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People being realistic, honest and actually wanting to meet???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Getting on for three years into our swinging journey has seen us both bemused, tired and worn out by time wasters and deluded people. Are we the only people who say who we are and what we like and actually mean it? Let’s start with the obvious.
1. No single males means no single males. So why do they keep contacting us?
2. Asking to hear from people who keep in good shape and dress well as we do? So almost exclusively it’s the men in couples describing themselves as athletic or rugby types = a ton of lard around their waste???
3. People who say they are non smokers or very occasional social smokers who are actually heavy chain smokers. There is a difference.
4. People who want to meet people for long term naughty friendships like ourselves who then chat with us forever but just can’t quite pin down a date to meet? Worse still they arrange a date and a couple of weeks later cancel a few days before or worse still on the day?
Are there any couples, single woman who actually want the same as our profile suggests and are honest and reliable out there?
What are other people’s views and opinion on this? Are we missing something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people find issues. I'd say a single male profile would say they experience a high level of rudeness from single females and couples.
I do agree with you in the sense that some people are deluded in their description of themselves.
Trying a couple is something I would like to try potentially in the future but often a let down. I find alot of the time I won't be attracted to at least one of them! |
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If you're tired and worn out, you need to look at whether this is the place for you. Yes, there are idiots and time wasters. But there are also plenty of positives and if you're not seeing that, I think you either need to look at how you select potentials or if you want to stay around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You sum it up very nicely indeed and I feel your pain.
There are so so many profiles on the site with deluded expectations.
Im pretty sure ive been on this site for about 4 years now and it doesn't get easier, if anything it gets more fruatrating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unbelievably didn’t know we could so I will now but as we all know there are ways around most things? Thanks for the advice."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the answers so far. Some get it and are helpful and some are answering like the problem is ours and maybe they are right? Just to point out that we have met some wonderful people and made some wonderful sexy friends so yes there is enough reason to stay but just wish people would’ve honest? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it can be a bit of a mine field but we tread carefully & luckily been quite successful on this site , but we pretty much pick up this little hobby as & when & don’t let it bog us down when we get an influx of chancers & fakes . May be take a bit of time out to refresh oneself? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Point 1. Filters block single males - job done.
Point 3. Filters block smokers - job done
Sometimes you have to look at your own approach if you are not getting what you want. If numerous people are cancelling on you and not replanning to see you then maybe look at your own selection process or what you may be doing to put them off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the answers so far. Some get it and are helpful and some are answering like the problem is ours and maybe they are right? Just to point out that we have met some wonderful people and made some wonderful sexy friends so yes there is enough reason to stay but just wish people would’ve honest?"
Wishing ppl to be honest is like pissing against the wind my love
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes it can be a bit of a mine field but we tread carefully & luckily been quite successful on this site , but we pretty much pick up this little hobby as & when & don’t let it bog us down when we get an influx of chancers & fakes . May be take a bit of time out to refresh oneself? "
Good points. Have applied some filters and will update and adapt our profile later today. Thank You x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Point 1. Filters block single males - job done.
Point 3. Filters block smokers - job done
Sometimes you have to look at your own approach if you are not getting what you want. If numerous people are cancelling on you and not replanning to see you then maybe look at your own selection process or what you may be doing to put them off "
More than a handful,
Have just done exactly that. Thsnk You x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are honest and reliable. Certainly not your type physically and that’s fine.
However, your profile and approach here comes across as quite demanding and to be honest we’d feel almost as though we were being critiqued. That would be very off putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Point 1. Filters block single males - job done.
Point 3. Filters block smokers - job done
Sometimes you have to look at your own approach if you are not getting what you want. If numerous people are cancelling on you and not replanning to see you then maybe look at your own selection process or what you may be doing to put them off "
Shame there is not a block for liars. Oh there wouldn't be many left in FAB |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We all have our own desires and expectations on this site, having been on it for over 10 years now, ive seen a lot of changes over the years, mostly these are people wanting specifics from others, which can and as you’ve proven yourself, narrowed the field an awful lot, now i’m not saying you should open up more, but the profiles that have a list of demands or preferences do reduce the spectrum of possible meets quite significantly.
