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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Today, someone said something to me which really made me realise the attitudes of non swingers.
I was told today, single people cannot be swingers,, they are just people shagging around... I know plenty of single swingers and i know alot of them that dont just " shag around" they have a few partners they regularly play with.
But what are others views on this... It truely shocked me that someone would say that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Today, someone said something to me which really made me realise the attitudes of non swingers.
I was told today, single people cannot be swingers,, they are just people shagging around... I know plenty of single swingers and i know alot of them that dont just " shag around" they have a few partners they regularly play with.
But what are others views on this... It truely shocked me that someone would say that."
I think that there are some that enjoy the lifestyle and some that look for an opportunistic bunk up. The latter serve a purpose IMO but I wouldn't call them swingers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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single or in couples still swinging, i fall into the single category but choose not to be in a relationship or with a fb but still put myself into the swinging category regardless x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Today, someone said something to me which really made me realise the attitudes of non swingers.
I was told today, single people cannot be swingers,, they are just people shagging around... I know plenty of single swingers and i know alot of them that dont just " shag around" they have a few partners they regularly play with.
But what are others views on this... It truely shocked me that someone would say that."
Swinging is just a label like "Hoover" is! You hoover the front room but you may do it with a dyson.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends how you define swinging? Is it wife swapping or is it people that enjoy recreational sex? Guess it also depends on how much you feel the need to pigeonhole people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Swinging is an umbrella term covering all aspects of sexual diversity
The wife swappers refuse to accept this unfortunately xx  "
and some husband swappers too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends how you define swinging? Is it wife swapping or is it people that enjoy recreational sex? Guess it also depends on how much you feel the need to pigeonhole people."
I like it with a ring on it.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"everyone who swings is shagging around really - even the couples
We arent shagging around... cant get a meet atm LOL
easily sorted  "
Oh La La!
is that a self invite to the hot tub when its hooked up ? :P |
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"Depends how you define swinging? Is it wife swapping or is it people that enjoy recreational sex? Guess it also depends on how much you feel the need to pigeonhole people."
Are they the only two options?
It has to be more than just enjoying recreational sex.... otherwise what's the difference between being a swinger and being on a dating site looking for casual sex or going in town and going on the pull.... do you think all of those people enjoying recreational sex think they are swingers? That would make cheating swinging, being a lone dogger swinging, the last shag for old times sake with an ex would be swinging.
1-2-1 sex with casual partners, whether that be one or two or 102, is just that... casual sex or recreational sex.
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"everyone who swings is shagging around really - even the couples
We arent shagging around... cant get a meet atm LOL
easily sorted
Oh La La!
is that a self invite to the hot tub when its hooked up ? :P"
i do like a good hot tub |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends how you define swinging? Is it wife swapping or is it people that enjoy recreational sex? Guess it also depends on how much you feel the need to pigeonhole people.
Are they the only two options?
It has to be more than just enjoying recreational sex.... otherwise what's the difference between being a swinger and being on a dating site looking for casual sex or going in town and going on the pull.... do you think all of those people enjoying recreational sex think they are swingers? That would make cheating swinging, being a lone dogger swinging, the last shag for old times sake with an ex would be swinging.
1-2-1 sex with casual partners, whether that be one or two or 102, is just that... casual sex or recreational sex.
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No I never said they were the only 2 options. To be honest it was a pretty minimalist answer because as soon as you mention "how to define a swinger" a hole of can of worms is honest.
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By *HandDNCouple
over a year ago
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TBH I don't understand the reason why singles are on swinger sites. I have a number of single mates who do quite well in the pubs and clubs and there are plenty of dating sites if online is your thing. What is it that attracts you to swinging sites. BTW I'm not having a go at singles I'm just curious. My view is that when we share ourselves with another couple then both couples are giving up something and experiencing something together, a shared intimacy if you like. It's more than just sex so that's swinging but a single isn't sharing on the same level so maybe it is just shagging??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The voyer has no active connection with anyone, but every month he turns up at the sex club
Why?
because the exhibitionist would be lost without him....
