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I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
It's a difficult situation OP, it's just unfortunate that your situation makes the whole searching and meeting process harder as you're limiting your selection pool through circumstance which you have no control over.
If you have no childcare options available to you then I'm not sure what you can do regards to meeting from here.
Not much help I know but you have my sympathy.
Is it possible for you to get creative with childcare for one or two nights to enable you to get out? |
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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago
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There's probably more than you think that can do day time meets and do you literally have nobody to look after the kids even if it's once a month for a night where you can go out and experience the club scene |
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"There's probably more than you think that can do day time meets and do you literally have nobody to look after the kids even if it's once a month for a night where you can go out and experience the club scene "
Not wanting to use FAB as an agony aunt column. Unfortunately no grandparents to help. I need to get creative. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"There's probably more than you think that can do day time meets and do you literally have nobody to look after the kids even if it's once a month for a night where you can go out and experience the club scene
Not wanting to use FAB as an agony aunt column. Unfortunately no grandparents to help. I need to get creative."
What about friends? Could you get sleepovers organised so you have the night for some you time? Maybe a babysitting service (albeit expensive) for a few hours?
If you have no family you can use then it's harder but there are always options |
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"There's probably more than you think that can do day time meets and do you literally have nobody to look after the kids even if it's once a month for a night where you can go out and experience the club scene
Not wanting to use FAB as an agony aunt column. Unfortunately no grandparents to help. I need to get creative.
What about friends? Could you get sleepovers organised so you have the night for some you time? Maybe a babysitting service (albeit expensive) for a few hours?
If you have no family you can use then it's harder but there are always options"
Funny you should say that boys where at one last night, but impromptu and didn’t get my ass in gear. At least I managed a park run this morning and now watching them play rugby. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"There's probably more than you think that can do day time meets and do you literally have nobody to look after the kids even if it's once a month for a night where you can go out and experience the club scene
Not wanting to use FAB as an agony aunt column. Unfortunately no grandparents to help. I need to get creative.
What about friends? Could you get sleepovers organised so you have the night for some you time? Maybe a babysitting service (albeit expensive) for a few hours?
If you have no family you can use then it's harder but there are always options
Funny you should say that boys where at one last night, but impromptu and didn’t get my ass in gear. At least I managed a park run this morning and now watching them play rugby."
So next time you need more notice or to move faster!
If you've got any friends in similar situations or are sympathetic to your circumstances then maybe they could help on occasion?
I get that it's a tricky situation |
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I know what you mean, I have my so regularly- weekends and in week after school for few hours. I changed my shifts few years back so I work permanent nights so I can see more of him. This does enable me to have some free time in daytime for meets/ socials etc ( shame most people at with then ) Again weekends can be tricky but I’d rather spend valuable time with him knowing when he older he will want to do his own thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?"
Same goes for single mums |
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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago
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"There's probably more than you think that can do day time meets and do you literally have nobody to look after the kids even if it's once a month for a night where you can go out and experience the club scene
Not wanting to use FAB as an agony aunt column. Unfortunately no grandparents to help. I need to get creative."
Definatly need to get creative  |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
Same goes for single mums"
Wish we could help each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?"
I'm a single dad.
I'm bisexual, but I wouldn't worry about verifying each other, provided the text says something about it being a social verification, people won't read into it too deeply, won't think you're gay. I think most women reading it would actually be quite impressed, rather than question your sexuality.
It's not all about immideate results on here. Youre better off putting in a lot of groundwork on one person throughout the year, than rushing about trying to fuck anything with a pulse.
Clubs aren't the best for single men anyway, you're not missing out on anything. If you have the occasional social, get on with one another, then the other person will usually bend or adapt to your situation as best as they're able.
Personally I think being a parent is a benefit to this site, not a drawback. Many other users have children and it's something that can help you to relate easily with one another.
If you can manage group socials with men, why not try organising a mixed one. I did a small one and it helped me meet some pretty cool people. |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?"
How does your situation differ from single mums? |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?"
I never said it did. |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?"
His issue is he can't get a shag because of his issue. Singe mums can get a shag any time if so inclined. They're women you see  |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?
His issue is he can't get a shag because of his issue. Singe* mums can get a shag any time if so inclined. They're women you see "
*Non burnt ones too |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?
His issue is he can't get a shag because of his issue. Singe mums can get a shag any time if so inclined. They're women you see "
Anytime really? |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?
His issue is he can't get a shag because of his issue. Singe mums can get a shag any time if so inclined. They're women you see "
Never said that I can’t get a “shag” as you so eloquently put it. Just looking for the wisdom or crowds. |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?
His issue is he can't get a shag because of his issue. Singe mums can get a shag any time if so inclined. They're women you see
Anytime really? "
Many men will do whatever they can to fit in with the schedule of a woman if it means getting their leg over. |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?
His issue is he can't get a shag because of his issue. Singe mums can get a shag any time if so inclined. They're women you see
Anytime really?
