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Guys who won’t have socials

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

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By *sm81Couple over a year ago

warwickshire

Only had 4 socials and they have never expected anything, although I'm sure they wouldn't have said no if it was offered

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

Never had that and it would be an instant Toodleoo from me if I did. Sounds disrespectful and rude to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately some guys just see this site as a way for a quick fuck. Whilst really it's the opposite.

I like to think of it as a way to make some like minded friends. Anything else is a bonus

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"Never had that and it would be an instant Toodleoo from me if I did. Sounds disrespectful and rude to me

That was meant to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't remember the last time that someone accepted an invitation of a social.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

So tell them this in no uncertain terms. A guy demanding guarantees of this kind deserves to be told where to go.

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By *sm81Couple over a year ago

warwickshire

"Unfortunately some guys just see this site as a way for a quick fuck. Whilst really it's the opposite.

I like to think of it as a way to make some like minded friends. Anything else is a bonus"

Definatly a good way to make friends and agree that anything more is a bonus, the swinging life is not something you can talk to your family/friends about, whereas the people in here know all about it and don't care

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

I'm not easy either.

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’ve had this a couple of times now, if they don’t back off from that thought then they find themselves in the exclusive block list.

Also those that insist on meeting immediately without so much of a chat “because we all know why we’re here”. Then called a fake if you don’t want to meet immediately!

Some men like to throw their dummies out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have had a few, that start as a social and then progress but we always “market” (probably wrong word) them as a social. If they aren’t willing to meet for what they believe is a social, they don’t get a chance at anything else. Don’t get us wrong, we’ve had a lot of meets that are purely socials, but we aren’t adverse to turning it into something more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If they wouldn’t agree to a social, I wouldn’t bother with them. Like that lovely chap said above, it’s a way to make new friends and anything else is a bonus.x

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

I wouldn't meet without a social. Could be an absolute munter compared to pics or have zero chemistry. I'd be telling them to toodle ooo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A social is a must really, someone could look nice on the outside but rotten to the core, and that works both ways. There should be no expectations.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's a social? Id love to find out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unfortunately some guys just see this site as a way for a quick fuck. Whilst really it's the opposite.

I like to think of it as a way to make some like minded friends. Anything else is a bonus"

OP says it wasnt on here...

Either way its disrespectful..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope and I wouldn’t either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

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By *ellbound_GhoulwarpWoman over a year ago

Fifth Circle of Hell

Loads of times and gets right on my tits!

Some guys string the conversations on up til a few days before the agreed date and then decide they wont do a social and some straight up refuse to do them.

Now at the point I just block and move on.

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!"

Not a sex site.....

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Never had that situation, I'd tell him to fuck off.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

leeds

I'd suggest if they want to have a guaranteed sure thing they need to see a professional and pay the going rate.

Everyone has the right to decide without pressure if they want to take things further which also applies to the professionals, so basically he needs his attitude adjusted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's a social? Id love to find out "

It's an initial interview to see if you get through to round 2

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rather have a good social meet up and see how it goes from there not just turn up and expect to get my end away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site....."

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happy either way had some great socials guys are missing out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site "

I disagree, it's a site for people who like sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!"

Says the guy with no veri's.... Maby your doing it wrong ?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I prefer a social first, but have had quite a few ladies travel up from the South Coast to meet me and stop over for a few nights, I suppose actually talking on the phone is what makes a difference?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site "

Not everyone does

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!"

Meaning?? Just because people want a social doesnt mean they are looking for a date. Personally I never commit to anyone on here. Social or even better club visit works.

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!"

And I wouldn’t put myself out there for anyone, there should NEVER be an expectation of sex regardless of what site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Was from here but was chatting on kik.

Like I’ve met guys for what was supposed to be a social and ended up having full sex with one guy the first time I met him. Other guys I’ve sucked off on the first meet.

I’m not adverse to doing things I just won’t commit to it until we’ve met in the flesh. Plus I find it really off putting when you know a guy is wanting something from you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would be the last I heard from them.

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By *wingin CatMan over a year ago

London

Fuck them, basically.

If that's their attitude, tell them to go elsewhere and pay for it.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site "

Courtesy of The Sun article.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was from here but was chatting on kik.

Like I’ve met guys for what was supposed to be a social and ended up having full sex with one guy the first time I met him. Other guys I’ve sucked off on the first meet.

I’m not adverse to doing things I just won’t commit to it until we’ve met in the flesh. Plus I find it really off putting when you know a guy is wanting something from you. "

That’s different though. We’ve probably all gone a bit further than intended on a social but to expect it is different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site

I disagree, it's a site for people who like sex. "

It's a site for people who like to think they have better sex than others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At least he wasn't sketchy

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've had men who said they were up for a social then the next day, just say, lets skip the social, I'll just come round to yours!

'No You Fucking Won't' Is my response and either block or just ignore, I can't be arsed with that shit!

And it make it absolutely clear.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

Find that type of guy disrespectful, and if honest boring with sex and conversation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Should be no expectation of anything and I personally don't understand sending nasty messages when no reply.

