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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am currently taking anti depressants for anxiety. Ive been on them about 7 weeks now and have found that they have killed my sex drive. I can't orgasm or get myself off at all. I've no interest in having sex with anyone even if I do fancy them. Was wondering if anyone had any advice or similar experience. I have checked with my GP. She said it will most likely pass. |
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I have had a time having been on SSRIs .. a common drug for anxiety and depression
I also found they created sexual dysfunction ... either delayed or an inability to reach orgasm.
For me, this did not pass and my only resolution was to wean myself off them and find alternative coping strategies. They don't affect everyone the same way but unfortunately this is a known side effect ... it's a question of what's affecting you more
.. the root cause that put you on them in the first place, or the lots of libido...
Important ... I am NOT a medical professional and you should discuss further with one before you take action, but there are ways of increasing serotonin which is one of the goals these drugs are aimed at, increasing walnuts in your diet for example
The internet is both good and bad at providing information, as you will find good advice and horror stories ... talk to your doctor more about alternatives if this is becoming an issue for you
I hope you find peace  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Must be really difficult for you OP what with your husband having lost his mojo too according to your thread last week and your favourite toy packing up a week or so ago as well - sorry to hear it.
Can only suggest visiting your GP again and seeing if there's a different course of tablets they can put you on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have had a time having been on SSRIs .. a common drug for anxiety and depression
I also found they created sexual dysfunction ... either delayed or an inability to reach orgasm.
For me, this did not pass and my only resolution was to wean myself off them and find alternative coping strategies. They don't affect everyone the same way but unfortunately this is a known side effect ... it's a question of what's affecting you more
.. the root cause that put you on them in the first place, or the lots of libido...
Important ... I am NOT a medical professional and you should discuss further with one before you take action, but there are ways of increasing serotonin which is one of the goals these drugs are aimed at, increasing walnuts in your diet for example
The internet is both good and bad at providing information, as you will find good advice and horror stories ... talk to your doctor more about alternatives if this is becoming an issue for you
I hope you find peace "
Thanks very much for this  |
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"Must be really difficult for you OP what with your husband having lost his mojo too according to your thread last week and your favourite toy packing up a week or so ago as well - sorry to hear it.
Can only suggest visiting your GP again and seeing if there's a different course of tablets they can put you on."
Holy God  , that's some informed responce !
I know nothing of anti-depressives and there effects OP, but I do know how feeling undesired by your spouse can make you feel hollow and shockingly sad. All the joy leeks out of your existence and you begin to doubt so much about yourself and your self worth that you become a shadow of who you once were.
I was in that position for years in my former marriage and lost all interest in sex. Sex became a hurt filled memory. I came on here after I separated just to see if I was really as unattractive as I had become convinced I was ? Thankfully I found I wasn't the least sexually atttactive man in the world ( there was some guy in Meath with leprosy,severe halitosis and willy warts that was fractionally more repulsive than me after all ) and actually got even more of a confidence and moral boost from the coffee meet than the most of the sexual encounters...but being able to please a woman in bed did also ( even if she was a virgin just out of the convent after 49 years and still not quite in full sensation from the epidural after a hip replacement....at least she seemed to enjoy what I had been doing...it's hard to tell when their getting groggy while coming around and you have to rush off when you hear the ward nurse coming back at that hour of the morning ), so I'm not one bit surprised you need some chemical help right now.
Unlike the brilliant poster above, I have no idea what you had for breakfast or your shoe size, but from your profile I can see you have an outstanding sexy figure and the finest ass that ever filled a pair of leather jeans to perfection and I know from you stories posted on here that you have the sexiest mind, the most erotic imagination and such a brilliant writing talent that I'm positive whatever is up with your hubby and your relationship it can't be blamed on not have a stunningly attractive and seductive wife !
If I were still in this lifestyle you would be top of my wish list....BIGTIME 
I hope in the short term you get onto a different medication without that side effect, but in the long-term I hope you get to the root of the problems and get enjoy being a sexual being to the full again, like anyone in their prime deserves.
Good luck you magnificent seductress  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Must be really difficult for you OP what with your husband having lost his mojo too according to your thread last week and your favourite toy packing up a week or so ago as well - sorry to hear it.
Can only suggest visiting your GP again and seeing if there's a different course of tablets they can put you on.
Holy God , that's some informed responce !
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Oh trust me it's very informed indeed - sometimes scratching below the surface can reveal a lot.
Either way my advice still stands - a GP who is qualified to help change things would surely be the best route to go, even if it does take a little persistence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Must be really difficult for you OP what with your husband having lost his mojo too according to your thread last week and your favourite toy packing up a week or so ago as well - sorry to hear it.
Can only suggest visiting your GP again and seeing if there's a different course of tablets they can put you on.
Holy God , that's some informed responce !
I know nothing of anti-depressives and there effects OP, but I do know how feeling undesired by your spouse can make you feel hollow and shockingly sad. All the joy leeks out of your existence and you begin to doubt so much about yourself and your self worth that you become a shadow of who you once were.
I was in that position for years in my former marriage and lost all interest in sex. Sex became a hurt filled memory. I came on here after I separated just to see if I was really as unattractive as I had become convinced I was ? Thankfully I found I wasn't the least sexually atttactive man in the world ( there was some guy in Meath with leprosy,severe halitosis and willy warts that was fractionally more repulsive than me after all ) and actually got even more of a confidence and moral boost from the coffee meet than the most of the sexual encounters...but being able to please a woman in bed did also ( even if she was a virgin just out of the convent after 49 years and still not quite in full sensation from the epidural after a hip replacement....at least she seemed to enjoy what I had been doing...it's hard to tell when their getting groggy while coming around and you have to rush off when you hear the ward nurse coming back at that hour of the morning ), so I'm not one bit surprised you need some chemical help right now.
