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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep hoping that it can be learned, but I have a feeling I'll never learn it, if it can. The more someone claims to be able to make it happen, the more under pressure I feel and the less likely I am to cum at all |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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"Mmmm interesting as like how do you learn it where's the instructions "
you have to collect the tokens off packets of breakfast cereal and send them off for a free booklet... !
Seriously though - it's a reflex, and not one that all Women experience. It's not a case of being 'lucky' if you do or 'unlucky' if you don't. It's a facet that might be part of you. There's a lot of emphasis placed on Women being able to squirt or gush these days. The better lube is the damp moist and thickly sticky stuff that comes out of the Bartholin's glands instead
Wolf
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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ps. the gush/squirt is only half the way to the full-body female orgasm - the point of no return when a woman cums like a man. The more time someone spends trying to provoke the gush/squirt reflex, the harder it is to provoke the full body orgasm!
just my 2p worth
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have always had mindblowing orgasms thanks to Sean who knows exactly what I like. But have to admit I was feeling a little inadequate at not being able to gush or squirt.
Then at a meet, totally out of the blue, I gushed. And have done it a few times since. I can now honestly say that gushing/squirting in NO WAY takes precedence over a full blown orgasm. And I say that with hand on heart. So all you sexy ladies who don't squirt or gush...have no fear. Better delights await. |
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"There's a lot of emphasis placed on Women being able to squirt or gush these days. The better lube is the damp moist and thickly sticky stuff that comes out of the Bartholin's glands instead
Wolf
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I totally and wholeheartedly agree with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have always had mindblowing orgasms thanks to Sean who knows exactly what I like. But have to admit I was feeling a little inadequate at not being able to gush or squirt.
Then at a meet, totally out of the blue, I gushed. And have done it a few times since. I can now honestly say that gushing/squirting in NO WAY takes precedence over a full blown orgasm. And I say that with hand on heart. So all you sexy ladies who don't squirt or gush...have no fear. Better delights await. "
That makes me feel a bit better. I always feel I'm missing out a bit, because I don't/can't squirt or gush, but my orgasms are frequently mind-blowingly fantastic, especially with my partner (Professor XXX), so maybe I'm not missing out at all. |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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"... But have to admit I was feeling a little inadequate at not being able to gush or squirt.
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This is the main problem that needs dispelling. It's no biggie if you dont, and it's not a shortcoming in any sort of way. We come in all shapes and sizes, and be sure your own personal route to orgasm will be very unique, and like you say easy to trigger when that route is learned by a regular partner
Women's plumbing isn't straightforward by any means. In some instances the fluids are routed the wrong way and enter the bladder (like in the same way a man can have retrograde ejaculation and cum dry). Some have the feeling, but no output!
What matters is how sex feels to you, and you shouldn't feel pressured or feel uncomfortably pressured by those around you that do.
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Some guy's can make me gush without me even coming close to an orgasm (although it's still a wonderful feeling)....and then other's (especially my partner) give me wonderful orgasms and gushing/squirting happen at the same time - this is usually (although not exclusively) when they stimulate my g-spot.
I can make myself gush through masterbation...but only when I climax...and quite often that is only from clitoral stimulation, usually if I'm using just the round head of my magic wand, so no direct pressure on my g-spot at all.
Anyone who want's to try to make it happen can google female ejaculation - there are some directions available and my partner, The Rainman is usually more than willing to help a woman experience it . Having said all that...I don't actually think it is the be-all and end all of sex...to my mind orgasm is that...with or without gushing. |
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Gushing is not an orgasm
I have always orgasmed, lucky girl me, can orgasm via penetrative or clitoral stimulation.
I have never gushed and I never ever want to. I do not meet men who try to teach me and indeed if any guy tries to use his fingers roughly inside me, whilst pressing down hard against my bladder on the outside of my vagina will be told to stop immediately.
There is no competition between women who gush and those that dont
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Amen to that Iconic One.
I once had a bi experience which left me feeling traumatised and pretty useless where two fems tried desperately - and unsuccessfully - to make me gush/squirt by fingering me roughly and pressing down on my bladder.
It was an experience I didn't relish which put me off bi encounters...in my mind I had always imagined another woman's touch to be a sensual, explorative experience. |
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"Some guy's can make me gush without me even coming close to an orgasm (although it's still a wonderful feeling)....and then other's (especially my partner) give me wonderful orgasms and gushing/squirting happen at the same time - this is usually (although not exclusively) when they stimulate my g-spot.
I can make myself gush through masterbation...but only when I climax...and quite often that is only from clitoral stimulation, usually if I'm using just the round head of my magic wand, so no direct pressure on my g-spot at all.
