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"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. " This^^^^ so much this | |||
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"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. " Well put. Totally agree | |||
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"I have a question on this, if you want to leave marks that last a while ie some slight bruising, is this done with the force of the spank or the longevity of the spanking but with normal/moderate force. We want to leave marks other than just the red spank mark that goes after an hour or so "Concentration of force the mark is burst blood vessels and inflammation. A hand is very big and spreads the force for marks a thinner object like a cane will serve you better. You would need either a very hard spank or a lot lf medium ones to leave a long lasting reddness | |||
"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. " Couldn't have said it better! | |||
"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. " If you dont mind me asking could you expand on that? I csn understand the trust but what is it about feeling vunerable thst you like and exploring the line between pain and desire is a very interesting way of putting it. Normally people say pleasure and lain which i can see as it csn be seen as differnt sides of the same coin in terms of stimulation, but desire sounds differnt. Is it thw desire to be spanked, the desire for pain, desire to feel safe to be vunerable with another person, or the desire to accept pain in order to provide pleasure to a partner who likes giving pain | |||
"I have a question on this, if you want to leave marks that last a while ie some slight bruising, is this done with the force of the spank or the longevity of the spanking but with normal/moderate force. We want to leave marks other than just the red spank mark that goes after an hour or so "I think a combination of how hard, longevity and implement used are all factors - likewise the person being spanked's physical make up may play a part too - I know I bruise quite easily especially if a hairbrush is used. Also got fairly bruised when I was spanked and the spanker alternated spankings with running their fingernails over my skin a little more than lightly. | |||
"I have a question on this, if you want to leave marks that last a while ie some slight bruising, is this done with the force of the spank or the longevity of the spanking but with normal/moderate force. We want to leave marks other than just the red spank mark that goes after an hour or so
I think a combination of how hard, longevity and implement used are all factors - likewise the person being spanked's physical make up may play a part too - I know I bruise quite easily especially if a hairbrush is used. Also got fairly bruised when I was spanked and the spanker alternated spankings with running their fingernails over my skin a little more than lightly."Its shocking how much differnt people bruise a girl i met a while back looked like shed been violently beaten just from holding her arms or legs firmly, where as I've been knocked off a bike at 70mph plus and hardly got a bruse at all | |||
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"After my first gangbang, where hitting wasn't even involved, the bruises didn't fade completely for six weeks "  | |||
"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. If you dont mind me asking could you expand on that? I csn understand the trust but what is it about feeling vunerable thst you like and exploring the line between pain and desire is a very interesting way of putting it. Normally people say pleasure and lain which i can see as it csn be seen as differnt sides of the same coin in terms of stimulation, but desire sounds differnt. Is it thw desire to be spanked, the desire for pain, desire to feel safe to be vunerable with another person, or the desire to accept pain in order to provide pleasure to a partner who likes giving pain" That's a tough one to explain, for me (and I'm aware we're veering towards D/s dynamics here but spanking in it's more formal sense (as opposed to play spankings) aligns with it) my submissive side comes from within, is something I now know has always been a part of me and is partly down to a desire to please, partly a desire to give up control and let someone else take it, partly a desire to feel vulnerable to someone you have allowed yourself to be vulnerable too, and various other factors. Acceptance of pain and the pleasure that is derived from it is just a part of it - as I said further up I enjoy the sensations both mental and physical that being spanked generates, add to that an inherent sense of "naughtiness" and the mindset that allowing someone to do that creates, and it's quite a heady thing. Lily summarised it quite well as a "need" rather than a "want" and I can relate to that - although I mostly keep my needs in check to the point D/s, spanking etc is not an overriding thing for me and certainly not something I expect from all play partners, in fact it's very rare I come across someone I feel able to give that side of myself to. | |||
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"Have we got any people who like to be the ones doing the spanking here? We seem a litrle bottom heavy :p" Sadly, I'm told it's genetic and that spot fat loss doesn't work  | |||
"Have we got any people who like to be the ones doing the spanking here? We seem a litrle bottom heavy :p Sadly, I'm told it's genetic and that spot fat loss doesn't work "Squats solve all ills :p | |||
"Have we got any people who like to be the ones doing the spanking here? We seem a litrle bottom heavy :p Sadly, I'm told it's genetic and that spot fat loss doesn't work
Squats solve all ills :p
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Muscular arse and legs still means bottom heavy! | |||
"Have we got any people who like to be the ones doing the spanking here? We seem a litrle bottom heavy :p Sadly, I'm told it's genetic and that spot fat loss doesn't work
Squats solve all ills :p
Muscular arse and legs still means bottom heavy! "You say it likw thats a bad thing   | |||
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"Have we got any people who like to be the ones doing the spanking here? We seem a litrle bottom heavy :p Sadly, I'm told it's genetic and that spot fat loss doesn't work
Squats solve all ills :p
Muscular arse and legs still means bottom heavy!
