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"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? " There are plenty of demanding profiles from women, couples and believe it or not men too. It helps people be clear about what they want. Demanding isn't a good word but the concept isn't bad A | |||
"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? " After the millioneth boring, dull, faf message, woman tend to get annoyed and this shows in thier profile. It does ware you down, repeatedly getting stupid messages from guys who havent read your profile. So rude and demanding they may be, but its understandable. If you don't like it, move on and ignore them profiles. Poppy | |||
"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? " A lot of people show ignorance with somebody else's profile. Their mindset is for themselfs not the person who's profile pictures they're looking at and what they want from this site! ....  | |||
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"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? " Yes. Demanding profiles certainly put me off  | |||
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"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? " It can be a major turn off, at the same time they are only expressing what their preferences are which they are entitled to do. Saves a lot of wasted time. | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. " If you don't take the site or yourself too seriously you'll be ok. Works for me x | |||
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"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. " Just in case all the aggressive, arsey women decide to message you en masse? Wise move OP You cant be too careful | |||
" For what it's worth, all the single ladies who have posted so far here don't have rude and demanding profiles. They know what they want and why in hell should they have to compromise their integrity and intimacy for some pointless fuck that they're better off not having when they can wank themselves senseless better than a shit fuck can pump and unload after a few minutes despite all the the talk and machismo of how they're the best thing ever to exist... Oops.. Ranted a little. Mwah Ms GR " Blimey! Blocked!! .  | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. " It's a vicious circle. Quite a few of the guys who send annoying messages are probably tired of getting no response, seeing their messages deleted unread or being turned down. In the same way that the demanding, aggressive and arsey women are tired of the annoying messages. I think we'd all do well to realise that behind each message, profile and forum post there's a sentient human being. | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Just in case all the aggressive, arsey women decide to message you en masse? Wise move OP You cant be too careful" Very true. | |||
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" Blimey! Blocked!! . "That's OK, you wouldn't have been able to message me anyway 
Mwah
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"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? It can be a major turn off, at the same time they are only expressing what their preferences are which they are entitled to do. Saves a lot of wasted time. " Exactly x | |||
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"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. It's a vicious circle. Quite a few of the guys who send annoying messages are probably tired of getting no response, seeing their messages deleted unread or being turned down. In the same way that the demanding, aggressive and arsey women are tired of the annoying messages. I think we'd all do well to realise that behind each message, profile and forum post there's a sentient human being." “Maturity is the ability to think, speak and act your feelings within the bounds of dignity. The measure of your maturity is how spiritual you become during the midst of your frustration.” Samuel Allman | |||
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"You need to walk a mile in our moccasins. "What size are they | |||
"You actually read them?.....'kin 'ell !" Yes! Why wouldn’t you? Believe it or not you can tell a lot about someone from their profile. | |||
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"I can empathise with them up to a point, but if there’s no humour in there, or at least something positive to say I really couldn’t be arsed with them. And if it mentions ‘Jog on if you don’t like .........!’ then I’m out of there. There’s plenty of cool women on here who haven’t got their heads up their arses, you just have to go with the flow and hope you find them. " Awesome answer to my question. Thanks buddy. | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. It's a vicious circle. Quite a few of the guys who send annoying messages are probably tired of getting no response, seeing their messages deleted unread or being turned down. In the same way that the demanding, aggressive and arsey women are tired of the annoying messages. I think we'd all do well to realise that behind each message, profile and forum post there's a sentient human being. “Maturity is the ability to think, speak and act your feelings within the bounds of dignity. The measure of your maturity is how spiritual you become during the midst of your frustration.” Samuel Allman" A nice sentiment but I bet Samuel Ullman was never a member of a swingers group | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. " Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe | |||
"No. Now get on your knees and beg for attention! " Just keep looking at your pics and thinking wowzas! (•)(•) honk honk! | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe "Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22 | |||
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"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe
Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22 "But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day..  | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe "You see I regard myself as a nice guy (check my verifications) but I would never send a personal message to you purely because of your profile, even though you look lovely. | |||
"No. Now get on your knees and beg for attention! Just keep looking at your pics and thinking wowzas! (•)(•) honk honk!" | |||
"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? " Yes. I think pople do it largely to put off the people they don't want contacting them. In reality all they're really doing is probably putting off those who may have been interested and possibly do fit the criteria. You can make your profile selective without appearing rude or arrogant, if you put a little thought into it. It's a good filter me though. | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe
Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22
But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day.. "You reply to all who message you? I've been on here for 6 years and have learnt over that time, you attract many more of the great ones with honey, than you do with vinegar | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe
You see I regard myself as a nice guy (check my verifications) but I would never send a personal message to you purely because of your profile, even though you look lovely.
