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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all?"
Do you mean on here or in real life?
Although for me the answer would be the same for both - it's rare I change my mind as it takes a lot for me to genuinely not like someone. If they have earnt my dislike they'll probably deserve it for a bloody long time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite laid back and have a high tolerance so people tend to have had to do something to make me dislike them.
Once it's there I rarely get persuaded otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm quite laid back and have a high tolerance so people tend to have had to do something to make me dislike them.
Once it's there I rarely get persuaded otherwise. "
This. Don’t have the time nor energy to waste but those that do I simply blank completely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oooh this is a great thread OP.
I generally get on well with most people in person and they get on well with me. However online I don't really "dislike" anyone on here, but just avoid them for good reasons. It would take a lot for me to actually hate someone or block them.
Some examples:
- They have the need to put people down
- People being rude/disrespectful and making below the belt comments. Taking things too far.
- Liars, deception, game players etc
There are a few fabbers men, women and couples I know I will get on well with in person, but due to the way they conduct themselves on here puts me off even meeting them at socials.
2019:
This has just given me an idea! I may have to attend some events and meet those people to see what will happen because we do have mutual friends! Could be interesting, awkward or surprising  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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For me it's generally if someone displays a level of intolerance or shows themselves up to be vicious.
I have little time for negative people, I'd much rather enjoy my time with people that I want to be around |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always replied to all messages , not that I get many hahah .... even if they are from blokes just think it’s nice to be nice .... never blocked anyone .... but to the question yes go with your heart if you don’t like someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's generally if someone displays a level of intolerance or shows themselves up to be vicious.
I have little time for negative people, I'd much rather enjoy my time with people that I want to be around"
Well said.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I treat people how I want to be treated myself and if someone is rude/off with me at first I tend to hold on to that a little. I detest arrogant, narrow minded people, racists, homophobes, bullies, abusers etc.
Also as a Dad I detest men (and women) that have nothing to do with their children after a relationship breakdown or those that use the kids as weapons.
Wow. That was cathartic! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's generally if someone displays a level of intolerance or shows themselves up to be vicious.
I have little time for negative people, I'd much rather enjoy my time with people that I want to be around"
Which is why I use the block.
I have no interest in meeting such narrow minded people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d like to know what it is about me that rubs people up the wrong way, I feel like I get a lot of bitchiness my way. "
Jealousy I reckon
Oh and welcome back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d like to know what it is about me that rubs people up the wrong way, I feel like I get a lot of bitchiness my way. "
You're confident, and some women don't like attractive women who are confident. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about them, just annoying that it affects my options.
I've tried to reconcile but to no avail. 
How does it effect your options?"
Saved me asking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about them, just annoying that it affects my options.
I've tried to reconcile but to no avail.
How does it effect your options? I'm not going into it on an open forum."
 that’s not like you!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d like to know what it is about me that rubs people up the wrong way, I feel like I get a lot of bitchiness my way.
Jealousy mate  "
I was going to say that! Unfortunately jealousy ruins many things on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d like to know what it is about me that rubs people up the wrong way, I feel like I get a lot of bitchiness my way.
You're confident, and some women don't like attractive women who are confident. "
Yep. That's why I'm not liked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about them, just annoying that it affects my options.
I've tried to reconcile but to no avail.
How does it effect your options? I'm not going into it on an open forum.
that’s not like you!!"
Ffs I was going to say that!!
Stop it Nora |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I don't care about them, just annoying that it affects my options.
I've tried to reconcile but to no avail.
How does it effect your options? I'm not going into it on an open forum.
that’s not like you!!"
I've been cockblocked enough haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about them, just annoying that it affects my options.
I've tried to reconcile but to no avail.
How does it effect your options? I'm not going into it on an open forum.
that’s not like you!! I've been cockblocked enough haha"
Noooooo!!! OMG why  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I’d like to know what it is about me that rubs people up the wrong way, I feel like I get a lot of bitchiness my way.