Id say just keep doing what you’re doing, you’ve blocked single guys so that will stop the junk mail, the rest will come in time i’m sure.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unbelievably didn’t know we could so I will now but as we all know there are ways around most things? Thanks for the advice."
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There is no way getting round a block btw |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We are honest and reliable. Certainly not your type physically and that’s fine.
However, your profile and approach here comes across as quite demanding and to be honest we’d feel almost as though we were being critiqued. That would be very off putting. "
I hear what your saying but think it’s easy to at least see what we are looking for. Above all else we are friendly regardless who contacts us and try not to be rude. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Point 1. Filters block single males - job done.
Point 3. Filters block smokers - job done
Sometimes you have to look at your own approach if you are not getting what you want. If numerous people are cancelling on you and not replanning to see you then maybe look at your own selection process or what you may be doing to put them off
Shame there is not a block for liars. Oh there wouldn't be many left in FAB"
ha ha I guess not. Quality over quantity at least x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We all have our own desires and expectations on this site, having been on it for over 10 years now, ive seen a lot of changes over the years, mostly these are people wanting specifics from others, which can and as you’ve proven yourself, narrowed the field an awful lot, now i’m not saying you should open up more, but the profiles that have a list of demands or preferences do reduce the spectrum of possible meets quite significantly.
Id say just keep doing what you’re doing, you’ve blocked single guys so that will stop the junk mail, the rest will come in time i’m sure. "
Appreciated points x |
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"If you're tired and worn out, you need to look at whether this is the place for you. Yes, there are idiots and time wasters. But there are also plenty of positives and if you're not seeing that, I think you either need to look at how you select potentials or if you want to stay around. "
Exactly this  . It ain’t rocket science |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Unbelievably didn’t know we could so I will now but as we all know there are ways around most things? Thanks for the advice.
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There is no way getting round a block btw"
Have started to kinkybird. Apologies x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're tired and worn out, you need to look at whether this is the place for you. Yes, there are idiots and time wasters. But there are also plenty of positives and if you're not seeing that, I think you either need to look at how you select potentials or if you want to stay around.
Exactly this . It ain’t rocket science "
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"Getting on for three years into our swinging journey has seen us both bemused, tired and worn out by time wasters and deluded people. Are we the only people who say who we are and what we like and actually mean it? Let’s start with the obvious.
1. No single males means no single males. So why do they keep contacting us?
2. Asking to hear from people who keep in good shape and dress well as we do? So almost exclusively it’s the men in couples describing themselves as athletic or rugby types = a ton of lard around their waste???
3. People who say they are non smokers or very occasional social smokers who are actually heavy chain smokers. There is a difference.
4. People who want to meet people for long term naughty friendships like ourselves who then chat with us forever but just can’t quite pin down a date to meet? Worse still they arrange a date and a couple of weeks later cancel a few days before or worse still on the day?
Are there any couples, single woman who actually want the same as our profile suggests and are honest and reliable out there?
What are other people’s views and opinion on this? Are we missing something?"
Point two can be addressed by looking at photos. Point 4 has no solution, if you want long-term swinging friends you will get some who fall by the wayside. How can you possibly know if you're interested long-term if you don't have a bit of get to know you chit chat? Cancelling is annoying its true.
You say you've met some really nice people, that's great |
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Oh and just for info any message filters you apply aren't retrospective so that any single men that have already contacted you will still be able to. The only way to prevent that is to block them individually |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Getting on for three years into our swinging journey has seen us both bemused, tired and worn out by time wasters and deluded people. Are we the only people who say who we are and what we like and actually mean it? Let’s start with the obvious.