Take it to seriously, you must have some internal struggle going on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This song springs to mind...

https://youtu.be/-J-EfWyW_Xg

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

leeds

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!"

It is a site where people who enjoy recreational sex can interact and possible find willing partners to do so.

That doesn't mean anyone will fuck anyone who asks without any preamble

As a woman if I'm meeting without my man I need to see the person in a no pressure social, to see if there's if they seem nice , if we have chemistry, find out if they smell good and have excellent oral hygiene.

Things that are difficult to bring up and decide to halt proceedings if your in a hotel room and the guy has his trousers round his ankles.

Not to mention dangerous.

So yes , socials are necessary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I've had this I've had guys said they will I be metre for a social if I guarantee I will have sex with them. I've had other guys say they don't like going to pubs or cafes so they would only have a social at my house. Needless to say the conversation stops quite quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Was from here but was chatting on kik.

Like I’ve met guys for what was supposed to be a social and ended up having full sex with one guy the first time I met him. Other guys I’ve sucked off on the first meet.

I’m not adverse to doing things I just won’t commit to it until we’ve met in the flesh. Plus I find it really off putting when you know a guy is wanting something from you.

That’s different though. We’ve probably all gone a bit further than intended on a social but to expect it is different. "

Yeah like the guys I’ve done things with have never expected anything to happen on the first meet. It’s always been mutually agreed and sometimes I’ve even initiated it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Find that type of guy disrespectful, and if honest boring with sex and conversation"

Did you know the a year on Venus is shorter then a week.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"What's a social? Id love to find out

It's an initial interview to see if you get through to round 2 "

Is this the FA Cup?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Social first here too! If they don't like that, there are thousands of other local single women to mes....oh, wait!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

Flat out no !!! If they want to treat women like hookers then they need to pay for a hooker !! I think due to some not caring what someone looks like or if they can hold a conversation or have some banter sexual chemistry etc has more to say about them than me so keep looking desperste and rude !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've not had anyone demand anything like that, but some gave started talking about having a little kiss or touching under the table.

I found that those ones don't actually accommodate and only want a fumble or a blow job in an alley.

Now I talk a long time on here, then on my phone and then go straight to theirs, or agree to a drink before going straight to theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was from here but was chatting on kik.

Like I’ve met guys for what was supposed to be a social and ended up having full sex with one guy the first time I met him. Other guys I’ve sucked off on the first meet.

I’m not adverse to doing things I just won’t commit to it until we’ve met in the flesh. Plus I find it really off putting when you know a guy is wanting something from you.

That’s different though. We’ve probably all gone a bit further than intended on a social but to expect it is different.

Yeah like the guys I’ve done things with have never expected anything to happen on the first meet. It’s always been mutually agreed and sometimes I’ve even initiated it. "

Same but then it’s your choice x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only time I had a social beforehand, we ended up not meeting for sex.

The dude has a point it seems

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are all sex sites, but that's not the point. I won't go to a social unless it's understood that there are no guarantees as to what might happen, ie no obligation on either side. I spend time chatting before the prospect of a social anyway, but there is never any condition attached to meeting.

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site "

People have them out on Instagram .... you gonna tell me that's a sex site! Away and boil yer heid eh

There's flesh everywhere...its the 21st century. Swinging isn't purely sexual... and for those that swing it's the icing on the cake not the cake itself.

Sex site... make me laugh man

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Socials are vital... for men and women. Subsequent play time is going to be so much better....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site....."

I'd say most folk are predominantly here hoping to get sex...regardless of how they go about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...just a coffee would be nice ...

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site

People have them out on Instagram .... you gonna tell me that's a sex site! Away and boil yer heid eh

There's flesh everywhere...its the 21st century. Swinging isn't purely sexual... and for those that swing it's the icing on the cake not the cake itself.

Sex site... make me laugh man "

So true!

Purely for safety reasons; social first

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

" Away and boil yer heid "

I never had you down as a Jock

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

" Away and boil yer heid

I never had you down as a Jock

Really??? Dunno how! Thought all knew I was

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like a social, easier to tell if there's an attraction in person

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

"...just a coffee would be nice ...

I shall shout you a coffee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely that's not a social it's just a drink before a fuck? Kinda defeats the purpose.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Away and boil yer heid

I never had you down as a Jock

Really??? Dunno how! Thought all knew I was "

Ah. That explains the blue lips then

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

" Away and boil yer heid

I never had you down as a Jock

Really??? Dunno how! Thought all knew I was

Ah. That explains the blue lips then

Aye always cold!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm up for a social. If any ladies want to message me feel free. I think social is better that way you get to know each other

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I'd say most folk are predominantly here hoping to get sex...regardless of how they go about it "

It is a hookup site with some awingers on it. Diversity is good.

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By *ouis CyphreMan over a year ago

The Midlands

Unconditional socials are conditional

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just didn’t like the pressure of it. Like how can you know if you’ll want to have sex with someone if you haven’t seen them first in the flesh!?

