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over a year ago
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When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do? |
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
The pendulum swings as left to right, and so does life. Up and down round and round. Heaven sent or hell bound. Remember when you hit the ground. There's only one way up. Pick your feet up from the dirt wipe your face and clean your eyes. keep on moving life waits for no man you're as happy as you choose to be happiness is literally a decision. A mind state. Don't view life through dubious eyes. Live laugh love, peace love prosper. |
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Now and again life knocks you down and every time you start to get back up it knocks you down again. All you can do is as advised above prioritise the most urgent stuff and hang on to the fact that things will get better.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a firm believer in, if you can change things, then change them. If you can’t? Then what will be wil be. No point stressing of you can’t effect the outcome, just deal with it and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Things don't normally get to me. I am more of a relaxed person. Just lately I feel like someone is trying to take the biscuit. Between things at home going wrong, lossing my job and my tosser of an ex messing my kids around. I can put up with just about anything but to see their little faces every time he lets them down. |
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"Things don't normally get to me. I am more of a relaxed person. Just lately I feel like someone is trying to take the biscuit. Between things at home going wrong, lossing my job and my tosser of an ex messing my kids around. I can put up with just about anything but to see their little faces every time he lets them down. "
Been there with the ex. Always have a back up plan. Assume he isn't going to turn up and have something nice you can do with them, even if it's just colouring in together or watching a movie on the sofa.
It's shit, I know.Hug of support for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Things don't normally get to me. I am more of a relaxed person. Just lately I feel like someone is trying to take the biscuit. Between things at home going wrong, lossing my job and my tosser of an ex messing my kids around. I can put up with just about anything but to see their little faces every time he lets them down.
Been there with the ex. Always have a back up plan. Assume he isn't going to turn up and have something nice you can do with them, even if it's just colouring in together or watching a movie on the sofa.
It's shit, I know.Hug of support for you."
Aww thanks x |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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Always look for the small wins. There is always always something good in every day. Even if that is just a snuggle from your little ones, it’s yours and no one can take that away from you - enjoy and cherish the good times.
Learn from each mistake, never expect to put something right by doing the same thing over and over. If your ex keeps letting you and the kids down, be prepared with an alternative to cheer them up.
Lost job is a shitter, but use that time wisely, remind yourself it’s temporary setback and set yourself some positive small goals to make you, your kids and future together better.
Failing that, eat cake, put on loud music and dance about.
I do hope you move forward xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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when you down as low as you can go, think of yourself and do what is right for you.
life can be awful at time but what ever is worrying you can be got through no matter what the out come.
There will be friends and family out there who will help but the first step has to be from yourself.  |
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
Change nothing and nothing changes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Always look for the small wins. There is always always something good in every day. Even if that is just a snuggle from your little ones, it’s yours and no one can take that away from you - enjoy and cherish the good times.
Learn from each mistake, never expect to put something right by doing the same thing over and over. If your ex keeps letting you and the kids down, be prepared with an alternative to cheer them up.
Lost job is a shitter, but use that time wisely, remind yourself it’s temporary setback and set yourself some positive small goals to make you, your kids and future together better.
Failing that, eat cake, put on loud music and dance about.
I do hope you move forward xx"
Loud music and dancing away my kids sounds perfect. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Some excellent advise and kind words above.
My latest thing is that I have got a jar and when I find myself smiling at something , maybe what the kids say, or a joke on tv. I write it on a notelet and pop it in the jar.
Or a write about why I am grateful, and put it in the jar. For example.. .I was feeling shit, put a post on fab and loads of people took the time to write a helpful message. So glad those people cared enough to post something .
On days when you feel low, empty the jar out and have a read.
If that fails, Stella and Maltesers or a good dance at a club might help. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some excellent advise and kind words above.
My latest thing is that I have got a jar and when I find myself smiling at something , maybe what the kids say, or a joke on tv. I write it on a notelet and pop it in the jar.
Or a write about why I am grateful, and put it in the jar. For example.. .I was feeling shit, put a post on fab and loads of people took the time to write a helpful message. So glad those people cared enough to post something .
On days when you feel low, empty the jar out and have a read.
If that fails, Stella and Maltesers or a good dance at a club might help. Xx"
This sounds lovely  |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"I do something that I know I'm good at; then I have a success, so something to feel possitive about.
This is a great idea  "
so OP, apart from looking super sexy, what are you good at? I'm good at fixing cars, skiing, cycling and a bit of spreadsheet design. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
I look for the positive. There has to be one, no matter how small. It pisses off my friends.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
If you get an answer that works do let me know  |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
Just spent £265 on a 100 gallon water tank; can't get it into the loft as it's about 6" too long. The plumbers merchants want me to pay a 20% (£53) re-stocking get - really cheesed-off that I got my figures wrong.
I was feeling very negative about this but, after further research I discovered that it might be too heavy (when full); its replacing a 50 gallon tank - a near miss so, now feeling very positive.
Something good always can always come from something bad. |
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"Just spent £265 on a 100 gallon water tank; can't get it into the loft as it's about 6" too long. The plumbers merchants want me to pay a 20% (£53) re-stocking get - really cheesed-off that I got my figures wrong.
I was feeling very negative about this but, after further research I discovered that it might be too heavy (when full); its replacing a 50 gallon tank - a near miss so, now feeling very positive.
Something good always can always come from something bad."
Structural engineering is important |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
This week as been that week that everything went wrong.
I cried and slept though most of it and hoping the next day would get better. Yesterday was the pants but woke up this morning and feel a lot better, even if the washing machine did flood.
