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Was trying to help an American friend of mine whose just had a baby and is really struggling with life right now, because her partner is a "Douche".
In an attempt to help her choose the right path for her and her babies. I told her a little sad tale of my own as example of what I see her doing to herself. She wants to escape society and live free. Only went and set myself off! Reminded myself about younger me and how I'd love to go back and snap him out of it. Tell him it wasn't his fault and to stop being so hard on himself.
I've never been a cry baby by nature, I'm suprisingly hard for a man in a pair of knickers.
But fuuuuuck me has being a full grown parent softened me up a bit. For the better I suspect.
Please, if you're having a shit one, get it off your chest and tell someone else. It's never as bleak as it looks from the inside.
Yeah, I know it's a Sex site, but life is hardcore sometimes and I see some people struggling on here, reading between the lines.
You will come out the other side and you'll be a stronger, better person for conquering your Demon.
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I actually think this site is good for showing the struggles and difficulties people go through.
I know for a fact there been some amazing threads and mental health. People have hard times and loneliness is another big factor in people’s live’s on here. I know I feel that.
I’m not one of life’s tough guys - I cry loads and I’ll admit it.
I think people are generally “real” and open on here, showing themselves in a good light on the whole. |
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"I actually think this site is good for showing the struggles and difficulties people go through.
I know for a fact there been some amazing threads and mental health. People have hard times and loneliness is another big factor in people’s live’s on here. I know I feel that.
I’m not one of life’s tough guys - I cry loads and I’ll admit it.
I think people are generally “real” and open on here, showing themselves in a good light on the whole."
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"Well done for helping your friend but often when we share personal stories to try and help others it comes at a personal cost. "
I agree. If it helps her, then I'd happily re-live those moments a few more times. If that's all it costs, it was worth it. |
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"I actually think this site is good for showing the struggles and difficulties people go through.
I know for a fact there been some amazing threads and mental health. People have hard times and loneliness is another big factor in people’s live’s on here. I know I feel that.
I’m not one of life’s tough guys - I cry loads and I’ll admit it.
I think people are generally “real” and open on here, showing themselves in a good light on the whole."
I’d agree! I also think we make good friendships on here more easily and quickly etc!
If I had to guess why - I’d suggest that’s it’s because we’ve already shared our biggest (usually) secret with each other - so it’s much easier to be open about the rest! 
I’ve got friends that I’ve known for less than a year on here that I’m closer to than the vast majority of my vanilla friends! |
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"I tell everyone else to talk to others. But i dont i keep to myself people have enough problems of there own without hereing about mine"
That's not true at all x I told someone my problems the other day. His were 10x worse than mine. Which made me feel better. Also made him feel better to help someone going through a similair problem. A problem shared is a problem halved.
I've very few going on right now, so you're welcome to share yours with me if you like? |
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"I tell everyone else to talk to others. But i dont i keep to myself people have enough problems of there own without hereing about mine
That's not true at all x I told someone my problems the other day. His were 10x worse than mine. Which made me feel better. Also made him feel better to help someone going through a similair problem. A problem shared is a problem halved.
I've very few going on right now, so you're welcome to share yours with me if you like? "
thanks but i tend to keep my stuff to myself i prefer it that way. its very rare i tell someone on here how im feeling or whats going off |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"I actually think this site is good for showing the struggles and difficulties people go through.
I know for a fact there been some amazing threads and mental health. People have hard times and loneliness is another big factor in people’s live’s on here. I know I feel that.
I’m not one of life’s tough guys - I cry loads and I’ll admit it.
I think people are generally “real” and open on here, showing themselves in a good light on the whole.
I’d agree! I also think we make good friendships on here more easily and quickly etc!
If I had to guess why - I’d suggest that’s it’s because we’ve already shared our biggest (usually) secret with each other - so it’s much easier to be open about the rest!
I’ve got friends that I’ve known for less than a year on here that I’m closer to than the vast majority of my vanilla friends! "
I completely agree with that, Peachy. I’ve made great friends on here and had great support.
