'd have to interact at some point. That being said, the carbon-copy profile text that can arise from these profile advice threads/some of the help that's given is dreary and lacking in any real vibrancy and personality.
I'd rather people were authentic in voice, to their desires and fab hopes, even if it means 'i want to fuck big titted milfs and spunk on their faces and go' instead of a spiel about wanting a connection etc."
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