You're confident, and some women don't like attractive women who are confident. "
Oh and some Men really can't handle a strongminded female on here either! I scare the shite out of most men in my area!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d like to know what it is about me that rubs people up the wrong way, I feel like I get a lot of bitchiness my way.
You're confident, and some women don't like attractive women who are confident.
Oh and some Men really can't handle a strongminded female on here either! I scare the shite out of most men in my area! "
Aye lassie. Give em a right malky eh |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I’d like to know what it is about me that rubs people up the wrong way, I feel like I get a lot of bitchiness my way.
You're confident, and some women don't like attractive women who are confident.
Oh and some Men really can't handle a strongminded female on here either! I scare the shite out of most men in my area!
Aye lassie. Give em a right malky eh"
I've actually learnt to not bother any more
Plus, most can't keep up with a war of words when you do bother, it just becomes unfair to the weaker sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oooh, interesting thread
I have met people in the past that I have taken an instant dislike to, and vice versa.
However, these people have ended up being some of my closest friends, i think sometimes when you meet someone you dislike on sight, it's usually because they remind you of the parts of yourself that you don't like.
That being said, I've had people/friends in my life for years who I've been really close to but now no longer speak to, because as I've evolved as a person so have they and their beliefs/morals/attitudes etc don't sit comfortably with me so we part ways.
Just so you all know tho, I'm a delight to be around 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oooh, interesting thread
I have met people in the past that I have taken an instant dislike to, and vice versa.
However, these people have ended up being some of my closest friends, i think sometimes when you meet someone you dislike on sight, it's usually because they remind you of the parts of yourself that you don't like.
That being said, I've had people/friends in my life for years who I've been really close to but now no longer speak to, because as I've evolved as a person so have they and their beliefs/morals/attitudes etc don't sit comfortably with me so we part ways.
Just so you all know tho, I'm a delight to be around
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I am going to say out loud what some people including myself are thinking reading that.
There is always one...
That makes good sense and does a cracking post like that!
Thank you for sharing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here, they are more of a secret amusement than anything. I can skip past most people and their comments, but sometimes, I 'read' them just to confirm they are indeed the tit I assumed they were
In real life, I am bugger for politely confronting unnecessary behaviour. There's often just no need for it and most people don't see how unnecesary they are or were being.
In terms of people I don't like, I just take myself out of their company. No song or dance, just a quiet measured retreat.
I make my mind up pretty quickly
Very few, if any, have changed my initial opinion of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I save my dislike for people I know in real life and dont like.
Here they are just a picture and a few words arent they, you dont know the full person. "
Exactly.
It's easier to avoid the people you don't like on the internet - you simply log out
In real life it's not as simple.
I'm not a fan of most people to be honest - I find them draining and am happiest with my own company.
I dislike having to compromise.
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"Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all?"
I'm sorry  |
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"Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all?"
There's just something about them and I can usually judge quite accurately very quickly.
It doesn't mean others might not like them but they're not for me and I've not changed my opinion on anyone yet and neither have they done anything to prove me wrong.
Some people don't get me but that's fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only problem is working with people you don’t like,any other circumstance you can walk away or log out. Either you find another job or try to ignore them. All other examples are superficial bollocks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really dislike anybody, i don't necessarily agree with everyone but i tend to keep that to myself and respect we may have different opinions but that's ok by me.
Oh apart from my boss who's a full blown, 1st class, A star knobhead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oooh, interesting thread
I have met people in the past that I have taken an instant dislike to, and vice versa.
However, these people have ended up being some of my closest friends, i think sometimes when you meet someone you dislike on sight, it's usually because they remind you of the parts of yourself that you don't like.
That being said, I've had people/friends in my life for years who I've been really close to but now no longer speak to, because as I've evolved as a person so have they and their beliefs/morals/attitudes etc don't sit comfortably with me so we part ways.
Just so you all know tho, I'm a delight to be around
I am going to say out loud what some people including myself are thinking reading that.
There is always one...
That makes good sense and does a cracking post like that!
