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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.
I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.
Do I....
1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner
2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises
3. Not respond
4. Any other suggestions?
I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take it to Facebook.
I really shouldn't be laughing 
OP, ignore this advice, imo it's a bad idea."
Good for entertainment, bad long term friendship status.
Everyone loves a bit of Facebook drama, pull up a chair and bring the popcorn this gunna be gud!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.
I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.
Do I....
1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner
2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises
3. Not respond
4. Any other suggestions?
I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them
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Was it someone from here or a "proper" friend.
If from here, I wouldn't be surprised or rise to it, if it's a "proper" friend I'd tell them exactly what I thought ... Nicely of course, but you should be able to be honest with good friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nimber 1. You don't need to get into the fact you think they have had a better offer, just tell them they have let you down last minute and it is a shitty thing to do. |
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"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.
I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.
Do I....
1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner
2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises
3. Not respond
4. Any other suggestions?
I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them
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Then you need to tell them how you feel. |
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"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.
I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.
Do I....
1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner
2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises
3. Not respond
4. Any other suggestions?
I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them
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None of the above.
Disregard and move on.
Get over it. Ain't the end of the world.
Thing of the hungry and the homeless before bitching about inconsequential stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not thrilled. We made plans, I was looking forward to it, and you've ditched me for a better offer. "
I'd like to say this. In reality I probably just wouldn't reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.
I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.
Do I....
1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner
2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises
3. Not respond
4. Any other suggestions?
I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them
None of the above.
Disregard and move on.
Get over it. Ain't the end of the world.
Thing of the hungry and the homeless before bitching about inconsequential stuff."
That's incredibly patronising and unnecessary. It's far from bitching and it's not inconsequential, so please take your judgements elsewhere. You have no idea why today may be a difficult day, so go be bitter elsewhere.
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Definitely you should tell them how you feel but certainly don't type in anger. Type your message and then perhaps leave it for 5 or 10 minutes, come back and read it before sending. Never send something anything when the red mist is down. |
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I try to never reply while I am angry or upset.
I'd say, I'll talk to you another time, sleep on it then decide what to say.
If the person is asking you are alright, that sounds like they know they've done wrong and are trying to get you to say it's fine to justify their own feelings.
Hope they haven't ruined your New year x |
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"Definitely you should tell them how you feel but certainly don't type in anger. Type your message and then perhaps leave it for 5 or 10 minutes, come back and read it before sending. Never send something anything when the red mist is down."
Yep, definitely no 1, but with this advice in mind. That's a pretty crap thing for them to do in relation to NYE plans. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for your comments guys, I'm going to reply when I've thought about it properly.
Thanks for not being unkind and patronising x"
Can you still do the thing you'd planned even if it's on your own? Hope you have a good night. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you have to lose by addressing it? ..... Nothing. Just stick to the facts and don't get too emotional - you don't KNOW there is a better offer. Your friend may be feeling to wretched to go out, but not want to say so.
What do you gain by not mentioning it? ..... Martyr status. Bad feeling. Frustration. An evening of feeling cross and overlooked.
A friend will listen to what you say and act on it. An acquaintance won't give a damn. So you lose nothing in that case except someone who doesn't deserve your company. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.
I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.
Do I....
1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner
2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises
3. Not respond
4. Any other suggestions?
I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them
None of the above.
Disregard and move on.
Get over it. Ain't the end of the world.
Thing of the hungry and the homeless before bitching about inconsequential stuff."
Oh the irony!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Reply sent. No plans for tonight, but there's a cosy fire, pizza and bottle of gin waiting for me at home.
Thank you all for your help, you're lovely people x |
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