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over a year ago
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh? "
I have have meet 10 people but only had fun with 2 of those. I have no issue walking away if there is no spark but I'll finish my coffee first |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh?
I have have meet 10 people but only had fun with 2 of those. I have no issue walking away if there is no spark but I'll finish my coffee first"
What do you say to them just out of interest x |
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" I often meet socially, but don't meet again for sex. Is that what you mean ?"
No sorry I didn’t explain it very well I mean have you ever though shit you don’t look anything like your pics and wanted to run ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I often meet socially, but don't meet again for sex. Is that what you mean ?No sorry I didn’t explain it very well I mean have you ever though shit you don’t look anything like your pics and wanted to run ? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh?
I have have meet 10 people but only had fun with 2 of those. I have no issue walking away if there is no spark but I'll finish my coffee firstWhat do you say to them just out of interest x"
I'm just honest but I try to be tactful about it. Sometimes these things just don't pan out in real life. But there was one guy who I actually walked right past because I didn't recognise him from his pics. Talk about false advertisement! |
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh?
I have have meet 10 people but only had fun with 2 of those. I have no issue walking away if there is no spark but I'll finish my coffee firstWhat do you say to them just out of interest x
I'm just honest but I try to be tactful about it. Sometimes these things just don't pan out in real life. But there was one guy who I actually walked right past because I didn't recognise him from his pics. Talk about false advertisement! "
really that’s exactly what I mean  |
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh?
I have have meet 10 people but only had fun with 2 of those. I have no issue walking away if there is no spark but I'll finish my coffee firstWhat do you say to them just out of interest x
I'm just honest but I try to be tactful about it. Sometimes these things just don't pan out in real life. But there was one guy who I actually walked right past because I didn't recognise him from his pics. Talk about false advertisement! really that’s exactly what I mean "
I think the way to go is video cam chat before you meet. That way one can vet them to see if boxes are ticked without getting off my arse! |
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh?
I have have meet 10 people but only had fun with 2 of those. I have no issue walking away if there is no spark but I'll finish my coffee firstWhat do you say to them just out of interest x
I'm just honest but I try to be tactful about it. Sometimes these things just don't pan out in real life. But there was one guy who I actually walked right past because I didn't recognise him from his pics. Talk about false advertisement! really that’s exactly what I mean
I think the way to go is video cam chat before you meet. That way one can vet them to see if boxes are ticked without getting off my arse! "
And let's face it, it's too fooking cold to be going outside unnecessarily, I'm in hibernation mode now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No its rude unless they look fuck all like the same pics in that case the paper bag comes out  "
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In my very early days on here yes.
Met people for socials, and they were nothing like their pics, had obviously used old photos, not been 100% truthful on their profile.
I've used the old babysitter trick several times & once went to the loo & escaped out the side door.
I didn't feel they deserved any explanation as they'd initially deceived me.
I've also had a few socials where very quickly realised there was just no spark & have been honest.
I've stayed friends with a couple of them, we still chat online most weeks & occasionaly meet up, just for coffee.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In my very early days on here yes.
Met people for socials, and they were nothing like their pics, had obviously used old photos, not been 100% truthful on their profile.
I've used the old babysitter trick several times & once went to the loo & escaped out the side door.
I didn't feel they deserved any explanation as they'd initially deceived me.
I've also had a few socials where very quickly realised there was just no spark & have been honest.
I've stayed friends with a couple of them, we still chat online most weeks & occasionaly meet up, just for coffee.
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I don’t blame you that’s a good attitude to have |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think even recent pictures and an actual face can differ loads. You build your own image in your mind a bit beforehand and can still be surprised. Ive never run off though, I like the adjustment period of knowing their face properly.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh? "
never and thankfully neither has anyone ive met....which has surprised me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We met somebody once who just
just didn't feel 'right' once we met. So I apologised and explained that unfortunately we didn't feel like we could play and said goodnight.
He took it very well to be fair to him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think even recent pictures and an actual face can differ loads. You build your own image in your mind a bit beforehand and can still be surprised. Ive never run off though, I like the adjustment period of knowing their face properly.
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i would never just buggar off without an explanation but there are so many bloody filters on photos these days |
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"I think even recent pictures and an actual face can differ loads. You build your own image in your mind a bit beforehand and can still be surprised. Ive never run off though, I like the adjustment period of knowing their face properly.
i would never just buggar off without an explanation but there are so many bloody filters on photos these days "
Its amazing how different one photo can look from another too even when it is the same person. Always suspicious when they appear without the dog ears and bambi nose though |
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"I’ve had 2 dreadful socials out of many enjoyable get togethers. Although most of my socials don’t lead to another meet Can you expand on that ? "
I most often have a lovely chat, get on great but have no chemistry at all 
I can’t understand why a lot of the time
My first dreadful meet was a guy who was at least 15 years older than he said, and I’m sure his photo was if someone else. He seemed really strange - one of those people that make your skin crawl
The second was a disaster from start to finish but was hilarious looking back. I can’t give details in case he sees this, but I’ll nrbet forget it ! |
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"I’ve had 2 dreadful socials out of many enjoyable get togethers. Although most of my socials don’t lead to another meet Can you expand on that ?
