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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right this isn’t a rant, I’ve been on here before and have found the site excellent, my question is this, does anyone find the behaviour of people on here alarming? Like psychology 101 alarming? For instance there are people on here who appear to hate themselves, I’m aware that this is probably a snapshot of everywhere but wow I’m shocked |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
As I've just said on another thread - Fab is pretty much a subset of society in general, with members from across the broad spectrum of that society, add sex into that mix and it doesn't surprise me at all that you get some fairly shocking things being said to be honest - saddens me, but no more than some of the sadder things in society at large do. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go 
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right this isn’t a rant, I’ve been on here before and have found the site excellent, my question is this, does anyone find the behaviour of people on here alarming? Like psychology 101 alarming? For instance there are people on here who appear to hate themselves, I’m aware that this is probably a snapshot of everywhere but wow I’m shocked "
Hate themselves? In what way?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Contrary to what some people think, I don't actually hate myself. I'm not a big fan of the person I am, but that's largely the depression talking, and I'm working on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there's a disproportionate number of severely damaged individuals on here.
And yes...I find it very alarming "
Undoubtedly.....but no I don't find it alarming as I will never meet them. |
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes 
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason."
Well it’s not meant to be. There are some people on Fab who can take the wrong end of the stick and run with it. |
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason."
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help. "
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the internet. People get to show their inner thoughts and feelings, pretend to be someone, behave anyway they chose with little consequence, then log out and be their everyday self.
That's why we're here isn't it  |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures "
Lol I don't need drama either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on. "
I agree I don't like threads like this. I appreciate most people are being a little bit tongue-in-cheek but a lot of these comments are not particularly helpful or useful.
Just very negative to people that are possibly already damaged or struggling. I guess I just don't understand the purpose of these threads other than to put people down. |
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I am quite secure in who I am and how I look yes I know it's a bit Pillsbury Doughboy but that's me . I love taking the Mick and that includes about myself but it probably could be taken the wrong way but if you can't laugh at yourself what can you laugh at. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Contrary to what some people think, I don't actually hate myself. I'm not a big fan of the person I am, but that's largely the depression talking, and I'm working on it. "
Reading that makes me happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on.
I agree I don't like threads like this. I appreciate most people are being a little bit tongue-in-cheek but a lot of these comments are not particularly helpful or useful.
Just very negative to people that are possibly already damaged or struggling. I guess I just don't understand the purpose of these threads other than to put people down. "
Being brutal here: they shouldn't be on here. This is a place where looks are judged and characters picked over. It's not a place for damaged minds who aren't strong enough to take it on the chin.
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on.
I agree I don't like threads like this. I appreciate most people are being a little bit tongue-in-cheek but a lot of these comments are not particularly helpful or useful.
Just very negative to people that are possibly already damaged or struggling. I guess I just don't understand the purpose of these threads other than to put people down.
Being brutal here: they shouldn't be on here. This is a place where looks are judged and characters picked over. It's not a place for damaged minds who aren't strong enough to take it on the chin.
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Totally agree you have to be comfortable in your own skin to be on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Self-deprecation gets you hugs, attention and pity fucks.
Does it fuck.
You maybe not, but it works for others.
Who?
Women."
Thought so.
You only have to be comfortable in your own skin if you're a man. You can be as insecure and fucked up as you like and still get penis. It's not hard. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What worries me is if people are in a vulnerable position mentally this sort of site is not going to help, I get that we all come and go, and I get that we are all adults on here but as we all well know it can be vicious and not good for people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation gets you hugs, attention and pity fucks.
Does it fuck.
You maybe not, but it works for others.
Who?
Women.
Thought so.
You only have to be comfortable in your own skin if you're a man. You can be as insecure and fucked up as you like and still get penis. It's not hard."
There are fucked up and self loathing men here too...lots of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on.
I agree I don't like threads like this. I appreciate most people are being a little bit tongue-in-cheek but a lot of these comments are not particularly helpful or useful.
Just very negative to people that are possibly already damaged or struggling. I guess I just don't understand the purpose of these threads other than to put people down.
