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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs"
get ready pal for read the rules shit and if I replied crap well it's a sex site not FB good look  |
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Another one of these posts?
The FAQs did suggest that no reply means not interested.
Some get inundated with messages such that replying to every single one would take all their time
So sorry, it's the way of Fab
Suck it up buttercup
Happy hunting, there's someone her for you for sure |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again 
Alternatively filler out single males and not have 100s of messages. "
We had to ... but if a couple are looking for a single male ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Alternatively filler out single males and not have 100s of messages. "
Well said
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs"
I can understand your frustration. The fact is its not going to change. To make your time here less stressful it's best (if you can) to stop expecting a response.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs
I can understand your frustration. The fact is its not going to change. To make your time here less stressful it's best (if you can) to stop expecting a response.
Good luck "
I don't think people who post these threads are polite enough to take that into consideration with their entitlement issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Alternatively filler out single males and not have 100s of messages.
We had to ... but if a couple are looking for a single male ..."
So go looking for what you want and not wait to come to you? It just seems as though, because single males are numerous, they are expected to just accept 'sucking it up'. It doesn’t sit comfortably with us. |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Alternatively filler out single males and not have 100s of messages. "
But not everyone wants to meet couples or females. I do not meet either. |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Alternatively filler out single males and not have 100s of messages.
We had to ... but if a couple are looking for a single male ...
So go looking for what you want and not wait to come to you? It just seems as though, because single males are numerous, they are expected to just accept 'sucking it up'. It doesn’t sit comfortably with us. "
Not sure what you're saying
We did block single males as that's not what we're looking for.
Other couples might want that and do blocking them may seem hypocritical ...
Sadly for single guys ... because there are so many ... have to just be a little more thick skinned |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again "
Each reply still takes seconds. So replying to the op would have taken seconds....I am not a number!!!!
*one for the geeks.  |
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs"
Lol well when we did open our profile to single guys (aged same as the couples age range we’re looking for) we replied to every message we received. Unfortunately 80% I didn’t really feel any connection or attraction and the they 20% were a waste of time and we gave up. But if we’re honest it’s the same with the couples too so we’ve given up completely with Fab. We now only chat to those we are already chatting to or have met and leave the rest to chatting to people in clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The swirly hole of a female vagina hipnotises men into becoming obsessed with it. They turn into zombies. I read a book about it. That is why women are receiving 100s of messages a day. Pretty scary. |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Each reply still takes seconds. So replying to the op would have taken seconds....I am not a number!!!!
*one for the geeks. "
But you are number 6 |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Each reply still takes seconds. So replying to the op would have taken seconds....I am not a number!!!!
*one for the geeks.
But you are number 6"
Maybe they just don't want to??
After all the rules are there for all to see.
No reply means no thanks, we all know that. |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Each reply still takes seconds. So replying to the op would have taken seconds....I am not a number!!!!
*one for the geeks. "
I am a free (wo) man. |
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs"
If all the no replies did reply with a no thanks.... How would that make things any better for you? |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not going to reply to everyone who has messaged me, mainly because it's obvious they haven't read my profile and are 100's of miles away for example!
I don't consider it good manners to message someone who obviously I won't be interested in meeting. Perhaps you are contacting the wrong people is what I'm trying to say! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs"
Op, if yiu had even an inkling of how many messages some of my friends get they would do nothing else the whole day except replying...and even then I doubt they'd finish.
Grow a gator hide and learn to deal with rejection better or you won't last long here. |
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs
If all the no replies did reply with a no thanks.... How would that make things any better for you? "
More to the point ... you send a no thanks and then some ... not all I grant you before you take offence ... send a whiney "aww why not" and expect a reply to that ... so it's not just a couple of seconds |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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Can you please spend some of your time being polite and answering every single message on your thread please OP? I think it's rude if you don't to be honest. Pot, kettle and black spring to mind... |
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"Can you please spend some of your time being polite and answering every single message on your thread please OP? I think it's rude if you don't to be honest. Pot, kettle and black spring to mind... "
Haha
Definitely this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no obligation to reply
It's nothing to do with manners
Treat it like junk mail that comes through your letter box
Do you reply " no thanks not interested "
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs"
It's just the Nature of the beast.
