 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Can anyone explain what the spark is that someone is expecting after spending a few weeks getting turned on by messages and pics?
I met someone after chatting and the other person decided not to take it further as there was no spark?
Is it a female thing? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's that feeling of wanting to feel their naked body against mine.
If I don't get that feeling I'm not meeting them.
Men might call it something different.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yeah it’s like an excited feeling, like when you first meet them you want to jump on their lap like a cat and just paw at them and rub yourself all over them and want to be stroked. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's that feeling of wanting to feel their naked body against mine.
If I don't get that feeling I'm not meeting them.
Men might call it something different.
"
This. 
For me, it’s the feeling that the person I’ve been chatting to is the same person I’m meeting. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I’m the same, can chat/message and get quite excited at the prospect of meeting.
Then on the day, nothing! No spark, chemistry, call it what you will, but when it’s not there sex is just perfunctory. No spark - No play |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
There is a lot of things that you can't experience when you are only speaking to someone online. It's to do with the body language, tone of voice, mannerisms, how they behave, how they smell etc. You can get on great with somebody online, with their online personality, but once you meet them, you can tell you are not attracted to their real-life personality. Ergo- there is no 'spark' in real life. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It’s knowing by looking into each other’s eyes that they either want you to rip their clothes off or be slow and sensual  "
Oooh, another great way of putting it! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
A spark shows some kind of electricity between people, chemistry and such. it’s there even when you try to deny it, and it’s not there sometimes when they wished it was. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It's not something I can explain how or why.
It just happens.
Can chat to some people really hit it off in messages but meet & feel nothing, walk away.
Others, it's just an overwhelming urge, it can take one look, a smile & ping!
It's rare, but when it happens it's amazing |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have to fancy them first ... then it’s in the kiss and conversation
Not always true to how things work out  "
If I didn’t fancy them , I wouldn’t kiss them |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Can anyone explain what the spark is that someone is expecting after spending a few weeks getting turned on by messages and pics?
I met someone after chatting and the other person decided not to take it further as there was no spark?
Is it a female thing?"
Ohhh I forgot to say no it’s not s female thing, on another site I was pursued by a much younger man, after quite a few months I agreed to meet him, we got 10 yards down the road and he asked me to stop the car because he just couldn’t do it, to be honest I was sooooo relieved  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"The spark is when you decided beforehand it was going to be not yet, you get there and your whole body is screaming fuck yes now!!"
But they are screaming "fuck... no way!!" |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I have to fancy them first ... then it’s in the kiss and conversation
Not always true to how things work out
If I didn’t fancy them , I wouldn’t kiss them "
Fancy?? There’s all different reasons for fancy or not I dunno compicated word !!! Find someone really attractive but don’t fancy them ?
Fancy = crush I dunno ????? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
I would call it sexual chemistry.
The problem is that messages on here can be composed at leisure, think of the witty comment, the sexual messages that can turn the other on. When confronted with real life it is not always as easy. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Can anyone explain what the spark is that someone is expecting after spending a few weeks getting turned on by messages and pics?
I met someone after chatting and the other person decided not to take it further as there was no spark?
Is it a female thing?"
Sex with a spark is like fireworks and popping candy.
Sex with no spark is like a bowl of cold white rice.
That's the difference. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Is it only for the young though? Bit of eye contact then the hormones take over.
Lots of us oldies on the dating sites say ‘looking for the spark ‘ - perhaps it doesn’t exist?"
it does, it just takes a little longer to ignite and is maybe more subtle and erotic |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
