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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Ive done a mate a favour and let him stay...as had spare room .not long we said ..so I thought a month max..in my head....then his ex had some trouble so his boy stayed the odd nite .. (his 11) ..now he has been here over 6 months and his boy has been here 2 ..plus me like a mug ..takes his boy to school as ..its cold wet.ect...it not the lads fault...

We have nearly come to blows over it all..my fb dont come here now ..have to go hers...he says if I throw him out there homeless...and this weather...he playing my compassion. .but when is enough enough. .?..few hat to get that out..I dont even care if no replys..feel better aleeady ..the c@#t..lol

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

OP if you do throw him out you may actually be doing him a favour.

If he is homeless the local authority has a duty to house him and as he has a child he will be a high priority.

They will most likely be put in some sort of temporary accommodation to begin with until a suitable property is found for them but it's a stepping stone to a fresh start for them as a family.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Ive done a mate a favour and let him stay...as had spare room .not long we said ..so I thought a month max..in my head....then his ex had some trouble so his boy stayed the odd nite .. (his 11) ..now he has been here over 6 months and his boy has been here 2 ..plus me like a mug ..takes his boy to school as ..its cold wet.ect...it not the lads fault...

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"OP if you do throw him out you may actually be doing him a favour.

If he is homeless the local authority has a duty to house him and as he has a child he will be a high priority.

They will most likely be put in some sort of temporary accommodation to begin with until a suitable property is found for them but it's a stepping stone to a fresh start for them as a family. "

Ive said this to him..his meant to be going home to mum tho she off her head mainly.

And council have said he as a single male is not priority. ..

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place. "

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol"

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

Thats just it ..he wont go..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a tricky situation for you but ultimately he is taking the mickey and you are not responsible for putting him on the street. It is his responsibility.

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"It's a tricky situation for you but ultimately he is taking the mickey and you are not responsible for putting him on the street. It is his responsibility."

I know but im a buddist at heart and compassion is key...

Yet buddha does say we bring our own suffering..lol

Yeah saying yes in first place...lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a tricky situation for you but ultimately he is taking the mickey and you are not responsible for putting him on the street. It is his responsibility.

I know but im a buddist at heart and compassion is key...

Yet buddha does say we bring our own suffering..lol

Yeah saying yes in first place...lol

I Know It's Tricky but ultimately that's probably what he's playing on and banking on that you're not going to see him homeless.

It's a difficult situation but the way I see it is he's probably not gonna get motivated to find somewhere as he hasn't so far, so you've got two options put up or shut up I know that sounds harsh but I don't really know what else to suggest.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

Thats just it ..he wont go.."

Pack up his stuff and leave it on the street.

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

Thats just it ..he wont go..

Pack up his stuff and leave it on the street. "

I work he dont..so he in most time..he could probably throw me out easier. .lol plus his boy there at mo as I said...as poast above..he plays the fact he knowsI wont Iin winter bing him out....

Thanks for replying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

Thats just it ..he wont go..

Pack up his stuff and leave it on the street. "

He would be a priority for emergency accommodation if he has care of his son because I know you said he's going back to his mum soon but at the moment he's living with his dad.

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"It's a tricky situation for you but ultimately he is taking the mickey and you are not responsible for putting him on the street. It is his responsibility.

I know but im a buddist at heart and compassion is key...

Yet buddha does say we bring our own suffering..lol

Yeah saying yes in first place...lol

I Know It's Tricky but ultimately that's probably what he's playing on and banking on that you're not going to see him homeless.

I just feel better getting it out...

He does play me yr right...im going to relocate him myself I think..in a bedsit..then its up to him...

Thanks..always good to get it out...

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

Thats just it ..he wont go..

Pack up his stuff and leave it on the street.

I work he dont..so he in most time..he could probably throw me out easier. .lol plus his boy there at mo as I said...as poast above..he plays the fact he knowsI wont Iin winter bing him out....

Thanks for replying."

I dont know what to suggest then sorry.

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

Thats just it ..he wont go..

Pack up his stuff and leave it on the street.

He would be a priority for emergency accommodation if he has care of his son because I know you said he's going back to his mum soon but at the moment he's living with his dad. "

No legaly he with her...she still get the dow...

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By *ay19720 OP Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Just give him a few months notice to find himself a place.

Lol I did buddy..we had a fight..in November over it..and will still same position. ...feels like ground hog day for me..lol

Time to say goodbye then or put the rent up

Thats just it ..he wont go..

Pack up his stuff and leave it on the street.

I work he dont..so he in most time..he could probably throw me out easier. .lol plus his boy there at mo as I said...as poast above..he plays the fact he knowsI wont Iin winter bing him out....

Thanks for replying.

I dont know what to suggest then sorry.

Its cool I wasn't looking for solutions. .just needed to vent it...I know he taking the Michael. ..this was better than killing him in his sleep. .lol ..im joking of course. .

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Sorry to hear this, you've been a good friend, especially taking his kid to school etc.

Has he registered with local housing associations as well as the Council?

As you said before, as a single male he probably won't be a priority but some housing assocs have hard to let (sometimes called available now) properties.

I think you are going to have to accept he isn't going to move out in the bad weather but if you can have a proper convo with him (not a shouting match) and try to agree a date (a date, not a month)that he will be out by.

If that still doesn't work you might have consider a lock change, which sounds harsh but might be your last option.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a tricky situation for you but ultimately he is taking the mickey and you are not responsible for putting him on the street. It is his responsibility.

I know but im a buddist at heart and compassion is key...

Yet buddha does say we bring our own suffering..lol

Yeah saying yes in first place...lol

I Know It's Tricky but ultimately that's probably what he's playing on and banking on that you're not going to see him homeless.

I just feel better getting it out...

He does play me yr right...im going to relocate him myself I think..in a bedsit..then its up to him...

Thanks..always good to get it out..."

Do you rent your place? A move does sound like a good plan. Your mate doesn't work and is taking the piss? No wonder you're fed up. Hope you can get him out. Feel bad for his son having such a crap dad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get the locks changed when hes out?

Invite some hefty mates around?

Give him a date to work towards then stick to it and use the above if you have too.

Where I live local churches offer beds to homeless until end of march and also a guaranteed bed if temperature drops below zero. Not ideal but needs sorting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s time to give him a time scale. 2 weeks to get out. (Or something) gotta be hard sometimes with people as they will , and it sounds like he is, take the piss out of people’s good nature.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Give an inch take a mile give him a dead line and get him to contact the council

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

Sounds like he's taking advantage of your kindness. Yes give him notice to leave, you've done your bit.