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over a year ago
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Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I've taken the same amount of time and effort they have.
I don't make exceptions no matter how hot they are, and any immediate follow up I block them. "
I maybe send a screenshot of the fab FAQ; why it isn’t rude to ignore messages  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Instantly delete. I used to reply with a thanks but not interested message, but I got a fair amount of abuse for it. So no point "
Yep, we did that and got abuse for it,usually from mature genuine gents, 
Not very mature to throw the dummy out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Instantly delete. I used to reply with a thanks but not interested message, but I got a fair amount of abuse for it. So no point
Yep, we did that and got abuse for it,usually from mature genuine gents,
Not very mature to throw the dummy out "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some "nice guys" really show their true colours when we don't roll over and play dead. "
Or we don't instantly drop our pants and want to shag them because they have attached a dick picture |
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"Some "nice guys" really show their true colours when we don't roll over and play dead.
Or we don't instantly drop our pants and want to shag them because they have attached a dick picture "
Oh this is more, they send a horrendously generic message, including saying how nice they are, the word nice appears all over their profile, they attach a face picture because that's what all women want, then when I delete their message... Nice people don't make threats like that  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We always replied regardless. But for every one nice guy we got about 50 odd ones so we have blocked single guys from messaging now. It’s a shame but it was becoming a nightmare "
As they say " the actions of the few,impact the many"  |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
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Depends on my mood a one or two word message will usually get a one or two word reply. If they continue to respond with little or no context then I quickly lose interest. |
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Possibly, wider context sometimes makes a difference. Maybe I like their profile (I may have alot to say) or we have met before or a response to wink for examples. Sometimes to break the ice dosent need to be war and peace. And sometimes just with one line there may be a something quite profound or intresting. So I take it on a case by case basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I'm bored and I don't have many messages then sometimes I look at the profile and see if anything intrigues me but more often than not I just delete it, then which is often the case I get a message saying "guess your not interested then, shame I would have given you the best time of your life" I just block. |
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"We always replied regardless. But for every one nice guy we got about 50 odd ones so we have blocked single guys from messaging now. It’s a shame but it was becoming a nightmare
As they say " the actions of the few,impact the many" "
Yep. It’s was worse when I was a single lady on here. At least they just keep chancing their arm with our couples profile. Three strikes and they’re blocked. Before as a single lady, the abuse I received if I wouldn’t meet them for a coffee. Or a coffee and a blow job! as I’m on a sex site so it’s a given that that’s what I would do! All sorts of names thrown at me! Like that’s gonna win me round! Although I did end up marrying the man that was originally a thanks but no thanks so I’m glad I didn’t block him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not always... depends on who they are.. even a "hi" may have taken someone alot guts just to send..
Mistress Amelia x
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Same here. We give them a chance unless it's clear from their profile that we're not a match and they haven't read ours.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I reply to all first messages. Most people just delete messages so why bother writing anything more than "hi"? Anything else is a waste of their time.
So I reply and often get chatting to really nice people. |
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The only ones we don't reply to are the ones that very obviously haven't read our fairly brief profile.
Copy and paste doesn't bother us neither do one liners. The following messages will tell if we're compatible or not.
I think people expect too much of a first message. When you're approached by someone in a bar for example you don't expect much more than a "hello, how are you" to get the conversation going. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many people send messages? Most just sit and wait for their inbox to boost their ego. Deleting 100 messages a day makes them feel good. 
I doubt we receive a 100 a year. "
Put a status up asking "who wants sex?" Ego boost right there.   |
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"How many people send messages? Most just sit and wait for their inbox to boost their ego. Deleting 100 messages a day makes them feel good.
I doubt we receive a 100 a year.
Put a status up asking "who wants sex?" Ego boost right there. "
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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If there’s anything crude I delete. I have also grown to dislike messages that say ‘are you behaving?’
It’s not about the length of the message, it’s about the content. It can be a one liner but a nice one. |
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
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My profile warns about poor quality messaging and I don't hesitate to block if someone does not make any effort |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
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I would reply. I'm here to have some nice chat with a normal guy for mmf. I don't need to be impressed. I'm not up myself that way x |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion"
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet "
its a great way up until the last month i only met forum folks |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet its a great way up until the last month i only met forum folks"
How have you changed your approach then?
I'm out of most people's age ranges now, so I just tend to post inane drivel on here in the vain hope that it might get me laid at some point in time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
I would reply. I'm here to have some nice chat with a normal guy for mmf. I don't need to be impressed. I'm not up myself that way x"
It's not about being up yourself it's about being inundated with messages so one or two words messages just aren't going to get a response. I most certainly don't need to be impressed but I do like to know that somebody has put a bit of effort in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet its a great way up until the last month i only met forum folks
How have you changed your approach then?
