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"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share..." sorry to here that what was it like for you ? what where the signs ? | |||
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"Back in 1993 I had a particularly bad time at work. My home life has always been good, but I was pushing myself too hard at work and looking back, I thought I was better than I was. I came through it though, mainly by prioritising things differently and changing my attitude to my working life. I realised that my family was more important than my job so started to live my life for us, and not for my employers. It's been nearly 20yrs since my "dark period" but in one way I'm glad I lived it, because it's made me realise what real life is all about. Just fight it mate, keep your chin up and just keep ploughing forward "Mrs agrees +1 | |||
"i have and people new about it and did nothing... 18mouthns cring like a baby and other downs. what do you think of the people who did nothing... one if my brother" Unfortunately those that are closest to you, in your hour of need, are quite often the last to notice. However, they quickly gather when pound signs are in evidence. Life is both tough and cruel but also brilliant when times are good. | |||
"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share..." Something like that m8. I was assaulted n went to pieces. Lost job etc. Try to look for the good things even one a day will help. Ask for help, don't be alone, no mater how much you want to. Good luck dude. | |||
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"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share..." I don't believe in breakdowns. I believe some people get to a point where their _iew of the world and reality get out of kilter. That dissonance is profoundly disabling, but I think calling it a breakdown is unhelpful. Not least because people equate it with getting the AA out to fix their alternator. I also think there are moments of reactive depression, when the black dog comes calling, that make normal life impossible. They aren't breakdowns, either. My favourite therapist once said, to me, that, given my circumstances atthe time, she'd be more inclined to call a psychiatrist if I wasn't depressed than if I was. You wouldn't call that a breakdown. Your relationship goes to shit and you feel pissed off? That's not a breakdown. That's how people are. | |||
"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share... I don't believe in breakdowns. I believe some people get to a point where their _iew of the world and reality get out of kilter. That dissonance is profoundly disabling, but I think calling it a breakdown is unhelpful. Not least because people equate it with getting the AA out to fix their alternator. I also think there are moments of reactive depression, when the black dog comes calling, that make normal life impossible. They aren't breakdowns, either. My favourite therapist once said, to me, that, given my circumstances atthe time, she'd be more inclined to call a psychiatrist if I wasn't depressed than if I was. You wouldn't call that a breakdown. Your relationship goes to shit and you feel pissed off? That's not a breakdown. That's how people are." Many people think of the brain to work mechanically, made up of different parts each with its own importance and function. I think it is valid to call it a breakdown when your mentality reaches a point where it can no longer function efficiently. Sarah x | |||
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"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share... I don't believe in breakdowns. I believe some people get to a point where their _iew of the world and reality get out of kilter. That dissonance is profoundly disabling, but I think calling it a breakdown is unhelpful. Not least because people equate it with getting the AA out to fix their alternator. I also think there are moments of reactive depression, when the black dog comes calling, that make normal life impossible. They aren't breakdowns, either. My favourite therapist once said, to me, that, given my circumstances atthe time, she'd be more inclined to call a psychiatrist if I wasn't depressed than if I was. You wouldn't call that a breakdown. Your relationship goes to shit and you feel pissed off? That's not a breakdown. That's how people are." i have to disagree, you can reach the point of being unable to function, the AA analogy does work, you cannot get anywhere,even moving is too much effort.you have broken down. | |||
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"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share..." yeah, my 47 yr old husband left me for his 25 yr old secretary, what a shite! 4 yrs ago, i've only just got over it really, realised what a knob he is finally | |||
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I've had some crappy stuff going off in the last couple of years and am amazed that I'm still smiling, things don't stress or phase me like they used to.
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Tho i got post natal depression with my youngest ive been ok other wise, i dont really let things bother me or let things build up, and ive been tho some shit in my life but im one of these people who think you cant changed what happened so no point letting it get to you, some people are just more able to cope than others and i think theres no shame in asking for help.....tho there still seems to be a stigma on this subject and a lot think its something you dont talk about or admit to, but i think keeping things to yourself can make things worse | |||
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apologies this was a bit long. | |||
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"I guess different people cope with stressful situations in different ways and they may react differently to the same situation at a different time, I was told that. ' falling down is part of life, getting up is living.' , I'm sure there are many people that will offer you a hand up.. don't be afraid to ask .. "What a fantastic quote, never heard that before | |||
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"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share... I don't believe in breakdowns. I believe some people get to a point where their _iew of the world and reality get out of kilter. That dissonance is profoundly disabling, but I think calling it a breakdown is unhelpful. Not least because people equate it with getting the AA out to fix their alternator. I also think there are moments of reactive depression, when the black dog comes calling, that make normal life impossible. They aren't breakdowns, either. My favourite therapist once said, to me, that, given my circumstances atthe time, she'd be more inclined to call a psychiatrist if I wasn't depressed than if I was. You wouldn't call that a breakdown. Your relationship goes to shit and you feel pissed off? That's not a breakdown. That's how people are." sounds a little subjective to me | |||
 I've a really good friend Of mine who met a lass on here - they got engaged & all that crap. They split up & shes back on here pulling no punches with field reports. So called distracting herself
He's gutted. I know he's thinking really bad thoughts & I'm worried for his life but what can we do apart from be there?
He's really really nice & doesn't deserve what's happening but I feel guilty as I left a field report for him & now she kicked off even more!
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"Life is not fair, however, it is what one makes of it. Just because one has been wronged by others, it does not mean one has to dwell on the past and be bitter about it. Don't let the buggers get you down as the saying goes. " but if you find it difficult to cope you really should speak to your GP.
I chatted about feeling down to my GP and the advice was good. No tablets, .... lose a bit of weight, take more excercise and join in some groups like rambling or other hobbies and classes. It worked. I think I was getting too insular. I took dancing, yoga and art classes and re-discovered my long lost love of painting. | |||
His family has a history of mental illness, his mother and all his siblings suffered from it.
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"Hi had one one sort of of my and a girl plit up.... i had a breakdown for 18months... come share... I don't believe in breakdowns. I believe some people get to a point where their _iew of the world and reality get out of kilter. That dissonance is profoundly disabling, but I think calling it a breakdown is unhelpful. Not least because people equate it with getting the AA out to fix their alternator. I also think there are moments of reactive depression, when the black dog comes calling, that make normal life impossible. They aren't breakdowns, either. My favourite therapist once said, to me, that, given my circumstances atthe time, she'd be more inclined to call a psychiatrist if I wasn't depressed than if I was. You wouldn't call that a breakdown. Your relationship goes to shit and you feel pissed off? That's not a breakdown. That's how people are. i have to disagree, you can reach the point of being unable to function, the AA analogy does work, you cannot get anywhere,even moving is too much effort.you have broken down. " I agree, it's profoundly disabling. I just hate the terminology of a 'breakdown'. | |||
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