we all have a role in this performance single FB or married couple we all need each other to make the life happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a swingle and no I don't shag about as do not have the freedom to do so but I love the freedom that swinging gives me mainly in clubs as very rare have one on one nights If I want to be greedy fab if I want to play with the ladies great and if I want a good spit roast then yippeee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"TBH I don't understand the reason why singles are on swinger sites. I have a number of single mates who do quite well in the pubs and clubs and there are plenty of dating sites if online is your thing. What is it that attracts you to swinging sites. BTW I'm not having a go at singles I'm just curious. My view is that when we share ourselves with another couple then both couples are giving up something and experiencing something together, a shared intimacy if you like. It's more than just sex so that's swinging but a single isn't sharing on the same level so maybe it is just shagging??? "
ah but they could be sharing in an orgy. |
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"TBH I don't understand the reason why singles are on swinger sites. I have a number of single mates who do quite well in the pubs and clubs and there are plenty of dating sites if online is your thing. What is it that attracts you to swinging sites. BTW I'm not having a go at singles I'm just curious. My view is that when we share ourselves with another couple then both couples are giving up something and experiencing something together, a shared intimacy if you like. It's more than just sex so that's swinging but a single isn't sharing on the same level so maybe it is just shagging??? "
if there were no singles on here what would all the couples looking for bi fems do???
or the couples looking for bi MMF's???
how many couple profiles state that they are only looking to play with songle fems or single guys??? |
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"TBH I don't understand the reason why singles are on swinger sites. I have a number of single mates who do quite well in the pubs and clubs and there are plenty of dating sites if online is your thing. What is it that attracts you to swinging sites. BTW I'm not having a go at singles I'm just curious. My view is that when we share ourselves with another couple then both couples are giving up something and experiencing something together, a shared intimacy if you like. It's more than just sex so that's swinging but a single isn't sharing on the same level so maybe it is just shagging??? "
I agree it is just shagging... it just so happens that swinging sites are as good a place as any to get a shag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"TBH I don't understand the reason why singles are on swinger sites. I have a number of single mates who do quite well in the pubs and clubs and there are plenty of dating sites if online is your thing. What is it that attracts you to swinging sites. BTW I'm not having a go at singles I'm just curious. My view is that when we share ourselves with another couple then both couples are giving up something and experiencing something together, a shared intimacy if you like. It's more than just sex so that's swinging but a single isn't sharing on the same level so maybe it is just shagging???
if there were no singles on here what would all the couples looking for bi fems do???
or the couples looking for bi MMF's???
how many couple profiles state that they are only looking to play with songle fems or single guys???"
yeah! fair play, singles are still sharing their pussies and cocks.  |
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By *HandDNCouple
over a year ago
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Like I said wasn't having a go and asked the question out of curiosity. Have met singles at m&g's and parties and have enjoyed their company and I wasn't saying not to have them but there are alternatives for them to meet people for whatever, not so many alternatives for couples to meet like minded couples. Hence the question in the first place, curiosity killed the cat, looks like it seems to have offended here so apologies if I've offended anyone with my question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Today, someone said something to me which really made me realise the attitudes of non swingers.
I was told today, single people cannot be swingers,, they are just people shagging around... I know plenty of single swingers and i know alot of them that dont just " shag around" they have a few partners they regularly play with.
But what are others views on this... It truely shocked me that someone would say that."
i dont class myself as a swinger, i just use swinging sites to meet people |
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Even though many struggle to agree on what a swinger is… for fear of excluding someone, like being excluded means you’re second class or something… it is often easier to get people to agree on what is not a swinger.
Most will agree someone who has an attitude of “no way would I be on here if I was in a relationship and no fucking way would I want a partner of mine to do this” is not the attitude of a swinger.
Most will agree that those who have no interest in group sex, 3somes, or anything other than 1-2-1 sex with a regular partner and believe being with a partner means monogamy, is not the attitude of a swinger.
So it does kind of follow that to be a swinger you should at least believe being in a relationship doesn’t mean sex is something shared only between the two of you.
