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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi this is to all the lovely bi ladies I have a meet arranged with a first timer . We are having a social meet first , which I don’t normally do, but I am feeling the pressure as I will either turn her or put her off for life. I feel I owe it to her to obviously approach this differently to meets with more experienced women. I would appreciate advice from any ladies who had experienced this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"make sure you put her at her ease. go at her pace and be gentle (unless she asks otherwise) keep communicating along the way"
Thankyou for that I am more nervous than usual about this but probably not as much as her  |
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Think I've knowingly popped 3 girl cherries.
One was v nervous so I told her some daft stories and jokes, she probably kissed me in the end to shut me up!
Just reassure them by telling them you'll go at their speed and if they want to be a pillow princess that first time it's fine.
Have fun! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think I've knowingly popped 3 girl cherries.
One was v nervous so I told her some daft stories and jokes, she probably kissed me in the end to shut me up!
Just reassure them by telling them you'll go at their speed and if they want to be a pillow princess that first time it's fine.
Have fun!"
Thankyou Minnie I loves me a pillow princess x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A social is definitely the way to go and just be you.
Sorry that's not very helpful so I'll just say Jennifer Lawrence. Thanks x
Ps I wouldn't mention strap ons!!"
 no will put the double ended dildo away too x |
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Why not try talking to her like she was a person and not a sex object? I find that most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened. Just my two pennerth! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why not try talking to her like she was a person and not a sex object? I find that most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened. Just my two pennerth!"
Many thanks x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting.
Mylène Farmer X
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Susan Boyle XExplain? X"
Its called being a pair of chumps ...ignore them |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"Think I've knowingly popped 3 girl cherries.
One was v nervous so I told her some daft stories and jokes, she probably kissed me in the end to shut me up!
Just reassure them by telling them you'll go at their speed and if they want to be a pillow princess that first time it's fine.
Have fun!"
That’s a such lovely attitude to have. I’m sure there’s plenty of curious ladies out there who would be too worried about someone feeling they were wasting their time to actually go through with meeting a more experienced lady. It’s quite refreshing to know that there are some ladies that are understanding.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not try talking to her like she was a person and not a sex object? I find that most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened. Just my two pennerth!"
Why would she feel threatened? OP wants to put her at ease not jump on her and stick her tongue down her throat..
Well she might want to but she won't  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think I've knowingly popped 3 girl cherries.
One was v nervous so I told her some daft stories and jokes, she probably kissed me in the end to shut me up!
Just reassure them by telling them you'll go at their speed and if they want to be a pillow princess that first time it's fine.
Have fun!
That’s a such lovely attitude to have. I’m sure there’s plenty of curious ladies out there who would be too worried about someone feeling they were wasting their time to actually go through with meeting a more experienced lady. It’s quite refreshing to know that there are some ladies that are understanding. "
Thank you that’s sweet x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why not try talking to her like she was a person and not a sex object? I find that most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened. Just my two pennerth!
Why would she feel threatened? OP wants to put her at ease not jump on her and stick her tongue down her throat..
Well she might want to but she won't "
Thanks didn’t think I was talking about her like she was a sex object if that was the case this conversation would not be happening x |
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"Why not try talking to her like she was a person and not a sex object? I find that most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened. Just my two pennerth!
Why would she feel threatened? OP wants to put her at ease not jump on her and stick her tongue down her throat..
Well she might want to but she won't "
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"Hi this is to all the lovely bi ladies I have a meet arranged with a first timer . We are having a social meet first , which I don’t normally do, but I am feeling the pressure as I will either turn her or put her off for life. I feel I owe it to her to obviously approach this differently to meets with more experienced women. I would appreciate advice from any ladies who had experienced this. "
It seems to me reading this that OP is concerned about putting a first timer off.
Most first timers are nervous whatever they are doing and thus are outside their comfort zone. My post said "most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened"
Just two instances when people may not feel at ease.
At no point did I suggest that the OP was threatening anybody. |
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"Why not try talking to her like she was a person and not a sex object? I find that most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened. Just my two pennerth!
Why would she feel threatened? OP wants to put her at ease not jump on her and stick her tongue down her throat..
Well she might want to but she won't Thanks didn’t think I was talking about her like she was a sex object if that was the case this conversation would not be happening x"
Of course you weren't. God knows where that came from.
It needs to all be at her pace. Use the social to ask her about her expectations for the meet. Take it slowly, tho you maybe pleasently surprised. I've had a few shocks from newbies.
Enjoy x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why not try talking to her like she was a person and not a sex object? I find that most people react differently when they don't feel out of their comfort zone and threatened. Just my two pennerth!
Why would she feel threatened? OP wants to put her at ease not jump on her and stick her tongue down her throat..
Well she might want to but she won't Thanks didn’t think I was talking about her like she was a sex object if that was the case this conversation would not be happening x
Of course you weren't. God knows where that came from.
It needs to all be at her pace. Use the social to ask her about her expectations for the meet. Take it slowly, tho you maybe pleasently surprised. I've had a few shocks from newbies.
