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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The darkness, felt like I've been levelling out lately but the last few days, it's taken over again...
How do you cope when you know deep down that socialising will help, but people seem too much to take? Going outside is far too much....
I'm safe in my bubble, no one can bother me in here and I like it this way
Is resorting to seeking solace from strangers on the internet the way to go? Probably not, but those who know how it feels, get it
In the meantime, I've got beer and painkillers so....at least stuff can be shoved under for a while |
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Talk to a friend. Over text or messenger if that's all you can do. Phone better. In person better again. Failing that, something like the Samaritans.
It's easy to get trapped in the darkness. You've got to take any life line you can find the energy to reach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Please do not mix painkillers and alcohol. Only take the appropriate amount of painkillers needed, for pain.
Please please speak to someone. Samaritans are amazing.
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"Please do not mix painkillers and alcohol. Only take the appropriate amount of painkillers needed, for pain.
Please please speak to someone. Samaritans are amazing.
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And this too. Don't self medicate, particularly if it involves risky things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thank you so much guys for your responses, it's so nice knowing that there are some decent people out there 
Unfortunately, tablets and drink are the norm for "forgetting" in a lot of cases....it's not good or healthy but sometimes we get accustomed |
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"Thank you so much guys for your responses, it's so nice knowing that there are some decent people out there
Unfortunately, tablets and drink are the norm for "forgetting" in a lot of cases....it's not good or healthy but sometimes we get accustomed "
Your body won't thank you for it. Please consider speaking to your doctor. There's no shame in needing help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If anybody is in deep distress I would advise to Google grounding skills/techniques.
They are designed to help in the moment when distress tolerance is at it's peak. That should hopefully get somebody in deep distress through the initial crisis and then maybe a visit to a GP or an emergency call to a helpline would be the best way forward.
I've just copied this from another thread that I posted this on yesterday. I hope it's useful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If anybody is in deep distress I would advise to Google grounding skills/techniques.
They are designed to help in the moment when distress tolerance is at it's peak. That should hopefully get somebody in deep distress through the initial crisis and then maybe a visit to a GP or an emergency call to a helpline would be the best way forward.
I've just copied this from another thread that I posted this on yesterday. I hope it's useful."
I saw that yesterday and looked it up but forgot to comment on that thread, sorry. Good advice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If anybody is in deep distress I would advise to Google grounding skills/techniques.
They are designed to help in the moment when distress tolerance is at it's peak. That should hopefully get somebody in deep distress through the initial crisis and then maybe a visit to a GP or an emergency call to a helpline would be the best way forward.
I've just copied this from another thread that I posted this on yesterday. I hope it's useful."
It is useful thank you kindly, I've looked into these techniques before, they don't really help too much...but maybe with a bit more practice they might? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thank you so much guys for your responses, it's so nice knowing that there are some decent people out there
Unfortunately, tablets and drink are the norm for "forgetting" in a lot of cases....it's not good or healthy but sometimes we get accustomed
Your body won't thank you for it. Please consider speaking to your doctor. There's no shame in needing help. "
I know this, I've tried but just get palmed off onto anti d's....they mask it over at times I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP can you ride out the storm? Can you stay in your safe bubble for now and know that when you wake up tomorrow things might feel better? "
I hope so...sometimes it's possible to do that, other times it's worse! Tomorrow is another day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP can you ride out the storm? Can you stay in your safe bubble for now and know that when you wake up tomorrow things might feel better?
I hope so...sometimes it's possible to do that, other times it's worse! Tomorrow is another day "
Beer is not the answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Keep chatting on here if it helps mate, read the daft topics, put some music on, light some candles, eat chocolate, run a bath, do something you enjoy no matter how small.
The sun will rise earlier tomorrow and set later, spring is on the way, the green shoots of a new, fresh start are around the corner. This is a site for people looking for all kinds of different things but those that have posted (and more I'm sure) seem to care, you will know others that care, reach out mate, you're never alone even though you may not realise. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP can you ride out the storm? Can you stay in your safe bubble for now and know that when you wake up tomorrow things might feel better?