Imagine the scene, meet a guy in a public place for a social no experience rations other than a chat and a hot drink or even just meet them someone and have a chat in the car it doesn’t have to be a big deal.

But if you meet and have told the guy that you’ll shag him but then when you get there you don’t want to you’ve potentially put yourself in a situation where the guy could be pissed off.

Just makes sense to meet socially first and then if anything happens it’s a bonus. Shouldn’t have any expectations.

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

Very happy to have a social, just give me the chance......!!!!

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Have you seen a face pic?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you seen a face pic?"

Yeah seen a couple

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By *andonmessMan over a year ago

A world all of his own

Very happy to have socials and certainly never expected anything from them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just didn’t like the pressure of it. Like how can you know if you’ll want to have sex with someone if you haven’t seen them first in the flesh!?

But if you meet and have told the guy that you’ll shag him but then when you get there you don’t want to you’ve potentially put yourself in a situation where the guy could be pissed off.

Just makes sense to meet socially first and then if anything happens it’s a bonus. Shouldn’t have any expectations. "

Always have a flask of coffee in the car when it's this cold.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Have you seen a face pic?

Yeah seen a couple "

Not that that would make any difference, could be anyone!

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

They’ve never said beforehand, but they hint at going to their car for a blowjob or a wank. That usually turns me off if i’m honest. I like my sexual encounters a bit more passionate than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you seen a face pic?

Yeah seen a couple

Not that that would make any difference, could be anyone! "

Exactly and then they have you saying that you would have sex with them.

Or they could be old pictures or could look different in the flesh. You can only tell by meeting in the flesh if you want to do anything sexual with them.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

If someone is expecting "guaranteed" sex from a meet then they're confusing you with a prostitute.

And to be honest even sex workers have the right to say no.

Avoid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just didn’t like the pressure of it. Like how can you know if you’ll want to have sex with someone if you haven’t seen them first in the flesh!?

But if you meet and have told the guy that you’ll shag him but then when you get there you don’t want to you’ve potentially put yourself in a situation where the guy could be pissed off.

Just makes sense to meet socially first and then if anything happens it’s a bonus. Shouldn’t have any expectations. "

If I feel any pressure to do anything my mind switches off.

They might as well be a cold haddock in my bed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

Maybe he is feeling you have friend-zoned him already and is pushing back. Or feels you are juggling a few and he is a backup. Or knows something (pictures, age) that will count against him when you meet. Something is making him feel insecure and doubt his chances of things progressing further.

Or we apply the Occam's Razor test and come to the conclusion he is just a moron and thinks of you as a piece of meat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

Or we apply the Occam's Razor test and come to the conclusion he is just a moron and thinks of you as a piece of meat."

If someone friend zones you do you demand sex if you want to have a chat?

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

You should have said yes to his bj and yes to him definitely getting fucked.

Then when you've had the social you can introduce him to your 20 stone big butch male gay friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I’ve had a few men say this to me so convo ends there. Apart from the obvious safety issue, I have had a few socials where they don’t look like their pics and one guy with horrendous bad breath so he wasn’t getting a kiss never mind anything else. A little respect goes

a long way. I’m sure it’s his loss OP.

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By *arren the doggerMan over a year ago

willenhall

I would bloody love a social !! I'm doing something wrong somewhere!

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By *edoriartyCouple over a year ago

Peterborough

It's really up to them isn't it, if they accept that they won't get to meet women who insist on a social then that's their choice

Same as women who insist on a social won't get to meet guys who don't have them.

Nobody's right or wrong it's just an incompatibility, one of many that can prevent a meet happening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a strange one.

I have had a few socials knowing sex was never going to happen but just enjoyed the company of a fab friend.

Fab isn't all about sex!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a strange one.

I have had a few socials knowing sex was never going to happen but just enjoyed the company of a fab friend.

Fab isn't all about sex!"

Same here. I still do. Fabs what you want it to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a strange one.

I have had a few socials knowing sex was never going to happen but just enjoyed the company of a fab friend.

Fab isn't all about sex!"

Precisely this... every social I have is a social for the company and new person to chat shit with and have a giggle. Anything after that is a bonus whether it’s social into sexual or social to second social/meet

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By *omewhatSlightlyDazedMan over a year ago

Warwick Birmingham & YamYamLand

Personally I really enjoy socials. Doesn't bother me if nouthing is going to happen. I like meeting new people and learning what they enjoy or dislike etc... and just having a laugh

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By *Devil77Man over a year ago

West Midlands

Personally, I'd never expect or ask for anything other than a drink and a chat on a first meet.

Met a couple last year who wanted to play on a first meet (at their house) but I was uncomfortable as their kids were running about upstairs.

When I said no, they got the hump and blocked me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All the time,also guys who say they are coming but never turn up xxx Aaahhh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I'd never expect or ask for anything other than a drink and a chat on a first meet.

Met a couple last year who wanted to play on a first meet (at their house) but I was uncomfortable as their kids were running about upstairs.

