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The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss. |
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"The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss. "
well said - time alone is very good for a persons mental health. |
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"It's me, 2 cats, an M & S curry and lazing on the sofa watching telly Christmas day.
Heaven.......
People can fuck off. "
As a self confessed misanthrope I can honestly say Christmas is the worst if you hate being social.
Give me an uninhabited island,no TV, mobile, a nice warm cabin open fire load's to eat a few bottles of good whisky a radio to play jazz FM and some good books.
Send me here from December 2nd till Jan 2nd .
I would be very happy in my forced solitude for a month |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss.
well said - time alone is very good for a persons mental health."
I would counter that, it can be a good thing but not for everyone |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss.
well said - time alone is very good for a persons mental health.
I would counter that, it can be a good thing but not for everyone"
Although, not the point of this thread!
Apologies OP! |
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I've already decided that in a few years time (when my parents are no longer around) I'll go away somewhere on my own.
I don't want to be the burden of being the singleton that has to be fitted in. |
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"I'd rather be alone than with people I don't want to around, does that count? "
Yes.
The years I don't have my kids at Christmas, I always get invites to friends houses, which I politely decline.
I do get the option of working for a few hours, but then I'm back home alone.
Just me & the chihuahua  |
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"It's me, 2 cats, an M & S curry and lazing on the sofa watching telly Christmas day.
Heaven.......
People can fuck off.
As a self confessed misanthrope I can honestly say Christmas is the worst if you hate being social.
Give me an uninhabited island,no TV, mobile, a nice warm cabin open fire load's to eat a few bottles of good whisky a radio to play jazz FM and some good books.
Send me here from December 2nd till Jan 2nd .
I would be very happy in my forced solitude for a month"
The weeks around Christmas and filled with memories of the worst time in my life.
I find it hard to be around people so full of joy. I don't want to spoil their pleasure by sharing my pain.
I'd rather pull the curtains than try to pull on a mask that doesn't fit. |
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"The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss. "
Absolutely snap.  I'm the exact same. Was off yesterday too and made excuses of last minute shopping but in reality was watching wrestling with my 22 year old son and drinking lots of Baileys was a great night. Got a call at 9 pm to go for drinks and said I needed a pamper and wash my hair for tomorrow I just like time with my son. Food and few drinks watching wrestling it's my guilty pleasure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone saying they hate people yet they come on here every day to interact with people  "
I don't hate people. Just surtound3d in work by folk. Staff and public. Nice to have a break in person. My chill time now and then is to pop in here. You lot are not as noisy as works lot |
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"Everyone saying they hate people yet they come on here every day to interact with people "
It's far easier than talking face to face,if you don't want to talk then stop typing not so easy in person. |
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I don’t like being on my own for long. An hour or so is ok, even therapeutic. But Christmas I always spend with my kids, and their mother too comes to mine. I only get fully dressed if I run out of booze and have to walk down the shops.
Merry Christmas to you all, and a happy fab new year. x |
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"Everyone saying they hate people yet they come on here every day to interact with people "
I don’t hate people at all and here I don't have to put up with bad aftershave and listen to ‘opinion’.
I love you guys.
T.
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Christmas just isn't the same without being with my children. I decline all invites as im not in a sociable mood and don't want to ruin anyone else's day. Better to be alone than being false just to please others |
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By *lsieWoman
over a year ago
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"The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss. "
Bliss......I'm in my poojams not getting changed today . Front curtains are shut and locked the gates. It's a good day . |
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"The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss.
well said - time alone is very good for a persons mental health."
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"Solitude is bliss "
It certainly is...sometimes, but I've got ma mate Brother Dave with me here today, at least he peeled the veg 
I do wake up most mornings and sit in silence while drinking enough tea to sink a battleship though |
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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago
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"The thread for those of us that want to be alone or at least escape for a few hours.
I’ve lied about working on Christmas Day soooooo many times over the years to get out of stuff. Doors locked, telly and jammies on, surrounded by food and my own decisions. Bliss. "
I'm actually working today  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone saying they hate people yet they come on here every day to interact with people "
There's a world of difference between interactING in line and in the real world   |
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This will be my 4th Christmas intentionally alone. I've been out with my girlfriend to park run being petfectly sociable and Christmassy but that's it for the day. I've been estranged from my family for years and the various partners over the years have seen me going along with them to their families and they've varied from bareable to excruciating. My mental health this Christmas is far far better than it ever used to be at this time of year. |
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"It's me, 2 cats, an M & S curry and lazing on the sofa watching telly Christmas day.
Heaven.......
People can fuck off.
As a self confessed misanthrope I can honestly say Christmas is the worst if you hate being social.
Give me an uninhabited island,no TV, mobile, a nice warm cabin open fire load's to eat a few bottles of good whisky a radio to play jazz FM and some good books.
Send me here from December 2nd till Jan 2nd .
I would be very happy in my forced solitude for a month
The weeks around Christmas and filled with memories of the worst time in my life.
I find it hard to be around people so full of joy. I don't want to spoil their pleasure by sharing my pain.
I'd rather pull the curtains than try to pull on a mask that doesn't fit."
The first thing I saw this morning brought back memories of the worst Christmas I ever had, so there I was on christmas morning, sitting on the edge of my bed sobbing my heart out. I'd quite like to just take a pill on the 23rd and not wake up until Boxing Day.