IM NOT A PROFILE IM HUMAN BEING. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I had a pound for every time one of these treads were started, I could get that jumper I wanted.
From poundland? "
That’s where I do all my clothes shopping, my fresh and fly look brings all the ladies to my yard. |
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"If I had a pound for every time one of these treads were started, I could get that jumper I wanted.
From poundland?
That’s where I do all my clothes shopping, my fresh and fly look brings all the ladies to my yard. "
Like ... erm ... flies ... attracted to the fly look? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
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yep then don't join a sex site simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
yep then don't join a sex site simples"
Or ignore the entitled men, yup definitely ignore the entitled men. |
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"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
yep then don't join a sex site simples"
Assuming this is a just a sex site of course
Perish the thought that it might be social media for the sexually open minded |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have a lovely reply copy and pasted. Saying thank you for the message but not for me, sorry! (It was longer and nicer than that obviously)
I’d still get abuse, or the ‘but why?’ ‘Let me change your mind, give me a chance’ messages. Cbaaaaaa |
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"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
yep then don't join a sex site simples"
Right ladies and couples everybody out!!! A man has spoken we should not join a sex site.  |
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"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
yep then don't join a sex site simples
Right ladies and couples everybody out!!! A man has spoken we should not join a sex site. "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
yep then don't join a sex site simples
Right ladies and couples everybody out!!! A man has spoken we should not join a sex site. "
Well that's buggered things up totally here then, no women or couples allowed. Best it's renamed Fabguys. Oh.... wait, that already exists.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not going to reply to everyone who has messaged me, mainly because it's obvious they haven't read my profile and are 100's of miles away for example!
I don't consider it good manners to message someone who obviously I won't be interested in meeting. Perhaps you are contacting the wrong people is what I'm trying to say!"
. If the first part of the message interests me I’ll reply. If it’s the usual vile or boring crap I won’t. I do often block men from messaging if I don’t want to talk to anyone but don’t see why we should have to block them completely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not going to reply to everyone who has messaged me, mainly because it's obvious they haven't read my profile and are 100's of miles away for example!
I don't consider it good manners to message someone who obviously I won't be interested in meeting. Perhaps you are contacting the wrong people is what I'm trying to say!
. If the first part of the message interests me I’ll reply. If it’s the usual vile or boring crap I won’t. I do often block men from messaging if I don’t want to talk to anyone but don’t see why we should have to block them completely. "
Sorry that wasn’t in response to you! Didn’t mean to quote your comment |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
yep then don't join a sex site simples"
It's a swinging site, not a sex site. There's a difference.
Besides, why should I be obliged to reply to anyone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can understand not replying to everyone, too much time taken up for most that haven't read a profile about what the woman or couple are looking for.
What I do find rude and a waste of everyone's time is when someone messages you and you message back and they don't reply, even if it's just a no.
Having said that if your expectations are low for a reply it doesn't matter, it's only abit of fun, nothing serious.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Each reply still takes seconds. So replying to the op would have taken seconds....I am not a number!!!!
*one for the geeks.
But you are number 6
Maybe they just don't want to??
After all the rules are there for all to see.
No reply means no thanks, we all know that."
No matter how many times it’s repeated, ‘no reply means no thanks’ does not sit well with me.
I was brought up to treat others as I would wish to be treated.
I have to confess that despite having said that, one line messages or very crude messages are sometimes ignored when I just don’t have the time.
No disrespect to those who follow the rules- just my personal choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's assume a reply takes 5 seconds, ladies in top fabs get probably 1000 messages that day, that's 83 minutes or 1 hour and 23 minutes of your day wasted just to be 'polite'
yep then don't join a sex site simples
Right ladies and couples everybody out!!! A man has spoken we should not join a sex site. "
Perhaps a secretarial skills site would be better. Clacking out messages all day long |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Alternatively filler out single males and not have 100s of messages.
Well said
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My thoughts exactly tho I do like to reply to 'good messages if possible |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Especially when 50% of them wo t just accept no thanks! "
But whyyyy?
I'm sure I can change your mind. Just meet me.