Unlike the brilliant poster above, I have no idea what you had for breakfast or your shoe size, but from your profile I can see you have an outstanding sexy figure and the finest ass that ever filled a pair of leather jeans to perfection and I know from you stories posted on here that you have the sexiest mind, the most erotic imagination and such a brilliant writing talent that I'm positive whatever is up with your hubby and your relationship it can't be blamed on not have a stunningly attractive and seductive wife !
If I were still in this lifestyle you would be top of my wish list....BIGTIME
I hope in the short term you get onto a different medication without that side effect, but in the long-term I hope you get to the root of the problems and get enjoy being a sexual being to the full again, like anyone in their prime deserves.
Good luck you magnificent seductress "
Gave me a giggle |
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So let’s get this straight .
You see the doc because you’re depressed or anxious , and he gives a medicine that kills your sex drive and stops you being able to orgasm .
It’s any wonder we have a western world full of depressed and anxious people . Surely even the most straight laced doctor knows that sex is the best way to create endorphins , thus helping to alleviate depression and anxiety .
What a fucked up way to treat people  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So let’s get this straight .
You see the doc because you’re depressed or anxious , and he gives a medicine that kills your sex drive and stops you being able to orgasm .
It’s any wonder we have a western world full of depressed and anxious people . Surely even the most straight laced doctor knows that sex is the best way to create endorphins , thus helping to alleviate depression and anxiety .
What a fucked up way to treat people "
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So from a male point of view, i was in a very sterile but comfortable relationship with my partner whose sex drive was way lower than mine. I put it down to me just being a perve and learnt to live with lots of secret wanking and porn which in the short term helped but as my kids grew up and I got older I realised that it wasnt going to change and I hated how it made me feel. Six years ago I started cheating and realised that actually I was quite desirable and actually a pretty good shag. I had relationships with a number of women and found that I could be happy but this was all tied in with deeper anxieties and so I have had three lots of treatments with different drugs and talking therapies. The sertraline was the most effective but, i did lose my libido for a couple of months and it was less powerful when it returned. I was advised to increase the dose and I did which helped my overall mood but not the libido. I’m now pn a lowering dose and itscome back big time but the anxiety has stayed away so itcould just be taking time for the drugs to work but try to get some talking therapy too. Best of luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So from a male point of view, i was in a very sterile but comfortable relationship with my partner whose sex drive was way lower than mine. I put it down to me just being a perve and learnt to live with lots of secret wanking and porn which in the short term helped but as my kids grew up and I got older I realised that it wasnt going to change and I hated how it made me feel. Six years ago I started cheating and realised that actually I was quite desirable and actually a pretty good shag. I had relationships with a number of women and found that I could be happy but this was all tied in with deeper anxieties and so I have had three lots of treatments with different drugs and talking therapies. The sertraline was the most effective but, i did lose my libido for a couple of months and it was less powerful when it returned. I was advised to increase the dose and I did which helped my overall mood but not the libido. I’m now pn a lowering dose and itscome back big time but the anxiety has stayed away so itcould just be taking time for the drugs to work but try to get some talking therapy too. Best of luck x"
Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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From personal experience I had the same problem I came off them over time and sex drive is back. I now use different coping mechanism. Best talk to gp. First |
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It IS a common side effect, and doesn't pass for many people. There are other meds equally helpful that are appropriate.
Doctors often just think that if the issue treated improves, it's a success. It isn't.
We have to take our health into our own hands and keep requesting treatment--not easy with anxiety!
See another GP in the practice, and keep asking for other meds until you find one that suits.
Decreased sex drive/response is not inevitable, and when it takes joy out of your life, not worth the benefits.
Hope you manage to find someone who is willing to prescribe other meds til you get the right one! |
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I've been on mine for some years and at first I had this for about 3 months then it passed. I do still get bouts of disinterest but that passes also. I think it depends on what you take, the dosage and the person. Mine are very strong and leave me void of emotion most of the time. To me that is better than how I was before so I will continue to take them. You have to decide if the benefit of taking them is worth it to you than how you was before them.
For me it definitely is as I can't deal with or control strong or overwhelming emotions and can flip flop through so many throughout the day or sink into long bouts of depression and suicidal thoughts. That to me is way worse than lack of a sex drive and an emotional void |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Must be really difficult for you OP what with your husband having lost his mojo too according to your thread last week and your favourite toy packing up a week or so ago as well - sorry to hear it.
Can only suggest visiting your GP again and seeing if there's a different course of tablets they can put you on.
Holy God , that's some informed responce !
Oh trust me it's very informed indeed - sometimes scratching below the surface can reveal a lot.
Either way my advice still stands - a GP who is qualified to help change things would surely be the best route to go, even if it does take a little persistence."
This is so creepy... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Must be really difficult for you OP what with your husband having lost his mojo too according to your thread last week and your favourite toy packing up a week or so ago as well - sorry to hear it.
Can only suggest visiting your GP again and seeing if there's a different course of tablets they can put you on.
Holy God , that's some informed responce !
Oh trust me it's very informed indeed - sometimes scratching below the surface can reveal a lot.
Either way my advice still stands - a GP who is qualified to help change things would surely be the best route to go, even if it does take a little persistence.
This is so creepy... "
How? |
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Medication is so often about finding the least worst solution to the problem caused. These issues can be disabling or life threatening, so of course libido is a lower priority. Where the medication works, it can help facilitate the changes in mental health to want to have sex, and enjoy it again.
If after at least two months (of compliance), you can't tolerate the side effects and/or your mood isn't improving, go back and ask for an alternative. (unless symptoms are extremely distressing, like allergic reactions, being unable to hold down food, or anything genuinely extreme)
Source: decades of up close and personal experience with those I care about. |
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