Enjoy x"
Thanks that’s great advice xx |
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We ladies are complicated folk. It sounds to me that she is eager yet nervous. The first time is always the most nerve-wracking and she will probably expect the onus to be on you to put her at ease. I’d approach the social as just that - a relaxed chat and drink in a neutral atmosphere. Don’t be tempted to push the meet agenda - you both know it is potentially on the cards. Be complimentary where it is warranted and let her know if you would like to see her again in more private settings. Just like any social with a view to meeting for sex in the future, you want to be friendly and not invite her for a quick lick in the lav
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Presumably you've already "broken the ice" through exchanging messages here enough to agree to meet for a social OP?
Just use the social as an extension of that, taking it to the next stage kind of thing, the only difference being you're talking face to face rather than through a computer screen. A social is just that, a drink and a chat and a chance to establish not only if she likes you, but if you like her also. Pick up on things you've already chatted about on here, maybe expand on them, and try to get more of an understanding of what she's looking for, as well as taking it as an opportunity to tell her what you are hoping to find too.
Good luck, hope it goes well for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I kinda understand how she may feel. I havent been that first timer yet but hope to be at some point. I know i feel under pressure to be good at something i have never done before and also scared that i wont be good enough ect. So like everyone has said, encouragement that you will just take it slow and see what happens and theres no pressure! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We ladies are complicated folk. It sounds to me that she is eager yet nervous. The first time is always the most nerve-wracking and she will probably expect the onus to be on you to put her at ease. I’d approach the social as just that - a relaxed chat and drink in a neutral atmosphere. Don’t be tempted to push the meet agenda - you both know it is potentially on the cards. Be complimentary where it is warranted and let her know if you would like to see her again in more private settings. Just like any social with a view to meeting for sex in the future, you want to be friendly and not invite her for a quick lick in the lav
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That was my plan b a quickie in the lav Only joking thanks that’s sound advice going to let her decide on an actual sex meet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This
Good plan everyone
Interesting.
Mylène Farmer X
Celine Dion X
Christina Aguilera X
Susan Boyle XExplain? X
Its called being a pair of chumps ...ignore them "
Well thanks to us, some women replied to her thread as it got totally ignored in the first place
Alain Delon X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Presumably you've already "broken the ice" through exchanging messages here enough to agree to meet for a social OP?
Just use the social as an extension of that, taking it to the next stage kind of thing, the only difference being you're talking face to face rather than through a computer screen. A social is just that, a drink and a chat and a chance to establish not only if she likes you, but if you like her also. Pick up on things you've already chatted about on here, maybe expand on them, and try to get more of an understanding of what she's looking for, as well as taking it as an opportunity to tell her what you are hoping to find too.
Good luck, hope it goes well for you "
Thanks she is also ringing me later on today before the social x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I kinda understand how she may feel. I havent been that first timer yet but hope to be at some point. I know i feel under pressure to be good at something i have never done before and also scared that i wont be good enough ect. So like everyone has said, encouragement that you will just take it slow and see what happens and theres no pressure!"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This
Good plan everyone
Interesting.
Mylène Farmer X
Celine Dion X
Christina Aguilera X
Susan Boyle XExplain? X
Its called being a pair of chumps ...ignore them
Well thanks to us, some women replied to her thread as it got totally ignored in the first place
Alain Delon X "
Thank you for that xx |
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"Think I've knowingly popped 3 girl cherries.
One was v nervous so I told her some daft stories and jokes, she probably kissed me in the end to shut me up!
Just reassure them by telling them you'll go at their speed and if they want to be a pillow princess that first time it's fine.
Have fun!"
What’s a pillow princess please? X  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think I've knowingly popped 3 girl cherries.
One was v nervous so I told her some daft stories and jokes, she probably kissed me in the end to shut me up!
Just reassure them by telling them you'll go at their speed and if they want to be a pillow princess that first time it's fine.
Have fun!
What’s a pillow princess please? X "
Someone who lies there and does nothing in bed x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I kinda understand how she may feel. I havent been that first timer yet but hope to be at some point. I know i feel under pressure to be good at something i have never done before and also scared that i wont be good enough ect. So like everyone has said, encouragement that you will just take it slow and see what happens and theres no pressure!"
Thanks I am sure you will get to be x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This
Good plan everyone
Interesting.
Mylène Farmer X
Celine Dion X
Christina Aguilera X
Susan Boyle XExplain? X
Its called being a pair of chumps ...ignore them "
These ‘chumps’ saved this thread and brought it back from the brink, heroes is the word you are looking for. |
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"This
Good plan everyone
Interesting.
Mylène Farmer X
Celine Dion X
Christina Aguilera X
Susan Boyle XExplain? X
Its called being a pair of chumps ...ignore them
These ‘chumps’ saved this thread and brought it back from the brink, heroes is the word you are looking for. "
Muchos Gracias I am a big girl if nobody had replied I would have coped I think but I am loving your work xxxxxx |
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"We ladies are complicated folk. It sounds to me that she is eager yet nervous. The first time is always the most nerve-wracking and she will probably expect the onus to be on you to put her at ease. I’d approach the social as just that - a relaxed chat and drink in a neutral atmosphere. Don’t be tempted to push the meet agenda - you both know it is potentially on the cards. Be complimentary where it is warranted and let her know if you would like to see her again in more private settings. Just like any social with a view to meeting for sex in the future, you want to be friendly and not invite her for a quick lick in the lav
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