Obviously people can still have agendas etc, but this site does strip away some of the “fronts” that we all put up to get through life in a stressful society. It shows humans as they really are - flaws and all. |
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"Sobbing to catharsis is incredibly therapeutic. "
Very. This wasn't catharsis though, I don't think. Maybe it is? More pity.. for a younger self. Feel sorry for me, but not in a selfish way. Almost as if i were a different person. Mixed with my friends pain and her struggles and knowing how she must feel right now. Only 20sec worth of sadness, to help a friend? Worth every tear. |
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"I tell everyone else to talk to others. But i dont i keep to myself people have enough problems of there own without hereing about mine
That's not true at all x I told someone my problems the other day. His were 10x worse than mine. Which made me feel better. Also made him feel better to help someone going through a similair problem. A problem shared is a problem halved.
I've very few going on right now, so you're welcome to share yours with me if you like? "
youve not been here long op i used to do a lot of mental health threads and used to help and support people in pm but i rarely spoke about how i was feeling |
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"I tell everyone else to talk to others. But i dont i keep to myself people have enough problems of there own without hereing about mine
That's not true at all x I told someone my problems the other day. His were 10x worse than mine. Which made me feel better. Also made him feel better to help someone going through a similair problem. A problem shared is a problem halved.
I've very few going on right now, so you're welcome to share yours with me if you like? youve not been here long op i used to do a lot of mental health threads and used to help and support people in pm but i rarely spoke about how i was feeling"
That's your choice Diamond. It's an open offer to you if you ever need to get it out. I was never much of a talker. Not open to all of Fab BTW!! I pick and choose my battles |
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"I’m lucky that my worries are ridiculously minor. Mainly.
Are they though? yes. "
Good. Still worth talking about though, someone may have a good solution. |
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"I’m lucky that my worries are ridiculously minor. Mainly.
Are they though? yes.
Good. Still worth talking about though, someone may have a good solution. "
I wouldn’t denigrate your thread by announcing them. |
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"I’m lucky that my worries are ridiculously minor. Mainly.
Are they though? yes.
Good. Still worth talking about though, someone may have a good solution. I wouldn’t denigrate your thread by announcing them. "
lmfao.. I'm more than capable of doing that myself It's not my thread, just my Original Post. You fuckers can say whatever you like |
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ok heres my problems for the week havent slept for 5 days grumpiness and emotion set in on day three day four started to feel worse now the hallucinations and hot and cold sweats have kicked in. Tueaday i went to do my voluntering and as i was just about to come home a panic attack kicked in and i managed to get home and the attack lasted four hours all ive done is sit posting on this site. my partner has been here all day (hes gone now) just cuddling and my mother came round for a chat with him to see how they can best sort me out |
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"ok heres my problems for the week havent slept for 5 days grumpiness and emotion set in on day three day four started to feel worse now the hallucinations and hot and cold sweats have kicked in. Tueaday i went to do my voluntering and as i was just about to come home a panic attack kicked in and i managed to get home and the attack lasted four hours all ive done is sit posting on this site. my partner has been here all day (hes gone now) just cuddling and my mother came round for a chat with him to see how they can best sort me out"
Have you experienced any of this before?
5 days of no sleep will fuck you right up. I've done 3 days, 3 nights because of a job I couldn't stop. I was a zombie on autopilot and starting to hallucinate. |
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"ok heres my problems for the week havent slept for 5 days grumpiness and emotion set in on day three day four started to feel worse now the hallucinations and hot and cold sweats have kicked in. Tueaday i went to do my voluntering and as i was just about to come home a panic attack kicked in and i managed to get home and the attack lasted four hours all ive done is sit posting on this site. my partner has been here all day (hes gone now) just cuddling and my mother came round for a chat with him to see
how they can best sort me out"
Keep posting. We are listening |
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"ok heres my problems for the week havent slept for 5 days grumpiness and emotion set in on day three day four started to feel worse now the hallucinations and hot and cold sweats have kicked in. Tueaday i went to do my voluntering and as i was just about to come home a panic attack kicked in and i managed to get home and the attack lasted four hours all ive done is sit posting on this site. my partner has been here all day (hes gone now) just cuddling and my mother came round for a chat with him to see how they can best sort me out
Have you experienced any of this before?