It's the best sex you've ever had.
C'mon, you met (someone from my veris), I'm way better!
It's not fair, this is a sex site, why can't you just take my word for it and not expect me to have to appeal to you?
It was only going to be a pity fuck anyway, you fat ugly slag.
(abuse I'm not writing here) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs
It's just the Nature of the beast.
IM NOT A PROFILE IM HUMAN BEING. "
I'd hate to be a man on here. Ignored or abused. They're not all nasty eejits. Many of the men are nice, they just get fed up and dehumanised. |
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I get delete without replies too. And abuse. It's just the way it goes. You get a thick skin. Yes, I get more meets, but I also have to sift through a lot of stuff to get there, some of it unpleasant, vile or outright abusive. Tis the Internet, I'm afraid. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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I don't reply to many messages, I use my filters wisely though. A lot of messages don't deserve a response, though I can't comment on yours personally op. Will you be replying to everyone in this thread who's given you advice?  |
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Especially when 50% of them wo t just accept no thanks!
But whyyyy?
I'm sure I can change your mind. Just meet me.
It's the best sex you've ever had.
C'mon, you met (someone from my veris), I'm way better!
It's not fair, this is a sex site, why can't you just take my word for it and not expect me to have to appeal to you?
It was only going to be a pity fuck anyway, you fat ugly slag.
(abuse I'm not writing here) "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have replied in the past, then you get why ? Explain why, then you get, am I not good enough for a tranny ?
This has happened quite a few times, so now I don’t reply "
Totally agree
In the end they usually call me a fat slag anyway. Easier not to reply sorry guys but I’m tired of the abuse. |
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"I have replied in the past, then you get why ? Explain why, then you get, am I not good enough for a tranny ?
This has happened quite a few times, so now I don’t reply
Totally agree
In the end they usually call me a fat slag anyway. Easier not to reply sorry guys but I’m tired of the abuse. "
Exactly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs"
You are not the only one messaging though. If you expect them to reply to You, you must also expect them to message every other person who messages. If i replied to every single message, I'd not get time to enjoy the forums, or talk to those i actually enjoy talking to. Remember why you are messaging. You are messaging in the hopes of seeing if you fancy each other enough for a fuck. So please, don't speak about manners. It's not a Christian dating website. |
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"I have replied in the past, then you get why ? Explain why, then you get, am I not good enough for a tranny ?
This has happened quite a few times, so now I don’t reply
Totally agree
In the end they usually call me a fat slag anyway. Easier not to reply sorry guys but I’m tired of the abuse.
Exactly. "
Don’t know about you two but I’m finding this quite cathartic |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"I'm not going to reply to everyone who has messaged me, mainly because it's obvious they haven't read my profile and are 100's of miles away for example!
I don't consider it good manners to message someone who obviously I won't be interested in meeting. Perhaps you are contacting the wrong people is what I'm trying to say!"
I'm not going to reply to everyone who messages me because I'm an endearing combination of fickle and lazy.
If people don't like it, I don't care, and as such I don't expect replies from others. |
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over a year ago
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""a reply takes a few seconds."
Add that up for 100s of messages and think again
Alternatively filler out single males and not have 100s of messages.
Well said
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Ok then all the men start threads moaning about the amount of profiles blocking them!
Not replying to a unsolicited message is not rude, having a sense of entitlement is! |
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I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy. "
You have a Fabs mentor?
This is now my calling in life. |
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"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy.
You have a Fabs mentor?
This is now my calling in life. "
Yeah, it happens. I'm glad it happened. Saved me so much grief! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy. "
Replying to everyone does make it worse. You end up with abuse, people trying to get you to change your mind, unwanted conversations or being accused of being a timewaster by replying and exchanging a couple of polite messages. You can't win. |
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over a year ago
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"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy.
Replying to everyone does make it worse. You end up with abuse, people trying to get you to change your mind, unwanted conversations or being accused of being a timewaster by replying and exchanging a couple of polite messages. You can't win. "
I actually have this on my profile now, so ones who read it, will know why i prefer not to engage with those who are not my type. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy.
