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The mystery of verifications

By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

I do not get the advantage of publishing your own verifications.

I understand it shows you are reasonably endorsed and possibly not a weirdo.

I have been mutually messaging with a few people, and noticed they had been politely (in relations) with 5 different people in the last 7 days.

When I looked at the profiles of the people who where verifying them, some of them were (Yuk).

I realised instantly that I would not want to be going where they had just been.

Is the verification thing just a way of showing off about how easy you give it away?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes if you put a new sock on it will make you smile

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

So you should be glad they published their verifications then, no?

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Gets them on the homepage so that more people can find them.

I don't publish mine.

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

What’s the mystery?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

It's so people can judge them and realise they are not compatible and go and fuck someone else who is less yuk to them.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

Verifications are a minefield at times.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

you do realize its a swingers site op. Think if they hadnt shown their verifications you wouldnt know how yuck they where

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

God yes, but that is an advantage for me. I questioned about the advantage for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s when people verify you saying they saw you on the self serve in Asda, that’s annoying. Happened on one of my old profiles.

I’ve got a veri that I don’t display off a guy I met a couple months back who o has such a deep conversation with I started crying into my cuppa tea! Why the hell he verified me I don’t know but he did.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So you should be glad they published their verifications then, no? "

Ain't it! What he's saying is women are not replying and he thinks he's better than who they've been with.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I do not get the advantage of publishing your own verifications.

I understand it shows you are reasonably endorsed and possibly not a weirdo.

I have been mutually messaging with a few people, and noticed they had been politely (in relations) with 5 different people in the last 7 days.

When I looked at the profiles of the people who where verifying them, some of them were (Yuk).

I realised instantly that I would not want to be going where they had just been.

Is the verification thing just a way of showing off about how easy you give it away?"

This kind of highlights one of my issues with verifications. People put so much stock in them and looking back over who others have met.

You're essentially taking any element of choice away from those that you're looking at.

People like others for many different reasons, what is important to you might not be for them, also they may have a badly written profile or bad pictures but could be great in person.

If you like the person's profile then go ahead, you don't get to see a potential partners exs in real life.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"God yes, but that is an advantage for me. I questioned about the advantage for them."
The advantage for them is they dont end up meeting judgemental people. Im sure you will be of no loss to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you think too much about it, you'll never get verified, OP.

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

"So you should be glad they published their verifications then, no? "

Ain't it! What he's saying is women are not replying and he thinks he's better than who they've been with.

No, its MEN actually.

I haven't experienced anyone not replying yet!

Thanks for your input Einstein

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If looking at people’s veris and following the trail and deciding no thanks is judgemental than I must be even though I’ve always claimed not to be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m hiding mine now from you, as they are all coffee meets...lol...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people seem to put alot of importance into veri's like they will not meet if you do not have any....don't understand really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never understood why people say things like " I've seen the people they've been with and yuck ".

You don't have to fancy all the people they've been with just them surely!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""So you should be glad they published their verifications then, no? "

Ain't it! What he's saying is women are not replying and he thinks he's better than who they've been with.

No, its MEN actually.

I haven't experienced anyone not replying yet!

Thanks for your input Einstein

Can't you see how insulting you're being? You're judging people on who they've been with. You won't go there because who they've been with is 'yuk'. Your fucking mental.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never understood why people say things like " I've seen the people they've been with and yuck ".

You don't have to fancy all the people they've been with just them surely!"

No wonder no one meets if we have to fancy everyones past meets too

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

"The advantage for them is they dont end up meeting judgemental people. Im sure you will be of no loss to them"

Sounds like your judging me a little bit there!

Ha the whole point of this site is to make judgements about people usually binary YES/NO.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If people take the time to write us a verification then we publish it, simple

Plus having tons of veris keeps the time wasters, wannabes, the judgemental and the snobs well away from us, win, win x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Verifications can help inform or confirm your own opinions but should not be used as a substitute for your own judgement. Plus I'm nosey and like to see what or who's been going on or doing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""The advantage for them is they dont end up meeting judgemental people. Im sure you will be of no loss to them"

Sounds like your judging me a little bit there!

Ha the whole point of this site is to make judgements about people usually binary YES/NO.

In that case I think I'm doing this site all wrong!

I just have sex with the people that I like and let the others get on with their own business.

Oops looks like I'm on the wrong site then!

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I do not get the advantage of publishing your own verifications.

I understand it shows you are reasonably endorsed and possibly not a weirdo.

I have been mutually messaging with a few people, and noticed they had been politely (in relations) with 5 different people in the last 7 days.

When I looked at the profiles of the people who where verifying them, some of them were (Yuk).

I realised instantly that I would not want to be going where they had just been.

Is the verification thing just a way of showing off about how easy you give it away?"

That's one way of looking at it.

Same as your post is just a way of showing how judgemental you are.

"Easy" isn't a word I'd expect to see used on a swinging site.

People can choose to show their veries of hide them.

