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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don’t need to be a site member to enjoy Fab, if your subscription runs out in 5 days simply don’t pay the subscription and continue as an unpaid member.
Then you can have messages ignored and deleted for free. Winning. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
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A couple of points.
The site is free. You don't have to pay.
Many people do well on the site whether they pay or not. A fiver every 30/60 days doesn't guarantee getting your dick wet.
Good luck trying any other sites. They're no different and will probably cost you more.
I guess the negative reviews were from people who thought setting up a profile and popping a couple of quickly taken snaps would have others rushing to meet them. Delusional springs to mind.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
A couple of points.
The site is free. You don't have to pay.
Many people do well on the site whether they pay or not. A fiver every 30/60 days doesn't guarantee getting your dick wet.
Good luck trying any other sites. They're no different and will probably cost you more.
I guess the negative reviews were from people who thought setting up a profile and popping a couple of quickly taken snaps would have others rushing to meet them. Delusional springs to mind.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you addressed the approach maybe , instead off sending mass shit (no offence) to be deleted. You could send just a few good one maybe? And as someone else states, it’s your choice to pay, you can still use it freely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You haven't asked for profile advice so I can't give it, but it's not doing you any favours.
And as others said:
1) you don't have to pay to be here
2) even as a site supporter, nobody owns you replies to your messages- check FAQ, where it states clearly no reply=no, thank you.
Oh, your age range is not doing you any favours either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Where did you read the bad reviews?
As someone else said,membership is free,and should you take advantage of supporting the site it's been not a fiver every two months.
What were you expecting for a fiver?
The site isn't responsible for no one answering your messages,the common denominator here seems to be you,not the site.
No pull up your big boy pants and stop blaming others for your personal failings |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is great. Effort in reward out chap.
I wonder what you are trying to achieve with this post OP?
The offer of a 'pityfuck' to prove him wrong maybe?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does your ass squeak when you walk Op ?
Best 5 pound I ever spent was on this site, can’t recommend it enough, in fact I do regularly. What can you get for a fiver these days they say, well funny you should mention that I say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Time to move on then, as you have now established that your not gonna get a meet/ no one wants to fuck you,then there is no point flogging a dead horse, or your wallet in your case. Good luck thanks for the memories xxx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Green arrow shows you've been round the loop of discussing the site being a waste of time a number of times before OP - if It's not working for you, you have two choices really - the one you appear to be about to take, or change the way you approach the site and your expectations of it - either way it's all very much within your control  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
A couple of points.
The site is free. You don't have to pay.
Many people do well on the site whether they pay or not. A fiver every 30/60 days doesn't guarantee getting your dick wet.
Good luck trying any other sites. They're no different and will probably cost you more.
I guess the negative reviews were from people who thought setting up a profile and popping a couple of quickly taken snaps would have others rushing to meet them. Delusional springs to mind.
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^exactly this.
Single men massively outnumber women and couples on fab. You're not going to appeal to everyone.
I would say that you need to think about what your expectations of the site were. |
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If you'd read the site FAQ's you'd realise that no reply/deleted message IS this site's equivalent of "no thank you" if you demand that everyone replies are you offering secretarial services to assist them?
Maybe a massage for hand cramp?
It wasn't a suggestion that you view deletions this way. Everyone who reads the FAQ's knows this.
There is a 50 to 1 ratio of men to women here.
The average woman can get over 100 messages daily and you insist we must reply.
Imho that is rude.
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
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Says the man without a single pic in his gallery to inspire a response! Where are these reviews please? I've always wondered where it says 'You'll be knee deep in clunge by the end of the first week'?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
Says the man without a single pic in his gallery to inspire a response! Where are these reviews please? I've always wondered where it says 'You'll be knee deep in clunge by the end of the first week'??"
Clunge.... what a fuking word, must use it in 2019, often.
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Oops, run for cover, 
It is what it is, I've been on for a while now I've never had a meet, only 2 or 3 replies to messages I've sent, who gives a toss, I get a laugh on the forums and perv as and when I like and all for a fiver, what's not to like |
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"It's funny how different members have different levels of success.