Being brutal here: they shouldn't be on here. This is a place where looks are judged and characters picked over. It's not a place for damaged minds who aren't strong enough to take it on the chin.
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Ok I normally agree with a lot of what you say but I totally disagree on this.
Issues with self-esteem or mental health issues does and should not rule you out of joining a site like this it's the other people that are on a site like this that degrade these people that maybe should look in the mirror.
Obviously everybody has a different viewpoint but I don't see how it's helpful to degrade people in any way or say they shouldn't be here.
Yes for some people it's probably detrimental for them and their mental health but surely it would be better to leave them alone or point it out in a useful or helpful way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on.
I agree I don't like threads like this. I appreciate most people are being a little bit tongue-in-cheek but a lot of these comments are not particularly helpful or useful.
Just very negative to people that are possibly already damaged or struggling. I guess I just don't understand the purpose of these threads other than to put people down.
Being brutal here: they shouldn't be on here. This is a place where looks are judged and characters picked over. It's not a place for damaged minds who aren't strong enough to take it on the chin.
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the forum is for everyone. no one should be forced from it because they are fragile. to do that is bullying.
bullying should not be tolerated in any form. and thats part of the problem.
a section of people here think they have the right to dictate to other on how to behave, look, sound or who should be using the forum.
that is completely unacceptable.
some of you completely ignore peoples comments as a way of excluding them or trying to make them feel uncomfortable here.
some of you have done this to me.
its bullying and worst selective bullying.
you have no right to say who uses this place.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation gets you hugs, attention and pity fucks.
Does it fuck.
You maybe not, but it works for others.
Who?
Women.
Thought so.
You only have to be comfortable in your own skin if you're a man. You can be as insecure and fucked up as you like and still get penis. It's not hard.
There are fucked up and self loathing men here too...lots of them "
Right but they don't get hugs and pity fucks do they? That's what she was saying. Unless they're very very attractive I suppose who knows. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either"
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh "
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about. |
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on. "
As someone who was repeatedly consigned to the scrapheap of life as a child and never gave up/ was never given up on, I emphatically disagree.
I'm not saying that help can be found here, or even easily (and it's hard work!), but the idea that there are people we just give up on... it's utterly abhorrent to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation gets you hugs, attention and pity fucks.
Does it fuck.
You maybe not, but it works for others.
Who?
Women.
Thought so.
You only have to be comfortable in your own skin if you're a man. You can be as insecure and fucked up as you like and still get penis. It's not hard.
There are fucked up and self loathing men here too...lots of them
Right but they don't get hugs and pity fucks do they? That's what she was saying. Unless they're very very attractive I suppose who knows."
If you were a woman, would you hug or fuck a man who sounds as though he finds women repugnant? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on.
As someone who was repeatedly consigned to the scrapheap of life as a child and never gave up/ was never given up on, I emphatically disagree.
I'm not saying that help can be found here, or even easily (and it's hard work!), but the idea that there are people we just give up on... it's utterly abhorrent to me. "
Well that's life. It's abhorrent. You should know this as an adult. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I agree there is a point about everyone should be included, it’s our right androstenedione should never be denied, no aspect of social media is good for anyone who is vulnerable mentally, that’s not a new story, it just concerns me that they aren’t going to get better spending time on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation gets you hugs, attention and pity fucks.
Does it fuck.
You maybe not, but it works for others.
Who?
Women.
Thought so.
You only have to be comfortable in your own skin if you're a man. You can be as insecure and fucked up as you like and still get penis. It's not hard.
There are fucked up and self loathing men here too...lots of them
Right but they don't get hugs and pity fucks do they? That's what she was saying. Unless they're very very attractive I suppose who knows.
If you were a woman, would you hug or fuck a man who sounds as though he finds women repugnant?"
If you are saying I find women repugnant, I certainly do not.
Depends how hard up I was I suppose. If I was a woman i'd possibly have an easier time getting laid so wouldn't have to shag someone like that. So no, I suppose. Hard to say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Contrary to what some people think, I don't actually hate myself. I'm not a big fan of the person I am, but that's largely the depression talking, and I'm working on it.