I'm out of most people's age ranges now, so I just tend to post inane drivel on here in the vain hope that it might get me laid at some point in time "
i just chat shit dont really have an approach i just shout until folks take notice with randomly comical status shite |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet its a great way up until the last month i only met forum folks
How have you changed your approach then?
I'm out of most people's age ranges now, so I just tend to post inane drivel on here in the vain hope that it might get me laid at some point in time "
i also never wanted to meet none forum folk until a recent bout of horniness  |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet "
My two most recent ones have been people that I've chatted to in the forums it's definitely a really good way to get to know someone and what they are like. |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet
My two most recent ones have been people that I've chatted to in the forums it's definitely a really good way to get to know someone and what they are like. "
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet its a great way up until the last month i only met forum folks
How have you changed your approach then?
I'm out of most people's age ranges now, so I just tend to post inane drivel on here in the vain hope that it might get me laid at some point in time i just chat shit dont really have an approach i just shout until folks take notice with randomly comical status shite"
Should I change ma username to pull my plonker? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
I would reply. I'm here to have some nice chat with a normal guy for mmf. I don't need to be impressed. I'm not up myself that way x
It's not about being up yourself it's about being inundated with messages so one or two words messages just aren't going to get a response. I most certainly don't need to be impressed but I do like to know that somebody has put a bit of effort in. "
Nah. Just be normal and down to earth x |
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over a year ago
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
I would reply. I'm here to have some nice chat with a normal guy for mmf. I don't need to be impressed. I'm not up myself that way x
It's not about being up yourself it's about being inundated with messages so one or two words messages just aren't going to get a response. I most certainly don't need to be impressed but I do like to know that somebody has put a bit of effort in. "
exactly.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet its a great way up until the last month i only met forum folks
How have you changed your approach then?
I'm out of most people's age ranges now, so I just tend to post inane drivel on here in the vain hope that it might get me laid at some point in time i just chat shit dont really have an approach i just shout until folks take notice with randomly comical status shite
Should I change ma username to pull my plonker? "
its your profile dude i dont think my name gets me ladys to be honest |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet
My two most recent ones have been people that I've chatted to in the forums it's definitely a really good way to get to know someone and what they are like. "
I seem to attract ladies from the South Coast |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
I would reply. I'm here to have some nice chat with a normal guy for mmf. I don't need to be impressed. I'm not up myself that way x
It's not about being up yourself it's about being inundated with messages so one or two words messages just aren't going to get a response. I most certainly don't need to be impressed but I do like to know that somebody has put a bit of effort in.
Nah. Just be normal and down to earth x"
Thank you for that great observation. I am very down to earth however if I was to apply to every single message I received I would need a personal secretary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet
My two most recent ones have been people that I've chatted to in the forums it's definitely a really good way to get to know someone and what they are like.
I seem to attract ladies from the South Coast "
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"Should I change ma username to pull my plonker? its your profile dude i dont think my name gets me ladys to be honest"
I know, I was only having a Giraffe, did you have a previous username? I was superramfan until about 4 years ago |
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"Sometimes I'll give a "hey" the benefit of the doubt. My instant deletes are anyone using text speak like "wuut?" That a just lazy."
To be honest it would take me a while to figure out what that even meant. |
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"Should I change ma username to pull my plonker? its your profile dude i dont think my name gets me ladys to be honest
I know, I was only having a Giraffe, did you have a previous username? I was superramfan until about 4 years ago "
yes but dont remember it only had it 1 month |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet
My two most recent ones have been people that I've chatted to in the forums it's definitely a really good way to get to know someone and what they are like.
I seem to attract ladies from the South Coast
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Shame I'm too old and you can't travel, although I've had ladies who say they won't meet smokers come to stop with me for a couple of days  |
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
I would reply. I'm here to have some nice chat with a normal guy for mmf. I don't need to be impressed. I'm not up myself that way x
It's not about being up yourself it's about being inundated with messages so one or two words messages just aren't going to get a response. I most certainly don't need to be impressed but I do like to know that somebody has put a bit of effort in.
Nah. Just be normal and down to earth x
Thank you for that great observation. I am very down to earth however if I was to apply to every single message I received I would need a personal secretary. "
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet
My two most recent ones have been people that I've chatted to in the forums it's definitely a really good way to get to know someone and what they are like.
I seem to attract ladies from the South Coast
Shame I'm too old and you can't travel, although I've had ladies who say they won't meet smokers come to stop with me for a couple of days "
Well I'm a smoker so I wouldn't have that problem. |
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"No as it would mean i talk to nobody women generally tend to put very little effort into messaging me
You get messages off women? on occasion
I do as well, most of ma meets have been through pm's that have come about via a bit of banter on the forums, it's a good way to meet
My two most recent ones have been people that I've chatted to in the forums it's definitely a really good way to get to know someone and what they are like.