Replying to everyone does make it worse. You end up with abuse, people trying to get you to change your mind, unwanted conversations or being accused of being a timewaster by replying and exchanging a couple of polite messages. You can't win.
I actually have this on my profile now, so ones who read it, will know why i prefer not to engage with those who are not my type. "
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"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy.
Replying to everyone does make it worse. You end up with abuse, people trying to get you to change your mind, unwanted conversations or being accused of being a timewaster by replying and exchanging a couple of polite messages. You can't win.
I actually have this on my profile now, so ones who read it, will know why i prefer not to engage with those who are not my type. "
I did for awhile and got lectures about manners |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy.
Replying to everyone does make it worse. You end up with abuse, people trying to get you to change your mind, unwanted conversations or being accused of being a timewaster by replying and exchanging a couple of polite messages. You can't win.
I actually have this on my profile now, so ones who read it, will know why i prefer not to engage with those who are not my type.
I did for awhile and got lectures about manners "
And do you care?
I find it hard to muster fucks to give about the opinion of people I've never met on the internet. |
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"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy.
Replying to everyone does make it worse. You end up with abuse, people trying to get you to change your mind, unwanted conversations or being accused of being a timewaster by replying and exchanging a couple of polite messages. You can't win.
I actually have this on my profile now, so ones who read it, will know why i prefer not to engage with those who are not my type.
I did for awhile and got lectures about manners
And do you care?
I find it hard to muster fucks to give about the opinion of people I've never met on the internet. "
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A guy who claimed he was part of a couple started messaging me, I told him I was thinking about going to a club that night. He said they were going to the club and hoped to see me. A few hours later, sent another message, asking if I was still going? I said wasn’t sure, but I had a bad feeling about how quickly he was replying and questioning my commitment to meeting them. He then offered to take me but he needed to know then. As it would be a long journey with people I didn’t know I was reticent about his offer.
It ended with him calling me a time waster and a tease, made me feel as if I had led him on.
I never messaged first, or made any promises and was tempted but felt that he creeped me out with his insistence.
I wish I had never replied then and won’t make the same mistake again.
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"I was a bit taken aback by the delete without reply rule when I first joined. And I tried to reply to everyone, I did, but I was drowning in mail, it made it worse, and it made my experience quite miserable.
A mentor told me that keeping single women around suits most people here, that people get used to it, and just do the thing that gets you meeting the people you want to. It took me awhile to accept that, but he's right. I'm still here, still meeting, etc. I'm happy. I gather those I meet are happy.
Replying to everyone does make it worse. You end up with abuse, people trying to get you to change your mind, unwanted conversations or being accused of being a timewaster by replying and exchanging a couple of polite messages. You can't win.
I actually have this on my profile now, so ones who read it, will know why i prefer not to engage with those who are not my type.
I did for awhile and got lectures about manners
And do you care?
I find it hard to muster fucks to give about the opinion of people I've never met on the internet. "
I try to do what gives me least hassle. At this stage, guys can figure it out, or not. The rules are there. |
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I used to try to respond to everyone, but do have a life outside here so can’t always, and quite frankly some messages don’t deserve a response. A particularly pleasant person decided that as I hadn’t responded to him straight away, I wasn’t polite but an ignorant c**t, then blocked me so I couldn’t repsond. I do believe the irony was lost on him, haha.
Anyway, real life, lack of attraction, amount of messages, abuse, etc does mean that messages may not be responded to, this doesn’t necessarily mean the person is impolite. Don’t let it upset you, don’t worry about it, just accept it and move on. Everyone experiences it. We certainly do. Just have fun with those you do click with xx |
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Nobody has to reply to anyones request of interaction with them.
The only person you have autonomy over is yourself so if you're frustrated about being ignored then spend less time sending out messages. |
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"Manners doesn’t cost a thing a reply takes a few seconds.
To be tarnished with the same single guy brush on here is becoming tiresome
Treat us with a bit of respect we’re not all desperate dogs ffs
It's just the Nature of the beast.
IM NOT A PROFILE IM HUMAN BEING.
I'd hate to be a man on here. Ignored or abused. They're not all nasty eejits. Many of the men are nice, they just get fed up and dehumanised. "
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