One been her for 6 months with no meets.
One been here for a year with over a 100.
What's the differentiator? "
differentiator? Crikey, what dictionary did you swallow for breakfast  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
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Ok bye! |
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"Oops, run for cover,
It is what it is, I've been on for a while now I've never had a meet, only 2 or 3 replies to messages I've sent, who gives a toss, I get a laugh on the forums and perv as and when I like and all for a fiver, what's not to like "
Exactly this...chin up OP! |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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It’s a shame that after 6 months the OP has had no success. He hasn’t asked for profile advice but I can see at least 3 obvious red flags for me and probably for other women too. If he has had advice before and admits he chooses to ignore it though, I guess he feels the only other option is to blame the site and leave which is a shame really. Wonder where the reviews of the site are, I’d be interested to add mine to balance against the negativity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The site is basically like a pub. It is a place to hang out and chat and get to know people.
The onus is on you though, if you haven't made the effort to look your best or approach people in the right way then you ain't gonna get far. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"It’s a shame that after 6 months the OP has had no success. He hasn’t asked for profile advice but I can see at least 3 obvious red flags for me and probably for other women too. If he has had advice before and admits he chooses to ignore it though, I guess he feels the only other option is to blame the site and leave which is a shame really. Wonder where the reviews of the site are, I’d be interested to add mine to balance against the negativity. "
Runs off to set up a new 'Shagadvisor' website............ 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I wanted to sleep with two or three different men every single day for a year then the site works great for me.
It doesn’t produce husbands though so that’s my gripe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I wanted to sleep with two or three different men every single day for a year then the site works great for me.
It doesn’t produce husbands though so that’s my gripe. "
There are plenty of husbands about. Just search for single guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I wanted to sleep with two or three different men every single day for a year then the site works great for me.
It doesn’t produce husbands though so that’s my gripe. "
Only for a year... I'm sure you would get offers that would cover you for two or three.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's funny how different members have different levels of success.
One been her for 6 months with no meets.
One been here for a year with over a 100.
What's the differentiator?
differentiator? Crikey, what dictionary did you swallow for breakfast "
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"The site is basically like a pub. It is a place to hang out and chat and get to know people.
The onus is on you though, if you haven't made the effort to look your best or approach people in the right way then you ain't gonna get far. "
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"It's funny how different members have different levels of success.
One been her for 6 months with no meets.
One been here for a year with over a 100.
What's the differentiator?
differentiator? Crikey, what dictionary did you swallow for breakfast "
Thesaurus toilet paper.
I wrote that while was having a pooh. |
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"It's funny how different members have different levels of success.
One been her for 6 months with no meets.
One been here for a year with over a 100.
What's the differentiator?
differentiator? Crikey, what dictionary did you swallow for breakfast
Thesaurus toilet paper.
I wrote that while was having a pooh. "
One of my ex's bought me some Sudoku bog roll for ma birthday one year  |
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"The site is basically like a pub. It is a place to hang out and chat and get to know people.
The onus is on you though, if you haven't made the effort to look your best or approach people in the right way then you ain't gonna get far. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont blame the game.. Blame the player.
With that sort of attitude its clear why you had no luck.
Any advice on your profile.... Please ask.
But byvthe sounds of it.. This isnt for you.
Peace
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"It's funny how different members have different levels of success.
One been her for 6 months with no meets.
One been here for a year with over a 100.
What's the differentiator?
differentiator? Crikey, what dictionary did you swallow for breakfast
Thesaurus toilet paper.
I wrote that while was having a pooh.
One of my ex's bought me some Sudoku bog roll for ma birthday one year "
I always take a writing implement into the bog with me.
Any problems I can work it out with a pencil. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's funny how different members have different levels of success.
One been her for 6 months with no meets.
One been here for a year with over a 100.
What's the differentiator? "
One has an enormous cock.
The other just is one.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's funny how different members have different levels of success.
One been her for 6 months with no meets.
One been here for a year with over a 100.
What's the differentiator?
One has an enormous cock.
The other just is one.."
