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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Go and enjoy the social aspect, don't worry about sex. Just go with the mind of being friendly and sociable, if anything else happens that that's a bonus.
I get that it's hard going on your own that first time, it can be daunting but many of us have done just that. Go and have fun |
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"Are women interested in single guys there x"
This question threw me off for a second, but you do realise it's a swingers club, people have the intention of having fun with people who they are attracted.
Go and experience the scene you may hate it or love it. Till you do that you'll be asking a million questions and getting know where further. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"hope they aren't as horrible to single guys like they are on here.  "
Some people are looking to meet guys, some aren't. Unless you go and chat with them you'll never know.
Single guys get a bad reputation because some behave badly. Treat people with respect, follow the rules and you'll be great |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, you don't have to wait.. Try advertising for a club meet?
I've met nice folk doing just that.. Its OK if the person you hoped to meet doesn't turn up, it happens.. As you're there.. Its a strange atmos at first, but if you dress sharp, be well groomed and smelling attractive... Trust me you'll be approached.. A certain look, the couple keep looking over..
It's just as exciting for everyone else.. My view?.. Enjoy the atmos, be yourself... You'll have a great time!  |
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"Op, you don't have to wait.. Try advertising for a club meet?
I've met nice folk doing just that.. Its OK if the person you hoped to meet doesn't turn up, it happens.. As you're there.. Its a strange atmos at first, but if you dress sharp, be well groomed and smelling attractive... Trust me you'll be approached.. A certain look, the couple keep looking over..
It's just as exciting for everyone else.. My view?.. Enjoy the atmos, be yourself... You'll have a great time! "
That's a great idea. Decide to go, advertise then see what happens.
I think I'll take your advice even if the op doesn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple that go too clubs regularly it always amazes me how people are scared or intimidated to go to the club's. It's quite literally the friendliest place of socialising of all types, vanilla included in that.
Everyone talks to everyone even if it's a polite no thank you.
Dress smart, be respectful and you will find it to be one very very friendly place.
We only play separately and I've done more threesomes than I can count so I prefer single guys nowdays.
We often find ourselves wandering the club's seperate as one may be playing and never been an issue for us to strike up a conversation while the other is busy doing their thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Op, you don't have to wait.. Try advertising for a club meet?
I've met nice folk doing just that.. Its OK if the person you hoped to meet doesn't turn up, it happens.. As you're there.. Its a strange atmos at first, but if you dress sharp, be well groomed and smelling attractive... Trust me you'll be approached.. A certain look, the couple keep looking over..
It's just as exciting for everyone else.. My view?.. Enjoy the atmos, be yourself... You'll have a great time!
That's a great idea. Decide to go, advertise then see what happens.
I think I'll take your advice even if the op doesn't."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have thought about going to a club on my own,but the high price solo men get charged to get in put me off & I'm not a late night person even at the weekends. Much sooner play in the comfort of mine or someone else's bed. |
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"hope they aren't as horrible to single guys like they are on here.
Some people are looking to meet guys, some aren't. Unless you go and chat with them you'll never know.
Single guys get a bad reputation because some behave badly. Treat people with respect, follow the rules and you'll be great"
Apart from the disproportionate number of guys on Fab, ditto on Fab, actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, do you think it’s a good idea to wait until I’ve got a fuck buddy or just go to a club alone? "
I went by myself it was an experience and it will force you to go up and say hello to people. |
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"Have thought about going to a club on my own,but the high price solo men get charged to get in put me off & I'm not a late night person even at the weekends. Much sooner play in the comfort of mine or someone else's bed."
I'm sure the money from singles pays for the place. Must be tempting for clubs to let in too many which ruins it for others |
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"Don't go alone. You'll only be good for the wanking dead.
Best go to a social. I hear chester's good and very friendly
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I like single guys in clubs as long as they can behave themselves (which doesn't mean be low on the pecking order, it means be friendly and treat me like a person). |
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"Hi, do you think it’s a good idea to wait until I’ve got a fuck buddy or just go to a club alone?
I went by myself it was an experience and it will force you to go up and say hello to people."
Depends what you want for your money. For those singles paying £50 they want more than a friendly chat. You can go to any pub for a chat. Go to a weatgerspoons and they'll throw in a fight for free. |
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"Have thought about going to a club on my own,but the high price solo men get charged to get in put me off & I'm not a late night person even at the weekends. Much sooner play in the comfort of mine or someone else's bed.
