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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t like to draw attention to myself, plus I think it’s a bit needy to start threads, I’d rather just contribute and pass on my wit and wisdom via other peoples musing. |
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I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I start threads as I think of something and think that would be an interesting post. My hubby doesn’t do the forums either, lots don’t who I chat to, one said they didn’t have time and I must have too much time on my hands  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only started one thread & was worried no-one would comment on it, thankfully that wasn't the case but that's my main reason. Also if I've got a query I'll search the forums & there's usually already a previous post about it so no need to start a new thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts "
I like people who start a thread, then immediately go offline for 2 days while it’s all kicked off and someone else has made a part 2 and 3 riding on their coat tails. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts
I like people who start a thread, then immediately go offline for 2 days while it’s all kicked off and someone else has made a part 2 and 3 riding on their coat tails."
That’s the best threads ever!
I call them bun fights |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only started 2 threads, both were things I was genuinely interested in discussing and I enjoyed the conversation. Was time consuming though as the responses brought up other questions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I think of something interesting to make a thread about I will.
I think for a lot of people though they feel it's not worth the effort I'm attempting to do so when it goes nowhere after 2 or so replies. Almost a fear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im often too shy about posting a thread and also the realisation of no one wanting to join my posts but hay new years resolution was to be more outgoing so i just may try later on |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts "
I think it depends on the type of thread that has been started |
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"I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts
I think it depends on the type of thread that has been started "
True but the sort you’re referring to I never start because I’m not here to kiss fuck or avoid as I’m only kissing and fucking Swing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to post threads regularly but things changed for me. I inadvertently caused a problem for other forum users with one of my threads. Got flamed. The. The next few threads I posted got acrimonious. Other issues were also going on....
So I hid my profile- left for a few months - when I came back I reinvented my forum persona as a self deprecating fool with virtually nothing useful to say and very rarely post a thread anymore.
I don’t take anything particularly seriously on here. Didn’t meet for five years and just used the forum and site as an escape and outlet for my exhibitionistic tendencies. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"If I think of something interesting to make a thread about I will.
I think for a lot of people though they feel it's not worth the effort I'm attempting to do so when it goes nowhere after 2 or so replies. Almost a fear. "
I can see that point, I do wonder if some people consider it as a kind of popularity or self esteem thing; if their post drops without a trace then its a bit of a 'knock' |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts
I think it depends on the type of thread that has been started
True but the sort you’re referring to I never start because I’m not here to kiss fuck or avoid as I’m only kissing and fucking Swing "
Not necessarily, I wouldn't reply to every post on this thread but on others I might |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
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Because everything’s been done? And some others always will maybe? Scared nobody will answer?
Lots of reasons why I (or others ) May not want to be the one who starts a thread.
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I used to post threads regularly but things changed for me. I inadvertently caused a problem for other forum users with one of my threads. Got flamed. The. The next few threads I posted got acrimonious. Other issues were also going on....
So I hid my profile- left for a few months - when I came back I reinvented my forum persona as a self deprecating fool with virtually nothing useful to say and very rarely post a thread anymore.
I don’t take anything particularly seriously on here. Didn’t meet for five years and just used the forum and site as an escape and outlet for my exhibitionistic tendencies."
That's rather brutal and also quite a while ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im often too shy about posting a thread and also the realisation of no one wanting to join my posts but hay new years resolution was to be more outgoing so i just may try later on "
Do it. The forums always need new people.  |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Im often too shy about posting a thread and also the realisation of no one wanting to join my posts but hay new years resolution was to be more outgoing so i just may try later on "
Do it! |
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"I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts
I think it depends on the type of thread that has been started
True but the sort you’re referring to I never start because I’m not here to kiss fuck or avoid as I’m only kissing and fucking Swing
Not necessarily, I wouldn't reply to every post on this thread but on others I might"
Now that’s where we differ, I have no issue with your method or not being responded to on a thread but I can’t do that |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
Because everything’s been done? And some others always will maybe? Scared nobody will answer?