Thank you for sharing "
Why, thank you kind sir! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all?"
I take it with a pinch of salt mostly- I don't take personal offence but I do find some people a bit "up" themselves- usually females that have started to believe the hype on here! And fake/ snide comments- if I can be arsed I will call them on it.
Mostly I can't be arsed. It's not like its real life. I try to be fair.
Usually if someone is being a twat they get hoisted by their own petard eventually, anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are a few people on here I avoid, because they’re so far up their own backsides but I ignore them. I rarely use the block feature but have had a few I’ve had to block. In real life I get on with most people, there are only a few people I truly hate x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand some people's mentality of following and heckling people they don't like on here.
There are personalities I don't particularly like so I just avoid and concentrate on the majority I do enjoy. Simples.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only problem is working with people you don’t like,any other circumstance you can walk away or log out. Either you find another job or try to ignore them. All other examples are superficial bollocks. "
and customers
we have a few who must get up in a morning and think 'today i am going to be a wanker for no other reason than i can'
everyone has bad days, but when it's the same ones being just downright rude and arrogant at every opportunity ...
what a horrible way to be
spending a few quid doesn't entitle you to be an arsehole |
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I tend to operate on an 'anyone can have a bad day' basis both in life and on Fab... To get on my bad side/block list, someone has to persistently be a cunt. Not necessarily to me either... If I just notice general persistent cuntishness, that'll do it. Otherwise I'm a pretty tolerant person |
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I'm a very easy going person so takes a lot for me to dislike someone.
On here, people take things to heart really easily. I've noticed that some people will dislike you because you have different opinions to them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all?
Do you mean on here or in real life?
Although for me the answer would be the same for both - it's rare I change my mind as it takes a lot for me to genuinely not like someone. If they have earnt my dislike they'll probably deserve it for a bloody long time.
A"
Real life, on here, celebs, whoever really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oooh this is a great thread OP.
I generally get on well with most people in person and they get on well with me. However online I don't really "dislike" anyone on here, but just avoid them for good reasons. It would take a lot for me to actually hate someone or block them.
Some examples:
- They have the need to put people down
- People being rude/disrespectful and making below the belt comments. Taking things too far.
- Liars, deception, game players etc
There are a few fabbers men, women and couples I know I will get on well with in person, but due to the way they conduct themselves on here puts me off even meeting them at socials.
2019:
This has just given me an idea! I may have to attend some events and meet those people to see what will happen because we do have mutual friends! Could be interesting, awkward or surprising "
Have you ever met anyone at a social that you disagreed with on the forum? Could be interesting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve always replied to all messages , not that I get many hahah .... even if they are from blokes just think it’s nice to be nice .... never blocked anyone .... but to the question yes go with your heart if you don’t like someone "
I think it's good to trust your gut. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I treat people how I want to be treated myself and if someone is rude/off with me at first I tend to hold on to that a little. I detest arrogant, narrow minded people, racists, homophobes, bullies, abusers etc.
Also as a Dad I detest men (and women) that have nothing to do with their children after a relationship breakdown or those that use the kids as weapons.
Wow. That was cathartic! "
Agree about your kids comment! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I save my dislike for people I know in real life and dont like.
Here they are just a picture and a few words arent they, you dont know the full person. "
I agree with this, meeting people in person they can be quite different to earlier expectations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah it’s people that pose forum questions but don’t actually answer them themselves!
(Wuv you really!  )
Oh and people that post provocative threads then instantly go offline for hours on end to let the carnage ensue in their absence!! 
(STILL wuv you really!)"
I was eating chocolate ffs. 
So the OP- I was watching tv and there was a celeb that I dislike but I don't know why. An aura perhaps. I've never read bad things about them. It's just the way they conduct themselves in interviews.
Another example, I went right off Meg Ryan after the Parky interview. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a very easy going person so takes a lot for me to dislike someone.
On here, people take things to heart really easily. I've noticed that some people will dislike you because you have different opinions to them.