I hope so...sometimes it's possible to do that, other times it's worse! Tomorrow is another day
Beer is not the answer "
Beer helps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Keep chatting on here if it helps mate, read the daft topics, put some music on, light some candles, eat chocolate, run a bath, do something you enjoy no matter how small.
The sun will rise earlier tomorrow and set later, spring is on the way, the green shoots of a new, fresh start are around the corner. This is a site for people looking for all kinds of different things but those that have posted (and more I'm sure) seem to care, you will know others that care, reach out mate, you're never alone even though you may not realise."
Thank you pal, your words are much appreciated and very true |
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"Thank you so much guys for your responses, it's so nice knowing that there are some decent people out there
Unfortunately, tablets and drink are the norm for "forgetting" in a lot of cases....it's not good or healthy but sometimes we get accustomed
Your body won't thank you for it. Please consider speaking to your doctor. There's no shame in needing help.
I know this, I've tried but just get palmed off onto anti d's....they mask it over at times I guess"
I view antidepressants as a safety net (cutting off highs isn't a problem for me). Life is still hard, and you still fall off the tightrope, but you don't fall so hard or so fast, and they soften your landing. They've saved many lives, including my own.
Counselling is probably more important (learning coping mechanisms), but it's often very difficult to access unless you go private. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If anybody is in deep distress I would advise to Google grounding skills/techniques.
They are designed to help in the moment when distress tolerance is at it's peak. That should hopefully get somebody in deep distress through the initial crisis and then maybe a visit to a GP or an emergency call to a helpline would be the best way forward.
I've just copied this from another thread that I posted this on yesterday. I hope it's useful.
It is useful thank you kindly, I've looked into these techniques before, they don't really help too much...but maybe with a bit more practice they might?"
My lovely I can assure you they absolutely do work.
I understand it's very overwhelming when you're not feeling great but you have hit the nail on the head when you said you need to practice more. Maybe start with the breathing I know when you are in crisis or in a very dark place it feels like what is the point, and nothing is going to help. But it won't get any better if you don't at least try. I think the first thing you need to do right now is not drink any more alcohol and maybe get yourself a glass of water or a cup of coffee. X
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the most important thing right now is to get you through this moment and get you through today and be as positive as it is possible to be.
Others have made some fantastic suggestions regarding counselling and ongoing support but don't let that overwhelm you just get through the now. |
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"I think the most important thing right now is to get you through this moment and get you through today and be as positive as it is possible to be.
Others have made some fantastic suggestions regarding counselling and ongoing support but don't let that overwhelm you just get through the now. "
Yes, this is true. Grounding if you can. Samaritans are good. Drink water or something soothing (not alcoholic). Do something physically pleasurable (warm shower, wank yes I'm serious, etc). If you have to numb, TV, music, sleep. Get a good rest tonight if you can. Sleep is respite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some lovely caring messages here for you OP. People do care about you and want to know you are safe.
You need the anti-depressants to get you through the worst times, there's no shame in that. Over time small things change and life becomes better (slowly), you stop the anti-depressants then and work to get your life back. It will happen, you just need to realise this. There is a life for you and happiness.
I have been through this and am still going through it, just a lot further down the tracks than you are at the moment. It's lonely.
See your GP. Most Anti D's don't work instantly, tell your GP the honest truth of how you are feeling.
Alternatively, maybe this is just a hiccup on your road to recovery? I've had a few, focus on where you were and how far you have come. Don't drink. Force yourself out (I need to take my own advice on this one). If it is just a hiccup, see it as that...
Take care |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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This place drives me insane a lot of the time with the idiots that post on here on a daily basis, but.....
Every now and then, the decent ones come together to help out a fellow stranger, I can't thank you all enough for your support and suggestions....I will be taking them on board and fingers crossed, this is just a dip (a bad patch)
Who knows....