Lots of reasons why I (or others ) May not want to be the one who starts a thread.
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OK, is that specifically why you don't post threads? |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
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Yep, often by people who rarely or never post their own topics...
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've only started 2 threads, both were things I was genuinely interested in discussing and I enjoyed the conversation. Was time consuming though as the responses brought up other questions. "
Yes, it can get like that I guess. Especially if it's a subject that can get rather indepth. I did enjoy reading your thread though, it was very interesting |
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"I used to start threads regularly but it’s sooooo time consuming. If I start a thread I think it’s only polite to interact with those that take the time to respond and I mean to EVERYONE that posts
I like people who start a thread, then immediately go offline for 2 days while it’s all kicked off and someone else has made a part 2 and 3 riding on their coat tails."
Or even funnier still they return 2 days later unable to find the thread they started because it’s been pulled and they start it again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a bit like putting yourself up infront of the class and having to read a paragraph you just wrote. You're fairly anonymous just posting on others threads. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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A myriad of reasons.
Sometimes I just want to focus my creative energy on a few poor sods.
It might bomb.
If it's a subject close to my heart, I don't know if I want to open it up to twattish responses.
And sometimes I can't be arsed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A myriad of reasons.
Sometimes I just want to focus my creative energy on a few poor sods.
It might bomb.
If it's a subject close to my heart, I don't know if I want to open it up to twattish responses.
And sometimes I can't be arsed."
Thank you Meli, all very valid reasons.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to post threads regularly but things changed for me. I inadvertently caused a problem for other forum users with one of my threads. Got flamed. The. The next few threads I posted got acrimonious. Other issues were also going on....
So I hid my profile- left for a few months - when I came back I reinvented my forum persona as a self deprecating fool with virtually nothing useful to say and very rarely post a thread anymore.
I don’t take anything particularly seriously on here. Didn’t meet for five years and just used the forum and site as an escape and outlet for my exhibitionistic tendencies.
That's rather brutal and also quite a while ago. "
Yeah it was quite a long time ago but once bitten twice shy. I quite enjoy just playing the fool now. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"A myriad of reasons.
Sometimes I just want to focus my creative energy on a few poor sods.
It might bomb.
If it's a subject close to my heart, I don't know if I want to open it up to twattish responses.
And sometimes I can't be arsed."
I get what you're saying, although I think any posts are open to twattish comments and that says more about them than you |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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I occasionally post lighthearted threads, very rarely though, as I see too often people turn on an op and twist the thread into something it wasn't meant to be.
Off the top of my head I remember a middle button game, road trip playlist suggestions and what crisps to eat on a sandwich. And i still managed to get a few snidey remarks on the sandwich one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
Because everything’s been done? And some others always will maybe? Scared nobody will answer?
Lots of reasons why I (or others ) May not want to be the one who starts a thread.
OK, is that specifically why you don't post threads? "
No. I’m trying to guess why your friend might not.
I just can’t be assed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did a thread on double anal, thinking this is a sure fire thread filler, nothing, diddley squat. I felt hurt and ashamed, I retreated and didn’t post a new thread for 4 days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t like to draw attention to myself, plus I think it’s a bit needy to start threads, I’d rather just contribute and pass on my wit and wisdom via other peoples musing. "
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
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You didn't let it stop you though. I expect the 'regulars' aren't here anymore. There'll be a new set of 'regulars'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
You didn't let it stop you though. I expect the 'regulars' aren't here anymore. There'll be a new set of 'regulars'. "
But was it a stupid question?..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've only started 2 threads, both were things I was genuinely interested in discussing and I enjoyed the conversation. Was time consuming though as the responses brought up other questions.
Yes, it can get like that I guess. Especially if it's a subject that can get rather indepth. I did enjoy reading your thread though, it was very interesting "
I really enjoyed it.. was really good to hear others point of view on something that does prey on my mind. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've only started 2 threads, both were things I was genuinely interested in discussing and I enjoyed the conversation. Was time consuming though as the responses brought up other questions.