It's not all about the size.. It's what you do with it.. I'm only 6 and a half inch and seem to get plenty of action ..lol |
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I feel sad now. I’ll sing a cheery song thanks to George Formby
*sings*
“Now, I know I'm not handsome
No good looks or wealth
But the girls I chase say my plain face
Will compromise their health
Now, I know fellahs worse than me
Bow-legged and boss-eyed
Walking out with lovely women
Clinging to their side
Now, if women like them like men like those
Why don't women like me
Look at Empress Josephine
The most attractive woman that ever was seen
Yet Napoleon, short and fat
Captivates a lovely looking girl like that
Now, if women like them like men like those
Why don't women like me, hey-hey
Why don't women like me......” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Easy sex isn't for everyone. It's much easier if you're a woman and it doesn't really matter what you look like or what kind of personality you have; someone will want to fuck you.
I hope you find joy elsewhere in the world. |
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
Says the man without a single pic in his gallery to inspire a response! Where are these reviews please? I've always wondered where it says 'You'll be knee deep in clunge by the end of the first week'??
Clunge.... what a fuking word, must use it in 2019, often.
almost as good as girlygoo "
It fits that sentence particularly lol! |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
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You were complaining more than 60 days ago, so clearly the one thing you don't do is learn. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am fully aware that you don't have to pay. But I was kind of under the impression that you would be taken more seriously by being a site supporter. It didn't cost me a fiver it cost me £12.50, or something like that.
I also fully realise that nothing is guaranteed, least of all 'getting my dick wet'. But I did kind of expect some sort of interaction if only a 'no thank you'.I don't really think it's delusional to expect something, anything. Even just a 'thanks but no thanks' would have been a refreshing change. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No I have asked for profile advice as I prefer honestly over bullshit. My profile is honest and not just full of crap I think people want to read. If people don't like honesty then that says more about them than it does me. Sorry but there's no excuse for being ignorant whether its in the site rules or not. Funny how many woman say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet that have the time to read them all. If you've got time to read it you've got time to send a quick 'thanks but no thanks'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I have asked for profile advice as I prefer honestly over bullshit. My profile is honest and not just full of crap I think people want to read. If people don't like honesty then that says more about them than it does me. Sorry but there's no excuse for being ignorant whether its in the site rules or not. Funny how many woman say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet that have the time to read them all. If you've got time to read it you've got time to send a quick 'thanks but no thanks'. "
No public pics and far too much text in your profile, haven’t read it and don’t plan, cut away the legal jargon at the bottom though cause that’s just meaningless, where did you cut and paste that from? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the crap childish Sydney warning killed your chances fella....just leave if it not working for you. Go pay for a prostitute as it seems because you pay site upgrade membership, it instantly entitals you to success.. ..your moaning attitude is holding you back..take the site
For what it is,..unfortunately you are one guy in thousands on here..you need to stand out from the others and offer people what they want, but unfortunately you do not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am fully aware that you don't have to pay. But I was kind of under the impression that you would be taken more seriously by being a site supporter. It didn't cost me a fiver it cost me £12.50, or something like that.
I also fully realise that nothing is guaranteed, least of all 'getting my dick wet'. But I did kind of expect some sort of interaction if only a 'no thank you'.I don't really think it's delusional to expect something, anything. Even just a 'thanks but no thanks' would have been a refreshing change."
the legal thing is pointless as 1 you have no public pics and 2 nobody follows thru with legal threats on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't wanna get a timeout again for expressing my opinion.
But intelligent person doesn't brag about their IQ, even if it's above average.
Farewell, OP! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't wanna get a timeout again for expressing my opinion.
But intelligent person doesn't brag about their IQ, even if it's above average.
Farewell, OP!"
Haha Savage |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't wanna get a timeout again for expressing my opinion.
But intelligent person doesn't brag about their IQ, even if it's above average.
Farewell, OP!"
my iq is 3 i checked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
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I am not your type being a BBW anyway, but I wouldn't reply to you as your profile seems to read very passive aggressively. A friendly laid back tone goes a long way on here especially as you are wanting to appeal rather than send women running. Charming is how you make women interested, not defensive and cynical. I hope this helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't wanna get a timeout again for expressing my opinion.
