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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't know for sure it's him and if it is you don't know their personal life, maybe she knows and is happy he is on here? Quite often it's a case of shooting the messenger when people interfere.
Speaking to him might scare him into leaving if he is cheating but who's to say he won't just go elsewhere? He's still cheating, you just won't know for sure.
I really don't know what I'd do. It would depend on my friend and our relationship and theirs. Only you can judge really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you here under the same pretence? If so, you really don't want to rock the boat and find the waves crashing back at you..
Forget you ever seen, ignore and block. |
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Not your place to interfere. If he's cheating then I'm sure she'll have her suspicions and find out for sure when she wants to.
You don't know their situation. He may be here with permission. They might have a couples profile and she has a single one too.
Best just to block/avoid and move on 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"
you won't be thanked for it just block & move on x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As another person has said block him and steer clear.
If anything comes out it could ruin a happy family "
How do you know she doesn’t know he’s not on here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As another person has said block him and steer clear.
If anything comes out it could ruin a happy family
How do you know she doesn’t know he’s not on here? "
I do not and your right she may does not seem the type but then i never thought i would be |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you are correct i have blocked
thank you x
Correct outcome.
More importantly why are you searching for anyone between 18 and 99  "
Options open  |
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"Not a best friend no... But someone i would take time to say hello to if i bumped into them"
So someone you know as an acquaintance rather than a close friend..
Without knowing what goes on behind their closed doors, is it really your place to lay judgement and take the moral high ground..
Besides that, you are not 100% sure it is him..It may not be and you may wreck a perfectly happy marriage.
Just steer clear.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not a best friend no... But someone i would take time to say hello to if i bumped into them
So someone you know as an acquaintance rather than a close friend..
Without knowing what goes on behind their closed doors, is it really your place to lay judgement and take the moral high ground..
Besides that, you are not 100% sure it is him..It may not be and you may wreck a perfectly happy marriage.
Just steer clear.."
Your right i will just try and forget that i saw anything |
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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"
Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.
The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything. |
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"
What do you actually know about this situation? Unless you have in depth knowledge of their marriage block him and say nothing. It's none of your business. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!
Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.
The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything. "
Yes Kids yes they seem happy
The profile has met yes
I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you are correct i have blocked
thank you x
Correct outcome.
More importantly why are you searching for anyone between 18 and 99
Options open "
No pics, can't accommodate...does your husband know you're on here?  |
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!
Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.
The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.
Yes Kids yes they seem happy
The profile has met yes
I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.
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My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you are correct i have blocked
thank you x
Correct outcome.
More importantly why are you searching for anyone between 18 and 99
Options open
No pics, can't accommodate...does your
husband know you're on here?
;-)"
Not married very single kids at home
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!
Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.
The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.
Yes Kids yes they seem happy
The profile has met yes
I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.
My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing."
He may well have yes and i guess it was just a shock, but then again if had seen my profile even though i would not show face he would have been shocked |
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!
Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.
The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.
Yes Kids yes they seem happy
The profile has met yes
I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.
My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing.
He may well have yes and i guess it was just a shock, but then again if had seen my profile even though i would not show face he would have been shocked "
Its always a shock to see someone you know.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!
Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.
The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.
Yes Kids yes they seem happy
The profile has met yes
I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.
My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing.
He may well have yes and i guess it was just a shock, but then again if had seen my profile even though i would not show face he would have been shocked
Its always a shock to see someone you know. "
You are quiet correct well i am and makes me more reserved on here now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm going against the grain and saying tell her. Yes, it might ruin my friendship with her, but I'd rather that than it being ruined because I'd lied to her."
Couples tend to stay together and kill the messengers after bad news is delivered...
If you’re ok being the pariah.... go for it... |
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"I'm going against the grain and saying tell her. Yes, it might ruin my friendship with her, but I'd rather that than it being ruined because I'd lied to her.
Couples tend to stay together and kill the messengers after bad news is delivered...
If you’re ok being the pariah.... go for it..."
I'd have no issue with it. Hence why I said it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm going against the grain and saying tell her. Yes, it might ruin my friendship with her, but I'd rather that than it being ruined because I'd lied to her.