It would be naive to assume someone with no veries showing was somehow "better" than someone with many.

If you're that squeamish about the thought that people you want to meet might have "shock horror" met other people who maybe don't meet your high standards then maybe this isn't the site for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""So you should be glad they published their verifications then, no? "

Ain't it! What he's saying is women are not replying and he thinks he's better than who they've been with.

No, its MEN actually.

I haven't experienced anyone not replying yet!

Thanks for your input Einstein

Can't you see how insulting you're being? You're judging people on who they've been with. You won't go there because who they've been with is 'yuk'. Your fucking mental.

It’s not mental and I’m sure most people do the same with verifications. If they met someone who looked quite unclean it would make you question that persons standards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""So you should be glad they published their verifications then, no? "

Ain't it! What he's saying is women are not replying and he thinks he's better than who they've been with.

No, its MEN actually.

I haven't experienced anyone not replying yet!

Thanks for your input Einstein

Can't you see how insulting you're being? You're judging people on who they've been with. You won't go there because who they've been with is 'yuk'. Your fucking mental.

It’s not mental and I’m sure most people do the same with verifications. If they met someone who looked quite unclean it would make you question that persons standards.

I don't think anyone would publish a veri' from someone who looks so unclean that it'd put you off meeting them. Even if it's just a social. People on here have been with other people outside of Fab so you really can't say who's been with who and to what 'standard' they were.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's doing you a favour, so you don't end up meeting someone who fucks yuk men or more men than you think is acceptable.

It's a good filter.

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Thanks to the people who helped to answer the original question.

What is the advantage of publishing your own verifications.

The people who picked up on the "YUK" word or "Easy" you missed the point.

This is my own personal opinion (not a question) and your input or opinion is irrelevant and not required.

(I really like the person who assumed I was getting knocked back by woman and I was all bitter and twisted)

As I said earlier.

I only get involved with Men/TV/TS

And to date have received replies from everybody I have been in contact with.

Jeez, people who use this site and say they are non judgemental, when they look at somebody's profile/verifications.

Well I think I will just leave it there......

Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So if peoples input and opinions are irrelevant why start a forum thread about it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So if peoples input and opinions are irrelevant why start a forum thread about it?

And there clearly is a question mark at the end of your post...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is my own personal opinion (not a question) and your input or opinion is irrelevant and not required."

LMAO you posted the topic ya weapon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s when people verify you saying they saw you on the self serve in Asda, that’s annoying. Happened on one of my old profiles.

I love your tales.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Hi

Thanks to the people who helped to answer the original question.

What is the advantage of publishing your own verifications.

The people who picked up on the "YUK" word or "Easy" you missed the point.

This is my own personal opinion (not a question) and your input or opinion is irrelevant and not required.

(I really like the person who assumed I was getting knocked back by woman and I was all bitter and twisted)

As I said earlier.

I only get involved with Men/TV/TS

And to date have received replies from everybody I have been in contact with.

Jeez, people who use this site and say they are non judgemental, when they look at somebody's profile/verifications.

Well I think I will just leave it there......

Thanks again "
you do realize you asked a question on a forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I noticed a new profile the other day.

In three hours it had two verifications from meets may be genuine. The thing that made me unsure was the profile was in the west Midlands one veri was from Newcastle the other was Dublin based.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Perhaps you could of worded your OP a little better!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s when people verify you saying they saw you on the self serve in Asda, that’s annoying. Happened on one of my old profiles.

I love your tales.

Haha yeah loads of shit happens to me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps you could of worded your OP a little better!! "

And used brackets correctly

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yeah and nah.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Ah the beauty of the fab forum !

A guy starts a thread saying people play with yuck people and 5 of them no less , in a short space of time .

Oh the irony when the very same person accuses the forum of being judgemental .

You couldn’t make it up

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

"...As I said earlier.

I only get involved with Men/TV/TS

... "

If I might digress.

Your profile says your bi-curious.

I'd say you more than likely gay.

This would be a reason not to meet your good self. Not because your gay, but because you hide it.

Unlike those who choose not to hide some of their swinging escapades.

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Thanks Columbo

You really don't know how wrong you are.

Next time I want to find out if I find somebody attractive, I will make sure to consult you first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there verifications could be from themselves

ie 5 e mail addresses

5 usernames/accounts

fake pics or stolen pics

they still from fab america ,austria,new zealand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just another filter.

If you choose to investigate through their veris it gives you more options when making an informed decision to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't it another form of advertising? Showing veris that are complimentary might make people want to meet them.

Like attracts like. 300 veris on a profile would likely put some people off- the types that person wouldn't want to meet anyway.

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Just to be clear

"By Ayeman Man 1 hour ago

Newcastle usually.

"...As I said earlier.

"I only get involved with Men/TV/TS

... "

If I might digress.

Your profile says your bi-curious.

I'd say you more than likely gay.

This would be a reason not to meet your good self. Not because your gay, but because you hide it.