When I said no, they got the hump and blocked me!

Ive had the same thing. Got to a house and kids were up. Got told its ok they keep themselves amused. Yer righto. I left

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I'd say most folk are predominantly here hoping to get sex...regardless of how they go about it

It is a hookup site with some awingers on it. Diversity is good.

Says the hidden profile with Sydney uni BS..... "

What has the status of my profile got to do with this discussion?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people don't know the meaning of the word social. Some think it's foreplay. Some think a group social is an orgy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bottom line is sex of any level happens only when all involved agree to it. If you get horny first meeting why not, if you get to second meeting and it doesn't feel right sex while being likely is not compulsory or guarenteed despite originating from fab.

Block him OP, you will have a dozen lined up before he even notices it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I'd never expect or ask for anything other than a drink and a chat on a first meet.

Met a couple last year who wanted to play on a first meet (at their house) but I was uncomfortable as their kids were running about upstairs.

When I said no, they got the hump and blocked me!

Ive had the same thing. Got to a house and kids were up. Got told its ok they keep themselves amused. Yer righto. I left"

Omg!

. That’s just awful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I'd never expect or ask for anything other than a drink and a chat on a first meet.

Met a couple last year who wanted to play on a first meet (at their house) but I was uncomfortable as their kids were running about upstairs.

When I said no, they got the hump and blocked me!

Ive had the same thing. Got to a house and kids were up. Got told its ok they keep themselves amused. Yer righto. I left

Omg!

. That’s just awful

I've chatted to a couple of guys who have said that something like this has happened.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Was also told that because I’m on here and have pictures of my tits and arse public I should expect guys will want to fuck me. Hmm ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I'd never expect or ask for anything other than a drink and a chat on a first meet.

Met a couple last year who wanted to play on a first meet (at their house) but I was uncomfortable as their kids were running about upstairs.

When I said no, they got the hump and blocked me!

Ive had the same thing. Got to a house and kids were up. Got told its ok they keep themselves amused. Yer righto. I left

Omg!

. That’s just awful

I've chatted to a couple of guys who have said that something like this has happened. "

I always say I don’t judge but this time i am. I’m sorry but that’s disgusting.

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I just refer guys to my profile if they try that on! I make it more than clear I’m not into instafuck! Their problem if they can’t read!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

Ie we go to the zoo and have a plan to go to one of our places later. If we dont get on fair enough but if we do the option is there its not "well this was great but one of both of us have plans now so its over".

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site "

Sex is nice, but ONLY if the other person wants it as well. If you fuck somebody from here and you enjoy it but they don’t enjoy you, what’s the point?? That’s why people meet in person socially without expectations...

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site "

Nope, the clue is in the name, fabswingers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)"

I bet it was Chester zoo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was also told that because I’m on here and have pictures of my tits and arse public I should expect guys will want to fuck me. Hmm ok. "

Fair enough, but that doesn't mean you will want to fuck them.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"Was also told that because I’m on here and have pictures of my tits and arse public I should expect guys will want to fuck me. Hmm ok. "

Yes, guys will want to fuck you.

Doesn't mean they can, and doesn't mean he can expect anything form a social, you still have free choice about what goes on, if he doesn't like it, tell him to jog the fuck on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site

Nope, the clue is in the name, fabswingers."

So by this logic Ashley Madison wasn't an affair site ? :p

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)

I bet it was Chester zoo

Yep

I still cant belive they had a fire and only fish died

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

Now I am shocked. I have read the words "waste of time". Meeting someone to find out if you like them or not - a waste of time?!

Lost for words.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!! "

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really..

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By *iverscuMan over a year ago

Berkshire

Social first is a must.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

Hope you told him to fuck off?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

" Away and boil yer heid

I never had you down as a Jock

Really??? Dunno how! Thought all knew I was "

Well I spent 6 years with an Aberdonian lady who was 13 years my senior in 1990, and she taught me a few tricks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Away and boil yer heid

I never had you down as a Jock

Really??? Dunno how! Thought all knew I was

Well I spent 6 years with an Aberdonian lady who was 13 years my senior in 1990, and she taught me a few tricks

You spent 6 years with someone in 1990? Blimey, even Stephen Hawking would have struggled with that one...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social

I refused to meet someone last year because she didn't want a social first. Truth is, my spidey senses were tingling about the profile being real and she wouldn't meet me for a coffee or anything first. She lived in a dodgy part of town and she refused to meet me in the city centre. So it didn't happen.

"Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I don't blame you. What if you meet the guy and there's not much attraction or it turns out he's a total loon. If you are in a public place at least you could alert the staff that the guy is a weirdo and they can help you.

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By *nobMan over a year ago

newport

I meet for a social if I had the opportunity.

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By *ust ClareTV/TS over a year ago

Settlewick!

I've had socials where they've got more than they expected,and meets where nothing has actually happened.

It purely depends on a modicum of chemistry and I never feel obligated to do anything,but I can understand how a woman may be pressured and uncomfortable in that situation

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really.. "

Yes....and I also have COFFEE FIRST, SOMEWHERE MUTUAL. That alright with you?!!!!!!