Many men will do whatever they can to fit in with the schedule of a woman if it means getting their leg over."
Well I've yet to come across one of them guys |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?
How does your situation differ from single mums?
His issue is he can't get a shag because of his issue. Singe mums can get a shag any time if so inclined. They're women you see
Anytime really?
Many men will do whatever they can to fit in with the schedule of a woman if it means getting their leg over.
Well I've yet to come across one of them guys"
Maybe it's because you're more discerning? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm just wondering, if you've had socials with other single dad's, is there any chance of you helping each other out when it comes to evening childcare? Obviously, leaving your children with someone is a huge responsibility, but if you got on well and your kids were similar ages and got on well with each other, could you maybe work it so you each hosted 'daddy daycare' or 'evening care' lol x |
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"I am a single dad with two wonderful kids. I won’t go into details as this isn’t “Dear Deidre”. I have had a coffee and beer with a couple of other single dads from here - not verified as none of us are gay but fear we may be labelled that way. One thing we all agree on is that we feel like FAB pariahs. We have all had the same experiences. Clubs are out as we can’t get childcare, we can accom but only when the kids are at school and then need social meets first.
For all single dads out there what can we do?"
Daytime clubs, daytime meets.
Works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single dad, it's only really weekends and evens that I can meet. As someone who would never really meet in my house someone unless it was a very trusting on going thing, it's their place or a hotel for me, which can be hard but it seems to work ok. Long may that continue. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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You could still verify each other. There’s no need to them or the summary so no one can see who they’re from.
Daddy day care does seem like an option. No neighbours that can help out? Get them into cubs and scouts as they go camping and you’ll at least have some free time.
If I was closer I’d offer to babysit. I do know other Dad’s in similar situations. |
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"You could still verify each other. There’s no need to them or the summary so no one can see who they’re from.
Daddy day care does seem like an option. No neighbours that can help out? Get them into cubs and scouts as they go camping and you’ll at least have some free time.
If I was closer I’d offer to babysit. I do know other Dad’s in similar situations. "
I would be your babysitting buddy  |
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I spent the last 17 years bringing up a son. After he turned 4 years old I was doing it totally on my own. What followed was the most isolating and fascinating 13 years of my life.
I live rural and you just don't get to meet women. The only women I met were his nursery teachers and his school teachers. I go to say "Hello" to his pals mums. That was it.
I had no childcare, no nearby parents (they were far too old anyway and live in a care home) or friends or relatives close by. I worked part-time once he was at Nursery and back to FT teaching once he was school age. Always rushing home to feed, wash, launder, house clean, cook. Some of my colleagues are very fine and easy on the eye but none are single.
I had the chance to watch my son grow, learn, develop and follow his path in Life. He's got a girlfriend now (so doing better than me). The time between learning to hold a pencil and now working on a dissertation has flown in a fascinating whirlwind.
I'd love to say this website will help you in single parent your position as a guy. But having lived right through this bringing-a-kid-up-on-your-own process... I'd suggest
1. Lower your expectations.
2. Then lower them a little further.
3. Then abandon Hope.
I have had a couple of meets through this site over the last few years but this was only possible by my son being legally old enough to leave at home on his own to cook his own lunch! I would suggest that you prepare for some lean years and quiet times ahead. |
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"Daytime meets. What about work?
I'm lucky enough to work part time.
Annual leave not a possibility?
Half day?
Late start?
Long dinner hour?
Bit of creative thinking?"
I workfull time but 90% of my meets have been days only ever been able to arrange 1 night meet days are better anyway both full of energy |
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"I spent the last 17 years bringing up a son. After he turned 4 years old I was doing it totally on my own. What followed was the most isolating and fascinating 13 years of my life.
I live rural and you just don't get to meet women. The only women I met were his nursery teachers and his school teachers. I go to say "Hello" to his pals mums. That was it.
I had no childcare, no nearby parents (they were far too old anyway and live in a care home) or friends or relatives close by. I worked part-time once he was at Nursery and back to FT teaching once he was school age. Always rushing home to feed, wash, launder, house clean, cook. Some of my colleagues are very fine and easy on the eye but none are single.
I had the chance to watch my son grow, learn, develop and follow his path in Life. He's got a girlfriend now (so doing better than me). The time between learning to hold a pencil and now working on a dissertation has flown in a fascinating whirlwind.
I'd love to say this website will help you in single parent your position as a guy. But having lived right through this bringing-a-kid-up-on-your-own process... I'd suggest
1. Lower your expectations.
2. Then lower them a little further.
3. Then abandon Hope.
I have had a couple of meets through this site over the last few years but this was only possible by my son being legally old enough to leave at home on his own to cook his own lunch! I would suggest that you prepare for some lean years and quiet times ahead."
I can understand your issues as you live in the wilderness but the OP lives in a big city.
Think outside the box OP and the opportunities are there.
Good luck. |
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