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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Evening all. Friendly debate about fabbers being over 30, not being able to accommodate for various reasons.
Are they fakers?
Do they genuinely have good reasons?
And is it a red flag for others?
Keep it friendly and light please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Evening all. Friendly debate about fabbers being over 30, not being able to accommodate for various reasons.
Are they fakers?
Do they genuinely have good reasons?
And is it a red flag for others?
Keep it friendly and light please "
I have a child. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I don’t think so. Personally I’d never tell anyone where I live never mind invite anyone here. This is my children’s home and fab is totally separate from my private life. And I’m very real by the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think with slot of things there are good and bad reasons for this.
They could house share or live with a family member etc
Yes I think the default setting is to think it's due to them cheating |
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My general assumptions are either not single and/or they have kids.
We don't accommodate because we have kids and this is their home too. I don't want to bring anyone else home. There's pictures of them and their things are here even if they're not. I think a lot of parents are the same.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Due to unforeseen circumstances, I'm currently living in a shared house (until the house I'm buying completes)
I barely know the people I live with and wouldn't really feel comfortable inviting people back here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women have families or elderly aunts at home.
Men have wives."
I’ve 2 male friends on here who have their children 3 or 4 nights a week. Neither are married still. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My general assumptions are either not single and/or they have kids.
We don't accommodate because we have kids and this is their home too. I don't want to bring anyone else home. There's pictures of them and their things are here even if they're not. I think a lot of parents are the same.
V x"
That reminded me of a house party we once went to. People were shagging next to the kids' things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women have families or elderly aunts at home.
Men have wives.
I’ve 2 male friends on here who have their children 3 or 4 nights a week. Neither are married still. "
I know someone like this too. Him and his ex have shared custody. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women have families or elderly aunts at home.
Men have wives.
I’ve 2 male friends on here who have their children 3 or 4 nights a week. Neither are married still.
I know someone like this too. Him and his ex have shared custody. "
Yes same for my 2 friends x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I explain myself well enough on this point. "
I had a look at your profile after you'd mentioned rathergood.com
And, yes, that bit made me laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m doing my current house up so daren’t have people round until the bathroom is fixed!  In the past, I’ve accomodated single females, but never accomodate couples after an experience where I pretty much had to forcabley kick some out who got weird. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You sound like you’re making assumptions based on a couple of details from the profile. Keep an open mind, get to know the person and if it really bugs you ask. |
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"Evening all. Friendly debate about fabbers being over 30, not being able to accommodate for various reasons.
Are they fakers?
Do they genuinely have good reasons?
And is it a red flag for others?
Keep it friendly and light please "
There will be loads of reasons why they can't x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Baffles me that some people cannot accommodate and cannot travel.
Maybe it's me but, I'm not going to drive out to pick someone up to bring them mine to drop them off. Ain't a taxi service.
I'd only do that for close friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Baffles me that some people cannot accommodate and cannot travel.
Maybe it's me but, I'm not going to drive out to pick someone up to bring them mine to drop them off. Ain't a taxi service.
I'd only do that for close friends. "
I think this. I think it just means travel outside of their locality, but makes me chuckle |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"You sound like you’re making assumptions based on a couple of details from the profile. Keep an open mind, get to know the person and if it really bugs you ask."
I don't think he's making any assumptions, he's over 30 and can't accommodate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Baffles me that some people cannot accommodate and cannot travel.
Maybe it's me but, I'm not going to drive out to pick someone up to bring them mine to drop them off. Ain't a taxi service.
I'd only do that for close friends. "
Some people think travelling means an 8 hour train journey to Scotland |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I wish there was an option that said will only only meet in clubs, I don't travel or accommodate because i will only meet at a Club.
Of course I do travel to clubs, but if I say I will travel on my profile people think I will travel to a meet, and I won't.
My reasons that I don't accommodate do not include me hiding my lifestyle from somebody who has a right to know.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You sound like you’re making assumptions based on a couple of details from the profile. Keep an open mind, get to know the person and if it really bugs you ask.
I don't think he's making any assumptions, he's over 30 and can't accommodate "
I stand corrected. |
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"No. I don’t think so. Personally I’d never tell anyone where I live never mind invite anyone here. This is my children’s home and fab is totally separate from my private life. And I’m very real by the way. "
Same here. Wouldn't want anyone knowing where we live. It's none of their business as it's totally private too us. We enjoy hotels anyway, it's more fun and naughty. We Wouldn't go to their house either. Its a trust thing. You never know if they are filming you unknowingly  *Mrs |
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"I think I explain myself well enough on this point.
I had a look at your profile after you'd mentioned rathergood.com
And, yes, that bit made me laugh "
Bloody rathergood.com! That site is the reason I can't have a tin of soup without singing Soupy George to myself |
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Loads of valid reasons why they put that they can't accom and not everyone lists their true capability or interest.