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

" Away and boil yer heid

I never had you down as a Jock

Really??? Dunno how! Thought all knew I was

Well I spent 6 years with an Aberdonian lady who was 13 years my senior in 1990, and she taught me a few tricks

You spent 6 years with someone in 1990? Blimey, even Stephen Hawking would have struggled with that one..."

If that was your attempt at humour, then stick to the day job

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We never do social only meets, not into being interviewed and assessed just to have fun, we meet, chat and if we click we play that evening, simple. We refuse to meet ANYONE for a social only, it’s tedious

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We never do social only meets, not into being interviewed and assessed just to have fun, we meet, chat and if we click we play that evening, simple. We refuse to meet ANYONE for a social only, it’s tedious"

What if you don’t click, what would that initial meeting have been called?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Away and boil yer heid

I never had you down as a Jock

Really??? Dunno how! Thought all knew I was

Well I spent 6 years with an Aberdonian lady who was 13 years my senior in 1990, and she taught me a few tricks

You spent 6 years with someone in 1990? Blimey, even Stephen Hawking would have struggled with that one...

If that was your attempt at humour, then stick to the day job

My day job is a stand-up comedian. Albeit a shit one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What if you don’t click, what would that initial meeting have been called?"

If we don’t click we don’t play, no need to call it anything, it’s not even a social if we don’t click

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By *imited 3EditionCouple over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

Yes I've had that with single males who make out they're up for a NSA social but as the meet gets nearer and they can't get confirmation of A or B above, they end up backing out. I know it's their loss not mine.... But it's still annoying!

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Its a bit different when there's 2 of you though, from a safety point of view.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Now I am shocked. I have read the words "waste of time". Meeting someone to find out if you like them or not - a waste of time?!

Lost for words."

Well meeting somone for coffee for a short period to decide if you like them is a bit of a waste of time.

It doesnt tell you much at all about them. I also find it bizzare the idea of meeting somone before youre sure you like them.

Shouldnt you have worked that out before hand?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What if you don’t click, what would that initial meeting have been called?

If we don’t click we don’t play, no need to call it anything, it’s not even a social if we don’t click"

what is it then? An interview?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really..

Yes....and I also have COFFEE FIRST, SOMEWHERE MUTUAL. That alright with you?!!!!!!

Anywhere you meet for coffee together would be mutual :p unless you're tele confrencing

Why not have the coffe at his if you dont like him leave.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What if you don’t click, what would that initial meeting have been called?

If we don’t click we don’t play, no need to call it anything, it’s not even a social if we don’t click

what is it then? An interview?

I’m not sure that’s actually the point of this thread, just making the point if someone asks us to have a social only meet with no possibility of play that evening, we are not interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really..

Yes....and I also have COFFEE FIRST, SOMEWHERE MUTUAL. That alright with you?!!!!!!

Perfectly fine with me. When are you available?!

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By *adyx4Woman over a year ago

Durham

"Unfortunately some guys just see this site as a way for a quick fuck. Whilst really it's the opposite.

I like to think of it as a way to make some like minded friends. Anything else is a bonus"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people don't know the meaning of the word social. Some think it's foreplay. Some think a group social is an orgy."

I went to the Chester Social in November and got blocked by so many people as they thought I was involved in a gangbang in a pub... ffs

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By *weeksoffMan over a year ago

Guildford

The site has its share of both sexes who just want to fuck without any chit chat. More blokes than women admittedly.

I have had such meetings but by far prefer to meet first for a social where there are no expectations, the sex if it comes is always much better as a result.

If someone refuses to meet unless sex is guaranteed, they are a little fucked in the head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)"

Waste of time is harsh but if I suggest anything other than coffee they think it’s a date I want so kudos to you for making a day of it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The site has its share of both sexes who just want to fuck without any chit chat. More blokes than women admittedly.

I have had such meetings but by far prefer to meet first for a social where there are no expectations, the sex if it comes is always much better as a result.

If someone refuses to meet unless sex is guaranteed, they are a little fucked in the head."

You do realise people who dont want socials arent expecting sex to be guaranteed. We arent bloody rapists ffs.

Its just that we'd prefer to meet where that is the intention we can have a "social" in our houses or a hotel bar or a hotel room. It doesnt have to be some seperate interview event.

If you dont like each other you say "well it was nice meeting ypu hope you find what youre looking for" hug/shake and leave.

Ita not like people are saying "no you must shag me"

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By *hatYorkLadMan over a year ago

York

I'd rather go for a drink and a bit of a laugh, zero expectations for anything more unless there was an instant attraction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)

Waste of time is harsh but if I suggest anything other than coffee they think it’s a date I want so kudos to you for making a day of it "

By waste of time i mean the coffee thing could be done through vid chat and anything more can be incorporated into a normal.meet situation.