1. No single males means no single males. So why do they keep contacting us?
2. Asking to hear from people who keep in good shape and dress well as we do? So almost exclusively it’s the men in couples describing themselves as athletic or rugby types = a ton of lard around their waste???
3. People who say they are non smokers or very occasional social smokers who are actually heavy chain smokers. There is a difference.
4. People who want to meet people for long term naughty friendships like ourselves who then chat with us forever but just can’t quite pin down a date to meet? Worse still they arrange a date and a couple of weeks later cancel a few days before or worse still on the day?
Are there any couples, single woman who actually want the same as our profile suggests and are honest and reliable out there?
What are other people’s views and opinion on this? Are we missing something?
Point two can be addressed by looking at photos. Point 4 has no solution, if you want long-term swinging friends you will get some who fall by the wayside. How can you possibly know if you're interested long-term if you don't have a bit of get to know you chit chat? Cancelling is annoying its true.
You say you've met some really nice people, that's great "
Good points. We’re getting there thanks. Just interested to hear other people’s thoughts x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh and just for info any message filters you apply aren't retrospective so that any single men that have already contacted you will still be able to. The only way to prevent that is to block them individually"
Oh right. That I didn’t know. I’ll have to do that as and when? Thank You for that info. x |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x |
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"A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x"
Women can be curvy without being obese. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x
Very true.
Women can be curvy without being obese."
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"We are honest and reliable. Certainly not your type physically and that’s fine.
However, your profile and approach here comes across as quite demanding and to be honest we’d feel almost as though we were being critiqued. That would be very off putting. "
These are my thoughts too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP it might be that what you are looking for is just not that easy to find. I have read your profile and found what you are looking for a little confusing to deduce. I think the gist is that you are looking for a lady for girl/girl and where you meet a couple it is for girl/girl with soft play only involving the male and full sex with own partners only. This will appeal to a small subset on here and once you add in your specific requirements (appearance, smoking, etc), which are perfectly valid to ask for, that makes it even harder to find a match.
You also seem to only have female couples - Couple (FF) - set on your looking for so you are going to be excluded from the searches of all F/M couples. Not sure if that is what you meant to do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x"
Will try to explain hopefully? We have met some super fit woman with natural curves.
To us a social smoker is one or two during several hours on a social ( acceptable to us ) but people say this and go through half a packet in a couple of hours. Worse still. People smoking those filthy chavtastic roll ups.
Maybe there is no compromise and we should just say no smokers full stop? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP it might be that what you are looking for is just not that easy to find. I have read your profile and found what you are looking for a little confusing to deduce. I think the gist is that you are looking for a lady for girl/girl and where you meet a couple it is for girl/girl with soft play only involving the male and full sex with own partners only. This will appeal to a small subset on here and once you add in your specific requirements (appearance, smoking, etc), which are perfectly valid to ask for, that makes it even harder to find a match.
You also seem to only have female couples - Couple (FF) - set on your looking for so you are going to be excluded from the searches of all F/M couples. Not sure if that is what you meant to do."
Valid points. We are reviewing and updating as we speak x |
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"A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x
Will try to explain hopefully? We have met some super fit woman with natural curves.
To us a social smoker is one or two during several hours on a social ( acceptable to us ) but people say this and go through half a packet in a couple of hours. Worse still. People smoking those filthy chavtastic roll ups.
Maybe there is no compromise and we should just say no smokers full stop?"
Saves the ambiguity. But alot don't state that they smoke anyway. But at least they might be more subtle about their habit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My opinion, for what it's worth, is that fabswingers is not the place for couples to meet couples. It's just tinder for married guys and single women who like a chat. "
Maybe? It’s certainly difficult at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being on the site from day one, nothing has changed, no difference in finding reliable meets, and no difference in people not reading profiles.
We have a message title on our profile text that if we don't see in the message title we just delete. Simple filter that has stood the test of time so long as your profile states what you personally are looking for.