Yes, it can get like that I guess. Especially if it's a subject that can get rather indepth. I did enjoy reading your thread though, it was very interesting
I really enjoyed it.. was really good to hear others point of view on something that does prey on my mind. "
I think that that's the perfect reason to start threads, I've had so many threads start because I get a thought stuck in my head after a chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
You didn't let it stop you though. I expect the 'regulars' aren't here anymore. There'll be a new set of 'regulars'. "
It did stop me for a while. Most of those regulars have gone but many new ones are still doing the same thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
You didn't let it stop you though. I expect the 'regulars' aren't here anymore. There'll be a new set of 'regulars'.
But was it a stupid question?..... "
All my threads are stupid. I learn fast.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I may start a post following an epiphany moment or something that has caught my attention. Occasionally it will be a spin off of another thread that I don't want to piss in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've done a fair few in my time on here but just can't be bothered now. Most subjects have been done to death and I avoid any argumentative threads as I come in here for fun, not to get crushed by the clique. |
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads? "
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick. |
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"I may start a post following an epiphany moment or something that has caught my attention. Occasionally it will be a spin off of another thread that I don't want to piss in."
There’s the best days. When conversations flow into others. Just feeling like it’s effortless rather than forcing something to talk about. . Just like sitting down face to face.
I love lots to talk about. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick. "
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
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"Im often too shy about posting a thread and also the realisation of no one wanting to join my posts but hay new years resolution was to be more outgoing so i just may try later on
Do it! "
Already done NSA hope to see you there if your interested in the topic lol |
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
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It might not be but no one signed up to be torn apart on the forum of a sex site by keyboard warriors with bugger all else to do. Some do nothing but belittle and make derogatory comments. I can understand why folk don’t start threads  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
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I agree but I've been on the receiving end of some pretty shitty posts, like a virtual tag team picking at me. It's not nice so I can see why it will put people off. |
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads? "
I’m very shy |
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
It might not be but no one signed up to be torn apart on the forum of a sex site by keyboard warriors with bugger all else to do. Some do nothing but belittle and make derogatory comments. I can understand why folk don’t start threads "
Or even leave the forums...? I can completely understand why some don’t and won’t.
And feeling like your stepping in the popular kids tor’s is a big factor.
Imagine starting a thread and someone having a go because it’s like the one they normally would do. (I remember that) |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
I agree but I've been on the receiving end of some pretty shitty posts, like a virtual tag team picking at me. It's not nice so I can see why it will put people off."
No I agree, it is shitty. A part of me thinks that giving in to the trolls and shitty comments is exactly what they want so I'm less inclined to do that. However, fighting battles isn't why people join fab (mostly) |
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
It might not be but no one signed up to be torn apart on the forum of a sex site by keyboard warriors with bugger all else to do. Some do nothing but belittle and make derogatory comments. I can understand why folk don’t start threads
Or even leave the forums...? I can completely understand why some don’t and won’t.
And feeling like your stepping in the popular kids tor’s is a big factor.
Imagine starting a thread and someone having a go because it’s like the one they normally would do. (I remember that) "
There has been some serious sulking when someone starts a thread that ‘belongs’ to someone else, a whole different type of lamppost pissing |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
It might not be but no one signed up to be torn apart on the forum of a sex site by keyboard warriors with bugger all else to do. Some do nothing but belittle and make derogatory comments. I can understand why folk don’t start threads
Or even leave the forums...? I can completely understand why some don’t and won’t.
And feeling like your stepping in the popular kids tor’s is a big factor.
Imagine starting a thread and someone having a go because it’s like the one they normally would do. (I remember that)
There has been some serious sulking when someone starts a thread that ‘belongs’ to someone else, a whole different type of lamppost pissing "
It's all very funny, there have been plenty of threads that i started but others have taken over. I actually started the phwoar threads, I'm not bothered! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve only started a couple of threads in my time. One was to say hello and the other was to start a good morning thread.
I really don’t feel a need to do it. I enjoy joining in where I want to and ignoring the rest.
