 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
They say you should fake it till you make it. Or something like that!
For example if you're shy, just pretend to be confident and people will respond to that. Then you'll feel more at ease and less shy.
Have you tried this? Any success stories - or even stories of utter doom?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Yes I have, I used to be painfully shy and then made a massive effort to talk to people when I went to Uni.
I astounded myself and became popular! I also began to feel confident until it became my natural state  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I can't be arsed to fake it.
I'm not bothered if people like me or not.
I'm happy in my own company to be honest - being fake is exhausting!
Let all the sycophants get on with it and I'll be in pyjamas with headphones on |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I can't be arsed to fake it.
I'm not bothered if people like me or not.
I'm happy in my own company to be honest - being fake is exhausting!
Let all the sycophants get on with it and I'll be in pyjamas with headphones on "
Oh... get out of MY pyjamas  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I use to be extremely shy but when I went to uni and also work after that. I faked my outward appearance. I made friends, and progressed and I am a lot more confident now because of it. I still get shy in new situations or having to deal with new people, but that only lasts briefly. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Honestly, yes I am quite self conscious, but have had to make presentations from boardrooms to conferences. First 2 sentences are hard. Fake those and I can sell you a bridge. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I can't be arsed to fake it.
I'm not bothered if people like me or not.
I'm happy in my own company to be honest - being fake is exhausting!
Let all the sycophants get on with it and I'll be in pyjamas with headphones on "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm Extremely shy socially. I've missed out on so many opportunities. It annoys me when Many people think I'm ignorant when I generally just carnt find the words to say anything.
However, put me in my work uniform and I'm the most confident guy people ever meet. I have to be extremely confident in my job in a position of trust. But as soon as I'm Home I loose it. I'm shy around women not because I put them on a pedestal but because of their absolute feminine beauty
I've missed out on so many dates due to been the shy guy. But we are that rare specimen of men.
I'm pretty much adorable, really. Mysterious, intriguing, and sensitive. SHY GUYS ARE HOT!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I'm naturally shy. When I first moved away from my home town my son was 18 months old I had to make the effort to go to toddler groups for both our sakes. I was bricking it, got there, paid my money, the woman pointed to the corner and said 'the new ones are over there', normally I would of turned around and left but I went over. There was one other woman there, she looked at me, smiled and said 'you must be new to, are you hating this as much as me?' She's one of my besties now |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm naturally shy. When I first moved away from my home town my son was 18 months old I had to make the effort to go to toddler groups for both our sakes. I was bricking it, got there, paid my money, the woman pointed to the corner and said 'the new ones are over there', normally I would of turned around and left but I went over. There was one other woman there, she looked at me, smiled and said 'you must be new to, are you hating this as much as me?' She's one of my besties now "
Oh that brought back some memories. I found mother and toddler groups were the most unfriendly and cliquey groups of people I have ever come across. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"I'm naturally shy. When I first moved away from my home town my son was 18 months old I had to make the effort to go to toddler groups for both our sakes. I was bricking it, got there, paid my money, the woman pointed to the corner and said 'the new ones are over there', normally I would of turned around and left but I went over. There was one other woman there, she looked at me, smiled and said 'you must be new to, are you hating this as much as me?' She's one of my besties now
Oh that brought back some memories. I found mother and toddler groups were the most unfriendly and cliquey groups of people I have ever come across."
Definitely! I hated them, I only went because I thought they were good for my kids. I did make a couple of good friends though it was difficult for me being an outsider! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm naturally shy. When I first moved away from my home town my son was 18 months old I had to make the effort to go to toddler groups for both our sakes. I was bricking it, got there, paid my money, the woman pointed to the corner and said 'the new ones are over there', normally I would of turned around and left but I went over. There was one other woman there, she looked at me, smiled and said 'you must be new to, are you hating this as much as me?' She's one of my besties now
Oh that brought back some memories. I found mother and toddler groups were the most unfriendly and cliquey groups of people I have ever come across.
Definitely! I hated them, I only went because I thought they were good for my kids. I did make a couple of good friends though it was difficult for me being an outsider!"
Me too. I went to make friends, it was laughable really everyone was in their clique and very resistant to newcomers. After that experience I vowed that if I was ever anywhere that a person looked new and isolated I would reach out. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm an incredibly shy person and so often I fake confidence. But having anxiety plays a huge part in that. I fake body confidence often, I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to that. All I ever see are imperfections.
L. X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think even the most apparently outwardly confident of folk, hides insecurities and nerves.
We're all guilty of assuming others are in a better place than ourselves?
Just got to keep trying. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm shy too and enjoy my own company. I find small talk very hard. It is very exhausting to fake it and be 'on' all the time. Definitely gets easier the more you do it though and you always feel good after you've pushed yourself out of your comfort zone. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I can't be arsed to fake it.
I'm not bothered if people like me or not.
I'm happy in my own company to be honest - being fake is exhausting!
Let all the sycophants get on with it and I'll be in pyjamas with headphones on
Oh... get out of MY pyjamas "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