Mrs"
Yep.. I don't really understand that. I usually like the people I disagree with, more. There's a few people I disagree with sometimes but I like their posts and I'd buy them a brew. You're one of them. |
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"Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all?"
This may come across as being 2 faced
I got told years ago by my grandad when I had just left school and got my first job and I suppose my adult life began
The worst thing to have in life is enemies even if you don’t like someone there may be a time they might be useful for you
except them to be the bell ends they are and it won’t bother you as much
And if you really Carnt tolerate them just scrap them from your life altogether
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"I'm a very easy going person so takes a lot for me to dislike someone.
On here, people take things to heart really easily. I've noticed that some people will dislike you because you have different opinions to them.
Mrs
Yep.. I don't really understand that. I usually like the people I disagree with, more. There's a few people I disagree with sometimes but I like their posts and I'd buy them a brew. You're one of them. "
Exactly this. Aw thank you, i know it would be a very enjoyable one
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Are you aware of what it is that you don't like about them, or is it just a feeling you have?
Did they make one comment 8 months ago and you never forgave them?
Do you ever find yourself changing your mind and liking them after all?
This may come across as being 2 faced
I got told years ago by my grandad when I had just left school and got my first job and I suppose my adult life began
The worst thing to have in life is enemies even if you don’t like someone there may be a time they might be useful for you
except them to be the bell ends they are and it won’t bother you as much
And if you really Carnt tolerate them just scrap them from your life altogether
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I've done that with a few real life people. They think I'm a doormat but I'm happy. |
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Years ago there was a couple posting on these forums about their pics . They said they had been using various special filters and dsl this that and the other . Well of course the forum was congratulating them on how wonderful they were , so classy etc.... and then I came along and said I thought they were boring pics , that they didn’t show what they really looked like , and that anyone that went to so much trouble to produce such arty farty crap were narcissistic .
Anyway , the insults went back and forth . We had plenty of graphic pics , they said they were gross and eventually we both ended up on the naughty step .
A couple of weeks later , we were at our local club and a guy comes over with his wife and says “ You guys look so much better in the flesh “ , and I’m flummoxed as I haven’t recognised him . So I say “I’m sorry , but do we know you” ? “Forums” he says , and looks across to his wife who is wearing the dress that was in the pics I criticised !
Well I was taken aback , but commented on how she looked so much better without the fancy hazing on their profile pics , and walked off thinking how it could have gone a lot worse .
Five minutes later my mrs comes over and says we are going upstairs for a play , to the top room with the four poster bed . So I follow her up and it’s them ! My wife has never come in the forums very often , so she had no idea what had gone on , and she had asked the couple if they fancied a play not knowing of the history on the forum .
To be fair it was good fun , and we made our peace . They left fab a few months later , but it does go to show that people in person can be so different ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oooh this is a great thread OP.
I generally get on well with most people in person and they get on well with me. However online I don't really "dislike" anyone on here, but just avoid them for good reasons. It would take a lot for me to actually hate someone or block them.
Some examples:
- They have the need to put people down
- People being rude/disrespectful and making below the belt comments. Taking things too far.
- Liars, deception, game players etc
There are a few fabbers men, women and couples I know I will get on well with in person, but due to the way they conduct themselves on here puts me off even meeting them at socials.
2019:
This has just given me an idea! I may have to attend some events and meet those people to see what will happen because we do have mutual friends! Could be interesting, awkward or surprising
Have you ever met anyone at a social that you disagreed with on the forum? Could be interesting. "
Not yet, but because of this thread it will happen in 2019. I am going to attend places where they go. This is on you OP haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Years ago there was a couple posting on these forums about their pics . They said they had been using various special filters and dsl this that and the other . Well of course the forum was congratulating them on how wonderful they were , so classy etc.... and then I came along and said I thought they were boring pics , that they didn’t show what they really looked like , and that anyone that went to so much trouble to produce such arty farty crap were narcissistic .
Anyway , the insults went back and forth . We had plenty of graphic pics , they said they were gross and eventually we both ended up on the naughty step .