But (sincerely) Merry Christmas anyway xxxx |
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I’m now in a quiet park with two strong and adventurous grandchildren, loads of birds singing and all is good with the world. They are lovely humans.
Dinner about 5 then off to hide in my room for a while. |
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There's a world of difference between interactING in line and in the real world "
I dunno what makes you say that? I'm more than capable of doing both, surely interactional skills can be passed over from a keyboard to actually meeting someone in real life? |
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There's a world of difference between interactING in line and in the real world
I dunno what makes you say that? I'm more than capable of doing both, surely interactional skills can be passed over from a keyboard to actually meeting someone in real life? "
Of course but if I choose to ignore someone here it won’t cause an argument that will be remembered for the next ten years. |
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"Solitude is fine but you need someone to tell that solitude is fine.
Honoré"
spot on. The amount of folk who like "being alone" but being on social media interacting is curious |
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"Solitude is fine but you need someone to tell that solitude is fine.
Honoré
spot on. The amount of folk who like "being alone" but being on social media interacting is curious "
A curious mind is a good thing. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Solitude is fine but you need someone to tell that solitude is fine.
Honoré
spot on. The amount of folk who like "being alone" but being on social media interacting is curious "
Very different things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Solitude is fine but you need someone to tell that solitude is fine.
Honoré
spot on. The amount of folk who like "being alone" but being on social media interacting is curious
Very different things"
Yes, but it perhaps suggests that being alone isn't really what they want. Maybe they're being socially selective in a world where that's very difficult to achieve? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Solitude is fine but you need someone to tell that solitude is fine.
Honoré
spot on. The amount of folk who like "being alone" but being on social media interacting is curious
Very different things
Yes, but it perhaps suggests that being alone isn't really what they want. Maybe they're being socially selective in a world where that's very difficult to achieve? "
There's nothing wrong with that though, being selective about who you interact with or how you do so is a positive thing mentally |
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There's a world of difference between interactING in line and in the real world
I dunno what makes you say that? I'm more than capable of doing both, surely interactional skills can be passed over from a keyboard to actually meeting someone in real life?
Of course but if I choose to ignore someone here it won’t cause an argument that will be remembered for the next ten years. "
Exactly, what the hell are you doing in Bristol, I thought you were a Leicester based lass? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really feel sympathetic for everyone alone at Christmas....
Should Christmas be any different to any other day? "
Yes , Christmas is my favorite holiday and I would hate to be alone....
I’m not trying to start a fight or be rude....
I’m just sending hugs to anyone alone on Christmas. |
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"I really feel sympathetic for everyone alone at Christmas....
Should Christmas be any different to any other day? "
Agreed, but this time off year amplifies isolation |
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"I really feel sympathetic for everyone alone at Christmas....
Should Christmas be any different to any other day?
Yes , Christmas is my favorite holiday and I would hate to be alone....
I’m not trying to start a fight or be rude....
I’m just sending hugs to anyone alone on Christmas."
So many of us don’t want them though, that’s what this thread is about. I don’t want or need sympathy for something I want to do. |
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There's a world of difference between interactING in line and in the real world
I dunno what makes you say that? I'm more than capable of doing both, surely interactional skills can be passed over from a keyboard to actually meeting someone in real life?
Of course but if I choose to ignore someone here it won’t cause an argument that will be remembered for the next ten years.
Exactly, what the hell are you doing in Bristol, I thought you were a Leicester based lass? x "
I did move |
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"I really feel sympathetic for everyone alone at Christmas....
Should Christmas be any different to any other day?
Agreed, but this time off year amplifies isolation "
But why so though? Surely if you live alone like I do, then one day is pretty much like the rest. Why would December the 25th be any different? We get used to it |
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"I really feel sympathetic for everyone alone at Christmas....
Should Christmas be any different to any other day?
Agreed, but this time off year amplifies isolation
But why so though? Surely if you live alone like I do, then one day is pretty much like the rest. Why would December the 25th be any different? We get used to it "
But that is just you and don't doubt that it is very true for you. Many would not share your view of getting used to it, when seeing the buzz that is created by some people. If being alone isn't by choice but circumstance I can imagine that it can be a tough day |
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"I also spend Christmas alone with my cat. I was disowned by my family and most of my friends when they found out that I am Transgender x"
I'm sorry to read this. All the best to you |
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"I really feel sympathetic for everyone alone at Christmas....
Should Christmas be any different to any other day?
Agreed, but this time off year amplifies isolation
But why so though? Surely if you live alone like I do, then one day is pretty much like the rest. Why would December the 25th be any different? We get used to it
But that is just you and don't doubt that it is very true for you. Many would not share your view of getting used to it, when seeing the buzz that is created by some people. If being alone isn't by choice but circumstance I can imagine that it can be a tough day "
Fair comment, sure being alone can be hard for some people, but as I said on another thread a few days ago, there are always other options open to anyone who feels lonely no matter what time of year |
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"I really feel sympathetic for everyone alone at Christmas....
Should Christmas be any different to any other day?
Agreed, but this time off year amplifies isolation
But why so though? Surely if you live alone like I do, then one day is pretty much like the rest. Why would December the 25th be any different? We get used to it
But that is just you and don't doubt that it is very true for you. Many would not share your view of getting used to it, when seeing the buzz that is created by some people. If being alone isn't by choice but circumstance I can imagine that it can be a tough day "
There’s loads of threads for people that find it tough, it’s why I started this one for this those us that like it and actively seek it out. |
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