We don't message others to meet, but rather rely on clubs and social events. It seems to be the best way of finding the right people for us. |
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"A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x"
Yeah if you smoke rollys you’re a chav...
Snotty profile. That how I’d read it if I was a bi single lady. Looks like they’re looking for an accessory x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x
Yeah if you smoke rollys you’re a chav...
Snotty profile. That how I’d read it if I was a bi single lady. Looks like they’re looking for an accessory x"
Honesty no snotty. Personal choice. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My opinion, for what it's worth, is that fabswingers is not the place for couples to meet couples. It's just tinder for married guys and single women who like a chat. "
Erm. We do well!  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"A bit confused with your bio OP, so I can maybe see why others could be as well. States no smokers or overweight then further down says social smokers and curvy ladies. Perhaps an edit may be an idea to make it clear. Good luck x
Will try to explain hopefully? We have met some super fit woman with natural curves.
To us a social smoker is one or two during several hours on a social ( acceptable to us ) but people say this and go through half a packet in a couple of hours. Worse still. People smoking those filthy chavtastic roll ups.
Maybe there is no compromise and we should just say no smokers full stop?"
I think that would probably be for the best, I need to make dire mine is changed to non smokers as I gave up six weeks ago too lol. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Point 1. Filters block single males - job done.
Point 3. Filters block smokers - job done
Sometimes you have to look at your own approach if you are not getting what you want. If numerous people are cancelling on you and not replanning to see you then maybe look at your own selection process or what you may be doing to put them off "
Love guru said it best
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"Getting on for three years into our swinging journey has seen us both bemused, tired and worn out by time wasters and deluded people. Are we the only people who say who we are and what we like and actually mean it? Let’s start with the obvious.
1. No single males means no single males. So why do they keep contacting us?
2. Asking to hear from people who keep in good shape and dress well as we do? So almost exclusively it’s the men in couples describing themselves as athletic or rugby types = a ton of lard around their waste???
3. People who say they are non smokers or very occasional social smokers who are actually heavy chain smokers. There is a difference.
4. People who want to meet people for long term naughty friendships like ourselves who then chat with us forever but just can’t quite pin down a date to meet? Worse still they arrange a date and a couple of weeks later cancel a few days before or worse still on the day?
Are there any couples, single woman who actually want the same as our profile suggests and are honest and reliable out there?
What are other people’s views and opinion on this? Are we missing something?"
1, filter and block single guys
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"Getting on for three years into our swinging journey has seen us both bemused, tired and worn out by time wasters and deluded people. Are we the only people who say who we are and what we like and actually mean it? Let’s start with the obvious.
1. No single males means no single males. So why do they keep contacting us?
2. Asking to hear from people who keep in good shape and dress well as we do? So almost exclusively it’s the men in couples describing themselves as athletic or rugby types = a ton of lard around their waste???
3. People who say they are non smokers or very occasional social smokers who are actually heavy chain smokers. There is a difference.
4. People who want to meet people for long term naughty friendships like ourselves who then chat with us forever but just can’t quite pin down a date to meet? Worse still they arrange a date and a couple of weeks later cancel a few days before or worse still on the day?
Are there any couples, single woman who actually want the same as our profile suggests and are honest and reliable out there?
What are other people’s views and opinion on this? Are we missing something?
1, filter and block single guys
#simples and no need to thank me
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
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We can sort of see where you coming from
OP and your frustration is clearly evident in you profile text, which may be coming across wrong and not showing you in your best light.