Anyone who want's to try to make it happen can google female ejaculation - there are some directions available and my partner, The Rainman is usually more than willing to help a woman experience it . Having said all that...I don't actually think it is the be-all and end all of sex...to my mind orgasm is that...with or without gushing."
have to agree...but have a question, i can squirt from anal, its clitoral stimulation that is vital to me...anyone else like this? |
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"That makes me feel a bit better. I always feel I'm missing out a bit, because I don't/can't squirt or gush, but my orgasms are frequently mind-blowingly fantastic, especially with my partner (Professor XXX), so maybe I'm not missing out at all. "
"Mindblowingly fantastic" orgasms sound just the ticket to me hun. Long may you continue to enjoy them. A big pat on the back to Professor XXX for his tireless work lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you cant learn to gush, not gushing is down to the person playing with you, not you, some guys just cant do it, some can
Tho to be honest, as someone who gushes for england when i do, i do not feel gushing is a orgasum, when i gush i have no sensation of cuming at all, i can just feel the build up of fluid and then the wetness and flood lol, you can gush without having a orgasum
Clit stimutated orgasums where i do not gush at all feel far far better"
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"... But have to admit I was feeling a little inadequate at not being able to gush or squirt.
This is the main problem that needs dispelling. It's no biggie if you dont, and it's not a shortcoming in any sort of way. We come in all shapes and sizes, and be sure your own personal route to orgasm will be very unique, and like you say easy to trigger when that route is learned by a regular partner
Women's plumbing isn't straightforward by any means. In some instances the fluids are routed the wrong way and enter the bladder (like in the same way a man can have retrograde ejaculation and cum dry). Some have the feeling, but no output!
What matters is how sex feels to you, and you shouldn't feel pressured or feel uncomfortably pressured by those around you that do.
Wolf
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Thanks Wolf, I haven't gushed or squirted but always wanted to, but scared in case I wee (sorry for being blunt!)
I do find it a turn on though the thought of gushing or squirting |
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"Amen to that Iconic One.
I once had a bi experience which left me feeling traumatised and pretty useless where two fems tried desperately - and unsuccessfully - to make me gush/squirt by fingering me roughly and pressing down on my bladder.
It was an experience I didn't relish which put me off bi encounters...in my mind I had always imagined another woman's touch to be a sensual, explorative experience. "
Too much emphasis is placed on making women gush, its almost become the whole aim of men to make women do this without concentrating on traditional foreplay techniques. To make a woman achieve orgasm seems to have gone by the wayside and as long as she produces amounts of fluid then that is ok.
Maybe the obsession for this has come from the porn industry, as if whatever kind of sex shown on film is the right way, when in fact its fairly obvious that porn films are all staged for effect, no-one really believes those moans are genuine, that amounts of fluid shot 100ft in the air couldn't possibly be fake in any way.
So do you know what, I'm gonna stick with the old fashioned tried and tested formula of clitoral and vaginal stimulation without force and I shall carry on having conventional but very satisfying orgasms |
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there is a vid on youporn ..man doin ot,to a woman and thts how i learned...a told my fella wat todo..but wen he fliks his fingers on my,gspot he has to be pressin on my pubic bone so to speak..he can feel his fingers insise whilst pressin on my pussy...ot rubs the spot inbetween,fingers and a squirt like am pissin..also,with ure rabbit,is good practice...a hava lil vid,on me fone of ud like to,see hhahahaha...u just gota get the,thought tht ya pee'in out of ya head ..thts wat holds most women,bak...but once uve,dun it ul wana do,it everytime lol |
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I don't see the big thing, much rather see the lady roll her eyes and float a foot or so above the bed instead.
Don't mind if someone does, but would never go out of the way to do force it on someone.
Suspect its prevelance on webcam sites, and the ease that some can fake it has given rise to popularity. |
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"am i the only one who squirts with clitoral stimulation then?"
no...as I said earlier, I often gush when I come through masturbation...usually when just using my wand, without additional attachments, just on my clit.
I too have also experienced gushing through anal |
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"ps. the gush/squirt is only half the way to the full-body female orgasm - the point of no return when a woman cums like a man. The more time someone spends trying to provoke the gush/squirt reflex, the harder it is to provoke the full body orgasm!
just my 2p worth
Wolf
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"Amen to that Iconic One.
I once had a bi experience which left me feeling traumatised and pretty useless where two fems tried desperately - and unsuccessfully - to make me gush/squirt by fingering me roughly and pressing down on my bladder.
It was an experience I didn't relish which put me off bi encounters...in my mind I had always imagined another woman's touch to be a sensual, explorative experience.
Too much emphasis is placed on making women gush, its almost become the whole aim of men to make women do this without concentrating on traditional foreplay techniques. To make a woman achieve orgasm seems to have gone by the wayside and as long as she produces amounts of fluid then that is ok.
Maybe the obsession for this has come from the porn industry, as if whatever kind of sex shown on film is the right way, when in fact its fairly obvious that porn films are all staged for effect, no-one really believes those moans are genuine, that amounts of fluid shot 100ft in the air couldn't possibly be fake in any way.