5 days of no sleep will fuck you right up. I've done 3 days, 3 nights because of a job I couldn't stop. I was a zombie on autopilot and starting to hallucinate."
ivd had bipolar since i was 13 its just part of my life
im like a robot i can function without functioning if that makes sense. Yesterday i was starving and never ate all day cause i couldnt physically get myself something to eat |
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"Sending Hugs xx
Thankyou, I don't need them though lol.. was only a little outburst 
Well I take my hugs back lol  anyone else need a hug 
Me, please "
Sending hugs to you sweet, think your someone who appreciates a good hug |
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"ok heres my problems for the week havent slept for 5 days grumpiness and emotion set in on day three day four started to feel worse now the hallucinations and hot and cold sweats have kicked in. Tueaday i went to do my voluntering and as i was just about to come home a panic attack kicked in and i managed to get home and the attack lasted four hours all ive done is sit posting on this site. my partner has been here all day (hes gone now) just cuddling and my mother came round for a chat with him to see how they can best sort me out
Have you experienced any of this before?
5 days of no sleep will fuck you right up. I've done 3 days, 3 nights because of a job I couldn't stop. I was a zombie on autopilot and starting to hallucinate.ivd had bipolar since i was 13 its just part of my life
im like a robot i can function without functioning if that makes sense. Yesterday i was starving and never ate all day cause i couldnt physically get myself something to eat"
That sounds like me after a few sneaky magic cigarettes  Sorry, I don't mean to make light of your situation. There is someone on Fab local to me who describes the exact same feelings you described. I didn't understand why she was on/off with me. Now I know more about Bi-Polar.
5 days of sleeplessness sounds very damaging and could set off all number of things.. related to Bi-polar, or nothing to do with it.
Are you on new medication? Any medication? You need sleep diamond, even if it means knocking out chemically. The brain can't cope with no sleep. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"Sending Hugs xx
Thankyou, I don't need them though lol.. was only a little outburst
Well I take my hugs back lol anyone else need a hug
Me, please
Sending hugs to you sweet, think your someone who appreciates a good hug "
Damn, you’re good
I genuinely am a huge fan of hugs (or cwtches as we call them in these parts) |
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all these fucking years and i still cant tell people how i feel i just fuck off and lock myself away instead of talking about it what scares me the most is people seeing the vulnerable me. u dont want them to see that side of me. very few people see me when im ill has i hide it away from the outside world |
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"ok heres my problems for the week havent slept for 5 days grumpiness and emotion set in on day three day four started to feel worse now the hallucinations and hot and cold sweats have kicked in. Tueaday i went to do my voluntering and as i was just about to come home a panic attack kicked in and i managed to get home and the attack lasted four hours all ive done is sit posting on this site. my partner has been here all day (hes gone now) just cuddling and my mother came round for a chat with him to see how they can best sort me out
Have you experienced any of this before?
5 days of no sleep will fuck you right up. I've done 3 days, 3 nights because of a job I couldn't stop. I was a zombie on autopilot and starting to hallucinate.ivd had bipolar since i was 13 its just part of my life
im like a robot i can function without functioning if that makes sense. Yesterday i was starving and never ate all day cause i couldnt physically get myself something to eat
That sounds like me after a few sneaky magic cigarettes Sorry, I don't mean to make light of your situation. There is someone on Fab local to me who describes the exact same feelings you described. I didn't understand why she was on/off with me. Now I know more about Bi-Polar.
5 days of sleeplessness sounds very damaging and could set off all number of things.. related to Bi-polar, or nothing to do with it.
Are you on new medication? Any medication? You need sleep diamond, even if it means knocking out chemically. The brain can't cope with no sleep."
23 tablets i have to pump in me each day to have any kind of normality i get extreme slurred speech and my mouth tends to drop down like ive had a stroke |
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"all these fucking years and i still cant tell people how i feel i just fuck off and lock myself away instead of talking about it what scares me the most is people seeing the vulnerable me. u dont want them to see that side of me. very few people see me when im ill has i hide it away from the outside world"
Diamond.. If they are your friends, all they want is to see you be happy. If that means holding your hair out of your eyes till you finish crying.. your partner, parent, friend, child, colleagues will usually want to help you get through it.
Someone said earlier (sorry forgot the name) that "Altruism heals" Like your volunteering helps you. Let others do the same.
