Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me. |
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a verification is to show you are real/genuine so cam or phone is good for that
most people who take stock in veri's do put more stock in real meet ones but as most single men have found out you cant get verified without meeting and you cant meet without being verified lol
there are some that pay no attention to verifications at al though so just use them how you like to use them |
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over a year ago
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Really does not bother me at all if someone is verified by cam, phone or meet
I wouldnt meet anyone based on their verifications
Some people only come onto cam/phone there for having verifications for such shows they are what their profile states they are |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me."
you could take a couple of counter arguments here.....
1) all that verification is suppose to be is that there were who they said they were and they turned up.... nothing more,
2) that because bad verifications will never been shown, that the whole process in itself could and probably should be taken with a huge pinch of salt......
3) why would you trust the judgement of someone else who you have never met..... one persons meet is another persons poison....... and there are not many situations where you would implicitly trust strangers....
basically what i am saying that verification shouldn't be substituted for your own gut feeling and due diligence, and I think that is what a lot of people do....... |
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By *rumalexMan
over a year ago
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me.
you could take a couple of counter arguments here.....
1) all that verification is suppose to be is that there were who they said they were and they turned up.... nothing more,
2) that because bad verifications will never been shown, that the whole process in itself could and probably should be taken with a huge pinch of salt......
3) why would you trust the judgement of someone else who you have never met..... one persons meet is another persons poison....... and there are not many situations where you would implicitly trust strangers....
basically what i am saying that verification shouldn't be substituted for your own gut feeling and due diligence, and I think that is what a lot of people do......."
i agree i dont even bother asking people for verifications any more, i don't take too much notice of them personally. |
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over a year ago
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Understand what the OP means, spending some time with the person or couple is a better way of guaging what they are all about.
It is a more personal and friendlier experience too. |
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me."
No. I don't agree with you.
Seeing someone on cam means that you can say it's a person of the age and gender they state in their profile.
Speaking to them on the phone gives a similar idea on age and gender but also a hell of a lot about character.
Just because you didn't see them in the flesh doesn't mean they don't exist.
How can anyone get verified if 'by meet' is the only way? |
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you could take a couple of counter arguments here.....
1) all that verification is suppose to be is that there were who they said they were and they turned up.... nothing more,
2) that because bad verifications will never been shown, that the whole process in itself could and probably should be taken with a huge pinch of salt......
3) why would you trust the judgement of someone else who you have never met..... one persons meet is another persons poison....... and there are not many situations where you would implicitly trust strangers....
basically what i am saying that verification shouldn't be substituted for your own gut feeling and due diligence, and I think that is what a lot of people do......."
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me."
I think verifications are a bit of a minefield.
We dont pay much attention to cam or phone ones, cam sessions can be faked, and although phone verifs can prove if you are actually looking at a "real" profile in respect of it being a female or couple, it still doesnt mean they will turn up.
We prefer to see actual "meet" verifs, although these too can be misleading. We have seen one or two profiles where they have a few verifs from social meets, drinkies etc, but none from actual "playing".
Thats not to say they arent genuine, maybe they havent met anyone they wanted to play with, but at least if you do see one from someone they have played with, then you can feel more confident that they arent one of the profiles that seem to have become more prevalent recently, those of the "faux" swingers, the ones that like the idea of being "in the scene", but only ever attend socials etc and never play. |
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me."
I think we all have different _iews on this and mine is much the same as yours i wont verify on purely a phone chat or cam.
Im sure everyone feels different ref this and we all have our own criteria.
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over a year ago
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I don't pay any attention to cam or phone veris, I don't cam but have chatted to guys on the phone who have then failed to turn up to a meet, so the only ones that I take note in are the meet in person, not really interested in the content of the veri but the actual fact that they do turn up, although I have also arranged meets with these and they have still either cancelled or been a no show |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we wont entertain profiles without veri's.only veri's by meets
if a "couple" has been on a swinging site for 6 months with no veri's i would bet they are a single bloke or a part of a couple with a fantasy of swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No. I don't agree with you.
Seeing someone on cam means that you can say it's a person of the age and gender they state in their profile.
Speaking to them on the phone gives a similar idea on age and gender but also a hell of a lot about character.
Just because you didn't see them in the flesh doesn't mean they don't exist.
How can anyone get verified if 'by meet' is the only way? "
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me."