But given either i or she is usualy traveling for a first meet i wouldnt say ride 2 hours to York to have a 10 miniute coffee to then ride 2 hours back so that i could then repeat the 4 hour round trip to have a second meet where we can play.

We just decide I'll stay there the night.

But maybe im just trust worthy. Thid weekend i met a girl for the first time wed chatted for 5 months so she decided to fly over from italy to stay at mine for the weekend.

Not gonna get a flight to have a coffee lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd rather go for a drink and a bit of a laugh, zero expectations for anything more unless there was an instant attraction

My thoughts entirely

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really..

Yes....and I also have COFFEE FIRST, SOMEWHERE MUTUAL. That alright with you?!!!!!!

Anywhere you meet for coffee together would be mutual :p unless you're tele confrencing

Why not have the coffe at his if you dont like him leave.

Maybe I should of said mutual territory. Good God do you really think it's safe to go to someone's house when they've never met them before???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)

Waste of time is harsh but if I suggest anything other than coffee they think it’s a date I want so kudos to you for making a day of it

By waste of time i mean the coffee thing could be done through vid chat and anything more can be incorporated into a normal.meet situation.

We just decide I'll stay there the night.

But maybe im just trust worthy. Thid weekend i met a girl for the first time wed chatted for 5 months so she decided to fly over from italy to stay at mine for the weekend.

Not gonna get a flight to have a coffee lol"

10 minute coffee? What kind of coffee do you have? When I go for a coffee I’m there for hours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)

Waste of time is harsh but if I suggest anything other than coffee they think it’s a date I want so kudos to you for making a day of it

By waste of time i mean the coffee thing could be done through vid chat and anything more can be incorporated into a normal.meet situation.

We just decide I'll stay there the night.

But maybe im just trust worthy. Thid weekend i met a girl for the first time wed chatted for 5 months so she decided to fly over from italy to stay at mine for the weekend.

Not gonna get a flight to have a coffee lol"

I'm wary of men wanting a video chat. They have their phone in one hand and their cock in the other.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

leeds

"The site has its share of both sexes who just want to fuck without any chit chat. More blokes than women admittedly.

I have had such meetings but by far prefer to meet first for a social where there are no expectations, the sex if it comes is always much better as a result.

If someone refuses to meet unless sex is guaranteed, they are a little fucked in the head.

You do realise people who dont want socials arent expecting sex to be guaranteed. We arent bloody rapists ffs.

Its just that we'd prefer to meet where that is the intention we can have a "social" in our houses or a hotel bar or a hotel room. It doesnt have to be some seperate interview event.

If you dont like each other you say "well it was nice meeting ypu hope you find what youre looking for" hug/shake and leave.

Ita not like people are saying "no you must shag me"

If you can't see the potential danger for a woman to say no to a random stranger in his house or hotel room who might just be a bit r**ey ( you wouldn't know until you annoyed them hey) then you are blinkered indeed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)

Waste of time is harsh but if I suggest anything other than coffee they think it’s a date I want so kudos to you for making a day of it

By waste of time i mean the coffee thing could be done through vid chat and anything more can be incorporated into a normal.meet situation.

We just decide I'll stay there the night.

But maybe im just trust worthy. Thid weekend i met a girl for the first time wed chatted for 5 months so she decided to fly over from italy to stay at mine for the weekend.

Not gonna get a flight to have a coffee lol

I'm wary of men wanting a video chat. They have their phone in one hand and their cock in the other."

Then the video chat worked instantly telling you they're not for you didnt it? better than having to sit in a starbucks whille he plays with himself through a hole in his pocket

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The site has its share of both sexes who just want to fuck without any chit chat. More blokes than women admittedly.

I have had such meetings but by far prefer to meet first for a social where there are no expectations, the sex if it comes is always much better as a result.

If someone refuses to meet unless sex is guaranteed, they are a little fucked in the head.

You do realise people who dont want socials arent expecting sex to be guaranteed. We arent bloody rapists ffs.

Its just that we'd prefer to meet where that is the intention we can have a "social" in our houses or a hotel bar or a hotel room. It doesnt have to be some seperate interview event.

If you dont like each other you say "well it was nice meeting ypu hope you find what youre looking for" hug/shake and leave.

Ita not like people are saying "no you must shag me"

If you think a rapist cant pretend to be normal for 10 miniutes over coffee youre giving yourself a very false sense of security

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really..

Yes....and I also have COFFEE FIRST, SOMEWHERE MUTUAL. That alright with you?!!!!!!

Anywhere you meet for coffee together would be mutual :p unless you're tele confrencing

Why not have the coffe at his if you dont like him leave.

Maybe I should of said mutual territory. Good God do you really think it's safe to go to someone's house when they've never met them before??? "

Safter than a public space. The risk from a stranger is around 0.001% for female victim 0.002% for a male. You could be attacked at either location but at least youd know his address for the police in the second scenario

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

leeds

"The site has its share of both sexes who just want to fuck without any chit chat. More blokes than women admittedly.

I have had such meetings but by far prefer to meet first for a social where there are no expectations, the sex if it comes is always much better as a result.