I seem to attract ladies from the South Coast
Shame I'm too old and you can't travel, although I've had ladies who say they won't meet smokers come to stop with me for a couple of days
Well I'm a smoker so I wouldn't have that problem. "
Sounds cool, do you fancy a trip to Derby sometime? |
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"I would hate to be inundated with so many messages I couldn't read and reply to them all."
I had a lady come and stop at mine a few years ago, and I was amazed how many she actually had in her inbox, it would freak me out as well! |
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"I would hate to be inundated with so many messages I couldn't read and reply to them all.
I had a lady come and stop at mine a few years ago, and I was amazed how many she actually had in her inbox, it would freak me out as well! "
I think the other thing is I've made it very clear on my profile the kind of messages I don't want to receive so if somebody sends me a 1 or 2 word message then I just delete it and I don't understand why they're surprised by that. There is only so many "hi how are" messages I can receive in a day before I get exceptionally board. Also I'm not going to feel guilty for not being obliged to reply to a message. |
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
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Instant delete.
If they CBA to put the effort into writing anything worth reading, I CBA to bother replying.
It's clearly stated on my profile, but yeah yeah, we all know no ones reads that stuff anyway.
Always amuses me when I get a follow up message, criticising my attitude. |
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"I would hate to be inundated with so many messages I couldn't read and reply to them all.
I had a lady come and stop at mine a few years ago, and I was amazed how many she actually had in her inbox, it would freak me out as well!
I think the other thing is I've made it very clear on my profile the kind of messages I don't want to receive so if somebody sends me a 1 or 2 word message then I just delete it and I don't understand why they're surprised by that. There is only so many "hi how are" messages I can receive in a day before I get exceptionally board. Also I'm not going to feel guilty for not being obliged to reply to a message. "
It was crazy, when she opened her laptop she must have had about 150 messages in there, some wishing her well for her journey to mine, she did return for a second visit, but mostly unsolicited. How the hell's anyone supposed to reply to them for crying out loud no matter how good natured and what your intentions may be. I need a secretary to open ma post on a weekly basis ffs! |
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"I would hate to be inundated with so many messages I couldn't read and reply to them all.
I had a lady come and stop at mine a few years ago, and I was amazed how many she actually had in her inbox, it would freak me out as well!
I think the other thing is I've made it very clear on my profile the kind of messages I don't want to receive so if somebody sends me a 1 or 2 word message then I just delete it and I don't understand why they're surprised by that. There is only so many "hi how are" messages I can receive in a day before I get exceptionally board. Also I'm not going to feel guilty for not being obliged to reply to a message.
It was crazy, when she opened her laptop she must have had about 150 messages in there, some wishing her well for her journey to mine, she did return for a second visit, but mostly unsolicited. How the hell's anyone supposed to reply to them for crying out loud no matter how good natured and what your intentions may be. I need a secretary to open ma post on a weekly basis ffs! "
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"I would hate to be inundated with so many messages I couldn't read and reply to them all.
I had a lady come and stop at mine a few years ago, and I was amazed how many she actually had in her inbox, it would freak me out as well!
I think the other thing is I've made it very clear on my profile the kind of messages I don't want to receive so if somebody sends me a 1 or 2 word message then I just delete it and I don't understand why they're surprised by that. There is only so many "hi how are" messages I can receive in a day before I get exceptionally board. Also I'm not going to feel guilty for not being obliged to reply to a message.
It was crazy, when she opened her laptop she must have had about 150 messages in there, some wishing her well for her journey to mine, she did return for a second visit, but mostly unsolicited. How the hell's anyone supposed to reply to them for crying out loud no matter how good natured and what your intentions may be. I need a secretary to open ma post on a weekly basis ffs!
Exactly. "
This^ I try to keep on top of mine but haven't managed to get it to less than 100. Currently sat at 264 (although I'm sure I can add at least 5 to that in the time it's taken to type this) and probably half are just "hey" or "u ok?" |
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
I would reply. I'm here to have some nice chat with a normal guy for mmf. I don't need to be impressed. I'm not up myself that way x"
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"Instantly delete one or two line messages? Or obvious "copy & paste" messages.
For ex. "Hi" "hows youse"
We instantly delete them because if they can't be bothered putting some effort into, we can't be arsed either.
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I'd check for pics first
If I fancied them then I'd reply
If it got to a few messages in and I was getting short answers and it was like pulling teeth, then I'd lose interest
If there were no pics or I didn't fancy them, I wouldn't answer |
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"Instantly delete. I used to reply with a thanks but not interested message, but I got a fair amount of abuse for it. So no point "
Same! Have had loads of abuse back when I sent a polite reply so just delete now unles its a really nice message
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"Instantly delete. I used to reply with a thanks but not interested message, but I got a fair amount of abuse for it. So no point
Same! Have had loads of abuse back when I sent a polite reply so just delete now unles its a really nice message
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And me, I ignore most messages unless one catches my eye, and periodically go through them replying to some and deleting most. |
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