"And that is absolutely fine by me. As someone above said - our profiles act as further filters to reduce received messages to a bare minimum. There's more than enough people here who understand my humour and actually like the way I express myself. They are the ones that message me and we are most likely to click and get along! Not everyone is for everyone | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe
You see I regard myself as a nice guy (check my verifications) but I would never send a personal message to you purely because of your profile, even though you look lovely.
"That's the way it works if people read each others profiles. If they recognise they aren't compatible they simply don't message. There's no need to tell them publicly though. | |||
"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe
Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22
But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day..
You reply to all who message you? I've been on here for 6 years and have learnt over that time, you attract many more of the great ones with honey, than you do with vinegar "God no, but how would I know who's good and who's not if all of their messages would read exactly the same? Personally I'm happy enough with how and who I've attracted so far and been lucky enough to make fantastic friends with most people I've met. One thing that never happened tho - bad or awkward meet so must be doing something right | |||
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"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey! Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear. We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe
Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22
But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day..
You reply to all who message you? I've been on here for 6 years and have learnt over that time, you attract many more of the great ones with honey, than you do with vinegar
God no, but how would I know who's good and who's not if all of their messages would read exactly the same?
Personally I'm happy enough with how and who I've attracted so far and been lucky enough to make fantastic friends with most people I've met.
One thing that never happened tho - bad or awkward meet so must be doing something right "That's great. If it works for you, then that's what matters. It had the opposite effect for me. Mine consisted of 'how are you?' When I went ranty, back in the day  . Though your's isn't ranty. It has your personality injected into it | |||
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"I have one of these profiles but I know what I do and don't like. I'm not a desperate person that will sleep with anyone with a pulse. If someone doesn't like what they read, it's not the end of the world lol. X" it was just a ploy to get me to read profiles i knew it | |||
"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining. But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? There are plenty of demanding profiles from women, couples and believe it or not men too. It helps people be clear about what they want. Demanding isn't a good word but the concept isn't bad A" Well said | |||
"I have one of these profiles but I know what I do and don't like. I'm not a desperate person that will sleep with anyone with a pulse. If someone doesn't like what they read, it's not the end of the world lol. X" Yes you do dont you. Before anyone says it, yes I’ve just blocked and moved on. | |||
"I have one of these profiles but I know what I do and don't like. I'm not a desperate person that will sleep with anyone with a pulse. If someone doesn't like what they read, it's not the end of the world lol. X Yes you do dont you. Before anyone says it, yes I’ve just blocked and moved on. " | |||
LUSH company!
Both beautiful ladies
Mwah
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"You need to walk a mile in our moccasins. "Yeah, it's usually "oh for the love of God, really?" after the 250th (or more, often much more) terrible message of a particular genre. It doesn't stop them, but it makes it clear those who can both read and respect wishes. I just want to be treated with respect and to have a reason to reply. Which isn't me being up myself... I just need something to sort through the too much mail I get (yes I know filters exist thank you). | |||
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OP if demanding and ranty isn't for you then ignore them and/or block. We all use fab in the best way that suits us and we can't be compatible with everyone. | |||
"Am I in the same club as pocket rocket and shorty?
LUSH company!
Both beautiful ladies
Mwah
Ms GR "You certainly are haha x | |||
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"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves. " I think it's difficult to win here. I also get messages asking me why I "stooped to fuck X". Because I wanted to, because I find people attractive on my terms, etc. | |||
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"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves. I think it's difficult to win here. I also get messages asking me why I "stooped to fuck X". Because I wanted to, because I find people attractive on my terms, etc. " ... And yes, I know I'm hardly all that. But we (everyone, including guys) should seek what we want, think about how our approach is working, and adjust accordingly. | |||
"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves. " Yes - and we still meet who we want!  | |||
"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off! "Put all the nice guys off? | |||
"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves. Yes - and we still meet who we want! " | |||
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"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Put all the nice guys off? "Plenty of nice guys know what women deal with here and look past the demands. Or at least they do mine. | |||
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"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Put all the nice guys off? "All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences. | |||
"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Put all the nice guys off?
Plenty of nice guys know what women deal with here and look past the demands. Or at least they do mine. "Well said | |||
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"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off! "Sorry for picking on you to highlight my earlier point - but I wouldn't say yours reads as demanding at all - it's intelligently written, clear, concise, lays out where you're coming from and provides guidance for any one reading it - that's not demanding in any way shape or form in my book. Demanding would be a list of unrealistic expectations and hoops that have to be jumped through. | |||
"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Put all the nice guys off?
All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences."NiceGuys TM | |||
"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Sorry for picking on you to highlight my earlier point - but I wouldn't say yours reads as demanding at all - it's intelligently written, clear, concise, lays out where you're coming from and provides guidance for any one reading it - that's not demanding in any way shape or form in my book.
