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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So! I have a fuck buddy, he is good, so good ... however 2 things... he never takes his boxers off and he refuses to kiss.. now 9 times out of 10 I can deal with this but sometimes I just NEED that passionate kissing sesh to get me in the mood! How do I approach it without coming across as needy? And whhhhyyy whhhhhhy won’t he take off his boxers?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So! I have a fuck buddy, he is good, so good ... however 2 things... he never takes his boxers off and he refuses to kiss.. now 9 times out of 10 I can deal with this but sometimes I just NEED that passionate kissing sesh to get me in the mood! How do I approach it without coming across as needy? And whhhhyyy whhhhhhy won’t he take off his boxers? "
I hate to think why he wouldn't take his boxers off |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"He keeps his boxers on all the time? 
Have you tried taking them off him yourself? I normally provide a helping hand.
And what does he do if you try to kiss him? "
Yes loads and I just get pulled away... any time I mention it he just closes up... so I feel like I’m being too pushy if I go on about it.
Kissing he turns his face... he will kiss everywhere but my lips |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......
Just a thought.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"
Do you feel used? |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"He keeps his boxers on all the time?
Have you tried taking them off him yourself? I normally provide a helping hand.
And what does he do if you try to kiss him?
Yes loads and I just get pulled away... any time I mention it he just closes up... so I feel like I’m being too pushy if I go on about it.
Kissing he turns his face... he will kiss everywhere but my lips"
I'm sorry but I find this really strange and it would totally put me off. Try talking to him again. Is it something you can put up with long term? If not, tell him so. |
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"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"
this is a fuck buddy relationship why are you investing so much in it? |
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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......
Just a thought.
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That’s ridiculous. He obviously has Oedipus Complex, hence the lack of kissing - and he in fact has an M tattooed on each arse cheek |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"
Think you need to find a new fb who treats you better  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......
Just a thought.
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That’s ridiculous. He obviously has Oedipus Complex, hence the lack of kissing - and he in fact has an M tattooed on each arse cheek "
Ah.
Obviously he was laying on the tattooists bed the wrong way round.
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Im just wondering if he is classing you as a trophy.
The kissing I can understand to a degree, might think its commitment to you only so wont kiss.
boxer shorts left on, nah they would be on or off in flash.
your more than welcome to take them off as leave them on for that quickie in the alley way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......
Just a thought.
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That’s ridiculous. He obviously has Oedipus Complex, hence the lack of kissing - and he in fact has an M tattooed on each arse cheek "
I thought that too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......
Just a thought.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"
Honestly, ask him outright and to be honest
You need to know where you stand and, if not discussed already, the boundaries for you both
Do you think he may use it as a defence to stop you two getting too close? If that is the case and you are getting hurt from him doing that then you can discuss an alternative way to keep an emotional distance
Unfortunately the only person who can give you the answers you need is him
From someone who was in a FB relationship for a year I learnt honesty and communication is the only way it will work
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would find that weird and would need to get to the bottom of the boxer business pretty quick.
Kissing, could be guilt, not wanting to feel too many emotions, herpes? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included
Honestly, ask him outright and to be honest
You need to know where you stand and, if not discussed already, the boundaries for you both
Do you think he may use it as a defence to stop you two getting too close? If that is the case and you are getting hurt from him doing that then you can discuss an alternative way to keep an emotional distance
Unfortunately the only person who can give you the answers you need is him
From someone who was in a FB relationship for a year I learnt honesty and communication is the only way it will work
F"
I do think it has something to do with not getting feelings etc, I’m going to chat with him, it’s just making me feel awkward, but I have to do it!
Thankyou |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included
Honestly, ask him outright and to be honest
You need to know where you stand and, if not discussed already, the boundaries for you both
Do you think he may use it as a defence to stop you two getting too close? If that is the case and you are getting hurt from him doing that then you can discuss an alternative way to keep an emotional distance
Unfortunately the only person who can give you the answers you need is him
From someone who was in a FB relationship for a year I learnt honesty and communication is the only way it will work
F
I do think it has something to do with not getting feelings etc, I’m going to chat with him, it’s just making me feel awkward, but I have to do it!
Thankyou "
Hope it works out for you
It's a hard job having a long term FB and keeping things going smoothly, but at the end of the day it is still a relationship that involves feelings on both sides even if you aren't together
Fingers crossed you get the answers you need
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will add he’s not married, I’ve known him for 10 years, this is just new this year to us (since March) "
Self confidencè issues maybe. Hope you get it sorted x |
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