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Taking one for the team
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at it from two angles:
Firstly, I would hate to think someone would shag me because they felt obliged to
I want them to like me / be attracted to me and to take as much enjoyment from the bonding as I do
Secondly, no way would I shag someone to please someone else
I need to have an attraction - in a club it could be purely physical, but more often than not, it's a physical attraction mixed with a genuine liking for the other person |
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I love topics but cannot eat them any more as I seem to have become allergic to hazelnuts..
The allergy has also prevented me from being able to eat squirrel shit too.. useful if I find myself eating in Heston Blumenthal's restaurant.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not! If I feel I’m having to do something I’m not comfortable with just to please someone else then I’d walk away.
Clues in the title - Team. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Things are heating up in here. Maybe a change from a Topic to a Dairy Milk or maybe a Picnic?didnt you have enough chocolate at Christmas  "
Jesus did i? Just finished the last of the lot off! Now about to dunk my choc hobnob...mmmm nom nom  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Things are heating up in here. Maybe a change from a Topic to a Dairy Milk or maybe a Picnic?didnt you have enough chocolate at Christmas
Jesus did i? Just finished the last of the lot off! Now about to dunk my choc hobnob...mmmm nom nom "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Things are heating up in here. Maybe a change from a Topic to a Dairy Milk or maybe a Picnic?didnt you have enough chocolate at Christmas
Jesus did i? Just finished the last of the lot off! Now about to dunk my choc hobnob...mmmm nom nom "
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Don't do it. We were at a party with a woman who said she had the night before. She knew her partner fancied the woman in the couple but she had no interest in the guy. She wasn't bothered by it at all, it was just how it was as far as she was concerned. No matter how the taking one for the team person felt I would hate someone to have sex with me just so their partner could have sex with my partner. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Personally I'd be mortified if my partner ever felt that she had slept with someone she wasn't attracted to just to please me, likewise I couldn't have sex with someone that I wasn't attracted to.
Communication and clear understanding are the cornerstone of any play situation with a partner. If you're not both enjoying it then it's over. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Jack and I have never done this
There has to be attraction for both of us to take it further.
Tbh it's usually me that doesn't't fancy the other male and like another couple mentioned,we do get less meets.
However we would rather thoroughly enjoy our meets and have less,than meet for the sake. |
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One thing I hated as a couple was when the ex would like a lady but if find her partner not for me but we still played anyway. I would often end up taking photos or encouraging the other lady to have both guys.. therefore avoiding actually doing so... but not offending anyone |
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"One thing I hated as a couple was when the ex would like a lady but if find her partner not for me but we still played anyway. I would often end up taking photos or encouraging the other lady to have both guys.. therefore avoiding actually doing so... but not offending anyone "
I think a lot of people are like you. I'm not suggesting for a minute thats a bad thing but I think we're all wary of causing offence even if the greatest offence is that caused to ourselves |
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"One thing I hated as a couple was when the ex would like a lady but if find her partner not for me but we still played anyway. I would often end up taking photos or encouraging the other lady to have both guys.. therefore avoiding actually doing so... but not offending anyone
I think a lot of people are like you. I'm not suggesting for a minute thats a bad thing but I think we're all wary of causing offence even if the greatest offence is that caused to ourselves"
it also caused issues with my relationship but I now realise that shouldn't have been the case. In the end I refused if I wasn't into them.. And then got accused of being boring x |
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"Discuss topic lol "
Depends if your partner would do it back for you....
Am guessing your bloke would love to bed a certain female but in order for the meet to happen, you have to keep her hubby busy who you're not keen on.
But if your bloke is prepared to return the favour and go with a female he doesn't fancy to suit your needs, then it's perfect give and take and I don't see a problem. |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
We have met people before who on first encounter we've thought no because there wasn't a physical attraction but then got to know their personality which made it a whole new ball game.
We don't like the term 'taking one for the team' as it's used as hierarchy slang for 'perfect people' which none of us are.
We've had people in the past say they would have spoke to us but because we're well known they thought we'd reject them which hurt as we are friendly with everyone.
One of our swinging lady friends is a beautiful sexy lady who as the opposite problems because people don’t think they would be up to her standard, she gets less messages than others...you can't win.
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What exactly is taking one for the team ?
I guess it’s shagging someone you think isn’t up to your usual standard in some way or another .
So if you like someone slim , you shag someone who’s fat . Or you don’t like Asians or or blacks but you’ll shag one if you are willing to take one for the team . And so it goes on .....
Well we didn’t have any race preference , nor was size an issue , nor was age in what we were looking for . If someone was clean , pleasant , and willing to have fun , we were game in pretty much all aspects if our swinging life and play .
So taking one for the team never came into it thankfully . |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
"What exactly is taking one for the team ?
I guess it’s shagging someone you think isn’t up to your usual standard in some way or another .
So if you like someone slim , you shag someone who’s fat . Or you don’t like Asians or or blacks but you’ll shag one if you are willing to take one for the team . And so it goes on .....
Well we didn’t have any race preference , nor was size an issue , nor was age in what we were looking for . If someone was clean , pleasant , and willing to have fun , we were game in pretty much all aspects if our swinging life and play .
So taking one for the team never came into it thankfully . "
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I don't like to be fair the term taking one for the team. As it's not the other persons fault that for whatever reason they aren't really for me sexually. But I was finding my way as a couple when we were exploring and a lot of the time it was more I didn't want to seem to be the kill joy.
Ironically since finding my confidence to say no. I also found myself single but hey ho.
I have had a few couples that made it clear that the partner felt he was taking one for the team with me ... so I just watched as preferred it that way.
I would never if I was part of a couple make the compromises I did to keep my partner happy... as it did me no favours |
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