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How do I suggest swinging to the wife
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am sure this has been asked before but here go's
I would love to introduce my wife to the swinging scene that I am enjoying but I am unsure how she will react.
I should point out that I timeshare her with her Lesbian GF at the mo and I swing on the basis that "Whatever I do Be Discrete" ignorance is bliss and what the Eye doesnt see etc etc and to be honest I don't seem to be alone with that approach lol.
However my wife is damn hot and I would love to share her.
Any suggestions?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How about "Oi Wife fancy Swinging?"
Or perhaps it would be better to just talk about it generally, then ask if she fancies trying it, perhaps take a film or TV Program as the opener. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How about "Oi Wife fancy Swinging?"
Or perhaps it would be better to just talk about it generally, then ask if she fancies trying it, perhaps take a film or TV Program as the opener. "
Oi spose oi cud if iwas a bristolian lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How about "Oi Wife fancy Swinging?"
Or perhaps it would be better to just talk about it generally, then ask if she fancies trying it, perhaps take a film or TV Program as the opener.
Oi spose oi cud if iwas a bristolian lol"
but the tv thing is a good suggestion |
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Take her to an upmarket club on a couples only night, where its not in your face and you guys can chill out, have a drink, and have some fun on your own, in the jacuzzi or whatever, and watch what goes on, take it further on your next visit.
Clubs we would recommend are for this are:
Liberty Elite, Vanilla Alternative, La Chambre - there are plenty of others, but we think one of these three are particularly good for a first visit for someone who is unsure and dressing up can be part of the fun - Sounds like your present arrangement would suggest she is more likely to be up for it than not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am sure this has been asked before but here go's
I would love to introduce my wife to the swinging scene that I am enjoying but I am unsure how she will react.
I should point out that I timeshare her with her Lesbian GF at the mo and I swing on the basis that "Whatever I do Be Discrete" ignorance is bliss and what the Eye doesnt see etc etc and to be honest I don't seem to be alone with that approach lol.
However my wife is damn hot and I would love to share her.
Any suggestions? "
to be honest with you id just come out and ask her after reading that post, shes married with a lesbian girlfriend and she allows you to play with other so long as your discrete? so shes hardly a prude whos going to be horrified at such a suggesting is she?
The one thing that does jump to mind tho is, if she knows your doing this surely she would have asked to join you if she was interested?
Maybe she has no interest in swinging in an environment where theres going to be other guys, maybe shes happy just having one male and one female sexual partner, not everyone wants to have multipal partners if they are getting what they need from who they already have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did you have a nice day love?
How would you like to meet other people for sex, bit of fun, a shag and come home and that's it.
Nice shag, no strings, both happy.
What do you think love? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does she know you are on this site?
If not, maybe you should suggest opening a joint account just for a giggle and see what happens."
Have you read my verifications lol
Jeezoh she would have a dicky fit lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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timeshare LOL she isnt a flat in ibiza
Just talk to her,, your clearly already fairly liberal as your sharing her with her girlfriend.. does she have sex with you ? if not i wouldn't even bother asking...
but just talk to her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"timeshare LOL she isnt a flat in ibiza
Just talk to her,, your clearly already fairly liberal as your sharing her with her girlfriend.. does she have sex with you ? if not i wouldn't even bother asking...
but just talk to her"
I was thinking the same. Did you get caught by one of those dodgy guys handing scratch cards. Lol |
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"Does she know you are on this site?
If not, maybe you should suggest opening a joint account just for a giggle and see what happens.
Have you read my verifications lol
Jeezoh she would have a dicky fit lol "
then things arent as open and hunky dory as u suggest in your opening post... 
talk to her, find out what she wants, what she thinks about swinging...if she has a girlfriend,as others have said she isnt a prude. |
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
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Has she got deeper feelings for this other lady ? Would she want nsa fun with other fems or bi fem couples ?
You may be taking a bit of a risk here. I'd hazard a guess that you wouldn't fall out over it seeing as you both are clearly open minded due to what you both do in terms of having extra marital fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does she know you are on this site?
If not, maybe you should suggest opening a joint account just for a giggle and see what happens.
Have you read my verifications lol
Jeezoh she would have a dicky fit lol "
With most couples swinging is a trust thing
Your post above proves that the trust in your marriage is lacking
Good luck in asking her and i hope it goes your way
Mainly cause i think she should be enjoying herself
However hold on ta ya balls and never stop looking over your shoulder cause the truth always outs and when she does find out you were there first which believe you me she will
Ya gonna need it |
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"Does she know you are on this site?
If not, maybe you should suggest opening a joint account just for a giggle and see what happens.
Have you read my verifications lol
Jeezoh she would have a dicky fit lol
With most couples swinging is a trust thing
Your post above proves that the trust in your marriage is lacking
Good luck in asking her and i hope it goes your way
Mainly cause i think she should be enjoying herself
However hold on ta ya balls and never stop looking over your shoulder cause the truth always outs and when she does find out you were there first which believe you me she will
Ya gonna need it "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Could start off by deleting your Single male account  "
Not a bad Idea i will have to give it much thought or perhaps during sex and talking dirty I could suggest getting another guy to etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Darling...
When your sister comes to stay how dya fancy a 3 way...;-)
Worked for me...;-);-)
Still married? 
Wash your mouth out...
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My sister in law caught herpse 3 years ago so she was scratched right off the "To Do" list lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you really want to share her with other men?
Or do you want a better chance at meeting more women  "
Lord no I have a swing partner it is purely altruistic lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Darling...
When your sister comes to stay how dya fancy a 3 way...;-)
Worked for me...;-);-)
Still married?
Wash your mouth out...
My sister in law caught herpse 3 years ago so she was scratched right off the "To Do" list lol"
Probably my ex sisinlaw that gave it to her...;-) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Darling...
When your sister comes to stay how dya fancy a 3 way...;-)
Worked for me...;-);-)
Still married?
Wash your mouth out...
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Darn... Ya flutter those eyelashes sooooo sexilly...
Xxx
*Furtles off for a cold shower...*
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really want to share her with other men?
Or do you want a better chance at meeting more women
Lord no I have a swing partner it is purely altruistic lol"
Blimey ya love livin on the edge ill gi ya that xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really want to share her with other men?
Or do you want a better chance at meeting more women
Lord no I have a swing partner it is purely altruistic lol"
but what you need to remember is everyone you have ever met thro swinging, every club or party you may have been to and everyone who you may have seen there are going to have to be cut off and avoided if you have been doing this behind your wifes back and now want her to join in
Depending how long you have been doing this and how many people you have met, and i dont mean arranged meets with i mean seen at any events, that could be bloody hard work |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Darling...
When your sister comes to stay how dya fancy a 3 way...;-)
Worked for me...;-);-)
Still married?
Wash your mouth out...
My sister in law caught herpse 3 years ago so she was scratched right off the "To Do" list lol"
Hope no one recognises you and now knows she has an STD |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Drop it into conversation when your fucking her , ask her how she would like a cock to suck on at the same time as your fucking her, then how you could swap over the other guy fucking her and her sucking your cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am sure this has been asked before but here go's
I would love to introduce my wife to the swinging scene that I am enjoying but I am unsure how she will react.
I should point out that I timeshare her with her Lesbian GF at the mo and I swing on the basis that "Whatever I do Be Discrete" ignorance is bliss and what the Eye doesnt see etc etc and to be honest I don't seem to be alone with that approach lol.
However my wife is damn hot and I would love to share her.
Any suggestions? "
The up front method ie "How about doing a bit of swinging!" its a fair way of doing it.  |
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