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Why are people not honest..hate timewasters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks folks,at least its nice to know there is more good than bad out there.Will wake up in the morning and probs think...idiots...but will still have a smile on my face.Thanks again."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It happens, just too bad you had to travel so far, just meet people who live nearer in future."
Absolutely, and don't be afraid to turn down offers for fear of an opportunity missed, i think maybe us blokes suffer too much from that syndrome, causing us to chase offers that aren't really that reasonable
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did you post a card through the door saying that the package you were waiting for has now been sent back to the manufacturer and will not be available for delivery again? 
Not a nice thing to happen to anyone,but im sure you'll meet some lovely people while you're on here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Their loss but its terrible people do that sorry to hear it, some people are utter morons why would they fo such a thing?.what do they get out of it doing that to strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just done a 3 hour round trip for appointment made with a couple, verified by phone after a chat. upon arrival nobody in and no answer on phone,what a waste of time....WHY..."
They possibly thought that you were a time waster. You do not have any photos or verifications on your profile and you only joined 8 weeks ago.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A guy who i have met a few times had a meet a couple of weeks ago, he was supposed to be meeting a couple at their house, chatted on the phone, saw her on cam etc they gave him their post code and door number to put in the sat nav, which was ok as the sat nav picked up the address so away he went, think he said it was about a hours drive, when he got there the house was empty and boareded up, he said he didnt even get out the car as he had visions of it being someone next door or over the road sat watching him and having a laught and he didnt want to add to their pleasure of seeing him walking about looking so he just came back home
it happen, talking on the phone or seeing someone on cam means bugger all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can i suggest something? txt them night before,.. if nothing send another again to say you txt and awating for confirmation,...if no reply by the morning then dont bother going hun x happend to me soooo many a fooking time,..unfortunatly they will carry on, but if you set it up with the phonenumbers, and txt,..and make it CLEAR from first conversation you will be txting night before to confirm, then it will stop you from at least getting ready, making other plans, and turning up to find noone there x this is how i do things now and it whittles it down for me xx good luck for the future meets x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just done a 3 hour round trip for appointment made with a couple, verified by phone after a chat. upon arrival nobody in and no answer on phone,what a waste of time....WHY..."
Sorry you came across theses idiots, but genuine nice people are on this site. Its just finding them. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Just done a 3 hour round trip for appointment made with a couple, verified by phone after a chat. upon arrival nobody in and no answer on phone,what a waste of time....WHY...
Sorry you came across theses idiots, but genuine nice people are on this site. Its just finding them."
i agree, the nice ones outweigh the idiots...to the OP, learn n move on xx |
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I always ask for confirmation texts because it takes me so long to get ready, mind you even then I have been let down before so it's just the nature of the beast hun, chalk it down to experience and move on, these people could have had an emergency or another genuine reason for not being there, hugz n stuff, Ruby, xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It happens, just too bad you had to travel so far, just meet people who live nearer in future. Absolutely, and don't be afraid to turn down offers for fear of an opportunity missed, i think maybe us blokes suffer too much from that syndrome, causing us to chase offers that aren't really that reasonable"
Damn right!
We all have our personal requirement but some people need to learn compromise! |
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"Can i suggest something? txt them night before,.. if nothing send another again to say you txt and awating for confirmation,...if no reply by the morning then dont bother going hun x happend to me soooo many a fooking time,..unfortunatly they will carry on, but if you set it up with the phonenumbers, and txt,..and make it CLEAR from first conversation you will be txting night before to confirm, then it will stop you from at least getting ready, making other plans, and turning up to find noone there x this is how i do things now and it whittles it down for me xx good luck for the future meets x "
Texting them the night before would not stop anybody doing the same thing the next day would it?! If there gonna do it, there gonna do it regardless of when you last had contact with them. I've seen people on here have contact via phone an hour before then nothing when it comes to it.
I just don't understand why people can be so horrible and do it. I couldn't. |
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By *j_markCouple
over a year ago
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"Next time... dont travel so far!! Local meets only!! it is pretty mean what they have done, but it does happen!  "
This is good advice. Don't travel miles to meet someone unless you've met them before. You're just setting yourself up to be disappointed.
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"Just done a 3 hour round trip for appointment made with a couple, verified by phone after a chat. upon arrival nobody in and no answer on phone,what a waste of time....WHY...
They possibly thought that you were a time waster. You do not have any photos or verifications on your profile and you only joined 8 weeks ago.
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So when he called at their home they thought "Sod it, he wasting our time by banging on our door"!?? |
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"Just done a 3 hour round trip for appointment made with a couple, verified by phone after a chat. upon arrival nobody in and no answer on phone,what a waste of time....WHY..."
just checking...u did speak to the fem on the phone didnt you? |
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The same thing happened to me, spoke to a couple on the phone, both of them seemed ok. Arranged to meet at a travel lodge. I drove for an hour and half, and waited. No one showed and could not get them on the phone again.
Why do they do it!! If they don't really want to meet, be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You would hope that when driving to meet someone for 1.5 hours that they would have the courtesy to actually be in, turn up or have given you the correct address. Or have the decency to let you know that they got cold feet and need to cancel. However......
Unfortunately there are some on this site put here with the sole intention of pissing everyone else off.
Some genuinely get off on arranging to meet and then watching the poor sods turn up at the house down the street or sit watching from across the road as you pile into some random public house.
Some just like the idea of arranging a meet, having a hand shandy thinking about it and then forgetting all about it will the next time they feel an itch and need some relief.
Hell, there may even some on this site who may argue that 'nobody owes you anything on this site' - be that a reply to your email or (extrapolating it to the other end of the spectrum) to open their legs for you even though they may have agreed to do so 3 hours earlier.
The sad reality is that people get dicked about, pissed off, misdirected, mislead and lied to. So, essentially a microcosm of life in general then?
It sucks; it really does, and you wonder when you read some of the threads on here how on earth anyone ever gets to play with anyone else at times.
Fundamentally, at its core, the swinging scene is a stunningly imperfect (and possibly broken) a thing as you can get. Everyone (and no-one) makes up the rules; there is no BS Standard for swinging and there aren't really CE marks for people or profiles. When your swimming in the pool of peoples sexual morales and egos there are as many sharks as lifeboats.
All any of us can do is play the hand we are dealt by the rules we make and marvel in the fact that, when it all works the way we know it should, its absolutely bloody marvellous.
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"Next time... dont travel so far!! Local meets only!! it is pretty mean what they have done, but it does happen!
This is good advice. Don't travel miles to meet someone unless you've met them before. You're just setting yourself up to be disappointed.
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Couldn't agree more....which is why I make any first meet a social meet.
I wouldn't dream of asking any guy (or couple) drive for 90 minutes to meet me for a drink and chat. |
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