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over a year ago
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"If you partner doesn't know then obviously it's cheating. The reason doesn't matter or whether it can be justified it's still cheating."
Totally agree. Cheating is cheating |
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"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner "
Taking that statement completely at face value. In my opinion they're both cheating on the basic terms of their relationship unless different criteria were agreed on. He's cheating on an agreement that it would be monogomous she's cheating on an agreement that it would be sexual. However there will always be more sympathy for the woman than the man |
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over a year ago
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Here’s my thoughts for what it’s worth.
If you think it’s right, trust me your wrong.
If your thinking of cheating for the first time, sit down with the person you committed your life to and talk to them before you make the biggest mistake you could make.
Because if you go through with it, they will find out. And if you truly love each other and it hasn’t fallen to pieces and your relationship is never to be rescued. You will have a very hard time dealing with having them trust you ever again. Not to mention how you will have them believing they are the most important part of your life.
And if your thinking, well if it ends it ends, then why are you still together anyway?
Don’t cheat, unless your a dick.
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If you have to hide it from your partner something is wrong. It does cause serious distress too. I know many couples that one can't have sex anymore that have made arrangements so that the others sexual needs can be met. Then it isn't cheating.. but if no medical reasons then therapy should be first port of call.
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x"
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here’s my thoughts for what it’s worth.
If you think it’s right, trust me your wrong.
If your thinking of cheating for the first time, sit down with the person you committed your life to and talk to them before you make the biggest mistake you could make.
Because if you go through with it, they will find out. And if you truly love each other and it hasn’t fallen to pieces and your relationship is never to be rescued. You will have a very hard time dealing with having them trust you ever again. Not to mention how you will have them believing they are the most important part of your life.
And if your thinking, well if it ends it ends, then why are you still together anyway?
Don’t cheat, unless your a dick.
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"
I'm going to say no it's not but it's a totally different ballgame to two fit people where one cheats and keeps the other in the dark about it to avoid realities.
There are circumstances that if applied i'd say her actions are questionable.
All a matter of personal line drawing I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"
I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Best person to define the term cheating is a solicitor, I think you may need to make appointment with one, not just for the definition."
That’s the problem isn’t it. Each relationship will have boundaries some are a fine line and some will be more flexible. Flirting could be cheating and snogging might not be etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes it’s cheating. As some one else has mentioned, ask your wife what she thinks...who knows, maybe she’s as pissed off she’s not getting any at home either. |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
I'm going to say no it's not but it's a totally different ballgame to two fit people where one cheats and keeps the other in the dark about it to avoid realities.
There are circumstances that if applied i'd say her actions are questionable.
All a matter of personal line drawing I guess. "
I think as with almost everything it's up to the individual. I'm not god, I'm in no position to make decisions on someone elses personal situation.
Obviously I'm not keen on people doing things that are going to deeply hurt someone but life isn't straightforward. |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest "
Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine."
He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.
He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level."
That's so sad and awful for them  |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.
He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.
That's so sad and awful for them "
Yet on the face of it some people would tell her she's wrong.
Walk a mile in someone elses thigh high stilleto boots before you pronounce your judgement I say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you are on here without the knowledge of your partner then its cheating..
Even if you say you are just here to chat and flirt, the intention is to meet eventually so its still cheating |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.
He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.
That's so sad and awful for them "
We agree, that is sad.
A situation that no-one would want to be in and they have our deepest sympathies.
However for 99% of the cheaters on here it isn't like that is it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.
He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.
That's so sad and awful for them
Yet on the face of it some people would tell her she's wrong.
Walk a mile in someone elses thigh high stilleto boots before you pronounce your judgement I say."
I'm sorry but inappropriately that made me laugh ... I wouldn't be able to manage a couple of steps! |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.
He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.
That's so sad and awful for them
We agree, that is sad.
A situation that no-one would want to be in and they have our deepest sympathies.
However for 99% of the cheaters on here it isn't like that is it?"
The point I'm trying to make is that we have absolutely no idea what's going on in other people's relationship other than what they tell us or we observe from the outside. Who am I to say cheating is wrong? Hurting someone is of course. |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.
He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.
That's so sad and awful for them
Yet on the face of it some people would tell her she's wrong.
Walk a mile in someone elses thigh high stilleto boots before you pronounce your judgement I say.
I'm sorry but inappropriately that made me laugh ... I wouldn't be able to manage a couple of steps! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here’s my thoughts for what it’s worth.
If you think it’s right, trust me your wrong.
If your thinking of cheating for the first time, sit down with the person you committed your life to and talk to them before you make the biggest mistake you could make.
Because if you go through with it, they will find out. And if you truly love each other and it hasn’t fallen to pieces and your relationship is never to be rescued. You will have a very hard time dealing with having them trust you ever again. Not to mention how you will have them believing they are the most important part of your life.
And if your thinking, well if it ends it ends, then why are you still together anyway?
Don’t cheat, unless your a dick.
Nicely put ... "
Experience. Sadly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Best person to define the term cheating is a solicitor, I think you may need to make appointment with one, not just for the definition.
That’s the problem isn’t it. Each relationship will have boundaries some are a fine line and some will be more flexible. Flirting could be cheating and snogging might not be etc.
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Can be just having a secret friend who they discuss their sex life with. No touching at all. Emotional cheating. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest
Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand"
I know of others in a similar situation. Surely by having someone to meet it’s helping the carer’s mental health and need for human contact. It’s hard nursing a partner 24/7. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest
Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand
I know of others in a similar situation. Surely by having someone to meet it’s helping the carer’s mental health and need for human contact. It’s hard nursing a partner 24/7. "
If her partner isn't able to understand then is she really cheating? |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest
Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand
I know of others in a similar situation. Surely by having someone to meet it’s helping the carer’s mental health and need for human contact. It’s hard nursing a partner 24/7.
If her partner isn't able to understand then is she really cheating? "
As I said before who am I to decide? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner
Taking that statement completely at face value. In my opinion they're both cheating on the basic terms of their relationship unless different criteria were agreed on. He's cheating on an agreement that it would be monogomous she's cheating on an agreement that it would be sexual. However there will always be more sympathy for the person cheated on"
FTFY
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"
Hi
Sorry to hear about your friend and her husband.
However when you are taking your vows, unless changed since 2006, it says in sickness and health but does not say that you can meet friends whilst ill. Simplistic way of putting it but you get what I mean.
I was in a loveless and sexless marriage (due to medical stresses put upon my ex wife and I. I could have made arrangements to visit friends whilst she was having her chemotherapeay) I opted to leave, meaning not seeing my daughter every day, because I knew I would sleep with other ladies and did not want to cheat.
That’s just me. |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"
Does the husband know abiyt the male friends? |
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"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x
In every circumstance?
We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?
Hi
Sorry to hear about your friend and her husband.
However when you are taking your vows, unless changed since 2006, it says in sickness and health but does not say that you can meet friends whilst ill. Simplistic way of putting it but you get what I mean.
I was in a loveless and sexless marriage (due to medical stresses put upon my ex wife and I. I could have made arrangements to visit friends whilst she was having her chemotherapeay) I opted to leave, meaning not seeing my daughter every day, because I knew I would sleep with other ladies and did not want to cheat.
That’s just me. "
I think I would have rather you had quietly cheated on me than left because I was ill and no good anymore painful situation either way. |
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