You say it likw thats a bad thing "I'll tell you when I've got there. Or at least when my buried muscles are revealed. | |||
"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. " This is a great explanation. I love that dominant role | |||
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"I enjoy receiving, especially from someone experienced! It's the not knowing what's coming next, it's exciting, it does make me feel vunerable and I love that feeling. I have enjoyed being the spanker on occassions, having a grown man bending over for me is so hot!! My favourite 'tool' is a flogger for the stinginess, maybe a paddle, maybe just a hand " | |||
"I know you asked for people who are into it but I'm responding anyway! I wanted to give the other side. I don't like it but then I also am not submissive and I don't enjoy feeling vulnerable. It also brings too many memories of being spanked as a child and those aren't feelings I want to revisit (I was a sensitive wee soul and hated being told off!). I do however enjoy pain. I love being bitten and having fingers digging into my flesh. So I understand the appeal in that way. I tend to be a bit feisty and controlling in bed so I guess for me allowing a guy to be a bit rough is the same, I'm trusting them not to go too far. " Thanks for.the contribution i went with spanking as its a fairly mild one we can talk about without breaking any rules but your right there are lots of differnt kinds of pain for this style of fun. Mine i wont mention here as the thread will go. Personally i dont like spanking either i find it blurry and irritating. I do like spanking somone else though partly as i love the love and feel of an ass and watching it move. But also there is a certain pleasure in seeing how fsr somone is willing to go finding the line between thier enjoyment and the point where they start to dislike it but do it for my enjoyment. Maybe its a touch of narcissism but like rough anal theres a certain thrill knowing somone is willing to go through something unpleasent for your pleasure | |||
"I enjoy receiving, especially from someone experienced! It's the not knowing what's coming next, it's exciting, it does make me feel vunerable and I love that feeling. I have enjoyed being the spanker on occassions, having a grown man bending over for me is so hot!! My favourite 'tool' is a flogger for the stinginess, maybe a paddle, maybe just a hand "Being the spanker is wonderful. The feel of my hand on her bum. The yelp. And the red marks. Yes please! Just started exploring being the spankee - and more - with a new friend. My first experience ‘switching’. Not sure yet but just love exploring  | |||
"I enjoy receiving, especially from someone experienced! It's the not knowing what's coming next, it's exciting, it does make me feel vunerable and I love that feeling. I have enjoyed being the spanker on occassions, having a grown man bending over for me is so hot!! My favourite 'tool' is a flogger for the stinginess, maybe a paddle, maybe just a hand "Do you like it when a guy fakes you out while doing it. Spanks you then caresses the redness drawing his hand away to see you tense before the next blow that never comes a few times till you dont then landing the next when you arnt expecting it | |||
"I enjoy receiving, especially from someone experienced! It's the not knowing what's coming next, it's exciting, it does make me feel vunerable and I love that feeling. I have enjoyed being the spanker on occassions, having a grown man bending over for me is so hot!! My favourite 'tool' is a flogger for the stinginess, maybe a paddle, maybe just a hand
Do you like it when a guy fakes you out while doing it.
Spanks you then caresses the redness drawing his hand away to see you tense before the next blow that never comes a few times till you dont then landing the next when you arnt expecting it"Yes, that's what I meant when I said not knowing what's coming next. It's nice knowing that you'll get some botty kisses after to | |||
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"I’m very much a spanker. For me standing naked over a perfect arse and stroking,kissing and even nuzzling it is something I love. Teasing softly with my fingers tracing the curves. Before administering timely spanks makes my clock physically twitch in time to each delivery. Current favourite toy is my paddle which makes a very pleasing sound but not much sting. Seconded by my riding crop. " Clock twitch | |||
"I’m very much a spanker. For me standing naked over a perfect arse and stroking,kissing and even nuzzling it is something I love. Teasing softly with my fingers tracing the curves. Before administering timely spanks makes my clock physically twitch in time to each delivery. Current favourite toy is my paddle which makes a very pleasing sound but not much sting. Seconded by my riding crop. Clock twitch "Ha ha trust you to spot that. | |||
"Have we got any people who like to be the ones doing the spanking here? " . I'll just add that I am quite an accomplished exponent of this | |||
"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. " Pretty much the answer I gave my GF yesterday when she asked about this. I’m looking forward to finding out where she thinks the line is. | |||
"Vulnerability, trust, exploring the line where desire and pain meet and enhance each other. Pretty much the answer I gave my GF yesterday when she asked about this. I’m looking forward to finding out where she thinks the line is." Are you the spanker or spankie? | |||
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"Being over a mans knee with my knickers round my ankles. The vulnerability is such a turn on" That vulnerability is a big turn on to me when I am the one spanking, I can assure you | |||
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He loves the power, my total submission to him. Sometimes the pain is a bit much, but I take it, as I know that if I really can’t cope he’ll stop. If I thought there was malice involved it would end completely. I’m into pleasure through pain, not abuse. We’ve built up my pain tolerance though, and I do enjoy how turned on he gets. It’s a bit of a power trip for me too, how the reaction of my body to what he does excites him so much.
Know that may sound like a contradiction, feeling powerful, letting someone make you vulnerable, but it’s the only way I can describe how it is for me. It’s the anticipation of waiting for that slap, not knowing how hard he’s going to spank me, it’s exhilarating.
It hurts, he marks me, but I do sometimes push him to make him do more, the brat in me can’t help it.
Having sex as he’s alternating giving me pleasure and pain becomes even more intense, and I get really turned on.
I have to be in control with everything else in my life, that relinquishing it, and taking no responsibility is such a release. I get to some it’s not their idea of release, and we don’t always do it, but it works for us. Haha, I love how he hurts me, as i know that it pleases him- it’s not about hurting me (although that is an element of it) as much as controlling me completely, and making me submit- it turns us both on xx
(Sorry for rambling) xx | |||
