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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?
Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?
Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I’m very comfortable being’mushy’, being openly vulnerable and sharing my feelings. I hope I’m a good enough listener for them to feel that I empathise and want to understand. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint "
I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a bit shy when it comes to talking about my feelings and it takes me a while to come out of my shell but I have been known to get overly affectionate and let my feelings known that way.
In a partner I embrace it. I like it when people are open and honest with me as I can sometimes find it hard to read and assume they're not as into me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive learnt the hard way.
dont reveal to much you'll end up looking the fool.
thats past experiences for you."
I find the Fool a very helpful thing to be at times. |
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"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint
I'm definitely with you on this "
This for me too x |
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"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint
I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front"
I don't do relationships lol |
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"With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?
Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?
Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?
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I don't equate expression of emotion with being mushy necessarily, but I am very expressive given the chance.  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I'm a bit shy when it comes to talking about my feelings and it takes me a while to come out of my shell but I have been known to get overly affectionate and let my feelings known that way.
In a partner I embrace it. I like it when people are open and honest with me as I can sometimes find it hard to read and assume they're not as into me. "
Yes, I get that. In the past I've been guilty of not being direct enough or being afraid of expressing myself and finding myself vulnerable to a degree. I think it's hard to let yourself be like that at times, but if it's with the right person it can be rewarding. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint
I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front I don't do relationships lol"
Never? Not even in the past? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive learnt the hard way.
dont reveal to much you'll end up looking the fool.
thats past experiences for you.
I find the Fool a very helpful thing to be at times."
too much water under the bridge now man. sad to say. trust left my bones and its so hard to believe anyone is completely honest.
thats just how it is. but its cool  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not with my ex husband. He was a brick emotionally and I didn't feel I could tell him how I was feeling.
I haven't had anyone since that I have felt enough for to tell them. |
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I keep my walls up, I don't trust easily & keep my feelings contained.
If someone gets to see my 'soppy mushy' side then it's because I trust them 100%, feel I can let my barriers down & I care about them. |
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"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint
I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front I don't do relationships lol
Never? Not even in the past? "
yes hence why I don't. I won't allow myself to have feelings now. I wasn't ever overly soppy but would always be honest with partners. If I felt down I'd express it. But only expressed myself with recent partner. Before I was pretty guarded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a bit shy when it comes to talking about my feelings and it takes me a while to come out of my shell but I have been known to get overly affectionate and let my feelings known that way.
In a partner I embrace it. I like it when people are open and honest with me as I can sometimes find it hard to read and assume they're not as into me.
Yes, I get that. In the past I've been guilty of not being direct enough or being afraid of expressing myself and finding myself vulnerable to a degree. I think it's hard to let yourself be like that at times, but if it's with the right person it can be rewarding. "
That's the thing. I want to be with someone I feel safe being vulnerable with. It's all about knowing each other completely and that includes those bits we like to hide. Being with someone who could hurt you and break you but trusting them not to. You only get that by being truly honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love having the opportunity to get mushy, I'm tactile and like to know what people are feeling, not very often I find someone willing to reciprocate though unfortunately, everyone seems to think of being emotionally open as a weakness rather than a strength  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love having the opportunity to get mushy, I'm tactile and like to know what people are feeling, not very often I find someone willing to reciprocate though unfortunately, everyone seems to think of being emotionally open as a weakness rather than a strength "
Thanks for that comment!! It made me feel better. Yes it's defiantly a strength to be open. So when your open about feelings we have the strength to deal with them!! |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
"With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?
Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?
Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?
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Sometimes I just wish I wasn't as open about my feelings. But after a while I will close down if things are not reciprocal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not mushy but affectionate...bum squeezes in the supermarket ..holding hands all the time. He never lets me walk next to the kerb. Public shows of love. Our profile name is our nick names for each other. If that’s mush, guilty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man
More an undercooked yorkshire pudding
Cookie dough? "
no cookies arnt yorkshire  |
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"I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man
More an undercooked yorkshire pudding"
Big growly Yorkshire man with a soft underside... never have an undercooked Yorkshire pudding  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man
More an undercooked yorkshire pudding
Big growly Yorkshire man with a soft underside... never have an undercooked Yorkshire pudding "
far too sloppy those things eh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cannot hide a damn thing!
If I'm feeling it, he's knowing it.
I wasn't always this way, but I think having to try to hide my feelings for years in the past because I was constantly ridiculed for how I felt means that now, well, I just can't help but express myself.
The way I see it, if people know the crack they can deal with it according to how they see fit.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I cannot hide a damn thing!
If I'm feeling it, he's knowing it.
I wasn't always this way, but I think having to try to hide my feelings for years in the past because I was constantly ridiculed for how I felt means that now, well, I just can't help but express myself.
The way I see it, if people know the crack they can deal with it according to how they see fit.
P"
I still have a private self, that shifts around depending on who I am with the context, but I would like to get to the point where I could open up more fully in a couple contexts. I’m working on it, but need to be aware of the effects and consequences of too much too soon. Revealing too much of my private self in the past with the wrong people caused more pain than it was worth. |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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I am a big softy at heart love holding hands cuddles and kissing. But having been cheated on and hurt from my last 3 long term relationships i now have a steel shell up around my heart and feelings it will take some getting passed that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?
Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?
Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?
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Very. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m very affectionate when I’m with a guy. Lots of kissing and cuddling, skin on skin contact, spooning, watching tv with my head on the guys lap gently chewing on his willy. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I’m very affectionate when I’m with a guy. Lots of kissing and cuddling, skin on skin contact, spooning, watching tv with my head on the guys lap gently chewing on his willy. "
I was with you up until the last five words, then it got a bit odd... Chewing  |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
I'm not a cold person and dont lack empty but Emotionally I'm a very closed person. On very rare occasions I mess-up but soon realise the error of my ways and snap back into reality. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"I’m very affectionate when I’m with a guy. Lots of kissing and cuddling, skin on skin contact, spooning, watching tv with my head on the guys lap gently chewing on his willy.
I was with you up until the last five words, then it got a bit odd... Chewing "
Must be some sort of Welsh thing 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm only really cuddly, or any good at talking about emotions, with kids. I'm working on being more affectionate and emotionally expressive with adults, but it's tough when you're used to being an ice queen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.
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its not intimacy its into me i see |
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"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.
its not intimacy its into me i see "
Think this took me a while to get but do you mean like putting their dick into me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.
its not intimacy its into me i see
Think this took me a while to get but do you mean like putting their dick into me?"
read into it what you will |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Only with my children ....
I.have big trust issues with others...... they always seem to let you down in the end ."
That sentiment seems to be echoed on several other posts, I understand that is often the situation, that people let others down. I've been in similar situations myself. |
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"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.
its not intimacy its into me i see
Think this took me a while to get but do you mean like putting their dick into me?read into it what you will "
On here i probably shouldn't.  |
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