Reading that makes me happy. "
Let's face it, fab is ultimately a form of social media, an airbrushed perspective of every day sexuality and interactions.
Do I look at other profiles and verifications and updates, and think hmmm what a great life they have? Yes at times.
But we all know a lot of this site is about people's portrayal of themselves, and life isn't an even keel of great experiences all the time.
I wake, look at my body sometimes and tbink, who'd sleep with me, I get grouchy at the forums sometimes, I get jealous that my hotlist desires are partying away....but I keep it all in context.
If people want to vent on here, then I'm not harmed, I can just turn it off. This isn't the real world!! |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about. "
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about. "
Why should we shag them? Bc they give a sob story that's probably lie anyway I know what i want and won't change that just because they having a hard time we all go through some crap in our life but you have to learn to deal with it or if it's that bad get professional help x |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within. "
Well said xx |
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"Self-deprecation gets you hugs, attention and pity fucks.
Does it fuck.
You maybe not, but it works for others.
Who?
Women.
Thought so.
You only have to be comfortable in your own skin if you're a man. You can be as insecure and fucked up as you like and still get penis. It's not hard.
There are fucked up and self loathing men here too...lots of them
Right but they don't get hugs and pity fucks do they? That's what she was saying. Unless they're very very attractive I suppose who knows.
If you were a woman, would you hug or fuck a man who sounds as though he finds women repugnant?
If you are saying I find women repugnant, I certainly do not.
Depends how hard up I was I suppose. If I was a woman i'd possibly have an easier time getting laid so wouldn't have to shag someone like that. So no, I suppose. Hard to say."
Some men on here seem to really hate women (not saying you). To a point where I wonder if they're dangerous. I value my life and body much more highly than satisfying my libido. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within. "
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness. |
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"There are certainly some with self destructive thought processes
Seems a tad patronising that. They are probably that way for a reason.
Yes, but that doesn't make it healthy or advisable. They should probably seek help.
There usually isn't help for these people. They appear negative because negative things happen to them. It's all very victim blamey
There are winners and losers in life. Its best to deal with that early on.
As someone who was repeatedly consigned to the scrapheap of life as a child and never gave up/ was never given up on, I emphatically disagree.
I'm not saying that help can be found here, or even easily (and it's hard work!), but the idea that there are people we just give up on... it's utterly abhorrent to me.
Well that's life. It's abhorrent. You should know this as an adult."
No, it's not life. I know as someone who was told all sorts of nonsense about how awful my life was going to be.
I'm sorry you feel that way about anyone. It simply isn't true. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Why should we shag them? Bc they give a sob story that's probably lie anyway I know what i want and won't change that just because they having a hard time we all go through some crap in our life but you have to learn to deal with it or if it's that bad get professional help x "
Not saying you should shag them, i'm just saying that's probably what they need. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness."
I wasn't making any comments about income inequality or anything like that. Please don't be dismissive of the many different ways that people experience psychological distress or the help they can find. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Why should we shag them? Bc they give a sob story that's probably lie anyway I know what i want and won't change that just because they having a hard time we all go through some crap in our life but you have to learn to deal with it or if it's that bad get professional help x
Not saying you should shag them, i'm just saying that's probably what they need. "
Sex won't solve any issues problem is Always still going to be there unless you address it properly x |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh "
Your description of them as desperate and assumption that they're after a sympathy fuck says a lot about you. |
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Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour |
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour "
I like that. Going to pinch it. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
I wasn't making any comments about income inequality or anything like that. Please don't be dismissive of the many different ways that people experience psychological distress or the help they can find. "
I said most. Depression is natural in my mind. How could you not be? Mental.
Anyways, we won't see eye to eye on this. Never have done with anyone. My dream is to swap my life with someone else's and then watch them say some of the stuff that has been said in this thread haha.
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour "
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour "
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour "
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
I like that. Going to pinch it."
Or the meaning of the response is the communication of what you put out..
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded."
Or it's people speaking from painful personal experience. |
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded."