I've a friend who is very hard. Very private. She's the one I'm most concerned about, but she won't talk to me at all, she doesn't have many people to talk to it about either from what I gather. I'm not pushy, I've left her be for a while. She's going to implode because her Facebook is full of rage at humanity. I can see angry me in her. She is beautiful, she is funny, she is intelligent, she is romantic... she deserves to be happy. Just like you do. Her meds play havoc with her moods, sleep and emotions. She suffers from the same condition you do, plus a few other nastier things in her past. That she is very blunt about, but is shielding the emotion from coming out.
It's the release of emotion that helps you.. "Crying for Catharcism is healing" Another wise poster on here has already mentioned.
Given your problem that you've opened up about is medical and I can't really advise anything other than let somebody in, someone you trust. Put some time asdide and unload, when they have the time to share with you.
They'll love you more for it, your bonds will be stronger and that may just be the tipping point tgat steers you back on the right path.
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"i am in touch with my nurse over the phone and ive got my mum if i could just sleep it would be half the battle its a constant panic in my head"
You need a daft online friend to talk nonsense avec x |
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"i am in touch with my nurse over the phone and ive got my mum if i could just sleep it would be half the battle its a constant panic in my head
You need a daft online friend to talk nonsense avec x"
but where can i possibly find one of those lol |
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"Was trying to help an American friend of mine whose just had a baby and is really struggling with life right now, because her partner is a "Douche".
In an attempt to help her choose the right path for her and her babies. I told her a little sad tale of my own as example of what I see her doing to herself. She wants to escape society and live free. Only went and set myself off! Reminded myself about younger me and how I'd love to go back and snap him out of it. Tell him it wasn't his fault and to stop being so hard on himself.
I've never been a cry baby by nature, I'm suprisingly hard for a man in a pair of knickers.
But fuuuuuck me has being a full grown parent softened me up a bit. For the better I suspect.
Please, if you're having a shit one, get it off your chest and tell someone else. It's never as bleak as it looks from the inside.
Yeah, I know it's a Sex site, but life is hardcore sometimes and I see some people struggling on here, reading between the lines.
You will come out the other side and you'll be a stronger, better person for conquering your Demon.
Talk."
What if your demon is a huge difficulty in showing or expressing emotion? I don't cry. Sure, I've had tears in my eyes from some of the excruciating physical pain I've felt in my life, but never from a sad film, or upsetting story from a friend or relative. I get upset, and sometimes sad, but my face doesn't show anything. I'm not saying that to be stoic and tough, it's just that my instant response is to start planning ways to help physically in other words, chuck money at the problem until it goes away. Am I a monster because I show no emotion? |
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"i am in touch with my nurse over the phone and ive got my mum if i could just sleep it would be half the battle its a constant panic in my head
You need a daft online friend to talk nonsense avec xbut where can i possibly find one of those lol"
I know one with a huge thrusting love missile  |
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over a year ago
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"Was trying to help an American friend of mine whose just had a baby and is really struggling with life right now, because her partner is a "Douche".
In an attempt to help her choose the right path for her and her babies. I told her a little sad tale of my own as example of what I see her doing to herself. She wants to escape society and live free. Only went and set myself off! Reminded myself about younger me and how I'd love to go back and snap him out of it. Tell him it wasn't his fault and to stop being so hard on himself.
I've never been a cry baby by nature, I'm suprisingly hard for a man in a pair of knickers.
But fuuuuuck me has being a full grown parent softened me up a bit. For the better I suspect.
Please, if you're having a shit one, get it off your chest and tell someone else. It's never as bleak as it looks from the inside.
Yeah, I know it's a Sex site, but life is hardcore sometimes and I see some people struggling on here, reading between the lines.
You will come out the other side and you'll be a stronger, better person for conquering your Demon.
Talk.
What if your demon is a huge difficulty in showing or expressing emotion? I don't cry. Sure, I've had tears in my eyes from some of the excruciating physical pain I've felt in my life, but never from a sad film, or upsetting story from a friend or relative. I get upset, and sometimes sad, but my face doesn't show anything. I'm not saying that to be stoic and tough, it's just that my instant response is to start planning ways to help physically in other words, chuck money at the problem until it goes away. Am I a monster because I show no emotion?"
