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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!?"
You were a back up plan.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I've had this, only I stopped the initial contact due to something they said, and no I did not let them back into my life! The sex might have been good, but nothing said to deliberately hurt me will ever be over looked, no matter how pissed or sorry he was, two years later he does still try, but it will always be a no!
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"It’s a head fuck thing.
Ignore them, cut out all the dramarama and close the thread! 
Jobs a good ‘un!   "
because thats what some people do men and women. leave you dangling on a piece of string Think its got a name now gaslighting or breadcrumbing or something |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!? You were a back up plan."
This sounds awful but he’s right sadly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!? You were a back up plan.
This sounds awful but he’s right sadly. "
Had his little red book out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!? You were a back up plan.
This sounds awful but he’s right sadly. Had his little red book out."
Had it happen to me in the past and it’s not nice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!?"
why say yes
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it. "
would this happen to be the friend of yours who said a right load of shit to said guy last christmas? If so he might be getting his own back
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it. would this happen to be the friend of yours who said a right load of shit to said guy last christmas? If so he might be getting his own back"
I dunno, I speak to the other one I met after this one and he is saying that he’s not a well mannered person.
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it. would this happen to be the friend of yours who said a right load of shit to said guy last christmas? If so he might be getting his own back
I dunno, I speak to the other one I met after this one and he is saying that he’s not a well mannered person.
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i cant keep up with them Just block him dont give him the upper hand |
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God knows,bit like the guy I dated for a few months last year who got in contact recently just to say have a good xmas and just to say someone is thinking about you.
I mean it was lovely,but why message just to say that. |
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it. "
Some people are like that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"God knows,bit like the guy I dated for a few months last year who got in contact recently just to say have a good xmas and just to say someone is thinking about you.
I mean it was lovely,but why message just to say that."
That’s not too bad actually. That’s him testing the waters I’d say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it. "
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"God knows,bit like the guy I dated for a few months last year who got in contact recently just to say have a good xmas and just to say someone is thinking about you.
I mean it was lovely,but why message just to say that."
Was this the one with the jumper. He might want it back now its gone cold.  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so damage control, I don’t like feeling like I’m in someone’s pocket. "
Just tell him to fuck off then, it really is that simple ... And block him as well if you don't want to hear from him again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on "
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. |
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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!?"
They want you to say yes as its the chase not the actual meeting that thrills them. Sadly it happens with some people. |
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!?"
His names not Lee by any chance ?? |
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. "
your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. "
He just sees you as an easy bang |
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I had my first boyfriend pop up, I kid you not, ten years later to "see how I was". He was a prize prick and seeing his name pop up turned my blood to ice.
"I'm gonna wash that man right outta my hair, and send him on his way..." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas"
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My old fuck buddy does this. Fucked for a year then ghosted me. He came back once and I stupidly let him, fucked for a few more months then had a chat and that was that.
Fuck he’s sexy and such a good fuck but nah. If he tried it again I’d ignore. No point. I’m not an easy fuck (despite what he thinks  ) |
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"God knows,bit like the guy I dated for a few months last year who got in contact recently just to say have a good xmas and just to say someone is thinking about you.
I mean it was lovely,but why message just to say that.
That’s not too bad actually. That’s him testing the waters I’d say. "
That's what I initially thought,but then he just kinda cut me off. |
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I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. "
Don't beat yourself up about it, it happens to the best of us. Some people just have something about them that makes you forget the shite they put you through last time, until they inevitably repeat their behaviour. |
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"God knows,bit like the guy I dated for a few months last year who got in contact recently just to say have a good xmas and just to say someone is thinking about you.
I mean it was lovely,but why message just to say that.
Was this the one with the jumper. He might want it back now its gone cold. xx"
Funny yes it was actually,but it was a tshirt and not a jumper. So by rights he should have messaged in the summer,I only knew it was him from his Whatsapp photo as I don't even have his number anymore x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"God knows,bit like the guy I dated for a few months last year who got in contact recently just to say have a good xmas and just to say someone is thinking about you.
I mean it was lovely,but why message just to say that.
That’s not too bad actually. That’s him testing the waters I’d say.
That's what I initially thought,but then he just kinda cut me off."
Ahh well that’s fucking pointless as well and probably looking for an ego boost.
I still have a guy who I met 7 years ago contact me every now and again. I always say no, and he always tries a couple of months later.