But intelligent person doesn't brag about their IQ, even if it's above average.
Farewell, OP!my iq is 3 i checked "
Happy for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I have asked for profile advice as I prefer honestly over bullshit. My profile is honest and not just full of crap I think people want to read. If people don't like honesty then that says more about them than it does me. Sorry but there's no excuse for being ignorant whether its in the site rules or not. Funny how many woman say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet that have the time to read them all. If you've got time to read it you've got time to send a quick 'thanks but no thanks'. "
It is honest but reads a little negative as opposed to fun. The warnings are just copy and paste totally unecessary.
But if you got 100s of messages daily you can't read, check profile and reply to every one ... it's not bad manners it's in the rules! No reply isn't personal it just means no thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How long have you been on the site for ? It’s easy to slate something when it hasn’t worked for you and moaning about money is a massive turn off too I hope you preserve though good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op. You sound like you’ve made your mind up already. Or would you like me to give my honest advice?!
careful now "
I know.
Also, i’m really pleased to see the op has completely had a change of heart and decided to stick around. what a great result and conclusion to this story. |
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"No I have asked for profile advice as I prefer honestly over bullshit. My profile is honest and not just full of crap I think people want to read. If people don't like honesty then that says more about them than it does me. Sorry but there's no excuse for being ignorant whether its in the site rules or not. Funny how many woman say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet that have the time to read them all. If you've got time to read it you've got time to send a quick 'thanks but no thanks'. "
I really don't get that attitude. Everyone is telling you that your profile will put off women and your lack of replies confirms that. Yet you refuse to change your profile and blame women for not liking it.
It's like me stocking up my off licence on a council estate with expensive fine wines and saying its my customers fault when I go out of business. |
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" Funny how many woman say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet that have the time to read them all. If you've got time to read it you've got time to send a quick 'thanks but no thanks'. "
Thanks but I'd prefer to meet guys who don't dictate what I should have time to do.
Whether I have time to reply to messages (I generally do) or not, it's entirely my choice and will always remain so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long have you been on the site for ? It’s easy to slate something when it hasn’t worked for you and moaning about money is a massive turn off too I hope you preserve though good luck x"
persevere  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You say ..you will like me once you get to know me..yet you state, you will not meet anyone socially first, for say a coffee ..you tell them to pass you by.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is great. Effort in reward out chap.
I wonder what you are trying to achieve with this post OP?
The offer of a 'pityfuck' to prove him wrong maybe?
One for the team "
Hey If I told everyone I was dying of a terminal disease do you think could I get one of those |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you had sent me a message and I’d read your profile. I wouldn’t reply. The reason is the rant about not replying.
Vx "
I don’t think I’d have time to read his profile, I’d need to make time to read that profile xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know what I want lol and that is to meet for a coffee first for my safety and to check attraction!
I wouldn't reply to your profile simply on this ... |
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By *abs..Woman
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I’m not sure I totally understand the ‘waste of time’ thing. Nobody is forced to be on here. For things to change you have to do something differently. I wouldn’t continue to do something that I didn’t get enjoyment from in some way or other. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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OP whether you agree or disagree with the fact that people don't reply it's not something you will change - so you have the choice to accept it or not, but moaning about it will get you absolutely nowhere, so you're better off accepting it with a shrug of the shoulders and telling yourself that those that don't reply obviously weren't a good match for your requirements.
I find it's far better to look at what you *can* change rather than looking to blame anything or anyone else for the site not meeting your expectations (which I will be honest and say are probably set way too high) - the things you can change are all within your control and a good start would be taking some of the advice provided on this thread and other similar ones you have posted on.
The kind of things you can change include attitude, approach, expectations, profile, pics, forum use, social/club attendance and more - all of which are key to finding what you want from the site - they won't guarantee a thing of course, but getting them right *will* make your experience a better one |
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"OP whether you agree or disagree with the fact that people don't reply it's not something you will change - so you have the choice to accept it or not, but moaning about it will get you absolutely nowhere, so you're better off accepting it with a shrug of the shoulders and telling yourself that those that don't reply obviously weren't a good match for your requirements.