A monster is someone who does horrible things to others, not someone who doesn’t show emotion |
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"i am in touch with my nurse over the phone and ive got my mum if i could just sleep it would be half the battle its a constant panic in my head
You need a daft online friend to talk nonsense avec xbut where can i possibly find one of those lol"
Where indeed |
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"Was trying to help an American friend of mine whose just had a baby and is really struggling with life right now, because her partner is a "Douche".
In an attempt to help her choose the right path for her and her babies. I told her a little sad tale of my own as example of what I see her doing to herself. She wants to escape society and live free. Only went and set myself off! Reminded myself about younger me and how I'd love to go back and snap him out of it. Tell him it wasn't his fault and to stop being so hard on himself.
I've never been a cry baby by nature, I'm suprisingly hard for a man in a pair of knickers.
But fuuuuuck me has being a full grown parent softened me up a bit. For the better I suspect.
Please, if you're having a shit one, get it off your chest and tell someone else. It's never as bleak as it looks from the inside.
Yeah, I know it's a Sex site, but life is hardcore sometimes and I see some people struggling on here, reading between the lines.
You will come out the other side and you'll be a stronger, better person for conquering your Demon.
Talk.
What if your demon is a huge difficulty in showing or expressing emotion? I don't cry. Sure, I've had tears in my eyes from some of the excruciating physical pain I've felt in my life, but never from a sad film, or upsetting story from a friend or relative. I get upset, and sometimes sad, but my face doesn't show anything. I'm not saying that to be stoic and tough, it's just that my instant response is to start planning ways to help physically in other words, chuck money at the problem until it goes away. Am I a monster because I show no emotion?
A monster is someone who does horrible things to others, not someone who doesn’t show emotion "
I've been called one more than once. Maybe acting lessons are the way to go. |
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"Was trying to help an American friend of mine whose just had a baby and is really struggling with life right now, because her partner is a "Douche".
In an attempt to help her choose the right path for her and her babies. I told her a little sad tale of my own as example of what I see her doing to herself. She wants to escape society and live free. Only went and set myself off! Reminded myself about younger me and how I'd love to go back and snap him out of it. Tell him it wasn't his fault and to stop being so hard on himself.
I've never been a cry baby by nature, I'm suprisingly hard for a man in a pair of knickers.
But fuuuuuck me has being a full grown parent softened me up a bit. For the better I suspect.
Please, if you're having a shit one, get it off your chest and tell someone else. It's never as bleak as it looks from the inside.
Yeah, I know it's a Sex site, but life is hardcore sometimes and I see some people struggling on here, reading between the lines.
You will come out the other side and you'll be a stronger, better person for conquering your Demon.
Talk.
What if your demon is a huge difficulty in showing or expressing emotion? I don't cry. Sure, I've had tears in my eyes from some of the excruciating physical pain I've felt in my life, but never from a sad film, or upsetting story from a friend or relative. I get upset, and sometimes sad, but my face doesn't show anything. I'm not saying that to be stoic and tough, it's just that my instant response is to start planning ways to help physically in other words, chuck money at the problem until it goes away. Am I a monster because I show no emotion?
A monster is someone who does horrible things to others, not someone who doesn’t show emotion
I've been called one more than once. Maybe acting lessons are the way to go."
No. Lying is the first step on the road towards many mental health issues. I'd not advise you act at all.
If you're not overexaggerating then you may be emotionally detached. A person incapable of emotional feelings. If that's the answer, there will be help online.
You've not displayed this trait in your comments on Fab though, unless it's all an act?
If suggest you learn a little about "empathy" Then start trying to put it into practice. If you are comfortable doing this. Given your views on the Toxic Masculinity thread, I'm not sure how comfortable you'll be letting other people's emotions wash over you. It's not for the faint of heart, it can be very emotionally draining and can cause harm in itself. If you do want to cure your self described Demon.. that's be my advice. That, or leave well alone. |
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I want to apologise for my meltdown yesterday. I did sleep last night and although not great feel a lot better today. It might have given someone an incite into some of the problems of living with bipolar. Fucking bipolar meh |
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"I want to apologise for my meltdown yesterday. I did sleep last night and although not great feel a lot better today. It might have given someone an incite into some of the problems of living with bipolar. Fucking bipolar meh"
You’ve nothing to apologise for at all. Most people here realise that life is tough and stressful.