On a site where so many singles argue against being labelled, you’ll also find so many prepared to defend their ‘swinger’ status…. “I’m not sleeping around, I’m a swinger, it’s different” …… newsflash, it’s not!
If you really feel the need to distinguish yourself from other single people who are sleeping around, may be you should look deep within your own conscience as to why you have that need. Claming the label of ‘swinger’ does not sanitise your actions.
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"Today, someone said something to me which really made me realise the attitudes of non swingers.
I was told today, single people cannot be swingers,, they are just people shagging around... I know plenty of single swingers and i know alot of them that dont just " shag around" they have a few partners they regularly play with.
But what are others views on this... It truely shocked me that someone would say that."
meh im shocked ppl can attack a woman who likes gangbangs and group sex.
Fact is swinging is an attitude,one which many ppl on swing sites dont share, there are couples on here who are not swingers by any workable defintion, dont let it get to you.Yes there are ppl here just looking for an easy shag between relationships, they are the men who say there wives will never swing,only you know your attitudes. However i am worried by your idea that a few regular partners makes you a swining single  |
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A single person having only 1-1 meets is not a swinger....My opinion!
Straight couples meeting other straight couples and going for full swap...Not swingers...Again, my opinion!
Bi couples meeting other bi couples and/or single bi guy/female....and going all out....Swingers....Yip, you guessed it...MY opinion...
Does joining a swingers site and going to swingers clubs make you a swinger? NO..
Does anyone really care? Nope 
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"A single person having only 1-1 meets is not a swinger....My opinion!
Straight couples meeting other straight couples and going for full swap...Not swingers...Again, my opinion!
Bi couples meeting other bi couples and/or single bi guy/female....and going all out....Swingers....Yip, you guessed it...MY opinion...
Does joining a swingers site and going to swingers clubs make you a swinger? NO..
Does anyone really care? Nope
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care to give us your gospel on what a swinger is |
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"A single person having only 1-1 meets is not a swinger....My opinion!
Straight couples meeting other straight couples and going for full swap...Not swingers...Again, my opinion!
Bi couples meeting other bi couples and/or single bi guy/female....and going all out....Swingers....Yip, you guessed it...MY opinion...
Does joining a swingers site and going to swingers clubs make you a swinger? NO..
Does anyone really care? Nope
care to give us your gospel on what a swinger is "
I did....In my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A single person having only 1-1 meets is not a swinger....My opinion!
Straight couples meeting other straight couples and going for full swap...Not swingers...Again, my opinion!
Bi couples meeting other bi couples and/or single bi guy/female....and going all out....Swingers....Yip, you guessed it...MY opinion...
Does joining a swingers site and going to swingers clubs make you a swinger? NO..
Does anyone really care? Nope
care to give us your gospel on what a swinger is "
going but whats been said there you have to be a bi couple who meets other bi people either another bi couple or a bi single to be a swinger? cause singles and straight people arnt swingers?
thats how i read it anyhoo lol |
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going but whats been said there you have to be a bi couple who meets other bi people either another bi couple or a bi single to be a swinger? cause singles and straight people arnt swingers?
thats how i read it anyhoo lol"
Bi couples....Swingers...
Bi singles....Swingers...
I dont care how anyone defines the term swinger, to me it means "Swings both ways"...
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"A single person having only 1-1 meets is not a swinger....My opinion!
Straight couples meeting other straight couples and going for full swap...Not swingers...Again, my opinion!
Bi couples meeting other bi couples and/or single bi guy/female....and going all out....Swingers....Yip, you guessed it...MY opinion...
Does joining a swingers site and going to swingers clubs make you a swinger? NO..
Does anyone really care? Nope
care to give us your gospel on what a swinger is
going but whats been said there you have to be a bi couple who meets other bi people either another bi couple or a bi single to be a swinger? cause singles and straight people arnt swingers?
thats how i read it anyhoo lol"
and this is why i stopped calling myself a swinger
do i have to go do another forum search and find my non judgmental non exclusive definition,it so good i think admin should turn it into a sticky |
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"Oh so we have to go on your definition and not what we ourselves think???