No...deluded is carrying on down a self destructive path thinking everyone else will change |
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over a year ago
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
Or it's people speaking from painful personal experience. "
If you truly experienced that level of desolation in your life which, as a woman, I highly doubt, then you are very lucky to have gotten out of that.
I am glad. |
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
No...deluded is carrying on down a self destructive path thinking everyone else will change"
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
Your description of them as desperate and assumption that they're after a sympathy fuck says a lot about you."
I think they need company and intimacy. Holding someone makes you feel comfort. |
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
Or it's people speaking from painful personal experience.
If you truly experienced that level of desolation in your life which, as a woman, I highly doubt, then you are very lucky to have gotten out of that.
I am glad."
Why are women exempt? That's bizarre and absurd. |
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
No...deluded is carrying on down a self destructive path thinking everyone else will change
You dont find anything coming across patronising at all?"
No, it's factual. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness."
Good grief! 
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion |
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
No...deluded is carrying on down a self destructive path thinking everyone else will change"
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Right this isn’t a rant, I’ve been on here before and have found the site excellent, my question is this, does anyone find the behaviour of people on here alarming? Like psychology 101 alarming? For instance there are people on here who appear to hate themselves, I’m aware that this is probably a snapshot of everywhere but wow I’m shocked "
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over a year ago
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
Or it's people speaking from painful personal experience.
If you truly experienced that level of desolation in your life which, as a woman, I highly doubt, then you are very lucky to have gotten out of that.
I am glad.
Why are women exempt? That's bizarre and absurd. "
From the problems men experience on here? Or what has driven them to places like this? The feelings of intense inadequacy and failure?
You'd have to agree they probably dont?
Why do you think male suicide rates are so high? |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion"
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
Or it's people speaking from painful personal experience.
If you truly experienced that level of desolation in your life which, as a woman, I highly doubt, then you are very lucky to have gotten out of that.
I am glad.
Why are women exempt? That's bizarre and absurd.
From the problems men experience on here? Or what has driven them to places like this? The feelings of intense inadequacy and failure?
You'd have to agree they probably dont?
Why do you think male suicide rates are so high? "
Fab is not an accurate representation of the rest of society, and you have no idea what other people go through. Sex is not a panacea.
This is not the place to pick apart male suicide rates, which I have views on. But women do suffer suicidal ideation for any number of reasons. |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
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"Depressive bouts" is a meaningless term. The word is depression, and if you have it you absolutely are mentally ill. |
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over a year ago
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"Abstinence...that's what the self loathers should try.
Learn to like themselves first before comntemplating any kind of intimacy.
We can't change the behaviour of others but we can take control of our own behaviour
You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all.
Its like a rich person going to a slum and telling them they should save money or something. Its deluded.
Or it's people speaking from painful personal experience.
If you truly experienced that level of desolation in your life which, as a woman, I highly doubt, then you are very lucky to have gotten out of that.
I am glad.
Why are women exempt? That's bizarre and absurd.
From the problems men experience on here? Or what has driven them to places like this? The feelings of intense inadequacy and failure?
You'd have to agree they probably dont?
Why do you think male suicide rates are so high?
Fab is not an accurate representation of the rest of society, and you have no idea what other people go through. Sex is not a panacea.
This is not the place to pick apart male suicide rates, which I have views on. But women do suffer suicidal ideation for any number of reasons. "
Its not the sex is it. |
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over a year ago
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
"Depressive bouts" is a meaningless term. The word is depression, and if you have it you absolutely are mentally ill."
Um no lots of people get depressed. Probably everyone in their lives. Some cannot produce the correct brain chemicals. There is a difference between rightfully feeling down becauee life is utterly utterly shit and having a messed up brain. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
"
Again, you clearly know nothing. You're stating points that are nothing more than your opinion and you're passing it off as fact.
Frankly I find everything that you've posted on this thread to be rather toxic and dismissive. Obviously you have an axe to grind regarding women, mental health and various other things. If you have something to say then please; come out with it... |
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
Your description of them as desperate and assumption that they're after a sympathy fuck says a lot about you."