Fab is full of armchair swingers and I'm afraid this seem to becoming more prevalent as time marches on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is, if you're looking for a slim, sexy woman to join you, you have a lot of competition. If you don't want her fat husband to join in could be maybe just watch? |
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too many fakes and timewasters on here, talk utter shit, been on here as a couple in the past, 1 minute wonders, ex was dissapointed on many occasions, not to shag my own arse or anything, but i know what couples and ladies are looking for on here, having done it my self with a partner,
just a very grimm place for single guys on here because of wasters etc,
youd think most single lads on here would like to get a name for them selfs, pull out all the stops on a meet etc, not turn up already empty, hoping to last longer, then cant even perform, or still prem spit amatures!! lol |
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"Getting on for three years into our swinging journey has seen us both bemused, tired and worn out by time wasters and deluded people. Are we the only people who say who we are and what we like and actually mean it? Let’s start with the obvious.
1. No single males means no single males. So why do they keep contacting us?
2. Asking to hear from people who keep in good shape and dress well as we do? So almost exclusively it’s the men in couples describing themselves as athletic or rugby types = a ton of lard around their waste???
3. People who say they are non smokers or very occasional social smokers who are actually heavy chain smokers. There is a difference.
4. People who want to meet people for long term naughty friendships like ourselves who then chat with us forever but just can’t quite pin down a date to meet? Worse still they arrange a date and a couple of weeks later cancel a few days before or worse still on the day?
Are there any couples, single woman who actually want the same as our profile suggests and are honest and reliable out there?
What are other people’s views and opinion on this? Are we missing something?"
Agree with most of your points, although the single males thing is very easily fixable. We don't because actually it's a bit of a laugh now and just rarely a good message comes through.
Although your third point is very judgemental and certainly have a different view of what a male in good shape looks like than you, maybe worth bearing in mind, so coming across as judgemental and overvaluing yourselves won't help your progress. But yes most of the rest is just how it is and very tiresome and annoying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We can sort of see where you coming from
OP and your frustration is clearly evident in you profile text, which may be coming across wrong and not showing you in your best light.
Fab is full of armchair swingers and I'm afraid this seem to becoming more prevalent as time marches on. "
Something for us to think about. Thank You x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The thing is, if you're looking for a slim, sexy woman to join you, you have a lot of competition. If you don't want her fat husband to join in could be maybe just watch? "
Yes that’s a possibility but that’s the problem? The more specific we are the more difficult and confusing it becomes x |
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over a year ago
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"We are honest and reliable. Certainly not your type physically and that’s fine.
However, your profile and approach here comes across as quite demanding and to be honest we’d feel almost as though we were being critiqued. That would be very off putting. "
I am so glad you posted that because that was what I thought when I read the profile but couldn't find the correct words to formulate my reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Should read second point. "
Hear what your saying. We are constantly reviewing. We are friendly to everyone but these are just personal preferences with regard swinging x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it. "
We do but just wish things were better x |
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over a year ago
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x"
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By *ifty69Man
over a year ago
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Some folk dont even have the manners to reply or acknowledge messages. Found that some couple treat guys with contempt. They ask what you like about their profile, when you tell them, they just totally ignore you. Would be nice if they just said, no thanks.!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?"
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some folk dont even have the manners to reply or acknowledge messages. Found that some couple treat guys with contempt. They ask what you like about their profile, when you tell them, they just totally ignore you. Would be nice if they just said, no thanks.!!! "
We always try to answer unless at work x |
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x"
You will never get people being honest on their profile. We don't give 100% honesty, this is the internet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x
You will never get people being honest on their profile. We don't give 100% honesty, this is the internet."
Exactly. We don’t give too much personal stuff out until we know what’s what but we are honest with what we’d like and I’d like to thing we can compromise x |
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x
You will never get people being honest on their profile. We don't give 100% honesty, this is the internet.
Exactly. We don’t give too much personal stuff out until we know what’s what but we are honest with what we’d like and I’d like to thing we can compromise x"
I do understand how frustrating it can be sometimes. However we fit one of your descriptions. We sometimes chat for a while on here and think we'd like to meet someone and then things change. We care for my elderly parents and need to plan but now and again an emergency arises and we have to cancel on the day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x
You will never get people being honest on their profile. We don't give 100% honesty, this is the internet.