I think not
no,carry on being small minded if that works for you
It works very well for me TY "
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"Gotta laugh at the so called "Non judgemental" people who use this forum!
Small minded because I dare have my own opinion on things! Shame on me!!!
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no, small minded because u exclude ppl because they dont meet your opinion, laugh all you want, but prejudice is ugly, |
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If we were bi I could understand your accusations of me excluding others....
It is an open forum and everyone is entitled to their own opinions...You included!
For someone who hates "labels" you are very quick to label others that do not agree with you!
And yes, it still makes me laugh!
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"my label fell orf im not sure what i am
Been trying to figure that one out myself "
well im a _emmefatale...thats my story and im sticking to it( not literally as i wiped my foo foo) please to make your acquaintance |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Even though many struggle to agree on what a swinger is… for fear of excluding someone, like being excluded means you’re second class or something… it is often easier to get people to agree on what is not a swinger.
Most will agree someone who has an attitude of “no way would I be on here if I was in a relationship and no fucking way would I want a partner of mine to do this” is not the attitude of a swinger.
Most will agree that those who have no interest in group sex, 3somes, or anything other than 1-2-1 sex with a regular partner and believe being with a partner means monogamy, is not the attitude of a swinger.
So it does kind of follow that to be a swinger you should at least believe being in a relationship doesn’t mean sex is something shared only between the two of you.
On a site where so many singles argue against being labelled, you’ll also find so many prepared to defend their ‘swinger’ status…. “I’m not sleeping around, I’m a swinger, it’s different” …… newsflash, it’s not!
If you really feel the need to distinguish yourself from other single people who are sleeping around, may be you should look deep within your own conscience as to why you have that need. Claming the label of ‘swinger’ does not sanitise your actions.
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+1, totally agree, i simply cant be arsed defining it, i know why im here and enjoying it,if others want to to tell me, "ohh your not/ you are",then marvelous. |
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I have found that the people who are so hung up on definitions and putting us all into our 'proper' boxes are generally messed up people who are clinging to a justification for what they do. If I'm not your type then simply say no thanks and move on. If you have to lay into my single swinging status and abuse me then it all stinks of desperation and insecurity.
I'm not particularly bothered what label I give myself, or what label others give me.
As in vanilla life the only opinions which truly affect me are those belonging to the ones I love. And though my swinging friends have become close... 
Experience has told me that its usually sour grapes that leads to label slinging. Due either to a no thanks or to my having played with someone they're persuing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like I said wasn't having a go and asked the question out of curiosity. Have met singles at m&g's and parties and have enjoyed their company and I wasn't saying not to have them but there are alternatives for them to meet people for whatever, not so many alternatives for couples to meet like minded couples. Hence the question in the first place, curiosity killed the cat, looks like it seems to have offended here so apologies if I've offended anyone with my question. "
As a single - absolutely no offence taken! And not the slightest bit worried as to being defined as a swinger or not either! As someone who's been in here as both a single and previously as a couple I guess I use the site for the same reason as most - meeting openminded people for consensual fun! I don't see it as a 'stop-gap' between relationships, or an alternative to the traditional hooking up in pubs/clubs. I do it because it's the best way to meet people with less sexual hang ups, those happy enough in themselves to be able to differentiate between good clean fun and a casual, d*unken Friday night bunk up and those that are not going to get confused between sharing a physical experience and the urge to start a full blown relationship straight after! Plus (so far anyway!) I've found that so called 'swingers' have a far more sensible approach to safety, health and good hygiene.
That of course and as my personal preference is for playing with couples - kinda hard to broach the subject over a beer in a bar! Lol. At the end of the day we are all here for our own wants and desires and so long as we respect those we interact with you can label me as whatever you want!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Today, someone said something to me which really made me realise the attitudes of non swingers.
I was told today, single people cannot be swingers,, they are just people shagging around... I know plenty of single swingers and i know alot of them that dont just " shag around" they have a few partners they regularly play with.
But what are others views on this... It truely shocked me that someone would say that."