Why because I want NSA and no drama ? I'm not here as a therapist or a doctor I can't help anyone x |
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over a year ago
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
"Depressive bouts" is a meaningless term. The word is depression, and if you have it you absolutely are mentally ill.
Um no lots of people get depressed. Probably everyone in their lives. Some cannot produce the correct brain chemicals. There is a difference between rightfully feeling down becauee life is utterly utterly shit and having a messed up brain. "
No, there isn't. You're treating thoughts and emotions as separate from brain structure and chemistry. It's called mind/body dualism, and it's been proved to be bollocks. The mind, the thoughts and feelings ARE the brain structure and chemistry. Change one and you change the other. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
Again, you clearly know nothing. You're stating points that are nothing more than your opinion and you're passing it off as fact.
Frankly I find everything that you've posted on this thread to be rather toxic and dismissive. Obviously you have an axe to grind regarding women, mental health and various other things. If you have something to say then please; come out with it... "
And I find this a rather obnoxious projection bullying post.
If you don’t like it, suggest a little sugar lump sucking
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ..."
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
Again, you clearly know nothing. You're stating points that are nothing more than your opinion and you're passing it off as fact.
Frankly I find everything that you've posted on this thread to be rather toxic and dismissive. Obviously you have an axe to grind regarding women, mental health and various other things. If you have something to say then please; come out with it... "
Oh god the word toxic has appeared. Thread over.
I don't have an axe to grind regarding women or "various other things". At all. |
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over a year ago
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"Yes I've seen some profiles and statuses that make me go
Then the cynic in me thinks it's done purely to attract drama and sympathy.
Then I think, why am I thinking about this, and go look at some more naked pictures
Lol I don't need drama either
Same here I tend to ignore the desperate men on here who go on about anxieties depression or sexless marriages hoping for a sympathy shag I'm here for NSA sex don't need any drama or their problems x sorry if that sounds harsh
If people just shagged them they probably wouldn't have much depression or anxieties or sexless marriages to complain about.
Oh god, no. Sex doesn't solve these issues and people they fuck are not there to fix them. It starts from within.
Most people are 'depressed' due to external factors, largely out of their control. Don't let an entire industry of self help writers and therapists con you into think otherwise. It's all a sham to absolve the 1% of winners and bastards in life of any responsibility and to get off tbe hook.
Oh you're depressed because i was born into wealth and you're poor as fuck? You need therapy mate. Etc etc. It's madness.
Good grief!
Depression is a mental illness, it requires help and understanding, it may and can be triggered by external factors but not in the way that you're claiming here. Please don't start talking about things that you clearly have very little knowledge of and passing them off as anything other than your own opinion
Many many people suffer from depressive bouts and they arent mentally ill at all.
"Depressive bouts" is a meaningless term. The word is depression, and if you have it you absolutely are mentally ill.
Um no lots of people get depressed. Probably everyone in their lives. Some cannot produce the correct brain chemicals. There is a difference between rightfully feeling down becauee life is utterly utterly shit and having a messed up brain.
No, there isn't. You're treating thoughts and emotions as separate from brain structure and chemistry. It's called mind/body dualism, and it's been proved to be bollocks. The mind, the thoughts and feelings ARE the brain structure and chemistry. Change one and you change the other."
So everyone who feels down at some point in their life suffers from depression???
I don't think so. |
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ..."
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help. |
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help."
You need to like yourself first before anyone else will like you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help.
You need to like yourself first before anyone else will like you"
I used to. I still do now.
When nobody likes you for years and years and years though. Eh. You change. Unless you're incredibly lacking in self awareness and have an immense ego. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help."
OK, I'll try another tack since I got rather heated.
In what way are you feeling that this is the case?
In all seriousness here because I believe that there are always options available if you're willing to look and seek help |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help.
You need to like yourself first before anyone else will like you"
Bollocks, in a good way, you need to openly know yourself before you find yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are many *alarming* things going on here.
"the forum is for everyone. no one should be forced from it because they are fragile. to do that is bullying.
bullying should not be tolerated in any form. and thats part of the problem.
a section of people here think they have the right to dictate to other on how to behave, look, sound or who should be using the forum.
that is completely unacceptable.
some of you completely ignore peoples comments as a way of excluding them or trying to make them feel uncomfortable here.
some of you have done this to me.
its bullying and worst selective bullying.
you have no right to say who uses this place.