If someone refuses to meet unless sex is guaranteed, they are a little fucked in the head.

You do realise people who dont want socials arent expecting sex to be guaranteed. We arent bloody rapists ffs.

Its just that we'd prefer to meet where that is the intention we can have a "social" in our houses or a hotel bar or a hotel room. It doesnt have to be some seperate interview event.

If you dont like each other you say "well it was nice meeting ypu hope you find what youre looking for" hug/shake and leave.

Ita not like people are saying "no you must shag me"

If you think a rapist cant pretend to be normal for 10 miniutes over coffee youre giving yourself a very false sense of security"

You are quite right and it's a gamble I take, however if we are in a hotel room I've already established via a social that I'd like to fuck him, so then it's just a question of fingers crossed it goes well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right just had a weird two days conversing with a guy away from here.

Any one (women mainly) had a guy refuse to meet for a social unless you can tell them that they’re a) either gonna get fucked or b) sucked off?

Found it quite fucking rude if I’m honest. Like I’ll never ever commit to doing anything with a guy until I’ve seen them in the flesh.

I dunno socials can be very weird as a single guy as it can come across as a job interview or basicaly you're just being judged.

Especialy with voice and video calls being a thing now.

For me a "soical" where we just meet for coffee for a short time is a bit pointless and a waste of time.

I prefer if we're doing that to make a day of it.

(And yes ive been to the zoo on a first meet with a fabber lol)

Waste of time is harsh but if I suggest anything other than coffee they think it’s a date I want so kudos to you for making a day of it

By waste of time i mean the coffee thing could be done through vid chat and anything more can be incorporated into a normal.meet situation.

We just decide I'll stay there the night.

But maybe im just trust worthy. Thid weekend i met a girl for the first time wed chatted for 5 months so she decided to fly over from italy to stay at mine for the weekend.

Not gonna get a flight to have a coffee lol

I'm wary of men wanting a video chat. They have their phone in one hand and their cock in the other.

Then the video chat worked instantly telling you they're not for you didnt it? better than having to sit in a starbucks whille he plays with himself through a hole in his pocket"

I rarely meet for a social anyway. I chat for ages about crap until we either decide to meet or we get bored with chatting.

I don't want to spend one minute with someone who only wants to wank, or touch me under a coffee shop table.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That guy was a cock guzzling shit weasel.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really..

Yes....and I also have COFFEE FIRST, SOMEWHERE MUTUAL. That alright with you?!!!!!!

Anywhere you meet for coffee together would be mutual :p unless you're tele confrencing

Why not have the coffe at his if you dont like him leave.

Maybe I should of said mutual territory. Good God do you really think it's safe to go to someone's house when they've never met them before???

There would be witnesses in a public place.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

leeds

"That guy was a cock guzzling shit weasel. "

Do you read Stephen king ?

Shit weasel = dream catcher

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No not had any blokes say that to me but if they did I'd tell them to do one.

I was arranging a social recently, he said come to mine....um, no, I don't think so!!!

But you have "MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMODATE" as a pre-requisite on your profile. Not surprised he got the wrong end of the stick really..

Yes....and I also have COFFEE FIRST, SOMEWHERE MUTUAL. That alright with you?!!!!!!

Anywhere you meet for coffee together would be mutual :p unless you're tele confrencing

Why not have the coffe at his if you dont like him leave.

Maybe I should of said mutual territory. Good God do you really think it's safe to go to someone's house when they've never met them before???

There would be witnesses in a public place."

Well is suspect he'd wait till you were no longer in the starbucks to attack...

I'll admit i dont know how a rapist thinks so maybe im wide of the mark but the last place I'd think theyd attack somone would be thier own house.

Carpark or something seems more likley

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm always surprised by how many girls I meet off Tinder are willing to come to my house the first time we meet. Not that I'm complaining haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!"

In all honesty pal I don't think your ever gonna be doing any horizontal jogging in here with an attitude like that tbh

These are real women on fab matey and it's called fabswingers not fab fuck and go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always surprised by how many girls I meet off Tinder are willing to come to my house the first time we meet. Not that I'm complaining haha

Do they leave?

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I've done it both ways. If all you want is nsa sex a quick coffee might be enough to work that out, but I want fwb - that means I want to spend an afternoon or an evening with them, see if we really get along well enough to hang out as well as make out - and then I want to go home and sleep on it, and see how they respond too.

I've found I can feel very differently about things in the cold light of day!

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

I find there is a third way. As I am wary of meeting strangers, I am always hoping we can meet up in a public place and see how we get on. If we want to see each other again and keep in touch; if not, then we won't. No expectations either way. So all that talk about "driving all that way just for a coffee" and "wasted time" is to me a big red flag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What if you don’t click, what would that initial meeting have been called?

If we don’t click we don’t play, no need to call it anything, it’s not even a social if we don’t click

what is it then? An interview?