I find it's far better to look at what you *can* change rather than looking to blame anything or anyone else for the site not meeting your expectations (which I will be honest and say are probably set way too high) - the things you can change are all within your control and a good start would be taking some of the advice provided on this thread and other similar ones you have posted on.
The kind of things you can change include attitude, approach, expectations, profile, pics, forum use, social/club attendance and more - all of which are key to finding what you want from the site - they won't guarantee a thing of course, but getting them right *will* make your experience a better one "
Well said I don’t care how hot you are I think everyone on here has been ignored at some point |
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"OP whether you agree or disagree with the fact that people don't reply it's not something you will change - so you have the choice to accept it or not, but moaning about it will get you absolutely nowhere, so you're better off accepting it with a shrug of the shoulders and telling yourself that those that don't reply obviously weren't a good match for your requirements.
I find it's far better to look at what you *can* change rather than looking to blame anything or anyone else for the site not meeting your expectations (which I will be honest and say are probably set way too high) - the things you can change are all within your control and a good start would be taking some of the advice provided on this thread and other similar ones you have posted on.
The kind of things you can change include attitude, approach, expectations, profile, pics, forum use, social/club attendance and more - all of which are key to finding what you want from the site - they won't guarantee a thing of course, but getting them right *will* make your experience a better one "
A middle aged "curvy" man is going to be up against it anyway. Add to that
1. No pics
2. Refusing to meet for socials
3. Having an aggressive, entitled profile.
And Id be astonished if anyone replied to his messages.
As you say, whilst he can't do anything about his age or looks, he can do something about 1 to 3. The fact that he refuses to do so suggests that we're dealing with entrenched personality traits.
As such he's right. He's wasting his time on here. |
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He's been offered advice before. He's not changed the glaring things that would put the vast majority off (although the entitlement would come through in messages even if his profile changed). Yes, sure, the site sucks, no one gets laid around here, site upgrade entitles you to demand attention from fellow users. |
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"You could always apply to go Naked Attraction or perhaps try speed dating "
I've done this on Friday. Outta 15 guys I didn't fancy a single one. Good luck to OP haha |
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You don't have to spend the fiver any more as it obviously doesn't matter whether you can use smileys in your messages or the "looked at me" feature!
It doesn't appear that you have used the extra photo allowance either, so why did you spend the money?
Cutting through all the padding in your profile, I can only see you like kissing and consider yourself to be good at oral- not much to go on really is it? Especially if the prospective lady can't have a quick drink with you prior to gauge attraction!
Plus there's so much waffle there I got bored! |
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over a year ago
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I don’t know what the expectations of the majority of people are on here ? I have chatted to people that have been on a few weeks and they are already despondent. Perhaps unrealistic there I have answered my own question |
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"No I have asked for profile advice as I prefer honestly over bullshit. My profile is honest and not just full of crap I think people want to read. If people don't like honesty then that says more about them than it does me. Sorry but there's no excuse for being ignorant whether its in the site rules or not. Funny how many woman say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet that have the time to read them all. If you've got time to read it you've got time to send a quick 'thanks but no thanks'. "
I agree. Would you really want to meet a rude person though? See it as a lucky escape. |
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Having now ready the profile, you contradict yourself, you say you want people to get to know you but you won’t meet for a social?
Personally, i’d delete the lot and start over. |
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Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end. |
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"I don't feel meeting up for a coffee first to see if there's an attraction is judging personally. Strange thought process."
Indeed, I'd be thinking they have something to hide that would be revealed in a social (public) environment. |
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end."
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them. |
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over a year ago
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them. "
I wouldn't even like to put a percentage on those that find the site meet their expectations necessarily - they tend to go about their Fab business quietly and accept the various site traits for what they are.