Sending everyone hugs who is feeling really crap right now xxxxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I do something that I know I'm good at; then I have a success, so something to feel possitive about.
This is a great idea so OP, apart from looking super sexy, what are you good at? I'm good at fixing cars, skiing, cycling and a bit of spreadsheet design."
I'm good at reading, swimming, talking etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Things don't normally get to me. I am more of a relaxed person. Just lately I feel like someone is trying to take the biscuit. Between things at home going wrong, lossing my job and my tosser of an ex messing my kids around. I can put up with just about anything but to see their little faces every time he lets them down. "
Sorry to hear that. Doesnt matter what happens when a couple breaks up the kids shouldnt be affected. Really annoys me. I'm sure they have an amazing mum that loves them dearly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?
This week as been that week that everything went wrong.
I cried and slept though most of it and hoping the next day would get better. Yesterday was the pants but woke up this morning and feel a lot better, even if the washing machine did flood.
Sending everyone hugs who is feeling really crap right now xxxxxxxxx "
Hugs back for you. Hope next week is better. xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?
This week as been that week that everything went wrong.
I cried and slept though most of it and hoping the next day would get better. Yesterday was the pants but woke up this morning and feel a lot better, even if the washing machine did flood.
Sending everyone hugs who is feeling really crap right now xxxxxxxxx
Hugs back for you. Hope next week is better. xxxxx"
Thank you xxxxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Things don't normally get to me. I am more of a relaxed person. Just lately I feel like someone is trying to take the biscuit. Between things at home going wrong, lossing my job and my tosser of an ex messing my kids around. I can put up with just about anything but to see their little faces every time he lets them down.
Sorry to hear that. Doesnt matter what happens when a couple breaks up the kids shouldnt be affected. Really annoys me. I'm sure they have an amazing mum that loves them dearly. "
Its life I guess. He was meant to have them all this weekend. He didn't show up to collect them from the school yesterday and not heard a thing from him. Try explaining that to your kids. On the plus side my mum has taken the off for the day. |
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
When things go wrong I deal with them , no problem x |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"I do something that I know I'm good at; then I have a success, so something to feel possitive about.
This is a great idea so OP, apart from looking super sexy, what are you good at? I'm good at fixing cars, skiing, cycling and a bit of spreadsheet design.
I'm good at reading, swimming, talking etc"
Let's read a book on swimming together then you can't talk me through the finer point of breast stroke |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Things don't normally get to me. I am more of a relaxed person. Just lately I feel like someone is trying to take the biscuit. Between things at home going wrong, lossing my job and my tosser of an ex messing my kids around. I can put up with just about anything but to see their little faces every time he lets them down.
Sorry to hear that. Doesnt matter what happens when a couple breaks up the kids shouldnt be affected. Really annoys me. I'm sure they have an amazing mum that loves them dearly.
Its life I guess. He was meant to have them all this weekend. He didn't show up to collect them from the school yesterday and not heard a thing from him. Try explaining that to your kids. On the plus side my mum has taken the off for the day."
I wouldn't bother trying to explain it to them. Unless he's in hospital or something like that, there's no excuse for leaving them at school. Disgraceful behaviour. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a particularly difficult year last year. My fried was my saviour and let me rant on the phone a lot. This year I aim to be much calmer and give myself quiet quality time through meditation and reading. The hard thing is to not feel one ounce of guilt being kind to yourself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Things don't normally get to me. I am more of a relaxed person. Just lately I feel like someone is trying to take the biscuit. Between things at home going wrong, lossing my job and my tosser of an ex messing my kids around. I can put up with just about anything but to see their little faces every time he lets them down.
Sorry to hear that. Doesnt matter what happens when a couple breaks up the kids shouldnt be affected. Really annoys me. I'm sure they have an amazing mum that loves them dearly.
Its life I guess. He was meant to have them all this weekend. He didn't show up to collect them from the school yesterday and not heard a thing from him. Try explaining that to your kids. On the plus side my mum has taken the off for the day.
I wouldn't bother trying to explain it to them. Unless he's in hospital or something like that, there's no excuse for leaving them at school. Disgraceful behaviour. x"
You're probably right
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
I never worry about it because you can't un do it just look forward be positive and think tomorrow is another day life is what you make it so make it count xx I'm here if you need a chat xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?
I never worry about it because you can't un do it just look forward be positive and think tomorrow is another day life is what you make it so make it count xx I'm here if you need a chat xx"
Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When things go wrong what do you do? I mean when just about everything that can go wrong does. When each day just seems to be harder the one before. What do you do?"
I shut myself in and do things to get easy “wins” so that I can slowly turn my mental health positive again. So I tend to cook stuff and sing musical tunes, watch films read books and try to restore my positivity, then when I’m happy and cheered up I can emerge from hibernation
If your struggling with mental heath I don’t advise shutting yourself away though, talk to people and get the shit stuff out in the open |
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"Seek out support from those you trust, or even complete strangers."
This works for me. It’s one of the reasons I love sites like this; there’s always someone who’s had a similar experience who can offer sensible advice (or at least what worked for them). And if that fails, there’s plenty to make smile even if only briefly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now and again life knocks you down and every time you start to get back up it knocks you down again. All you can do is as advised above prioritise the most urgent stuff and hang on to the fact that things will get better. "
This is good advice
You can only deal with one thing at a time.
Hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"things have to go wrong to make up for when it all goes right ? Sometimes you have to feel down or how could you possibly appreciate the good times ? "
I love this. |
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