So do you know what, I'm gonna stick with the old fashioned tried and tested formula of clitoral and vaginal stimulation without force and I shall carry on having conventional but very satisfying orgasms "
I have to say there have only been on two occasions where I have experienced men forcefully trying to make me gush. And although my partner is (excuse the expression) a "dab hand" at it...he has never used his fingers roughly...it's pure pleasure
I do agree that these days there seems to be a lot of emphasis put on making women gush...at least on the forums...but I think that it's become a regular topic more than anything. I really do question whether "to make a woman orgasm seems to have gone by the wayside", just reading other threads on the subject there always seem to be a fair few men who yearn to experience being with a woman who gushes, and a lot of women who would like to but haven't been able to......and surely these people are still having great sex.
I do gush and have orgasms at the same time, I also have orgasms where I don't gush at all and sometimes I have gushed and have not had an orgasm. All of these experiences I enjoy. To my mind there is no right or wrong about it....I enjoy sex in many forms and hopefully will continue to do so for many years to come. As for "the old fashioned tried and tested formula of clitoral and vaginal stimulation without force....that's exactly what makes me gush |
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"Amen to that Iconic One.
I once had a bi experience which left me feeling traumatised and pretty useless where two fems tried desperately - and unsuccessfully - to make me gush/squirt by fingering me roughly and pressing down on my bladder.
It was an experience I didn't relish which put me off bi encounters...in my mind I had always imagined another woman's touch to be a sensual, explorative experience.
Too much emphasis is placed on making women gush, its almost become the whole aim of men to make women do this without concentrating on traditional foreplay techniques. To make a woman achieve orgasm seems to have gone by the wayside and as long as she produces amounts of fluid then that is ok.
Maybe the obsession for this has come from the porn industry, as if whatever kind of sex shown on film is the right way, when in fact its fairly obvious that porn films are all staged for effect, no-one really believes those moans are genuine, that amounts of fluid shot 100ft in the air couldn't possibly be fake in any way.
So do you know what, I'm gonna stick with the old fashioned tried and tested formula of clitoral and vaginal stimulation without force and I shall carry on having conventional but very satisfying orgasms
I have to say there have only been on two occasions where I have experienced men forcefully trying to make me gush. And although my partner is (excuse the expression) a "dab hand" at it...he has never used his fingers roughly...it's pure pleasure
I do agree that these days there seems to be a lot of emphasis put on making women gush...at least on the forums...but I think that it's become a regular topic more than anything. I really do question whether "to make a woman orgasm seems to have gone by the wayside", just reading other threads on the subject there always seem to be a fair few men who yearn to experience being with a woman who gushes, and a lot of women who would like to but haven't been able to......and surely these people are still having great sex.
I do gush and have orgasms at the same time, I also have orgasms where I don't gush at all and sometimes I have gushed and have not had an orgasm. All of these experiences I enjoy. To my mind there is no right or wrong about it....I enjoy sex in many forms and hopefully will continue to do so for many years to come. As for "the old fashioned tried and tested formula of clitoral and vaginal stimulation without force....that's exactly what makes me gush "
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"am i the only one who squirts with clitoral stimulation then?
no...as I said earlier, I often gush when I come through masturbation...usually when just using my wand, without additional attachments, just on my clit.
I too have also experienced gushing through anal "
ty..so many ppl were talking bout force and bladders i began to wonder if i was unique...missed your comment |
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"am i the only one who squirts with clitoral stimulation then?
no...as I said earlier, I often gush when I come through masturbation...usually when just using my wand, without additional attachments, just on my clit.
I too have also experienced gushing through anal
ty..so many ppl were talking bout force and bladders i began to wonder if i was unique...missed your comment "
lol well I've never seen the need for force and the only connection I see between my gushing and my bladder is the overwhelming need to pee afterwards |
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"am i the only one who squirts with clitoral stimulation then?
no...as I said earlier, I often gush when I come through masturbation...usually when just using my wand, without additional attachments, just on my clit.
I too have also experienced gushing through anal
ty..so many ppl were talking bout force and bladders i began to wonder if i was unique...missed your comment
lol well I've never seen the need for force and the only connection I see between my gushing and my bladder is the overwhelming need to pee afterwards "
lol...as i once said to sir, if that was piss i need to see a doctor
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"I don't see the big thing, much rather see the lady roll her eyes and float a foot or so above the bed instead.
Don't mind if someone does, but would never go out of the way to do force it on someone.
Suspect its prevelance on webcam sites, and the ease that some can fake it has given rise to popularity."
agree with this but would add that when I see comments such as "look out you make get soaked" or suchlike, I find it offputting rather than inviting. |
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By *edhotminxWoman
over a year ago
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Until recently I hadn't gushed or squirted. I can now, but that is due to being very relaxed with my partner and enjoying myself. It doesn't happen every time, but I know that I am not under any pressure to 'perform'.
I can always tell when a man is on a mission to try and get me to gush or squirt, thinking they will be the 'one' who gets me to achieve this wonders of wonders. All that actually happens is that it turns me off rather than on to what they are doing.
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Squirting and gushing for me are two different things. When i gush its like the flood gates have opened and i can only describe it like when your waters break only it goes on and on. Squirting for me is when it comes up like a fountain. It has been known to hit me in the eye |
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