Demanding would be a list of unrealistic expectations and hoops that have to be jumped through."I lay out what I'm looking for as sort of a test, in a way. Not really, but a subjective, this is how to increase the odds of getting my attention. I'd increase the pass rate phenomenally if I asked for the subject line to be banana and for a photo of one, but I think that's absurd. (to each their own) | |||
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"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Put all the nice guys off? "Not really interested unless seriously brave and very funny! | |||
"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?" Yes, you sometimes have to read between the lines, and empathise with the frustrations! I've actually complimented a couple of people on their very specifically angry profiles! | |||
"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Put all the nice guys off?
All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences."I think your confusing nice guys with bad guys here. | |||
"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Sorry for picking on you to highlight my earlier point - but I wouldn't say yours reads as demanding at all - it's intelligently written, clear, concise, lays out where you're coming from and provides guidance for any one reading it - that's not demanding in any way shape or form in my book.
Demanding would be a list of unrealistic expectations and hoops that have to be jumped through."Omg thank you! That's how I wrote it and how I intended it to be read, luckily intelligent people read it, understand and send such lovely messages! | |||
"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?" Yeah. I get plenty of "critique" and abuse. I'm not sexy enough to have standards, particularly not one's that require brain cells | |||
"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?" You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person. | |||
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"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader? You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person. "Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right? Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes? There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop. | |||
"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!
Put all the nice guys off?
All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences.
I think your confusing nice guys with bad guys here. "YouTube or google "nice guys" - there's tonnes of them around.. | |||
"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader? You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person.
Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right?
Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes?
There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop. "For anyone on here (men, women, couples, TV's etc) it's about finding a balance, about "getting" the site and how it works, whilst retaining a sense of self - I've often said before there are a lot of people (of all categories) that don't manage that and they tend to be the ones you hear moaning on the forums, or having truly demanding profiles etc etc Those that "get it" mostly go about their Fab business without the need to trumpet it in any way | |||
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"I demand a recount" You don't read the buggers anyway... or should I say didn't? | |||
"I demand a recount You don't read the buggers anyway... or should I say didn't? "i didnt read the thread either and shut up laughing its not funny anymore | |||
"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader? You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person.
Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right?
Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes?
There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop.
For anyone on here (men, women, couples, TV's etc) it's about finding a balance, about "getting" the site and how it works, whilst retaining a sense of self - I've often said before there are a lot of people (of all categories) that don't manage that and they tend to be the ones you hear moaning on the forums, or having truly demanding profiles etc etc
Those that "get it" mostly go about their Fab business without the need to trumpet it in any way "For me it's challenging, I'll admit, because I am nice and used to be a doormat. I'm forever trying to find a way to be nice enough, mean/ firm enough, with a profile which is interesting, short, inoffensive, and personal. I do OK, but there's a lot of thought and tweaking behind the scenes. I talk about it on the forum in the vain hope that more people will understand that the grass isn't always greener over here, and maybe that knowledge will help everyone have a better experience. (I'd rather bang my head here than in my inbox most of the time!) | |||
"So you categorically will not meet someone with a demanding profile OP? " I just don’t like pushy, demanding people in general I’m afraid. It’s just my preference. This was an interesting debate. Thanks for everyone’s opinions. | |||
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"When I first joined mine was so sweet and lovely . It’s gradually got worse and worse "only cos u demand all those filthy pics | |||
"When I first joined mine was so sweet and lovely . It’s gradually got worse and worse only cos u demand all those filthy pics" | |||
"When I first joined mine was so sweet and lovely . It’s gradually got worse and worse only cos u demand all those filthy pics
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"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader? You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person.
Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right?
Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes?
There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop.
For anyone on here (men, women, couples, TV's etc) it's about finding a balance, about "getting" the site and how it works, whilst retaining a sense of self - I've often said before there are a lot of people (of all categories) that don't manage that and they tend to be the ones you hear moaning on the forums, or having truly demanding profiles etc etc
Those that "get it" mostly go about their Fab business without the need to trumpet it in any way
For me it's challenging, I'll admit, because I am nice and used to be a doormat. I'm forever trying to find a way to be nice enough, mean/ firm enough, with a profile which is interesting, short, inoffensive, and personal.
I do OK, but there's a lot of thought and tweaking behind the scenes. I talk about it on the forum in the vain hope that more people will understand that the grass isn't always greener over here, and maybe that knowledge will help everyone have a better experience. (I'd rather bang my head here than in my inbox most of the time!) "For what it's worth (and no this isn't false flattery to anyone that may think so - there are at least two parts of your profile where we wouldn't match so I'm saying it genuinely and honestly and with no ulterior motive whatsoever) I think you've pretty much nailed it with what you have now
Like you I'm open to discussing it on the forum, I figure the more people that "get" it the better this place will be - and even if only one person takes what's said and finds it helps them it's worth it. | |||
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Demanding = has enough of a brain to know what she wants.
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