The common factor amongst the majority of those that find it doesn't meet their expectations though is that they all seek to blame anyone or anything else for their lack of "success" from the site rather than looking closer to home for the answer, which is usually where the problem lies. |
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them. "
Very true about those at the bottom. I'm not great looking, I don't have a great body, I'm a little odd and not aways at my best socially and I could always get meets when I was looking. If i can do it, almost anyone can. And yes it's partly luck but I do think that luck is influenced by many men on here who will never get a meet simply through their own actions amd ineptitude.
In the kingdom of the blind, the one eyed man is king. Even with the huge numbers of men on here these days it's really not difficult for even someone decidedly average like me to influence their own luck |
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"OP whether you agree or disagree with the fact that people don't reply it's not something you will change - so you have the choice to accept it or not, but moaning about it will get you absolutely nowhere, so you're better off accepting it with a shrug of the shoulders and telling yourself that those that don't reply obviously weren't a good match for your requirements.
I find it's far better to look at what you *can* change rather than looking to blame anything or anyone else for the site not meeting your expectations (which I will be honest and say are probably set way too high) - the things you can change are all within your control and a good start would be taking some of the advice provided on this thread and other similar ones you have posted on.
The kind of things you can change include attitude, approach, expectations, profile, pics, forum use, social/club attendance and more - all of which are key to finding what you want from the site - they won't guarantee a thing of course, but getting them right *will* make your experience a better one "
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them.
Very true about those at the bottom. I'm not great looking, I don't have a great body, I'm a little odd and not aways at my best socially and I could always get meets when I was looking. If i can do it, almost anyone can. And yes it's partly luck but I do think that luck is influenced by many men on here who will never get a meet simply through their own actions amd ineptitude.
In the kingdom of the blind, the one eyed man is king. Even with the huge numbers of men on here these days it's really not difficult for even someone decidedly average like me to influence their own luck"
My view is that the "secret" for single men is to be able to treat women as human beings and not as receptacles in which to put your penis. That means being able to talk to them about non sexual subjects, be aware of and take account of their feelings, and not present as someone who might be on the sex offenders register.
As you say, it's only a small minority of men who here who seem to be able to do that. |
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over a year ago
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them.
Very true about those at the bottom. I'm not great looking, I don't have a great body, I'm a little odd and not aways at my best socially and I could always get meets when I was looking. If i can do it, almost anyone can. And yes it's partly luck but I do think that luck is influenced by many men on here who will never get a meet simply through their own actions amd ineptitude.
In the kingdom of the blind, the one eyed man is king. Even with the huge numbers of men on here these days it's really not difficult for even someone decidedly average like me to influence their own luck
My view is that the "secret" for single men is to be able to treat women as human beings and not as receptacles in which to put your penis. That means being able to talk to them about non sexual subjects, be aware of and take account of their feelings, and not present as someone who might be on the sex offenders register.
As you say, it's only a small minority of men who here who seem to be able to do that. "
I actually think it's more than a "small minority", as I said above, it's just that those that do "get" it and who do have a good experience from the site and find it meets their expectations tend to not make a great deal of noise about it.
Agree with the other points you make about attitude and approach though |
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As a bi guy who dresses probably inappropriate for me to comment. However, I don't subscribe to the site. I have had dozens of meets both in Northampton and previously Aylesbury area. More difficult now as don't accomodate. OK so 95% are guys but also had the pleasure of meting several couples M/F. Best site I have found. |
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them.
Very true about those at the bottom. I'm not great looking, I don't have a great body, I'm a little odd and not aways at my best socially and I could always get meets when I was looking. If i can do it, almost anyone can. And yes it's partly luck but I do think that luck is influenced by many men on here who will never get a meet simply through their own actions amd ineptitude.
In the kingdom of the blind, the one eyed man is king. Even with the huge numbers of men on here these days it's really not difficult for even someone decidedly average like me to influence their own luck
My view is that the "secret" for single men is to be able to treat women as human beings and not as receptacles in which to put your penis. That means being able to talk to them about non sexual subjects, be aware of and take account of their feelings, and not present as someone who might be on the sex offenders register.
As you say, it's only a small minority of men who here who seem to be able to do that.