Beinga swinger is a lifestyle choice that has become part of my psyche (spelling!), so whether I am single, attatched or even married is largely irrelevant. |
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By *HandDNCouple
over a year ago
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"Like I said wasn't having a go and asked the question out of curiosity. Have met singles at m&g's and parties and have enjoyed their company and I wasn't saying not to have them but there are alternatives for them to meet people for whatever, not so many alternatives for couples to meet like minded couples. Hence the question in the first place, curiosity killed the cat, looks like it seems to have offended here so apologies if I've offended anyone with my question.
As a single - absolutely no offence taken! And not the slightest bit worried as to being defined as a swinger or not either! As someone who's been in here as both a single and previously as a couple I guess I use the site for the same reason as most - meeting openminded people for consensual fun! I don't see it as a 'stop-gap' between relationships, or an alternative to the traditional hooking up in pubs/clubs. I do it because it's the best way to meet people with less sexual hang ups, those happy enough in themselves to be able to differentiate between good clean fun and a casual, d*unken Friday night bunk up and those that are not going to get confused between sharing a physical experience and the urge to start a full blown relationship straight after! Plus (so far anyway!) I've found that so called 'swingers' have a far more sensible approach to safety, health and good hygiene.
That of course and as my personal preference is for playing with couples - kinda hard to broach the subject over a beer in a bar! Lol. At the end of the day we are all here for our own wants and desires and so long as we respect those we interact with you can label me as whatever you want!! "
Thanks, fair points and my curiosity has been satisfied, now I have to go find something else to be curious about and who knows what that will lead to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Today, someone said something to me which really made me realise the attitudes of non swingers.
I was told today, single people cannot be swingers,, they are just people shagging around... I know plenty of single swingers and i know alot of them that dont just " shag around" they have a few partners they regularly play with.
But what are others views on this... It truely shocked me that someone would say that.
meh im shocked ppl can attack a woman who likes gangbangs and group sex.
Fact is swinging is an attitude,one which many ppl on swing sites dont share, there are couples on here who are not swingers by any workable defintion, dont let it get to you.Yes there are ppl here just looking for an easy shag between relationships, they are the men who say there wives will never swing,only you know your attitudes. However i am worried by your idea that a few regular partners makes you a swining single "
Im not saying that's the only thing that makes you a swinger by any means so please dont be worries... i personally think its more of an attitude to sex and incorporating that in your lifestyle what i was pointing out with is that its not just people shagging anyone they can whenever they can.
And WelshBBW - We will be visiting Wales at some point this year on the bikes (if people from another forum get their act together and actually sort out dates) so if we are heading your way we will give you a shout and meet up for a drink or something
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By (user no longer on site)
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I define swinging as recreational sex involving more than two people. I think there are many swingles who'd like to be part of an establoshed swinging couple and there are those swingles who have been so and have no wish to be in a permanent relationship but still enjoy multiple partners, often simultaneously. Then there are those swingles who like the lifestyle but would never dream of sharing a partner once they become attached.
Then there are those SINGLES who see this as a route to easy sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I define swinging as recreational sex involving more than two people. I think there are many swingles who'd like to be part of an establoshed swinging couple and there are those swingles who have been so and have no wish to be in a permanent relationship but still enjoy multiple partners, often simultaneously. Then there are those swingles who like the lifestyle but would never dream of sharing a partner once they become attached.
Then there are those SINGLES who see this as a route to easy sex."
Think that pretty much sums it up!! And quite liking the word swingle! Think they'll ever set up a 'Fabswingles'?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I define swinging as recreational sex involving more than two people. I think there are many swingles who'd like to be part of an establoshed swinging couple and there are those swingles who have been so and have no wish to be in a permanent relationship but still enjoy multiple partners, often simultaneously. Then there are those swingles who like the lifestyle but would never dream of sharing a partner once they become attached.
Then there are those SINGLES who see this as a route to easy sex.
Think that pretty much sums it up!! And quite liking the word swingle! Think they'll ever set up a 'Fabswingles'?? "
Its called Fabflirts lol |
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