Some prefer hotels or clubs too. Communicate, have a social and find out.
Housing is now so expensive that I can understand more people sharing, to make a better home more affordable.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think being unable to accommodate tells you much really. And anyway if somebody is attached there are other signs that are a whole lot easier to read. |
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I dont see why it makes any difference if a man chooses not to accommodate.
Weather male or female its there choice not to accommodate at there home.
It should be taken at face value without any accusations or accusing of other reasons not to accommodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont see why it makes any difference if a man chooses not to accommodate.
Weather male or female its there choice not to accommodate at there home.
It should be taken at face value without any accusations or accusing of other reasons not to accommodate."
I've spoken to men who say they can accom and gone on to admit they are married, once you've been chatting for a bit. I've also have met a man who couldn't accomodate, because he was house sharing. The only way to know, is to ask. I dont see 'cannot accom' as a red flag... I admit I used to though. |
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"Evening all. Friendly debate about fabbers being over 30, not being able to accommodate for various reasons.
Are they fakers?
Do they genuinely have good reasons?
And is it a red flag for others?
Keep it friendly and light please "
I never play on my own doorstep does that make me fake? |
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By *uck427Man
over a year ago
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I can't accommodate I've moved back to my parents house after my job finished at a holiday park where I was living in a caravan also I've been told I'm married I can say I've never been married or got kids I wish I had some kids I'd be happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Baffles me that some people cannot accommodate and cannot travel.
Maybe it's me but, I'm not going to drive out to pick someone up to bring them mine to drop them off. Ain't a taxi service.
I'd only do that for close friends.
Some people think travelling means an 8 hour train journey to Scotland "
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
from the womb and tryout to get back |
"Evening all. Friendly debate about fabbers being over 30, not being able to accommodate for various reasons.
Are they fakers?
Do they genuinely have good reasons?
And is it a red flag for others?
Keep it friendly and light please
I have a child. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Evening all. Friendly debate about fabbers being over 30, not being able to accommodate for various reasons.
Are they fakers?
Do they genuinely have good reasons?
And is it a red flag for others?
Keep it friendly and light please "
Genuinely good reason. My main one is I don’t want complete strangers in my home... whatever the intentions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Evening all. Friendly debate about fabbers being over 30, not being able to accommodate for various reasons.
Are they fakers?
Do they genuinely have good reasons?
And is it a red flag for others?
Keep it friendly and light please "
Or that they have children living with them |
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"some could be on military bases, hard to sneak people in "
Having lived in many military bases no need to sneak lol.
Winchester no differant as have been based there. Disney down round the corner as well |
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I met at home so I didn't care whether they accommodated or not until I said to a regular playmate "we'll have to meet at yours next week as my daughter is home from uni." His horrified "I don't let people I've met off the internet into my house! It's not a knocking shop", changed my view.
After I kicked him out of my house, couldn't understand why,  I changed my meet criteria. My daughter is married and nearly 30 so it was some time ago but it's always stuck with me.
I assume I'm not good enough to be invited into your home: which is fine...just don't expect to be invited to mine, so I don't meet anyone who doesn't accommodate. |
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"If there is a genuine reason such as kids then just need to mention in the profile....obvioously people do lie but I would probably think they were married otherwise."
I don't think anyone needs to justify anything. If you see something on a profile that doesn't marry, move on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As explained above in detail, there are so many reasons why people can't accommodate there is nothing suspicious about it. Personally, I could but I often think about things like noise and upsetting neighbours, etc. |
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"As explained above in detail, there are so many reasons why people can't accommodate there is nothing suspicious about it. Personally, I could but I often think about things like noise and upsetting neighbours, etc. "
What kind of raucous shenanigans are you planning to upset the neighbours?!!
Not wanting strangers in your house I get, but not having guests because of neighbours?!! O...k...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's pretty shitty that most people think that for a single male over 30 that it is cheating. My reason is that I'm still living with my Parents whilst saving up to move out. I'm more than happy to fork out for a hotel in the unlikely event of meeting someone. |
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"Would never accommodate straight off the bat as that my daughter's home 4 days of the week. And would only ever accommodate when she isn't there."
I met when my daughter was at uni.
There was a member who used to drug her children and lock them in their rooms in order to fuck strangers. To this day I think that is the most outrageous thing I've read on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As explained above in detail, there are so many reasons why people can't accommodate there is nothing suspicious about it. Personally, I could but I often think about things like noise and upsetting neighbours, etc.
What kind of raucous shenanigans are you planning to upset the neighbours?!!
Not wanting strangers in your house I get, but not having guests because of neighbours?!! O...k...!"
I worry about these things  I just moved recently because of awful neighbours so perhaps a little hyper sensitive about the whole thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women have families or elderly aunts at home.