Couples tend to stay together and kill the messengers after bad news is delivered...
If you’re ok being the pariah.... go for it..."
no i dont want that at all |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"
Avoid |
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It would depend but generally the absolute best advice is to stay out of it, including blocking him. The only situation to consider is where there is substantial risk of imminent danger -it's still their lives and relationship though and we'll not know what is agreed etc |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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Stay away, you saw nothing.
You would be surprised how many people are on here without partners knowing (at least the ones that want to meet me are).
I have come across a couple people I recognise but I stay well away. |
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"Well I guess we are in same area so was bound to bump in to him.
I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.
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I'd like to talk to you more about this....pm me?
Like I said. I've been through it and still see the person in real-world |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I guess we are in same area so was bound to bump in to him.
I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.
I'd like to talk to you more about this....pm me?
Like I said. I've been through it and still see the person in real-world "
Cannot pm you as blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe discreetly let the person know u know what they are up to and ask if your friend knows ?! Really don’t know could backfire it’s messy and it really depends how close close your friend is as if it was you and you’re friend knew and didn’t tell you?! Really is a tough one, me personally I’d tell my friend |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s a difficult one
I have blocked the profile so I cannot see what he is doing and he also cannot see mine
I’m torn as in one hand I don’t want to ruin what seems to be a perfectly happy marriage
On the other hand I have been in her position where my friends new my ex was cheating on me and never told me
For the time being I am leaving alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a difficult one
I have blocked the profile so I cannot see what he is doing and he also cannot see mine
I’m torn as in one hand I don’t want to ruin what seems to be a perfectly happy marriage
On the other hand I have been in her position where my friends new my ex was cheating on me and never told me
For the time being I am leaving alone "
The friend may know! Also , sometimes it causes shit then they kiss makeup and you’re the bad guy and wouldn’t feel the same after xx
Silence I guess xx |
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"It’s a difficult one
I have blocked the profile so I cannot see what he is doing and he also cannot see mine
I’m torn as in one hand I don’t want to ruin what seems to be a perfectly happy marriage
On the other hand I have been in her position where my friends new my ex was cheating on me and never told me
For the time being I am leaving alone "
You wouldn't be the one ruining the marriage however I think you're wise to leave it alone. |
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"Well I guess we are in same area so was bound to bump in to him.
I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.
I'd like to talk to you more about this....pm me?
Like I said. I've been through it and still see the person in real-world
Cannot pm you as blocked "
Sorry the wall was up. Try now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen many folk on here I know. Dirty buggers
Their Facebook is all swoon and couple perfection  "
If they're like that on fb it usually ends in divorce soon after. Trying to hide the cracks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a dilemma !!
I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...
Do i approach him or do i tell her
They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"
Its really not your business. Also bear in mind:
1. He would have to be an idiot to put a face pic on a site like this if he was cheating. Why not join Ashley madison?
2. He may be doing it with his wife's knowledge.
3. It might be a fake profile with a stolen picture.
4. Even if he is cheating people will shoot the messenger in this situ.
Steer well clear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignore everyone on here and just do whatever you think the right thing is. It can be your business if you care about your friend, it doesnt have to be though, if you'd not risk the aggro. Your choice. |
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By *uilders mateMan
over a year ago
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It is his choice to be on here (as it is also yours), don’t interfere. You tell your mate and she may well assume you’re slept with him. Block him and forget it. My neighbour is on here. I just ignore thier attempts to meet me. And I didn’t know he was bi!!!! |
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If it was me id want you to tell me, the thought of me going about my life thinking my man loves me and is loyal to me makes me sick.
And if he was on here with my blessing i would say, thank you for looking out for me but its all good.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, it would depend on how close a friend they were. I would understand that it were none of my business, but if it were someone who was an extremely close friend, i would have to tell her. You have to do what's right by you OP. Only you know the answer to this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is his choice to be on here (as it is also yours), don’t interfere. You tell your mate and she may well assume you’re slept with him. Block him and forget it. My neighbour is on here. I just ignore thier attempts to meet me. And I didn’t know he was bi!!!!"
!!!!!!!!! omg he was bi??!!!!!  |
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