Like I’ve not been with anyone else since this guy, he was the last person I slept with. Should I just go and fuck someone else, no because I don’t want a hook up and that’s all this guy is offering anyway so why am I bothered. It’s weird. Like rationally all I’d get is a fuck off this guy which I could have with literally 1000’s of willing guys.
I’m an immensely fussy person yet an easy lay to this guy. It doesn’t make sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. "
You come across like you are generally. I’m shocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Knew I shouldn’t have come back, then he’d never have found me to message me. "
don't let him get you down not worth it try to move on and enjoy your self x
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Eh...I wouldn’t get your knickers in a twist about it. I have partners that I’ll sleep with, then won’t speak with for months. Then one of us will message the other out of the blue...sometimes it will turn into a meet, sometimes it won’t - life gets in the way for me or them.
Easy cum, easy go. Some of us live our life like that, others don’t. Not worth worrying your head over. He certainly won’t be worrying his. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Knew I shouldn’t have come back, then he’d never have found me to message me.
Are you going to block him on here or does he have your number anyway?"
Yeah he has my number but I’m still blocked from last time so he wouldn’t message me outside of here.
Should I block him or just let this fade, I’m due on so that doesn’t help and I got nail vanish on my sofa cushion so I was already pissed off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him. "
Take it as a confidence boost for you. Think - he was feeling crap so he used you to boost his ego. Because you're hot and very fussy. He didn't just ask old Doris down the chippy.
Damage control- don't tell him to fuck off. Don't fuck him either though! If he asks again say yeah you'll meet him but you're busy...... Never actually arrange anything. Keep him hanging like he left you hanging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is someone I used to know who had me down as a back up. They had worked out I had a soft spot for them and exploited it whenever they needed contact. Used to properly do my head in because I very much wanted them.
In the end, when I was a stand in for their husband after an argument, I deleted all contact information and ignore their attempts to message.
Good sex with toxic people is not worth the effort. |
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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago
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"God knows,bit like the guy I dated for a few months last year who got in contact recently just to say have a good xmas and just to say someone is thinking about you.
I mean it was lovely,but why message just to say that.
That’s not too bad actually. That’s him testing the waters I’d say.
That's what I initially thought,but then he just kinda cut me off."
Maybe he doesn't want to give you the feeling that he's pestering you. Probably waiting for you to get back to him. |
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"Knew I shouldn’t have come back, then he’d never have found me to message me. "
But realistically, isn't that why you keep coming back? You want them to message you... |
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"Knew I shouldn’t have come back, then he’d never have found me to message me.
Are you going to block him on here or does he have your number anyway?
Yeah he has my number but I’m still blocked from last time so he wouldn’t message me outside of here.
Should I block him or just let this fade, I’m due on so that doesn’t help and I got nail vanish on my sofa cushion so I was already pissed off. "
Give it a couple of day's and see how you feel,you do need to take some control back though for your own sanity. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyway how did your xmas do go?"
Oh god. Adore we even started the meal one of the boys who had been off on the sick came and had a puff on the pipe outside with me and told me he’d started seeing someone.
I said to him you’re seeing someone are you, he said yeah but it’s early days, I said you know I’ve fancied you for ages. He said he had no idea, why isn’t I tell him sooner blah blah. Spent the whole night up my arse (not literally) but following me around, holding my hand, hugging me. Then there was the message he sent saying wish you were in my bed, then it was the message the next day saying it was his brother who sent the message (think he was backtracking cos he was pisses). Only seen him once in work cos he had to take all his holidays cos he couldn’t carry them over. Won’t see him till new year but fuck him. It’s done now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Knew I shouldn’t have come back, then he’d never have found me to message me.
But realistically, isn't that why you keep coming back? You want them to message you... "
Yeah them not him. No way in this world did I ever imagine hearing from him again. He had deleted his account back in January when we last saw each other. His is a new account as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him. "
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Knew I shouldn’t have come back, then he’d never have found me to message me.
But realistically, isn't that why you keep coming back? You want them to message you...
Yeah them not him. No way in this world did I ever imagine hearing from him again. He had deleted his account back in January when we last saw each other. His is a new account as well. "
forget about him dont let him get to you that what he wants if he pops up again block and delete don't give him the your time not worth it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!?"
Boosting their ego. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other...."
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There probably married so trying to juggle "
Most likely, but ffs get a life lady, there's so may good lookin guys out there no matter how fussy you are equally as charming and without the baggage |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester. "
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"Anyway how did your xmas do go?