Men have wives.
Alternatively...
Men have kids or mothers at home.
Women have husbands."
I don't think that ever happens. Married women are too busy making the tea to shag around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interestingly I meet a married man who can accomodate so there. Accomodation means nothing. Only friends have been in my house. But I'm reluctant until I really feel I know someone. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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Folk may think differently however Whatever reason is applicable to any other demographic or gender is just as apllicable to single guys.
If I'm interested enough and the feeling is reciprocated we'd find a solution. |
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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago
Camberley/Middleton |
The most likley explanation is they live with someone it could be a housemate but then do they ever have sex at their home? More likley they have a partner/spouse. There will also be those who choose not to (aka bullshitters) but then they are the ones who really really don't want to be caught out by the wife. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You sound like you’re making assumptions based on a couple of details from the profile. Keep an open mind, get to know the person and if it really bugs you ask.
I don't think he's making any assumptions, he's over 30 and can't accommodate "
I think i genuinely have a reason for not accommodating because i live with my mum and due to health reasons i look after her hence the not being able should i be be put in the same net as someone else that isnt in my situation and are faking |
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I mentioned my reason on another thread simply men feel that they can turn up after a successful meet prearranged but in their eyes its a golden pass.
Not that i have a life I'm not meeting or the respect of neighbours. That when I moved it wouldn't happen again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm one of the ones who only likes to meet single guys who accommodate.
Reason being I have a 16yr old and 20yr old living at home with me. They will obviously know what I'm upto. More importantly, this is their home and their safety is my main concern.
Some Ladies on here who previously accommodated said, previous meets randomly turned up on their doorstep one day! How scary and what a nerve.
Where I'm from and nearby, house prices for singles or couples aren't that expensive. Sorry if I sound rude but the over 30s, I'd of thought would of moved out from their parents by that age. House sharing with a friend Is one thing but as mentioned, house/flat prices around here for singles, isn't that bad.
I can understand financial issues like debt may prevent them renting alone, but I'm sorry I still couldn't meet them for safety reasons. Such as I wouldn't want to go into a house with more then one male living there. There's plenty of stories on here whereas a woman thought she would be sleeping with one guy but he soon tried to get his flat mate involved for a threesome!
I couldn't do hotels any more because I soon realised anyone can hire a room. He could be married and lying to me or could be a danger to me. Meeting in a man's home, well I'll have his face ID and address before meeting. A potential rapist wouldn't give out his personal info! I let those types of meets know, my trusted best friend knows where I'll be and expects to hear from me the next day. I always do socials beforehand daytime in public too.
I feel fine meeting the way I do but due to my filters, I only meet singles over 30 who accom nearby/ ish. So I can't assume why others outside of my filters do not accom. |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
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"Women have families or elderly aunts at home.
Men have wives.
Alternatively...
Men have kids or mothers at home.
Women have husbands.
I don't think that ever happens. Married women are too busy making the tea to shag around. "
Do you really think so?... well, I have to differ.
I've seen quite a large number of women's profiles stating the need for discretion as they're married and don't want their husbands to find out - and they're just the ones who are honest(ish) about it... goodness knows how many are here cheating, every bit as much as their male counterparts. |
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My reasons are:
A, I live on my own and my safely is paramount. I have had ex boyfriends turn up randomly and friends of friends who have turned up and tried it on and that is from the 'real' world...
B, I have two ferrets as pets, not everyone likes ferrets
C, My neighbors are a nosy bunch and to see the comings and goings of various men, I will be talk of the block... It is bad enough when I am spotted doing the walk of shame
D, I like to be nosy and get interior design ideas from other peoples houses
E, Its nice to stay/go elsewhere
F, Females prerogative |
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My home is my castle and I'll be damned if I'm letting the peasants past the drawbridge!!
Seriously though it's our home, the place we relax and the place my little people live, plus i like a drink or two with a meet and if i was at home my arse would hit the groove in the sofa and i'd be be throwing zzzzz's in record time.. Apparently that's frowned upon on a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a young child at home
When I am kid free i still dont accom as i live in a tiny village, with my parents as the nearest nosy neighbours
And frankly, I can't be arsed getting the Hoover out for a meet, lol, rather go out for fun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I live with family for financial/help reasons and I have no reason to move yet....
If I had a reason to move say like a girlfriend that I got pregnant and decided we want to live together then I'd quite happily move.... But as it stands there's no reason to. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
Generally, I don't accommodate for the following reason.
I work away from home, having done so for the past 7 years, living in company provided accommodation along with the job.
Whilst, I've a great job, with excellent working T&C's, I like to separate Work & Personal lives as much as possible.
Also, my live-in quarters aren't spacious.
When I have time off however & get away home to Hull, I can accommodate there. |
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