Its simply to prove you are real and not a somebody with a fake profile, although some like to use there verifications as reassurance of just what a good shag they are. |
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"a verification is to show you are real/genuine so cam or phone is good for that
most people who take stock in veri's do put more stock in real meet ones but as most single men have found out you cant get verified without meeting and you cant meet without being verified lol
there are some that pay no attention to verifications at al though so just use them how you like to use them"
If i'm honest I've had this problem. other than going to a club to meet people i'm a little unsure how I can get around it!
Patience I suppose!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not with that green circle with the tick symbol inside it "
you've been pic verified, should you have a meet verification then? check on the account page,manage veris |
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I have verified a couple of guys on cam purely so they can get started .
I was verified by a lady who _iewed my cam and had a conversation
the lads had been taking part in forums so I felt that was ok. They were pleasant and i said just that. they have to start somewhere I spose.
I was told someone verified me yesterday but no sign of it.. do they take time to come through ? |
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me.
you could take a couple of counter arguments here.....
1) all that verification is suppose to be is that there were who they said they were and they turned up.... nothing more,
2) that because bad verifications will never been shown, that the whole process in itself could and probably should be taken with a huge pinch of salt......
3) why would you trust the judgement of someone else who you have never met..... one persons meet is another persons poison....... and there are not many situations where you would implicitly trust strangers....
basically what i am saying that verification shouldn't be substituted for your own gut feeling and due diligence, and I think that is what a lot of people do......."
have to agree...the only attention we ever pay to veris is when looking for bi men, if they say he sucks cock like an expert it does help  |
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]Hi, hope you don't think I'm being a pain in the bum?!! But when people get verified do you think it's right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? A proper verification is when you have met in person don't you think? I'd love to know what you think about it  |
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me."
Yep, we only verify and display verifications from 'real' meets
In regards to people who are only verified by phone or cam we don't even bother with them as experience shows these people are far more likely to let you down, a lot just like the idea etc and when it comes down to meeting bottle it! |
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In regards to people who are only verified by phone or cam we don't even bother with them as experience shows these people are far more likely to let you down, a lot just like the idea etc and when it comes down to meeting bottle it!"
Dont try and talk for all of those who dont have the balls to meet.
I've seen plenty of profiles with verifications that are a load of BS.
They think because they're in the minority, the pick and choose group should i say, they think the world owes THEM the time of day.
Sorry to burst your bubble but you can miss out on something good by being ignorant. Doesn't make me cry at the end of the day. |
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"Hi, hope you Don't think I'm being a pain in the bum? but when people get verified do you think its right if they have only cammed or chat on the phone? a proper verification is when you have met in person Don't you think? hope you agree with me.
you could take a couple of counter arguments here.....
1) all that verification is suppose to be is that there were who they said they were and they turned up.... nothing more,
2) that because bad verifications will never been shown, that the whole process in itself could and probably should be taken with a huge pinch of salt......
3) why would you trust the judgement of someone else who you have never met..... one persons meet is another persons poison....... and there are not many situations where you would implicitly trust strangers....
basically what i am saying that verification shouldn't be substituted for your own gut feeling and due diligence, and I think that is what a lot of people do.......
i agree i dont even bother asking people for verifications any more, i don't take too much notice of them personally."
i don't either..its too much info and i prefer to come to a meet 'fresh', i'm not trying to repeat someone elses experience |
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"Why do people bottle it? Just don't get why arrange to meet then wimp out at last minute"
I'm not sure if i've had that exactly, i've had a meet cancelled twice with the same couple, but they gave a reasons...anothers been quite silent..and thats what i find hard, being left hanging
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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we no longer take verifications to seriously.
we have arranged meets,a couple of times.where according to the veri's,we were meeting brad and angelina.
where as in reality,we met stan and hilda,curlers included.  |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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Yep, we only verify and display verifications from 'real' meets
In regards to people who are only verified by phone or cam we don't even bother with them as experience shows these people are far more likely to let you down, a lot just like the idea etc and when it comes down to meeting bottle it!"
Why say that?
People have to start somewhere.
I was only verified by cam and phone, bit have had a meet from here. I am fussy who I meet and do tend to go on cam rater than meet as I like to know who I chat to. Maybe cos Im avirgin swinger. But someone who verifies someomne as being an amzing shag always leaves room for those verifications saying they are a shit shag. One's personal opinion isnt the next persons bounty so to speak! |
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just like alot hide their friends list also 