Oh god. Adore we even started the meal one of the boys who had been off on the sick came and had a puff on the pipe outside with me and told me he’d started seeing someone.
I said to him you’re seeing someone are you, he said yeah but it’s early days, I said you know I’ve fancied you for ages. He said he had no idea, why isn’t I tell him sooner blah blah. Spent the whole night up my arse (not literally) but following me around, holding my hand, hugging me. Then there was the message he sent saying wish you were in my bed, then it was the message the next day saying it was his brother who sent the message (think he was backtracking cos he was pisses). Only seen him once in work cos he had to take all his holidays cos he couldn’t carry them over. Won’t see him till new year but fuck him. It’s done now. "
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester. "
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester.
Trust me he will definitely lower his standards for you..."
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"There probably married so trying to juggle
Most likely, but ffs get a life lady, there's so may good lookin guys out there no matter how fussy you are equally as charming and without the baggage "
He’s not married I know that for a fact. If he was married this would be easier to take.
And no there’s not sooo many good looking guys out there, this one had nice face bones and perfect eyebrows and lovely teeth and bright blue eyes and a nice willy and a nice accent and was a bit of a mad cunt.
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester.
Trust me he will definitely lower his standards for you... your talking about your self lol "
No way , I have no chance... the Op is Fab royalty....
I’m just a mere peasant from one of the colonies.... |
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Who knows - the important psychology is your own. You know yourself and don't have to second guess somebody else's psychology. Why would you agree to break the separation? What are the right decisions for you?
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester.
Trust me he will definitely lower his standards for you... your talking about your self lol
No way , I have no chance... the Op is Fab royalty....
I’m just a mere peasant from one of the colonies...."
Well I am the most fabbed member of the month so far, just saying |
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"Who knows - the important psychology is your own. You know yourself and don't have to second guess somebody else's psychology. Why would you agree to break the separation? What are the right decisions for you?
Don't waste energy on thinking about someone who belongs in your past. Just stay moving towards your future. "
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester.
Trust me he will definitely lower his standards for you... your talking about your self lol
No way , I have no chance... the Op is Fab royalty....
I’m just a mere peasant from one of the colonies....
Well I am the most fabbed member of the month so far, just saying "
It’s nice to read a post from a confident single woman.....
I still have no damn clue what you’re doing here...
You can pull in the real world.....
You definitely don’t need clubs or socials for sex.... |
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester.
Trust me he will definitely lower his standards for you... your talking about your self lol
No way , I have no chance... the Op is Fab royalty....
I’m just a mere peasant from one of the colonies....
Well I am the most fabbed member of the month so far, just saying
It’s nice to read a post from a confident single woman.....
I still have no damn clue what you’re doing here...
You can pull in the real world.....
You definitely don’t need clubs or socials for sex...."
I know but I don’t go out anywhere. All my friends are coupled up. Last time I tried the real world I ended up fancying a guy that I work with and that would have been all kinds of awkward.
Need to get some younger single female friends. |
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This has been a very interesting read, and some great points have been made, i guess the lesson here, is that we are all capable of being used, and we all have the power within oursleves to stop that from happening, positive energy to all, and hope it works out x |
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Don't make me come dropkick ya.
Fuck sake woman, I'm getting to the point I'll come plough ya myself to put an end to the drought, you ain't rimming me though mate no matter how much you may want to.
He probably thinks he's left no lasting effects on you, coz he's just a bit of a dick who enjoys getting his winky wet. Maybe he thinks you've been having a whale of a time while he's been gone.
Both of these things are wrong, and we know you need more of a connection than a wet winky for things to be what you need them to be.
Believe in yourself, I believe in ya. X
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it.
Did you quite like them then?
Just block and move on
Yeah that’s why he said he thinks it’s best we don’t meet again. Said back then he could’ve give me what I wanted. That was fine, I squared that away. Accepted I would see or hear from him again then he asks to meet again but leave emotions at the door.
I was chilled as fuck, all my Xmas shopping was done, all my wrapping, got all my Xmas sweets and all that bollocks. Now I’m thinking about him again.
Wish I was that phantom guy off defenders of the earth, I call upon the strength of 10 tigers.