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"You have just shown how amazing you truly are. All your positive past postings show how you refuse to be beaten by it, and shine through "
no i wont be beaten by it thats for sure. It might think it beats me at times but i always come back |
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"Sobbing to catharsis is incredibly therapeutic.
Very. This wasn't catharsis though, I don't think. Maybe it is? More pity.. for a younger self. Feel sorry for me, but not in a selfish way. Almost as if i were a different person. Mixed with my friends pain and her struggles and knowing how she must feel right now. Only 20sec worth of sadness, to help a friend? Worth every tear."
Yes those tears are very important, often we empathise with another’s pain because it connects to our own. Recognising that our own pain is still charged with emotion can also help, as working through that unresolved pain and discharging it Is self healing. If you sob hard enough it will turn into catharsis. I would do it only with someone close to you who can listen to you and not be disturbed by the excess emotion or on your own. But that means you have to be gentle with yourself after.... I learned to do it in a supportive community and that really helped. |
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The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though. |
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though."
Listening with real empathy is often the key that enables the other person to find a way to heal the pain |
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though.
Listening with real empathy is often the key that enables the other person to find a way to heal the pain"
It is but many have so much noise from their own life in their head that they don't hear.
I think expressing your thoughts on line is so popular because nobody interrupts while you're typing it and the responses usually show that your words have been heard. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though."
I broke my back and I'm a good listener. |
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though. I broke my back and I'm a good listener."
Did you? How did you do that? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though. I broke my back and I'm a good listener.
Did you? How did you do that? "
Fell of a ladder on site from about 3 metres onto concrete. I was rushing and being complacent with a radio in my left hand.  |
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"I want to apologise for my meltdown yesterday. I did sleep last night and although not great feel a lot better today. It might have given someone an incite into some of the problems of living with bipolar. Fucking bipolar meh"
No apology needed. Glad you slept |
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"Sobbing to catharsis is incredibly therapeutic.
Very. This wasn't catharsis though, I don't think. Maybe it is? More pity.. for a younger self. Feel sorry for me, but not in a selfish way. Almost as if i were a different person. Mixed with my friends pain and her struggles and knowing how she must feel right now. Only 20sec worth of sadness, to help a friend? Worth every tear.
Yes those tears are very important, often we empathise with another’s pain because it connects to our own. Recognising that our own pain is still charged with emotion can also help, as working through that unresolved pain and discharging it Is self healing. If you sob hard enough it will turn into catharsis. I would do it only with someone close to you who can listen to you and not be disturbed by the excess emotion or on your own. But that means you have to be gentle with yourself after.... I learned to do it in a supportive community and that really helped."
Brave and kind of you to share that |
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"I want to apologise for my meltdown yesterday. I did sleep last night and although not great feel a lot better today. It might have given someone an incite into some of the problems of living with bipolar. Fucking bipolar meh"
You have no reason to apologise. Seeing people open up can help others do the same, that's a wonderful thing.
People need to know they are not alone.
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though. I broke my back and I'm a good listener.
Did you? How did you do that? Fell of a ladder on site from about 3 metres onto concrete. I was rushing and being complacent with a radio in my left hand. "
Oh no! How awful. How long did your recovery take and does it affect you now? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though. I broke my back and I'm a good listener.
Did you? How did you do that? Fell of a ladder on site from about 3 metres onto concrete. I was rushing and being complacent with a radio in my left hand.
Oh no! How awful. How long did your recovery take and does it affect you now?"
Yeah and my pelvis. Nearly 6 months till I could walk again properly. No but it made me last a lot longer in bed so it was bittersweet.  |
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"The last time I properly cried was some years ago after my mum broke her back.
I don't think it's talking that helps I thk its finding someone who will genuinely listen, that's what makes the difference. It's a rare thing though. I broke my back and I'm a good listener.
Did you? How did you do that? Fell of a ladder on site from about 3 metres onto concrete. I was rushing and being complacent with a radio in my left hand.
Oh no! How awful. How long did your recovery take and does it affect you now? Yeah and my pelvis. Nearly 6 months till I could walk again properly. No but it made me last a lot longer in bed so it was bittersweet. "
 every cloud eh.
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