I’m not sure that’s actually the point of this thread, just making the point if someone asks us to have a social only meet with no possibility of play that evening, we are not interested

Yeah but that’s the point of my socials. It’s to see if we want to do anything else with each other. Like I said last year I met a guy for a first meet social and fucked him there and then. Other guys I’ve sucked off on the first meet.

Other guys I’ve met socially and just didn’t fancy them or like your case didn’t click so nothing else happened.

Shows a bit of a lack of standards as well if you’re not that arsed about meeting someone in the flesh first before deciding if you want to fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Now I am shocked. I have read the words "waste of time". Meeting someone to find out if you like them or not - a waste of time?!

Lost for words.

Well meeting somone for coffee for a short period to decide if you like them is a bit of a waste of time.

It doesnt tell you much at all about them. I also find it bizzare the idea of meeting somone before youre sure you like them.

Shouldnt you have worked that out before hand?"

Meeting someone in the flesh first be it for a coffee or a soft drink or even just having a chat in the car with them is not a waste of time. It’s so both parties can see each other in the flesh before deciding if they want to do anything.

Learnt my lesson about not having socials first every time.

People can look different in the flesh from their pictures, without a social first and you’re stuck in an awkward situation with someone you’re not that attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great reading........

I can picture a few people in this thread waiting at Starbucks weekly waiting for a meet to turn up...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find there is a third way. As I am wary of meeting strangers, I am always hoping we can meet up in a public place and see how we get on. If we want to see each other again and keep in touch; if not, then we won't. No expectations either way. So all that talk about "driving all that way just for a coffee" and "wasted time" is to me a big red flag."

I guess i just come across well or have a better vetting system then.

But then again i also turn up to most of my meets wearing kevlar and body armour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...just a coffee would be nice ...

Yes ! We aren't just body we have feelings too! Stop using us for our body women !

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

Definitely wouldn’t be meeting up with him then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He would be told to do one. Social always first and I rarely play on a social

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always do a social first to see if there’s an attraction etc and see if we get on,without it I won’t meet,a lot of guys on here see a hole as a goal and it’s crazy as you have to meet the other person first as in get a connection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that initial social meet is important even if every spidey sense tells you that you feel there will be mutual chemistry. With Dayuse hotels you can even book somewhere to move on to and cancel in the hour before the check-in time you choose, if you are both hoping to make the most of meeting. I find it builds the anticipation and means no one takes anything foregranted. Even when your eyes meet and every bone in your body is screaming ‘I want to fuck you’.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"That guy was a cock guzzling shit weasel. "

I think I've found my new favourite insult!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think that initial social meet is important even if every spidey sense tells you that you feel there will be mutual chemistry. With Dayuse hotels you can even book somewhere to move on to and cancel in the hour before the check-in time you choose, if you are both hoping to make the most of meeting. I find it builds the anticipation and means no one takes anything foregranted. Even when your eyes meet and every bone in your body is screaming ‘I want to fuck you’."

Best feeling ever...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

In all honesty pal I don't think your ever gonna be doing any horizontal jogging in here with an attitude like that tbh

These are real women on fab matey and it's called fabswingers not fab fuck and go"

I love you J swear down, you nailed it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That guy was a cock guzzling shit weasel.

I think I've found my new favourite insult!

Me too that’s a belter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The site has its share of both sexes who just want to fuck without any chit chat. More blokes than women admittedly.

I have had such meetings but by far prefer to meet first for a social where there are no expectations, the sex if it comes is always much better as a result.

If someone refuses to meet unless sex is guaranteed, they are a little fucked in the head.

You do realise people who dont want socials arent expecting sex to be guaranteed. We arent bloody rapists ffs.

Its just that we'd prefer to meet where that is the intention we can have a "social" in our houses or a hotel bar or a hotel room. It doesnt have to be some seperate interview event.

If you dont like each other you say "well it was nice meeting ypu hope you find what youre looking for" hug/shake and leave.

Ita not like people are saying "no you must shag me"

Well put, our point exactly

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS over a year ago

Perth

Fabs seemingly just a sex site, only partly true...

If I dont like someone i wont share a bed no matter how attractive they may appear. If im not sure about someone I may agree to meet but stress its initially social based...

Asking for a social is often a good way to filter out disrespectful cunts. A bonus is if someone agrees to a social and goes through with it then you know they'll turn up for a play meet

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS over a year ago

Perth

And OP i would have told that guy to fuck off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For god sake people.. it’s a sex site for a reason it’s not tinder!

Not a sex site.....

I strongly disagree.. people even have naked pics on with their dicks and vags out

It’s a sex site

People have them out on Instagram .... you gonna tell me that's a sex site! Away and boil yer heid eh

There's flesh everywhere...its the 21st century. Swinging isn't purely sexual... and for those that swing it's the icing on the cake not the cake itself.

Sex site... make me laugh man "

Hmmmmmm this is on the big list of porn site and insta is not. Answers itself really.

Those calling an apple an orange must be deluded, or looking for Mr right and not right now. No shame just don't blame the sex site for being a sex site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Best feeling ever... "

Yep I agree.

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