I’m fucking weak willed and I hate that about myself, fuck now I want to eat carbs. your a lovely looking woman and could have a choice of men but you got to toughen up a bit. I doubt anyone else on this thread would have said yes to him. Block him. Go eat some carbs then tomorrow forget about him and carry on with your christmas
I am aren’t I and sometimes I think that’s the problem. Like I’m not trying to be arrogant but I am quite fit and attractive. Like if someone’s feeling shit in themselves and want an ego boost, knowing some smoking hot (his words) bird wants to meet you could give a confidence boost.
I do need to toughen up and now I’m feeling less like I want to drain his balls and more like I want to knee cap him.
You need s trip to London to meet someone from Hither Green ...
I’m no matchmaker but you guys seem perfect for each other....
I’m too poor for him and like to eat at harvester.
Trust me he will definitely lower his standards for you... your talking about your self lol
No way , I have no chance... the Op is Fab royalty....
I’m just a mere peasant from one of the colonies....
Well I am the most fabbed member of the month so far, just saying
It’s nice to read a post from a confident single woman.....
I still have no damn clue what you’re doing here...
You can pull in the real world.....
You definitely don’t need clubs or socials for sex...."
Strange thing to say,so everyone including yourself is on here because they can't pull in the so called real world? |
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"Anyway how did your xmas do go?
Oh god. Adore we even started the meal one of the boys who had been off on the sick came and had a puff on the pipe outside with me and told me he’d started seeing someone.
I said to him you’re seeing someone are you, he said yeah but it’s early days, I said you know I’ve fancied you for ages. He said he had no idea, why isn’t I tell him sooner blah blah. Spent the whole night up my arse (not literally) but following me around, holding my hand, hugging me. Then there was the message he sent saying wish you were in my bed, then it was the message the next day saying it was his brother who sent the message (think he was backtracking cos he was pisses). Only seen him once in work cos he had to take all his holidays cos he couldn’t carry them over. Won’t see him till new year but fuck him. It’s done now. "
Bugger,he sounds a bit wimpy backtracking on his text. You need a man not a boy don't you. At least you know not to invest any more of your thoughts on him. |
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"Eh...I wouldn’t get your knickers in a twist about it. I have partners that I’ll sleep with, then won’t speak with for months. Then one of us will message the other out of the blue...sometimes it will turn into a meet, sometimes it won’t - life gets in the way for me or them.
Easy cum, easy go. Some of us live our life like that, others don’t. Not worth worrying your head over. He certainly won’t be worrying his. "
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"It’s a bit unkind though isn’t it? I was minding my own fucking business like, accepted months and months ago that I’d never see nor hear from that person and then they dangle the carrot and not let you nibble it. "
Welcome back OP |
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"But if you didn’t want to meet that person why contact them in the first place, just to know they would, what’s the point in that?"
Mind games.
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It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
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Definitely not worthless! |
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
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your not worthless but just read back your last post and what would you say to someone else
Why did you send him 3 messahes and not.just leave it after one. Whatever you do dont throw one of your crazies on him again otherwise he will think he has some control over you. You need to just block him |
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
"
If he's affecting you to this agree then block him,if thing's were going to work out with the two of you it would have done by now do you think. Send him one last message telling him how he makes you feel,but enough is enough then block his sorry arse. |
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"Sounds like he sent a message to see if you’d reply and boost his ego. Did he re-contact you on FAB?"
Yeah on here, I don’t get this boosted ego just from me saying I’d meet him again.
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
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Just turn the tables on it. He's the one contacting you, so the one who can't forget and move on. You already did. X |
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"Sounds like he sent a message to see if you’d reply and boost his ego. Did he re-contact you on FAB?
Yeah on here, I don’t get this boosted ego just from me saying I’d meet him again.
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Point scoring, keeping a tally! |
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"Sounds like he sent a message to see if you’d reply and boost his ego. Did he re-contact you on FAB?
Yeah on here, I don’t get this boosted ego just from me saying I’d meet him again.
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Because you’re a hottie and he wants to have the satisfaction of knowing he can have you if he wants you. Stupid mind set I’m well aware, but it appears that’s the mentality he has. |
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
If he's affecting you to this agree then block him,if thing's were going to work out with the two of you it would have done by now do you think. Send him one last message telling him how he makes you feel,but enough is enough then block his sorry arse."
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"Sounds like he sent a message to see if you’d reply and boost his ego. Did he re-contact you on FAB?
Yeah on here, I don’t get this boosted ego just from me saying I’d meet him again.