I'm sure the money from singles pays for the place. Must be tempting for clubs to let in too many which ruins it for others "
Not really. The good clubs limit the number of single guys to the ratio of couples and single ladies. |
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"Have thought about going to a club on my own,but the high price solo men get charged to get in put me off & I'm not a late night person even at the weekends. Much sooner play in the comfort of mine or someone else's bed.
I'm sure the money from singles pays for the place. Must be tempting for clubs to let in too many which ruins it for others
Not really. The good clubs limit the number of single guys to the ratio of couples and single ladies. "
Which brings the couples and ladies back because it's not an overwhelming experience, which in turn can make it a good experience for well behaved guys (who are more likely to return). |
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Not really. The good clubs limit the number of single guys to the ratio of couples and single ladies. "
So they say. Having been in contact, has assurances,done my research and visited I've found a couple awash with men. |
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"Have thought about going to a club on my own,but the high price solo men get charged to get in put me off & I'm not a late night person even at the weekends. Much sooner play in the comfort of mine or someone else's bed.
I'm sure the money from singles pays for the place. Must be tempting for clubs to let in too many which ruins it for others
Not really. The good clubs limit the number of single guys to the ratio of couples and single ladies.
Which brings the couples and ladies back because it's not an overwhelming experience, which in turn can make it a good experience for well behaved guys (who are more likely to return). "
Exactly. |
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Not really. The good clubs limit the number of single guys to the ratio of couples and single ladies.
So they say. Having been in contact, has assurances,done my research and visited I've found a couple awash with men. "
Well if thats your experience fair enough pal. But its not mine. I've been to a few as a couple and by myself. Only a few single guys and all well behaved but I do know in some places its not always the case. |
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Not really. The good clubs limit the number of single guys to the ratio of couples and single ladies.
So they say. Having been in contact, has assurances,done my research and visited I've found a couple awash with men.
Well if thats your experience fair enough pal. But its not mine. I've been to a few as a couple and by myself. Only a few single guys and all well behaved but I do know in some places its not always the case. "
The ones with the better reputations around here do seem to limit guys, and police behaviour. Which means I'm more likely to play. |
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Not really. The good clubs limit the number of single guys to the ratio of couples and single ladies.
So they say. Having been in contact, has assurances,done my research and visited I've found a couple awash with men.
Well if thats your experience fair enough pal. But its not mine. I've been to a few as a couple and by myself. Only a few single guys and all well behaved but I do know in some places its not always the case.
The ones with the better reputations around here do seem to limit guys, and police behaviour. Which means I'm more likely to play. "
The clubs in the North West seem to do that well. I do know what Millen5 means though. I went to a club near London a few years ago when I was working away. Got chatting to a couple on here for a few days and met them there. They were lovely but everywhere we went, the bar, the tv room etc we were just followed by the wanking zombies. Even when we went to a locked play room the banging on the door was relentless. Complained to the management but they didnt care as the money they got from single men kept the club open apparently.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, do you think it’s a good idea to wait until I’ve got a fuck buddy or just go to a club alone?
I went by myself it was an experience and it will force you to go up and say hello to people.
Depends what you want for your money. For those singles paying £50 they want more than a friendly chat. You can go to any pub for a chat. Go to a weatgerspoons and they'll throw in a fight for free."
For a social I meant a lot of nice people who invited me for afters. |
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"Hi, do you think it’s a good idea to wait until I’ve got a fuck buddy or just go to a club alone?
I went by myself it was an experience and it will force you to go up and say hello to people.
Depends what you want for your money. For those singles paying £50 they want more than a friendly chat. You can go to any pub for a chat. Go to a weatgerspoons and they'll throw in a fight for free.
For a social I meant a lot of nice people who invited me for afters."
Ah, i see. Never thought about after club socials. Tea and biccies i presume.?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, do you think it’s a good idea to wait until I’ve got a fuck buddy or just go to a club alone?
I went by myself it was an experience and it will force you to go up and say hello to people.
Depends what you want for your money. For those singles paying £50 they want more than a friendly chat. You can go to any pub for a chat. Go to a weatgerspoons and they'll throw in a fight for free.
For a social I meant a lot of nice people who invited me for afters.
Ah, i see. Never thought about after club socials. Tea and biccies i presume.?
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I thought it was for tea and biscuits but these couples had other ideas  |
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