Exactly. We don’t give too much personal stuff out until we know what’s what but we are honest with what we’d like and I’d like to thing we can compromise x
I do understand how frustrating it can be sometimes. However we fit one of your descriptions. We sometimes chat for a while on here and think we'd like to meet someone and then things change. We care for my elderly parents and need to plan but now and again an emergency arises and we have to cancel on the day."
We appreciate things happen. Life always gets in the way x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x"
It's up to you what you have in your profile. Maybe try reading it as though it was someone you're looking to meet. Like attracts like.
Wanting people to be honest is good but unlikely. Trust your gut to fish out any issues. People often lie to get a fuck.
Some don't. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x
You will never get people being honest on their profile. We don't give 100% honesty, this is the internet."
Good point. I suppose there's different types of honesty. |
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over a year ago
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"Most people find issues. I'd say a single male profile would say they experience a high level of rudeness from single females and couples.
I do agree with you in the sense that some people are deluded in their description of themselves.
Trying a couple is something I would like to try potentially in the future but often a let down. I find alot of the time I won't be attracted to at least one of them! "
So true. When there are two of them, both need to be eye candy  |
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Basically, for a lot of people swinging is exciting in the abscract but scary in reality.
We meet mainly single men and we could estimate that more than half of guys we arrange meets with disappear before the meet or come up with some half arsed excuse just before the meet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x
It's up to you what you have in your profile. Maybe try reading it as though it was someone you're looking to meet. Like attracts like.
Wanting people to be honest is good but unlikely. Trust your gut to fish out any issues. People often lie to get a fuck.
Some don't. x"
Maybe we are the unrealistic ones??? Who knows x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most people find issues. I'd say a single male profile would say they experience a high level of rudeness from single females and couples.
I do agree with you in the sense that some people are deluded in their description of themselves.
Trying a couple is something I would like to try potentially in the future but often a let down. I find alot of the time I won't be attracted to at least one of them!
So true. When there are two of them, both need to be eye candy "
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"Go looking instead of waiting for people to find you (if you don't already). We always manage to find people to meet. It can take a lot of messages and trawling through profiles though. It's not the site's fault. It's what people make of it.
We do but just wish things were better x
Better how?
People being honest and meaning what they say. That being said we are not above changing details in our profile if it comes across too strict or unfriendly. I’d hate to think we are. x
It's up to you what you have in your profile. Maybe try reading it as though it was someone you're looking to meet. Like attracts like.
Wanting people to be honest is good but unlikely. Trust your gut to fish out any issues. People often lie to get a fuck.
Some don't. x
Maybe we are the unrealistic ones??? Who knows x"
I think you are a bit. Swinging will inevitably attract cheaters, wankers and fantasists. You just have to accept that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Basically, for a lot of people swinging is exciting in the abscract but scary in reality.
We meet mainly single men and we could estimate that more than half of guys we arrange meets with disappear before the meet or come up with some half arsed excuse just before the meet "
We have met one or two guys but usually in a club situation. I guess your right with people getting scared by the reality x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People don’t read profiles and just message, usually copy and paste messages. No effort whatsoever. I do wonder how they get through daily life. "
I think you’ve hit the nail on the head sadly. A very valid point. Thank You x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This might seem a little petty and I apologise if it does. When I looked at your profile, there are two very long paragraphs to get through. On my small phone, it looks like a hassle to read and I gave up before I started. If you set out your wishes into smaller paragraphs and more aesthetic to read, you might get people reading your preferences a little more. It’s just a thought.
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This might seem a little petty and I apologise if it does. When I looked at your profile, there are two very long paragraphs to get through. On my small phone, it looks like a hassle to read and I gave up before I started. If you set out your wishes into smaller paragraphs and more aesthetic to read, you might get people reading your preferences a little more. It’s just a thought.
Thank You. We’ve changed a few things as of today but will review and change more later to make it more useable/ understandable x
Good luck x"
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