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Don't you,really!?
One of the most popular and attractive women on the forums says she'll meet him again. Even sends three messages (which he ignores) to his one and you can't see why that would boost his ego.
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"But if you didn’t want to meet that person why contact them in the first place, just to know they would, what’s the point in that?"
He's taking the piss...
Block
Its ego!
Its attention seeking!
He has no intention of meeting!
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
If he's affecting you to this agree then block him,if thing's were going to work out with the two of you it would have done by now do you think. Send him one last message telling him how he makes you feel,but enough is enough then block his sorry arse.
Hell no. He already thinks I’m a psycho. "
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
If he's affecting you to this agree then block him,if thing's were going to work out with the two of you it would have done by now do you think. Send him one last message telling him how he makes you feel,but enough is enough then block his sorry arse.
Hell no. He already thinks I’m a psycho.
Do you think you sending him three messages to his one made him have a rethink and remember what you can be like?"
It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks. |
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It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks. "
Maybe you just need a break from the site. Reset your mindset.
Also in my experience 'dating at work' has one response from me... Don't shit where you sleep! |
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Only just come back from a break. The site is fine it’s just people doing stupid things.
I’m writing a book so all of this shit goes in that, that’s why I’m interested in the psychology behind what makes guys do these certain things. |
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
If he's affecting you to this agree then block him,if thing's were going to work out with the two of you it would have done by now do you think. Send him one last message telling him how he makes you feel,but enough is enough then block his sorry arse.
Hell no. He already thinks I’m a psycho.
Do you think you sending him three messages to his one made him have a rethink and remember what you can be like?
It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks. "
Oh right,yeah sod him right off if he's not bothered replying. If he wanted to see you that bad he would have replied.
Is the work guy still seeing someone though? If not go for that drink where you can both chat properly and get to know each other,without jumping into bed!
Yep men are bloody hard work at time's aren't they. I would love someone who just concentrates on me and puts me first,I know lots of guy's but nothing is permanent it gets a bit tiresome. |
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It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks.
Maybe you just need a break from the site. Reset your mindset.
Also in my experience 'dating at work' has one response from me... Don't shit where you sleep! "
Hmm pretty sure she doesn't sleep at work. |
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It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks.
Maybe you just need a break from the site. Reset your mindset.
Also in my experience 'dating at work' has one response from me... Don't shit where you sleep!
Hmm pretty sure she doesn't sleep at work. "
Ha sometimes I do on the desk!
I don’t know if guy in work is seeing anyone, I don’t even care. I’m better off when I’m not speaking to anyone or messaging anyone. I was quite chilled this year, all the court stuff from the last 3 years has been put to bed and it all went my way.
I’ve been volunteering as a Mackenzie friend and helping other women in my situation who had no legal aid and have to represent themselves.
Even the judge said as a litigant in person he’d never come across someone that did such a good job and that I should have done law and been a barrister!
I just feel like I’m on a crusade where I want to help people, whether it’s advice or going with these women to court cos it can be scary on your own.
Plus my kindle sales are up, I can now sell my short stories for 25p instead of free! Doesn’t sound much but I’m building a fan base! |
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"It’s just the rudeness of it. Like he disturbed me, he contacted me then when I said yes reads and ignores 3 messages. That’s just rude.
If me contacting him was bothering him he’d block and delete my messages, doesn’t want to tell me no just in case he wants to use me at a later date so it’s easier just to say nothing and ignore.
Jesus I make myself sound worthless for tolerating this.
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You're definitely not worthless,I think at some point we've all had that one person that we've allowed to take the piss slightly. I'm going through this at the moment (It's shit) but reading this thread has helped no end.
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It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks.
Maybe you just need a break from the site. Reset your mindset.
Also in my experience 'dating at work' has one response from me... Don't shit where you sleep!
Hmm pretty sure she doesn't sleep at work.
Ha sometimes I do on the desk!
I don’t know if guy in work is seeing anyone, I don’t even care. I’m better off when I’m not speaking to anyone or messaging anyone. I was quite chilled this year, all the court stuff from the last 3 years has been put to bed and it all went my way.
I’ve been volunteering as a Mackenzie friend and helping other women in my situation who had no legal aid and have to represent themselves.
Even the judge said as a litigant in person he’d never come across someone that did such a good job and that I should have done law and been a barrister!
I just feel like I’m on a crusade where I want to help people, whether it’s advice or going with these women to court cos it can be scary on your own.