The trouble is that there are too many people spoiling for a fight. They cannot wait to dig at folk, so many judgy people and it’s not just what they say, it’s the way the put it. I know we all interpret things differently but it’s very clear when someone is being an arse about things.
What I do know though is that I wouldn’t deliberately overlook people that comment. You’re not going to catch anything by acknowledging a comment and responding to people doesn’t mean we want to get in your knickers, believe it or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
It might not be but no one signed up to be torn apart on the forum of a sex site by keyboard warriors with bugger all else to do. Some do nothing but belittle and make derogatory comments. I can understand why folk don’t start threads
Or even leave the forums...? I can completely understand why some don’t and won’t.
And feeling like your stepping in the popular kids tor’s is a big factor.
Imagine starting a thread and someone having a go because it’s like the one they normally would do. (I remember that)
There has been some serious sulking when someone starts a thread that ‘belongs’ to someone else, a whole different type of lamppost pissing "
Almost like we're not dealing with adults here |
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads?
Another example, some people pick on certain posters. When Shag says he's been discussing something with a friend, lots of people pick on him, asking who the friend is, if they exist and if the conversation ever happened.
I've quoted your OP as you mentioned a friend and it reminded me. Not saying you're one of the people who pick.
I see what you mean but people pick all the time anyway. I realise that posting a thread is in some ways 'sticking your head above the ramparts', I just think that not doing something because someone might make a derisory comment is no way to live.
It might not be but no one signed up to be torn apart on the forum of a sex site by keyboard warriors with bugger all else to do. Some do nothing but belittle and make derogatory comments. I can understand why folk don’t start threads
Or even leave the forums...? I can completely understand why some don’t and won’t.
And feeling like your stepping in the popular kids tor’s is a big factor.
Imagine starting a thread and someone having a go because it’s like the one they normally would do. (I remember that)
There has been some serious sulking when someone starts a thread that ‘belongs’ to someone else, a whole different type of lamppost pissing
It's all very funny, there have been plenty of threads that i started but others have taken over. I actually started the phwoar threads, I'm not bothered! "
I’d love to know who started all the long-standing threads. I like hearing about the characters of the forum over the years. Also the threads that everyone remembers usually for all the wrong reasons but bring a smile when folk remember them. I’ve a few that always make me chuckle when they’re mentioned |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I’ve only started a couple of threads in my time. One was to say hello and the other was to start a good morning thread.
I really don’t feel a need to do it. I enjoy joining in where I want to and ignoring the rest.
The trouble is that there are too many people spoiling for a fight. They cannot wait to dig at folk, so many judgy people and it’s not just what they say, it’s the way the put it. I know we all interpret things differently but it’s very clear when someone is being an arse about things.
What I do know though is that I wouldn’t deliberately overlook people that comment. You’re not going to catch anything by acknowledging a comment and responding to people doesn’t mean we want to get in your knickers, believe it or not "
That's an interesting point that you make at the end there about commenting and chatting. Just because someone replies to you or messages it doesn't mean that anything is going to happen! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve only started a couple of threads in my time. One was to say hello and the other was to start a good morning thread.
I really don’t feel a need to do it. I enjoy joining in where I want to and ignoring the rest.
The trouble is that there are too many people spoiling for a fight. They cannot wait to dig at folk, so many judgy people and it’s not just what they say, it’s the way the put it. I know we all interpret things differently but it’s very clear when someone is being an arse about things.
What I do know though is that I wouldn’t deliberately overlook people that comment. You’re not going to catch anything by acknowledging a comment and responding to people doesn’t mean we want to get in your knickers, believe it or not
That's an interesting point that you make at the end there about commenting and chatting. Just because someone replies to you or messages it doesn't mean that anything is going to happen! "
Sometimes I just wonder if people don’t want to reply because the person may ‘get the wrong idea’. On the other hand, they manage to respond to someone they’re into.
The forums need to be inclusive if they’re to be fun and interesting in my opinion. |
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"I’ve only started a couple of threads in my time. One was to say hello and the other was to start a good morning thread.
