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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering on what is everyone's take on when you are looking at a profile, feeling you are compatible with what the other is looking for but then get cold feet and decide not to message as you personally don't feel like they would be interested?
At first I was like this, thinking should I bother as they obviously get "better" options but now I'm much more confident about it. Now if I find somebody like that I just think what the hell and take the chance, even if I'm clearly punching above my weight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been rejected by almost every woman on this site so I don't think any of them would ve interested in, statistically.
Can't let that stop you though gotta keep plugging away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats a good attitude to have. If you feel you fit their criteria set on their profile and lime the look/sound of them, you should definitely send a message. You dont know until you try and are no worse off for sending it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thats a good attitude to have. If you feel you fit their criteria set on their profile and lime the look/sound of them, you should definitely send a message. You dont know until you try and are no worse off for sending it "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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This is going to be really cliched so bear with. I don't think people punch above their weight - I don't think there is this league thing. I think if you like someone, fuck it just message them. What you have going on just might be what they like.
And then you can spend your time worrying if the chemistry will translate in to real life and boring your friends with that chat.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering on what is everyone's take on when you are looking at a profile, feeling you are compatible with what the other is looking for but then get cold feet and decide not to message as you personally don't feel like they would be interested?
At first I was like this, thinking should I bother as they obviously get "better" options but now I'm much more confident about it. Now if I find somebody like that I just think what the hell and take the chance, even if I'm clearly punching above my weight. "
If people don’t answer please don’t take it too personally though. The amount of vile messages the women get on here is ridiculous. I wasn’t on for a few days over Xmas and I came back to 400 messages. Read the first couple and just lost interest and bulk deleted. It’s not the first time I’ve done it either but I don’t really want to block men so I just deal with it. Shame there isn’t a friend/forum people only way of messaging really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is going to be really cliched so bear with. I don't think people punch above their weight - I don't think there is this league thing. I think if you like someone, fuck it just message them. What you have going on just might be what they like.
And then you can spend your time worrying if the chemistry will translate in to real life and boring your friends with that chat. "
Absobloodylutely this! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thats a good attitude to have. If you feel you fit their criteria set on their profile and lime the look/sound of them, you should definitely send a message. You dont know until you try and are no worse off for sending it "
Exactly my reasoning. Just no harm in it and the outcome may be a pleasant surprise. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is going to be really cliched so bear with. I don't think people punch above their weight - I don't think there is this league thing. I think if you like someone, fuck it just message them. What you have going on just might be what they like.
And then you can spend your time worrying if the chemistry will translate in to real life and boring your friends with that chat. "
Sorry yes I agree with you. By punching above my weight I mean more what others may perceive as that. Just it's the most universal way to describe the situation I mean. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also, I now have Abba on a loop in my head. Thanks OP!!  
Haha me too!"
Oh God... I didn't even think, so tha ks for putting it on loop in my head too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've thought this but I mailed him anyway. Turned out he was proper drop dead gorgeous. Sent him my pic and he agreed to meet me. 
I figured he meant a social but we steamed the car windows up.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is going to be really cliched so bear with. I don't think people punch above their weight - I don't think there is this league thing. I think if you like someone, fuck it just message them. What you have going on just might be what they like.
And then you can spend your time worrying if the chemistry will translate in to real life and boring your friends with that chat.
Sorry yes I agree with you. By punching above my weight I mean more what others may perceive as that. Just it's the most universal way to describe the situation I mean."
I think a lot of people do think like that though sometimes. Ive seen people on here and thought no way will he be interested in me. That’s quite normal I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also, I now have Abba on a loop in my head. Thanks OP!!
Haha me too!
Oh God... I didn't even think, so tha ks for putting it on loop in my head too "
Apologies for sharing, but ultimately I still blame you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've thought this but I mailed him anyway. Turned out he was proper drop dead gorgeous. Sent him my pic and he agreed to meet me.
I figured he meant a social but we steamed the car windows up. "
Awesome. Yes, this is why it is always worth it. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Just wondering on what is everyone's take on when you are looking at a profile, feeling you are compatible with what the other is looking for but then get cold feet and decide not to message as you personally don't feel like they would be interested?
At first I was like this, thinking should I bother as they obviously get "better" options but now I'm much more confident about it. Now if I find somebody like that I just think what the hell and take the chance, even if I'm clearly punching above my weight. "
Do it! Do it! Do it! Do it! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is going to be really cliched so bear with. I don't think people punch above their weight - I don't think there is this league thing. I think if you like someone, fuck it just message them. What you have going on just might be what they like.
And then you can spend your time worrying if the chemistry will translate in to real life and boring your friends with that chat.
Sorry yes I agree with you. By punching above my weight I mean more what others may perceive as that. Just it's the most universal way to describe the situation I mean.
I think a lot of people do think like that though sometimes. Ive seen people on here and thought no way will he be interested in me. That’s quite normal I think. "
Yeah, understandable why people think like that. It's never easy to just switch your mind to it.
I like to think people will pleasantly surprise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've thought this but I mailed him anyway. Turned out he was proper drop dead gorgeous. Sent him my pic and he agreed to meet me.
I figured he meant a social but we steamed the car windows up.
Awesome. Yes, this is why it is always worth it. "
Mail them! What's the worst that can happen? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also, I now have Abba on a loop in my head. Thanks OP!!
Haha me too!
Oh God... I didn't even think, so tha ks for putting it on loop in my head too
Apologies for sharing, but ultimately I still blame you "
Fine! I'll take the blame on this one haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it OP.
I always start with a nice opening message, something like nice flange fancy a fisting or can peter pepperoni slide into mary minge, sets the scene straight away |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go for it OP.
I always start with a nice opening message, something like nice flange fancy a fisting or can peter pepperoni slide into mary minge, sets the scene straight away"
Well of course. Exactly what they want isn't it |
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