Plus my kindle sales are up, I can now sell my short stories for 25p instead of free! Doesn’t sound much but I’m building a fan base! "
It sounds like you have it going on,that's a great thing to do helping other women if they don't have any other support.
So do you think you will meet work guy? |
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It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks.
Maybe you just need a break from the site. Reset your mindset.
Also in my experience 'dating at work' has one response from me... Don't shit where you sleep!
Hmm pretty sure she doesn't sleep at work.
Ha sometimes I do on the desk!
I don’t know if guy in work is seeing anyone, I don’t even care. I’m better off when I’m not speaking to anyone or messaging anyone. I was quite chilled this year, all the court stuff from the last 3 years has been put to bed and it all went my way.
I’ve been volunteering as a Mackenzie friend and helping other women in my situation who had no legal aid and have to represent themselves.
Even the judge said as a litigant in person he’d never come across someone that did such a good job and that I should have done law and been a barrister!
I just feel like I’m on a crusade where I want to help people, whether it’s advice or going with these women to court cos it can be scary on your own.
Plus my kindle sales are up, I can now sell my short stories for 25p instead of free! Doesn’t sound much but I’m building a fan base!
It sounds like you have it going on,that's a great thing to do helping other women if they don't have any other support.
So do you think you will meet work guy?"
No, I’ll just say I’m busy now leading up to Xmas. Need to get back in my Xmas buzz and that doesn’t involve any men at all. |
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I'd tease the cunt then block , tell him g u are fucking a uni student that likes the idea of a,guy joining in then elaborate on the dangle until unceremoniously deafening the cunt in silence |
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"I'd tease the cunt then block , tell him g u are fucking a uni student that likes the idea of a,guy joining in then elaborate on the dangle until unceremoniously deafening the cunt in silence"
I’m not about mind games and bull shit. I just want to know the psychology behind these things that guys do so I can help other people understand it.
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"I'd tease the cunt then block , tell him g u are fucking a uni student that likes the idea of a,guy joining in then elaborate on the dangle until unceremoniously deafening the cunt in silence
I’m not about mind games and bull shit. I just want to know the psychology behind these things that guys do so I can help other people understand it.
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I think to understand other people's mind games you need to recognise the part you play in enabling the game. |
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"I'd tease the cunt then block , tell him g u are fucking a uni student that likes the idea of a,guy joining in then elaborate on the dangle until unceremoniously deafening the cunt in silence
I’m not about mind games and bull shit. I just want to know the psychology behind these things that guys do so I can help other people understand it.
I think to understand other people's mind games you need to recognise the part you play in enabling the game."
Yeah totally, like by saying the things I do, people will know what not to do!
I make all the wrong choices.
I still think it’s not cool to mess with people’s heads though. |
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"I'd tease the cunt then block , tell him g u are fucking a uni student that likes the idea of a,guy joining in then elaborate on the dangle until unceremoniously deafening the cunt in silence
I’m not about mind games and bull shit. I just want to know the psychology behind these things that guys do so I can help other people understand it.
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Don't bother no body really cares |
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"I'd tease the cunt then block , tell him g u are fucking a uni student that likes the idea of a,guy joining in then elaborate on the dangle until unceremoniously deafening the cunt in silence
I’m not about mind games and bull shit. I just want to know the psychology behind these things that guys do so I can help other people understand it.
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Laudible sentiment op but it's not a new thing that some of both genders do and those that do so are highly likely to not spill the beans on why I would guess..
Fore warned etc yes but there will always be those who seek to manipulate if they have the opportunity..
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"I'd tease the cunt then block , tell him g u are fucking a uni student that likes the idea of a,guy joining in then elaborate on the dangle until unceremoniously deafening the cunt in silence
I’m not about mind games and bull shit. I just want to know the psychology behind these things that guys do so I can help other people understand it.
I think to understand other people's mind games you need to recognise the part you play in enabling the game.
Yeah totally, like by saying the things I do, people will know what not to do!
I make all the wrong choices.
I still think it’s not cool to mess with people’s heads though. "
I don't think it's cool either bury f I recognise that someone is trying to mess with my head i turn my back on them. |
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"Dont send any more messages
BlOCK HIM
And lets hope he doesnt read fourms or his ego will go through the roof ."