I really don’t feel a need to do it. I enjoy joining in where I want to and ignoring the rest.
The trouble is that there are too many people spoiling for a fight. They cannot wait to dig at folk, so many judgy people and it’s not just what they say, it’s the way the put it. I know we all interpret things differently but it’s very clear when someone is being an arse about things.
What I do know though is that I wouldn’t deliberately overlook people that comment. You’re not going to catch anything by acknowledging a comment and responding to people doesn’t mean we want to get in your knickers, believe it or not
That's an interesting point that you make at the end there about commenting and chatting. Just because someone replies to you or messages it doesn't mean that anything is going to happen!
Sometimes I just wonder if people don’t want to reply because the person may ‘get the wrong idea’. On the other hand, they manage to respond to someone they’re into.
The forums need to be inclusive if they’re to be fun and interesting in my opinion. "
Ahhh the ‘just reply to the hotties’ technique or the ‘opportunist’ technique, those that fire off a pm on the back of a thread blowing smoke up someone’s arse in order to procure a meet. I tell ya it’s mighty complicated posting on the forum didn’t someone once do an etiquette thread? |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve only started a couple of threads in my time. One was to say hello and the other was to start a good morning thread.
I really don’t feel a need to do it. I enjoy joining in where I want to and ignoring the rest.
The trouble is that there are too many people spoiling for a fight. They cannot wait to dig at folk, so many judgy people and it’s not just what they say, it’s the way the put it. I know we all interpret things differently but it’s very clear when someone is being an arse about things.
What I do know though is that I wouldn’t deliberately overlook people that comment. You’re not going to catch anything by acknowledging a comment and responding to people doesn’t mean we want to get in your knickers, believe it or not
That's an interesting point that you make at the end there about commenting and chatting. Just because someone replies to you or messages it doesn't mean that anything is going to happen!
Sometimes I just wonder if people don’t want to reply because the person may ‘get the wrong idea’. On the other hand, they manage to respond to someone they’re into.
The forums need to be inclusive if they’re to be fun and interesting in my opinion.
Ahhh the ‘just reply to the hotties’ technique or the ‘opportunist’ technique, those that fire off a pm on the back of a thread blowing smoke up someone’s arse in order to procure a meet. I tell ya it’s mighty complicated posting on the forum didn’t someone once do an etiquette thread? "
There’s an etiquette to it? |
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"I’ve only started a couple of threads in my time. One was to say hello and the other was to start a good morning thread.
I really don’t feel a need to do it. I enjoy joining in where I want to and ignoring the rest.
The trouble is that there are too many people spoiling for a fight. They cannot wait to dig at folk, so many judgy people and it’s not just what they say, it’s the way the put it. I know we all interpret things differently but it’s very clear when someone is being an arse about things.
What I do know though is that I wouldn’t deliberately overlook people that comment. You’re not going to catch anything by acknowledging a comment and responding to people doesn’t mean we want to get in your knickers, believe it or not
That's an interesting point that you make at the end there about commenting and chatting. Just because someone replies to you or messages it doesn't mean that anything is going to happen!
Sometimes I just wonder if people don’t want to reply because the person may ‘get the wrong idea’. On the other hand, they manage to respond to someone they’re into.
The forums need to be inclusive if they’re to be fun and interesting in my opinion.
Ahhh the ‘just reply to the hotties’ technique or the ‘opportunist’ technique, those that fire off a pm on the back of a thread blowing smoke up someone’s arse in order to procure a meet. I tell ya it’s mighty complicated posting on the forum didn’t someone once do an etiquette thread?
There’s an etiquette to it? "
There needs to be alongside the forum rules |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve only started a couple of threads in my time. One was to say hello and the other was to start a good morning thread.
I really don’t feel a need to do it. I enjoy joining in where I want to and ignoring the rest.
The trouble is that there are too many people spoiling for a fight. They cannot wait to dig at folk, so many judgy people and it’s not just what they say, it’s the way the put it. I know we all interpret things differently but it’s very clear when someone is being an arse about things.