I most often have a lovely chat, get on great but have no chemistry at all
I can’t understand why a lot of the time
My first dreadful meet was a guy who was at least 15 years older than he said, and I’m sure his photo was if someone else. He seemed really strange - one of those people that make your skin crawl
The second was a disaster from start to finish but was hilarious looking back. I can’t give details in case he sees this, but I’ll nrbet forget it ! "
cheeky bugger x |
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"I think even recent pictures and an actual face can differ loads. You build your own image in your mind a bit beforehand and can still be surprised. Ive never run off though, I like the adjustment period of knowing their face properly.
i would never just buggar off without an explanation but there are so many bloody filters on photos these days
Its amazing how different one photo can look from another too even when it is the same person. Always suspicious when they appear without the dog ears and bambi nose though "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"surely you exchange face pics before meeting?
I haven't backed out, but have kept it "social" due to lack of attraction."
Yes of course but photo filters are pretty good these days it hasn’t actually happened to me but I had a meet today and was just thinking what if she is a complete munter I will have to make my excuses and leave |
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"surely you exchange face pics before meeting?
I haven't backed out, but have kept it "social" due to lack of attraction.Yes of course but photo filters are pretty good these days it hasn’t actually happened to me but I had a meet today and was just thinking what if she is a complete munter I will have to make my excuses and leave "
that's the risk with every meet you have when it's with someone new. got to take your chances |
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"surely you exchange face pics before meeting?
I haven't backed out, but have kept it "social" due to lack of attraction.Yes of course but photo filters are pretty good these days it hasn’t actually happened to me but I had a meet today and was just thinking what if she is a complete munter I will have to make my excuses and leave
that's the risk with every meet you have when it's with someone new. got to take your chances "
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh? "
It’s way we aways do a social first! So many don’t look like their photos or have lied about their age not a prob if they look the age they’ve lied about but when they say their 40 and look like my parents it’s a little off putting lol |
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"Hi I just wondered how many people have walked away or backed out of meets on seeing the person in the flesh?
It’s way we aways do a social first! So many don’t look like their photos or have lied about their age not a prob if they look the age they’ve lied about but when they say their 40 and look like my parents it’s a little off putting lol "
ergh gross  |
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It’s way we aways do a social first! So many don’t look like their photos or have lied about their age not a prob if they look the age they’ve lied about but when they say their 40 and look like my parents it’s a little off putting lol ergh gross "
As a single lady I had a 20 minute social rule. By the time I finished a coffee I either said ‘sorry but you’re not for me’ or I carried on chatting and left options open for hopefully for a play meet next time! So many try to kid themselves on their age and photos! |
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It’s way we aways do a social first! So many don’t look like their photos or have lied about their age not a prob if they look the age they’ve lied about but when they say their 40 and look like my parents it’s a little off putting lol ergh gross
As a single lady I had a 20 minute social rule. By the time I finished a coffee I either said ‘sorry but you’re not for me’ or I carried on chatting and left options open for hopefully for a play meet next time! So many try to kid themselves on their age and photos!"
I am an impatient bitch and I don’t really do social so |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"met a nice women tonight for a social.
we had been speaking for 3 weeks before hand and it was all good.
taking her away for a weekend now "
excellent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve possibly met close to 400 guys socially, I’ve actually had sex with 5 of them. That’s over 8 years and my socials were anything from a coffee in costas to meeting them in the car park of KFC. You absolutely can not tell if you want anything more from them until you’ve seen them in the flesh. Anyone can take a good picture, good angle, could have sunglasses on or only sent one face picture. |
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I always speak on the phone with someone first to suss out whether I can actually bear to spend a bit of time with them. Then pitch first meets as 'a coffee to suss each other out'. That does quite often end in playing, but that way there's no awkwardness if it does just stay as a quick coffee. |
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"I’ve possibly met close to 400 guys socially, I’ve actually had sex with 5 of them. That’s over 8 years and my socials were anything from a coffee in costas to meeting them in the car park of KFC. You absolutely can not tell if you want anything more from them until you’ve seen them in the flesh. Anyone can take a good picture, good angle, could have sunglasses on or only sent one face picture. "
so far so good they have all been nicer than their pics but as you said people are v different in the flesh
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