I won’t and he doesn’t read the forums or even know about them. |
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"It’s a control thing, he wants to know that you still want him. Nice to see you back btw x"
Something I’ll never understand. Like he was the one who originally said not to meet again, I wanted to so he should know that I wanted him.
If you have no interest in a person why does it matter if they still like you or not? |
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"It’s a control thing, he wants to know that you still want him. Nice to see you back btw x
Something I’ll never understand. Like he was the one who originally said not to meet again, I wanted to so he should know that I wanted him.
If you have no interest in a person why does it matter if they still like you or not?"
Ego boost, they like to know that you’d still be interested |
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This person is a narcissist who is low on 'supply'.
A narcissist is so completely self-centred that they are entirely at the centre of their own universe & incapable of considering the needs, thoughts & emotions of another person. It is ALL about them. Everything.
You are a from of supply (attention).
The mind of a narcissist is so screwed up that it gives them great personal satisfaction to think that they have upset someone else or that someone else is thinking about them-even if you're not they will assume you are....because they are narcissistic.
Sam Varkin wrote a fab book about this. He is a narcissist himself.
Narcissists are invariable toxic to other people. The only thing you can do is steer clear. |
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No idea, I had a similar experience recently. I wonder if they send a message to a few people and see who, if anyone replies.
Block him and then he can’t contact you. |
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!?"
They are just seeing if you will reply and still fancy them. My ex used to play that game with me for years every time her current relationship wasn't going well
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"This person is a narcissist who is low on 'supply'.
A narcissist is so completely self-centred that they are entirely at the centre of their own universe & incapable of considering the needs, thoughts & emotions of another person. It is ALL about them. Everything.
You are a from of supply (attention).
The mind of a narcissist is so screwed up that it gives them great personal satisfaction to think that they have upset someone else or that someone else is thinking about them-even if you're not they will assume you are....because they are narcissistic.
Sam Varkin wrote a fab book about this. He is a narcissist himself.
Narcissists are invariable toxic to other people. The only thing you can do is steer clear. "
I really don't think it's fair to label someone a narcissist from this one example. |
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"Right say you met someone a year ago and it went tits up and they fucked off. Say you don’t contact them or hear from them for 11 months and then THEY contact you again asking to meet. Say you say yes to meeting and then they ignore you, what is the psychology behind that!?"
I’m not sure , but seems to me you were one of a few options, he was playing the field.
I think I’d block him |
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It wasn’t just one it was back and forth messaging on Friday where I said I didn’t know about meeting again, he said I’ll give you the weekend to mull it over, said when he’s free, I said alright to that, then Monday said I could meet tomorrow, read and nothing, then yesterday another one cos he’d been online. Nothing abusive.
To take back control is just to leave it I suppose and not contact him anymore and forget about him contacting me, I never expected to see him again anyway so makes no difference.
Also, side note, had a message off the guy I work with last night asking to go for a drink on the weekend. Fucking these guys are head fucks.
Maybe you just need a break from the site. Reset your mindset.
Also in my experience 'dating at work' has one response from me... Don't shit where you sleep!
Hmm pretty sure she doesn't sleep at work.
Ha sometimes I do on the desk!
I don’t know if guy in work is seeing anyone, I don’t even care. I’m better off when I’m not speaking to anyone or messaging anyone. I was quite chilled this year, all the court stuff from the last 3 years has been put to bed and it all went my way.
I’ve been volunteering as a Mackenzie friend and helping other women in my situation who had no legal aid and have to represent themselves.
Even the judge said as a litigant in person he’d never come across someone that did such a good job and that I should have done law and been a barrister!
I just feel like I’m on a crusade where I want to help people, whether it’s advice or going with these women to court cos it can be scary on your own.
Plus my kindle sales are up, I can now sell my short stories for 25p instead of free! Doesn’t sound much but I’m building a fan base! "
That's all brilliant news. |
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On the evidence provided the guy is a fanny without either the warmth or depth. Based on your profile it seems likely that you have plenty of alternative options. My advice would be don't bother wondering about the whys just forget the tube. Again. |
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"I've had this, only I stopped the initial contact due to something they said, and no I did not let them back into my life! The sex might have been good, but nothing said to deliberately hurt me will ever be over looked, no matter how pissed or sorry he was, two years later he does still try, but it will always be a no!
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Mmm we have someone that keeps trying to stay in touch..a not so single guy that spouted shit n lies..i never respond to him..he needs to move on,he changes his profile name so that he gets around the block... |
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