I actually think it's more than a "small minority", as I said above, it's just that those that do "get" it and who do have a good experience from the site and find it meets their expectations tend to not make a great deal of noise about it.
Agree with the other points you make about attitude and approach though "
From the messages we get from men I'd say about 80% don't "get it" |
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them.
I wouldn't even like to put a percentage on those that find the site meet their expectations necessarily - they tend to go about their Fab business quietly and accept the various site traits for what they are.
The common factor amongst the majority of those that find it doesn't meet their expectations though is that they all seek to blame anyone or anything else for their lack of "success" from the site rather than looking closer to home for the answer, which is usually where the problem lies."
I suppose I'm going by my inbox. 70-80% don't, as was just stated, "get" the big secret that we're people who have our own desires and want to be treated with respect/ made to feel desired and safe. They want, I provide, yes? No. |
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"As a bi guy who dresses probably inappropriate for me to comment. However, I don't subscribe to the site. I have had dozens of meets both in Northampton and previously Aylesbury area. More difficult now as don't accomodate. OK so 95% are guys but also had the pleasure of meting several couples M/F. Best site I have found. "
If you're looking to meet men, you won't have a problem given members are overwhelmingly male. |
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"Well it seems my membership runs out in 5 days time. I'd like to say it's been a pleasure being a member of this site but it hasn't. It's been a complete waste of time and money. There's only so many times a chap can put up with messages not being read, being completely ignored or just deleted with no response. I have lost count of the number of messages I've sent with absolutely no response whatesoever. No wonder this site gets so many bad reviews. Wish I'd seen them before I parted with my money. Ah well, we live and learn.
A couple of points.
The site is free. You don't have to pay.
Many people do well on the site whether they pay or not. A fiver every 30/60 days doesn't guarantee getting your dick wet.
Good luck trying any other sites. They're no different and will probably cost you more.
I guess the negative reviews were from people who thought setting up a profile and popping a couple of quickly taken snaps would have others rushing to meet them. Delusional springs to mind.
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over a year ago
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them.
I wouldn't even like to put a percentage on those that find the site meet their expectations necessarily - they tend to go about their Fab business quietly and accept the various site traits for what they are.
The common factor amongst the majority of those that find it doesn't meet their expectations though is that they all seek to blame anyone or anything else for their lack of "success" from the site rather than looking closer to home for the answer, which is usually where the problem lies.
I suppose I'm going by my inbox. 70-80% don't, as was just stated, "get" the big secret that we're people who have our own desires and want to be treated with respect/ made to feel desired and safe. They want, I provide, yes? No. "
Oh don't get me wrong I agree that those that don't get it outweigh those that do and perhaps I phrased the suggestion of not wanting to put a percentage on it wrongly.
Perhaps a better way to have put it would be that a lot is made of the number imbalance between men, women and couples on here, but if you take away those that don't get it (across all categories) - it's a lot more evenly balanced. Which logically comes back to if you have the right approach and attitude it's highly likely your expectations of the site will be met, no matter your gender. |
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them.
I wouldn't even like to put a percentage on those that find the site meet their expectations necessarily - they tend to go about their Fab business quietly and accept the various site traits for what they are.
The common factor amongst the majority of those that find it doesn't meet their expectations though is that they all seek to blame anyone or anything else for their lack of "success" from the site rather than looking closer to home for the answer, which is usually where the problem lies.
I suppose I'm going by my inbox. 70-80% don't, as was just stated, "get" the big secret that we're people who have our own desires and want to be treated with respect/ made to feel desired and safe. They want, I provide, yes? No.
Oh don't get me wrong I agree that those that don't get it outweigh those that do and perhaps I phrased the suggestion of not wanting to put a percentage on it wrongly.
Perhaps a better way to have put it would be that a lot is made of the number imbalance between men, women and couples on here, but if you take away those that don't get it (across all categories) - it's a lot more evenly balanced. Which logically comes back to if you have the right approach and attitude it's highly likely your expectations of the site will be met, no matter your gender."
There's also the other point that a lot of the guys who don't get it don't actually want to me in my view.
