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"If you need to ask, it's not in you. That's the long and short of it, I'm afraid." | |||
"My words exactly! There's nomagic 'tricks' to being Dom or Domme, you just are. If you need to ask, it's not in you. That's the long and short of it, I'm afraid." Agree totally, and you'd have known long before now | |||
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"My words exactly! There's nomagic 'tricks' to being Dom or Domme, you just are. If you need to ask, it's not in you. That's the long and short of it, I'm afraid. Agree totally, and you'd have known long before now" agreed | |||
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"What advice can you give for me to become an effective male dom??" You may hate this answer, but defining 'effective' would be a good start. | |||
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"has an effect" Successful in producing the desired result is another definition - whcih only has meaning if you identify the desired effect.... So, to the OP, what is the desired effect? In my experience, it is probably better if you find you are doing things that most people would identify as being things a dom would do, than if you decide you want to be a dom and go looking for the the right things to do. | |||
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"I dont think that some of the advice given has been meant how they are.. I think that while you have to actually be naturally one or the other..( or okay you have some that are switches) I think that if you naturally have a dominant side, you may not realise that you are wanting to be a dom or domme till much later in life.. I would say to the OP to read.. perhaps find an experienced Dominant to talk to... You can never ask enough questions.. and to be honest at least your not just saying. "I am a dominant, who wants to be my Slave" I have recently realised that I am dominant (apart from with my Master) and am happily now evolving that side of my nature.. and finding that it has actually increased my submission too. Cali x" i have to agree, i am submissive, only through training with Sir am i becoming a good sub, to him. Which to me is the element that matters, you cannoy be a Dom imo, without reference to the people /person you are dominating.Which i think may have been awymans point. What works in one relationship will not work in another. Assuming as the others are said you are naturally Dominant, because i am afraid i must disagree with Granny,her research was about topping not Domming. Also if you are faking it , it doesn't work, you are Dom/,e or you are not. i would say you need to first be aware of what you want to get out of D/s then what your submissive desires, then try to work out how that point is reached . This means listen, watch, learn ,not technique, that is important but nothing to be with being Dom, one of my best friends regularly trains others in caning, i can give a damn good flogging, but learn the points where you can push, where limits are , which limits are softer than others. A dom is someone with whom the sub can explore the boundaries of their sexuality, the Dom in taking control gives permission for the sub ,it is a position of power and responsibility. An effective Dom is one who turns the no into a begging yes.How do you do this, only you know, but wanting to is an effective first step. *Disclaimer, all advice given bt jem on D/s is opinion and must not be construed as the one twue way  | |||
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"ME..... I guess a good starting place would be to envisiage exactly what you want from the experience. What you want to do and do to others and create it. It's going to be quite a hard search to find someone who wants the same." Your right i misread 
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"ME..... I guess a good starting place would be to envisiage exactly what you want from the experience. What you want to do and do to others and create it. It's going to be quite a hard search to find someone who wants the same. Your right i misread
"Then we agree again ..happy days xxx I enjoy you either way xxx | |||
"ME..... I guess a good starting place would be to envisiage exactly what you want from the experience. What you want to do and do to others and create it. It's going to be quite a hard search to find someone who wants the same. Your right i misread
Then we agree again ..happy days xxx
I enjoy you either way xxx "im being spoilt with breakfast in bed, i think its confuddled me... | |||
"What advice can you give for me to become an effective male dom??" if yr not one now then why do you want to be one?  | |||
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"What advice can you give for me to become an effective male dom??" having only "dabbled" I would still proffer that you need to be well prepared for the responsiblity you undertake, to have inititiative in copious amounts, to be creative and to be driven. Otherwise is is gonna seem like very hard work. | |||
"Define tautological " Why? Would it make you feel better? | |||
"What advice can you give for me to become an effective male dom??" Find a woman who's willing to submit to you would be an effective start. Steer clear of dominant women. Specially ones with legal training.  | |||
"What advice can you give for me to become an effective male dom?? Find a woman who's willing to submit to you would be an effective start. Steer clear of dominant women. Specially ones with legal training. "Ha.. A Sheldon laugh ....that was funny Wishy xxxx | |||
