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‘It’s not cheating’
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had someone I know outwith fab explain how him wanting to watch me fuck myself on cam isn’t cheating on his girlfriend because ‘it’s like porn, everyone watches it’. I did say it’s different to porn...but ah well.
What ‘it’s not cheating’ excuses have you heard/been told? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone. |
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone. "
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate "
If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate
If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.
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But to elaborate...
men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating
women - the fact you even think about it is cheating |
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate
If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.
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Yep I agree with that  |
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone. "
If it was in the chat room for example and loads of people was watching then I would agree, If it was a one on one and just for you then I would class that as a form of cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate
If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.
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100% true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only meet in person as a couple but my wife likes chatting to guys on line and talking dirty and more but I know about this and more than happy so don’t class that as cheating but I guess if we had never discussed it and she was havenig phone sex with guys I would feel hurt. As with all this in a relationship nothing that’s kept a secret can be productive so honest is always best policy |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate
If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.
But to elaborate...
men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating
women - the fact you even think about it is cheating"
I’m sure his girlfriend would use his balls as earrings if she knew.
I’ve not experienced any reasoning like that, thankfully. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Watching porn isn’t cheating, watching someone on fab playing on cam is I don’t know, if he’s got a profile on here without my knowledge then yes I’d be upset but just watching someone playing wouldn’t necessarily be cheating. I just don’t know! |
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Sexual physical contact is cheating, watching someone perform on cam is not. How would you enjoy a film? if your partner says you can't watch that because the woman or man in the movie is performing a sex act. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexual physical contact is cheating, watching someone perform on cam is not. How would you enjoy a film? if your partner says you can't watch that because the woman or man in the movie is performing a sex act."
I actually knew one woman who’d turn the Channel over if sex was on incase her husband was watching! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a guy wanting to take me for a meal etc,spend a night in his hotel room (not reading!)As long as we don't kiss because he's married and that would feel like he was being unfaithful !?!?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's not 100% cheating but would she approve? If you are in a relationship you should know if they would mind. If my wife was on cam performing I would fuck her hard for him to watch if I caught her. But I know if it was the other way round she would freak. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it's not 100% cheating but would she approve? If you are in a relationship you should know if they would mind. If my wife was on cam performing I would fuck her hard for him to watch if I caught her. But I know if it was the other way round she would freak. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Also yes I think it’s cheating - I’ve known him for years, we’ve met up, he has a girlfriend and a baby, I asked him if he’d tell her he was watching porn and he said yes. Asked if he would tell her he was watching me and he said no. Clearly a difference |
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By *e_jpMan
over a year ago
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"Also yes I think it’s cheating - I’ve known him for years, we’ve met up, he has a girlfriend and a baby, I asked him if he’d tell her he was watching porn and he said yes. Asked if he would tell her he was watching me and he said no. Clearly a difference "
Completely agree. If you feel you can’t be honest about something, then there’s something wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not cheating if the lights are off.
It's not cheating if you don't enjoy it.
It's not cheating if you're being fucked while bent over a sink and watching him in the mirror behind you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexual physical contact is cheating, watching someone perform on cam is not. How would you enjoy a film? if your partner says you can't watch that because the woman or man in the movie is performing a sex act.
I actually knew one woman who’d turn the Channel over if sex was on incase her husband was watching! "
Went out with a girl like that for years, she was cheating the whole time. |
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"Also yes I think it’s cheating - I’ve known him for years, we’ve met up, he has a girlfriend and a baby, I asked him if he’d tell her he was watching porn and he said yes. Asked if he would tell her he was watching me and he said no. Clearly a difference "
Still, don't see it as cheating but will create awkward situation especially when you know each other which depend on what type of bond you have a fun, liberated or conservative friendship. As long as your intentions are clear. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not cheating if the lights are off.
It's not cheating if you don't enjoy it.
It's not cheating if you're being fucked while bent over a sink and watching him in the mirror behind you."
It’s only cheating if I cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate
If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.
But to elaborate...
men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating
women - the fact you even think about it is cheating"
Hahaha! |
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"If it's something you can't tell your other half about without them being upset and/or giving consent to, then that is cheating. "
I believe your partner does not have to know everything as long as you did not cross the boundary of your relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?
Good call
And we know manual handling / oral is not cheating"
As long as you signed a disclaimer you're good to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone. "
I disagree. Watching porn is watching someone playing to a mass audience. One on one cam is watching someone wank for you exclusively. To me, even talking dirty to someone who is not your partner, behind your partner's back, is a form of cheating, because it is a form of deception. I wonder if the wife would think that it was fine and see it the same as porn. People should just own their behaviour and not try to excuse it. Just reminds me of a scene from Inbetweeners the movie. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I can understand what your friend is saying.
In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.
Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate
If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.
But to elaborate...
men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating
women - the fact you even think about it is cheating"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?
That really tickled me 
One of those condoms was it?  "
He must have been French.
Noooo, I don't mean F&B.... French tickler is where I'm going with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?
Especially if you have a raging bucket "
Would he need to be a raging bull? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?
Especially if you have a raging bucket
Would he need to be a raging bull? "
Yes.
And the partners would be raging too. Until the situation was clearly explained to them, and they realised it wasn’t cheating |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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You can take this argument down to the nth degree, and where you end up is that even thinking about sex with someone else (likely or not) is infidelity, and yet everyone does it.
If only there was some solution to this, eh swinging website?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?
Especially if you have a raging bucket
Would he need to be a raging bull?
Yes.
And the partners would be raging too. Until the situation was clearly explained to them, and they realised it wasn’t cheating"
They're mature students and it was a sex education lesson.
#notcheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?
Especially if you have a raging bucket "
I so need that to be my next profile name. |
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