Thank you all, once again....if nothing else, my faith in strangers has been somewhat restored and the pure fact that people do care has put a small grin on my face
You lot are lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This place drives me insane a lot of the time with the idiots that post on here on a daily basis, but.....
Every now and then, the decent ones come together to help out a fellow stranger, I can't thank you all enough for your support and suggestions....I will be taking them on board and fingers crossed, this is just a dip (a bad patch)
Who knows....
Thank you all, once again....if nothing else, my faith in strangers has been somewhat restored and the pure fact that people do care has put a small grin on my face
You lot are lovely "
there will always be people that will listen.
You sound a lot more positive in that last post so that's definitely a step in the right direction.
Make yourself a nice hot drink get in the shower and maybe watch a film. It all seems rather trivial when you're not feeling in a great place but it will help you.
I'm not sure if you have already but maybe contact with your local mental health service would be a very good step. The grounding skills I was telling you about earlier A lot of mental health services actually run a course for free that teaches you how to use them effectively. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This place drives me insane a lot of the time with the idiots that post on here on a daily basis, but.....
Every now and then, the decent ones come together to help out a fellow stranger, I can't thank you all enough for your support and suggestions....I will be taking them on board and fingers crossed, this is just a dip (a bad patch)
Who knows....
Thank you all, once again....if nothing else, my faith in strangers has been somewhat restored and the pure fact that people do care has put a small grin on my face
You lot are lovely
there will always be people that will listen.
You sound a lot more positive in that last post so that's definitely a step in the right direction.
Make yourself a nice hot drink get in the shower and maybe watch a film. It all seems rather trivial when you're not feeling in a great place but it will help you.
I'm not sure if you have already but maybe contact with your local mental health service would be a very good step. The grounding skills I was telling you about earlier A lot of mental health services actually run a course for free that teaches you how to use them effectively. "
This lady is right in everything.
Also, watching a film helps you switch off and reset, I do this a lot.
I hum to myself if I'm at work or outside my house just to distract my mind, seems to work short term.
You need to develop techniques like grounding. Cognitive behavioral therapy is suppose to work with practise. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This place drives me insane a lot of the time with the idiots that post on here on a daily basis, but.....
Every now and then, the decent ones come together to help out a fellow stranger, I can't thank you all enough for your support and suggestions....I will be taking them on board and fingers crossed, this is just a dip (a bad patch)
Who knows....
Thank you all, once again....if nothing else, my faith in strangers has been somewhat restored and the pure fact that people do care has put a small grin on my face
You lot are lovely
there will always be people that will listen.
You sound a lot more positive in that last post so that's definitely a step in the right direction.
Make yourself a nice hot drink get in the shower and maybe watch a film. It all seems rather trivial when you're not feeling in a great place but it will help you.
I'm not sure if you have already but maybe contact with your local mental health service would be a very good step. The grounding skills I was telling you about earlier A lot of mental health services actually run a course for free that teaches you how to use them effectively.
This lady is right in everything.
Also, watching a film helps you switch off and reset, I do this a lot.
I hum to myself if I'm at work or outside my house just to distract my mind, seems to work short term.
You need to develop techniques like grounding. Cognitive behavioral therapy is suppose to work with practise. "
I have considered CBT before, but I dunno, you know when you just get that feeling that certain things won't help?
Films are a good way to go, they need to be "feel good" films though....and my goto genre is horror!
Thank you for the input though bud |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My lovely it won't help if you don't even consider it.
Don't think too far ahead at the moment don't rule anything out or anything in.
Right now we need to get you into a good place this evening so that you can feel relaxed and rested so that you can make further decisions.
We can talk about the rest tomorrow or whenever you are ready.
I always find when I'm not feeling great putting friends on Netflix helps. It's light-hearted and something I've seen 100 times, so it's easy viewing but it makes me feel relaxed and makes me laugh.
If that isn't for you then maybe there's another type of show that would be good to watch. X |
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