Unlike those who choose not to hide some of their swinging escapades."

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Thanks Columbo

You really don't know how wrong you are.

Next time I want to find out if I find somebody attractive, I will make sure to consult you first.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

People here are all very different and their use of verifications reflects this. I'm just interested in people potentially being reliable and not their sexual prowess. My taste and needs are different to others.

You will get some who may want to declare that they are great and try to use veris to promote this. I follow my needs and interests. I don't think those people come across as the norm here and aren't typical of the profiles i see.

I think it's important to refine your own rational judgement skills from experience. Take some time to reflect on others and realise that the people who wrote the veri have their own motivation, needs and personality that is totally distinct from the people who you may want to meet. They may even want to discourage you from meeting the person they give the veri too - and will be aware of the others that their veri sits amongst.

Overall, don't get too drawn into the verification pit

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Thank you for the encore.

But really... just to be clear, you shouldn't have.

Oh, just one more thing...

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

"I do not get the advantage of publishing your own verifications.

I understand it shows you are reasonably endorsed and possibly not a weirdo.

I have been mutually messaging with a few people, and noticed they had been politely (in relations) with 5 different people in the last 7 days.

When I looked at the profiles of the people who where verifying them, some of them were (Yuk).

I realised instantly that I would not want to be going where they had just been.

Is the verification thing just a way of showing off about how easy you give it away?"

Actually disagree on this one. If this was Match dot com I might agree. It's a swingers site where people are generally looking for NSA sex. And clearly said individual was excercising right to do just that. I don't get what the problem is.

Actually we quite like to see a good number of veris. For example experience tells us a meet with a couple with numerous veris is much less likely to end with a drama than with newbies. They've usually ironed out their do's and don'ts and can usually express them before meeting. Equally with single guys a string of veris from petite single ladies all under the age of 28 suggests they probably aren't going to be interested in meeting a middled aged couple where the lady is a little larger (us!!). Generalisations maybe. But ...we certainly are not going to judge anyone or be critical of anyone because of their veris. Just makes it easier for us to narrow down those we feel we might want to approach.

Probably makes sense to hide veris from way back when, but if people hide too many veris, rightly or wrongly it implies to us that maybe there is something that people don't want you to know.

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Final Update regarding Ayeman from Audio2

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NSAchick Woman

The 3rd post in this thread

Look at her profile

She is absolutely gorgeous.

But according to you I don't really believe that.

ooooh! YES I do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blimey! This whole thread is a mystery. Why didn't anyone mention to the OP how to relate his replies to particular posters

He is new to the forums and been doing things the long way...

Audio2 welcome to the forums. Interesting thread. I think you got enough info there. Under every message there is an option to "reply+quote" click on that when you want to respond to particular comments. It will save your time and be less confusing to people reading.

All the best.

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By *udio2 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Point taken Adam.

Thank's for your input, appreciate it.

I have learn't so much from the responses to the original question. Basically of who you can, and can't relate to.

All the best to you to.

Audio2

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

"Final Update regarding Ayeman from Audio2

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NSAchick Woman

The 3rd post in this thread

Look at her profile

She is absolutely gorgeous.

But according to you I don't really believe that.

ooooh! YES I do.

If I didn't know better I'd think you were trying to tempt me into contacting you privately by keep bumping my nom de plume on your thread.

What you just said there holds no weight at all. Your desire for sexual liaisons with men and TV's tells all. Enjoy them.

Oh, do you want me to contact you privately?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Blimey! This whole thread is a mystery. Why didn't anyone mention to the OP how to relate his replies to particular posters

He is new to the forums and been doing things the long way...

All the best."

He’d lost me with the odd transcripts too.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

OP. If you think the sum of someone's sex life is portrayed in veris then good luck to you.

Not everyone leaves them, not everyone shows them. It may be the case that you see profiles that appeal to you where the guy in question has met many, many people that would make you think otherwise - they just aren't showing that.

Verifications don't always mean play has occurred. And even when it obviously has it's possible that things occurred that aren't mentioned. So little point in regarding a veri as anything other than a meet took place.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I do not get the advantage of publishing your own verifications.

I understand it shows you are reasonably endorsed and possibly not a weirdo.

I have been mutually messaging with a few people, and noticed they had been politely (in relations) with 5 different people in the last 7 days.

When I looked at the profiles of the people who where verifying them, some of them were (Yuk).

I realised instantly that I would not want to be going where they had just been.

Is the verification thing just a way of showing off about how easy you give it away?"

I don't decide to meet based on the attractiveness of the people they've met.

I meet based on whether the individual is attractive to me, and I am to them.

That's about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find them useful OP. Just helps in forming an overall picture of someone.

I guess that 'yuk' is very subjective. You'll be 'yuk' to some people.

That said, I don't think we should judge people based on looks from a few photos. People are often quite different to what we think.

Perhaps you're not comfortable with the idea of recreational sex with different partners? If so, perhaps swinging isn't for you?

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