What I do know though is that I wouldn’t deliberately overlook people that comment. You’re not going to catch anything by acknowledging a comment and responding to people doesn’t mean we want to get in your knickers, believe it or not
That's an interesting point that you make at the end there about commenting and chatting. Just because someone replies to you or messages it doesn't mean that anything is going to happen!
Sometimes I just wonder if people don’t want to reply because the person may ‘get the wrong idea’. On the other hand, they manage to respond to someone they’re into.
The forums need to be inclusive if they’re to be fun and interesting in my opinion.
Ahhh the ‘just reply to the hotties’ technique or the ‘opportunist’ technique, those that fire off a pm on the back of a thread blowing smoke up someone’s arse in order to procure a meet. I tell ya it’s mighty complicated posting on the forum didn’t someone once do an etiquette thread?
There’s an etiquette to it?
There needs to be alongside the forum rules "
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
You didn't let it stop you though. I expect the 'regulars' aren't here anymore. There'll be a new set of 'regulars'.
But was it a stupid question?..... "
I have no idea. Stupid isn't a word I use against people and I didn't read the Q. |
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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago
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I'm happy to start fun threads that everyone can join in with like find a new friend and my last one what are you desperate for and always try and include everyone who posts and make any newbies feel welcome.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"I've been having a very interesting conversation with a friend today about a few things, and in a very roundabout way I realised that even though she's a very prolific forum user and very popular, she never posts threads. This set me to musing, why don't more people post threads?
So dear non thread posters, why don't you start threads? "
They don't get responses |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love starting a thread, but I'll openly admit I like the attention
I've started light hearted threads, asking for advice threads, but my favourite thread was one I posted on my previous profile called 'If Authors covered books the way Musicians covered songs ...' I thought it was a really good topic but there were only a few that commented which surprised me as I thought people would appreciate something different to the snog/suck/stroke/bump/fuck/drink kind of threads..... but I guess it's quality over quantity as all the replies had me giggling |
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"My threads are not sexy, or argumentative enough to be popular, so I bother.
I'm neither, I'm just curious"
I've started if you and none of them are sexy or argumentative and they do quite well.
Mine are just a bit random and I like ones that are not likely to cause offence and one for everyone to feel they can contribute to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
You didn't let it stop you though. I expect the 'regulars' aren't here anymore. There'll be a new set of 'regulars'.
But was it a stupid question?.....
I have no idea. Stupid isn't a word I use against people and I didn't read the Q."
I use it, when I’m rome and all that.  |
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I occasionally post a lighthearted thread and every weekend I post the PHWOAAR! thread.... it’s usually well received and intended as a bit of fun to start the weekend
Thanks to everyone who supports it |
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"The very first thread I posted, the forum regulars bitched at me for asking a question that had been asked before and called me stupid for not doing a forum search.
People still do that. All the fucking time.
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I remember someone constantly telling new people to do a thread search before starting a thread.
My response to that was that if I started a thread it would be to interact with people who were actually online, not to dredge up ghosts of the past, and that people have differing opinions and those opinions can change.
Not forgetting the amount of UNLOS profiles on old threads. |
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My threads can involve vegetables and random thoughts for the day.
No one wants to converse on them, because they don't evolve into an argument.
The politics forum is quite popular. |
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I’ve seen how seemingly harmless posts can be misconstrued, either deliberately or by accident (maybe poor wording)
Life is too short to get crucified in the forums |
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I rarely write them. I feel obliged to reply to every person who responds, because they have taken time out to comment on my thread. For that reason, i don't do it often, as it's time consuming. I prefer to just comment, rather than be the OP |
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"I’ve seen how seemingly harmless posts can be misconstrued, either deliberately or by accident (maybe poor wording)
Life is too short to get crucified in the forums "
I sometimes do threads so I'll be the one getting crucified and someone else isn't. |
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"I’ve seen how seemingly harmless posts can be misconstrued, either deliberately or by accident (maybe poor wording)
Life is too short to get crucified in the forums
I sometimes do threads so I'll be the one getting crucified and someone else isn't. "
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