My evidence for that is when we organise gangbang parties. We're not really bothered about personality for them. If you look half way decent and aren't a complete tosser you'll probably get an invite. Despite that two thirds to three quarters of people invited don't turn up. |
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Paying for fab use is an option that gives you extra site features but may not affect greater success here. The people I know would write rave reviews, so I don't know where the op sees different types
Individual results vary - some people are more desired by others - the approach taken by some is more successful - some people actually swing and use swinging venues with a website as a social support - others are geographically blessed with lots more people around them, etc etc
If someone gets incredibly highsexual success rates with the new contacts they make in the wider world, then it would be strange if their charisma and sexual magnetism didn't produce lots of the same here. How do you perform in the real world op, in comparison?
It's really helpful to have realistic expectations and not to pay for site supporter whilst assuming it can transform dud results into 24/7 orgies. |
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"Oh don't get me wrong I agree that those that don't get it outweigh those that do and perhaps I phrased the suggestion of not wanting to put a percentage on it wrongly.
Perhaps a better way to have put it would be that a lot is made of the number imbalance between men, women and couples on here, but if you take away those that don't get it (across all categories) - it's a lot more evenly balanced. Which logically comes back to if you have the right approach and attitude it's highly likely your expectations of the site will be met, no matter your gender."
That makes sense, yes. And I'm not so much picking on men. One, as I say, I'm going by my inbox, but two, women and couples will have less issues getting meets almost no matter what they do. I'm certainly not saying that the only bad people/ people "doing it wrong" are men. |
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"Well if you go OP that's one less person moaning about how this doesn't work for them. And for the majority of males on here it won't either. That's just yhe way it is. Some will be more successful than others. .. all down to luck in the end.
I think for the top 20-30% of men it's partly luck. The bottom... no, most of it is about them.
Very true about those at the bottom. I'm not great looking, I don't have a great body, I'm a little odd and not aways at my best socially and I could always get meets when I was looking. If i can do it, almost anyone can. And yes it's partly luck but I do think that luck is influenced by many men on here who will never get a meet simply through their own actions amd ineptitude.
In the kingdom of the blind, the one eyed man is king. Even with the huge numbers of men on here these days it's really not difficult for even someone decidedly average like me to influence their own luck
My view is that the "secret" for single men is to be able to treat women as human beings and not as receptacles in which to put your penis. That means being able to talk to them about non sexual subjects, be aware of and take account of their feelings, and not present as someone who might be on the sex offenders register.
As you say, it's only a small minority of men who here who seem to be able to do that. "
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"I think he needs a profile makeover, im sure ppl can help him.
Possibly, but he hasn't asked for it, and changed nothing after he did before. "
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"Oh don't get me wrong I agree that those that don't get it outweigh those that do and perhaps I phrased the suggestion of not wanting to put a percentage on it wrongly.
Perhaps a better way to have put it would be that a lot is made of the number imbalance between men, women and couples on here, but if you take away those that don't get it (across all categories) - it's a lot more evenly balanced. Which logically comes back to if you have the right approach and attitude it's highly likely your expectations of the site will be met, no matter your gender.
That makes sense, yes. And I'm not so much picking on men. One, as I say, I'm going by my inbox, but two, women and couples will have less issues getting meets almost no matter what they do. I'm certainly not saying that the only bad people/ people "doing it wrong" are men. "
Oh I didn't think for a minute you were picking on men - didn't come across that way at all, likewise about the only ones that get it wrong are men.
Yes in the imbalanced world couples and women do have it easier when it comes to getting meets in some respects, my point was more that in the balanced world (where those that don't "get it" are taken out) it's actually just as easy for men (and I say "easy" with guardedness as it makes it sound like it would just be a case of having a profile which we all know it isn't). |
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Some won't communicate with non site supporters but after your subs run out you'll see how many that is. You can still message people.
Or there's the forum.
So don't leave. Bring it in Easy Rider and feel the love on here.
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I’ve tried other sites and they are CRAP!
Fab is the best and it is free. It’s only if you choose to pay extra for more pictures etc.
There is one site that won’t let you message unless you’ve paid a years subscription upfront. |
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