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Well said. That hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately a few fabbers will try anything to make things difficult for others. Not going into detail, but I can confirm what Patrick said happens.
The most important thing is Fab as a whole is all inclusive. Everyone can get what they want from the site. Never let a few individuals spoil things for you. I know it is not easy to forgive or forget, but focus on the future rather then the past.
Happy New Year everyone and make 2019 a great year for you |
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"Right this isn’t a rant, I’ve been on here before and have found the site excellent, my question is this, does anyone find the behaviour of people on here alarming? Like psychology 101 alarming? For instance there are people on here who appear to hate themselves, I’m aware that this is probably a snapshot of everywhere but wow I’m shocked "
Yes, there are a lot of fucked up puppies here, of both sexes. Yes, there are a lot of people here trying to use sex as a substitute for what's lacking in their lives, so probably a much higher proportion of fucked up puppies than the real world because of that. Yes, a lot of them will be further damaged by that.
I am not alarmed by it, I am saddened though.  |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"There are many *alarming* things going on here.
the forum is for everyone. no one should be forced from it because they are fragile. to do that is bullying.
bullying should not be tolerated in any form. and thats part of the problem.
a section of people here think they have the right to dictate to other on how to behave, look, sound or who should be using the forum.
that is completely unacceptable.
some of you completely ignore peoples comments as a way of excluding them or trying to make them feel uncomfortable here.
some of you have done this to me.
its bullying and worst selective bullying.
you have no right to say who uses this place.
Well said. That hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately a few fabbers will try anything to make things difficult for others. Not going into detail, but I can confirm what Patrick said happens.
The most important thing is Fab as a whole is all inclusive. Everyone can get what they want from the site. Never let a few individuals spoil things for you. I know it is not easy to forgive or forget, but focus on the future rather then the past.
Happy New Year everyone and make 2019 a great year for you "
Let it go..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help.
You need to like yourself first before anyone else will like you
I used to. I still do now.
When nobody likes you for years and years and years though. Eh. You change. Unless you're incredibly lacking in self awareness and have an immense ego. "
So change it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help.
You need to like yourself first before anyone else will like you
Bollocks, in a good way, you need to openly know yourself before you find yourself."
It helps to like yourself too...so it's not quite bollocks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help.
You need to like yourself first before anyone else will like you
I used to. I still do now.
When nobody likes you for years and years and years though. Eh. You change. Unless you're incredibly lacking in self awareness and have an immense ego.
So change it"
Go on..? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don't like what you read ...move on. ..noone is forcing you to feel anything for them...if it don't float your boat ..just click next ...
It's a huge wonderful diverse world out there so less of the hating and more of the loving ...
Riiiight but for some peple it isn't like that. There's no choice, no agency, no freedom, no sex, no intimacy, no happiness etc
I just wish people could understand this. It doesnt help.
You need to like yourself first before anyone else will like you
I used to. I still do now.
When nobody likes you for years and years and years though. Eh. You change. Unless you're incredibly lacking in self awareness and have an immense ego.
So change it
Go on..?"
I don't have your answers. You might feel better if you start sounding a little less angry |
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"You dont think this comes across as incredibly privileged and patronising at all. "
Personally, I find the comments that belittle depression, mental illness, show an uneducated attitude to it and suggest you're born lucky or not are incredibly patronising. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you mean ?
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I'm afraid the OP is no longer on this mortal platform, and therefore unable to answer your question."
I mean how did fabulous and bearded mean like an example |
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"How do you mean ?
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I'm afraid the OP is no longer on this mortal platform, and therefore unable to answer your question.
I mean how did fabulous and bearded mean like an example"
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I totally agree: we should make an example of him.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you mean ?
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I'm afraid the OP is no longer on this mortal platform, and therefore unable to answer your question.
I mean how did fabulous and bearded mean like an example
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I totally agree: we should make an example of him. "
Oi stop talking about me as if I were an inanimate object |
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