A couple of weeks later , we were at our local club and a guy comes over with his wife and says “ You guys look so much better in the flesh “ , and I’m flummoxed as I haven’t recognised him . So I say “I’m sorry , but do we know you” ? “Forums” he says , and looks across to his wife who is wearing the dress that was in the pics I criticised !
Well I was taken aback , but commented on how she looked so much better without the fancy hazing on their profile pics , and walked off thinking how it could have gone a lot worse .
Five minutes later my mrs comes over and says we are going upstairs for a play , to the top room with the four poster bed . So I follow her up and it’s them ! My wife has never come in the forums very often , so she had no idea what had gone on , and she had asked the couple if they fancied a play not knowing of the history on the forum .
To be fair it was good fun , and we made our peace . They left fab a few months later , but it does go to show that people in person can be so different ! "
I love this story! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oooh this is a great thread OP.
I generally get on well with most people in person and they get on well with me. However online I don't really "dislike" anyone on here, but just avoid them for good reasons. It would take a lot for me to actually hate someone or block them.
Some examples:
- They have the need to put people down
- People being rude/disrespectful and making below the belt comments. Taking things too far.
- Liars, deception, game players etc
There are a few fabbers men, women and couples I know I will get on well with in person, but due to the way they conduct themselves on here puts me off even meeting them at socials.
2019:
This has just given me an idea! I may have to attend some events and meet those people to see what will happen because we do have mutual friends! Could be interesting, awkward or surprising
Have you ever met anyone at a social that you disagreed with on the forum? Could be interesting.
Not yet, but because of this thread it will happen in 2019. I am going to attend places where they go. This is on you OP haha!"
Glos had a happy ending. It can turn out well. Socials are fun. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Years ago there was a couple posting on these forums about their pics . They said they had been using various special filters and dsl this that and the other . Well of course the forum was congratulating them on how wonderful they were , so classy etc.... and then I came along and said I thought they were boring pics , that they didn’t show what they really looked like , and that anyone that went to so much trouble to produce such arty farty crap were narcissistic .
Anyway , the insults went back and forth . We had plenty of graphic pics , they said they were gross and eventually we both ended up on the naughty step .
A couple of weeks later , we were at our local club and a guy comes over with his wife and says “ You guys look so much better in the flesh “ , and I’m flummoxed as I haven’t recognised him . So I say “I’m sorry , but do we know you” ? “Forums” he says , and looks across to his wife who is wearing the dress that was in the pics I criticised !
Well I was taken aback , but commented on how she looked so much better without the fancy hazing on their profile pics , and walked off thinking how it could have gone a lot worse .
Five minutes later my mrs comes over and says we are going upstairs for a play , to the top room with the four poster bed . So I follow her up and it’s them ! My wife has never come in the forums very often , so she had no idea what had gone on , and she had asked the couple if they fancied a play not knowing of the history on the forum .
To be fair it was good fun , and we made our peace . They left fab a few months later , but it does go to show that people in person can be so different ! "
The number of times I had to rebuild that sodding bed............
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I tend to steer clear of certain personalities in the forum but I don't actively dislike anyone, I don't really know them. I do admire those rare qualities consistency, humour and inclusivity.
In real life I rarely change my mind about people I dislike. It takes me a long time to make a friend and I'm extremely loyal once I have. The other side of that coin is that it takes me a long time to decide I don't like someone and I won't be changing my mind any time soon. |
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over a year ago
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"Years ago there was a couple posting on these forums about their pics . They said they had been using various special filters and dsl this that and the other . Well of course the forum was congratulating them on how wonderful they were , so classy etc.... and then I came along and said I thought they were boring pics , that they didn’t show what they really looked like , and that anyone that went to so much trouble to produce such arty farty crap were narcissistic .
Anyway , the insults went back and forth . We had plenty of graphic pics , they said they were gross and eventually we both ended up on the naughty step .
A couple of weeks later , we were at our local club and a guy comes over with his wife and says “ You guys look so much better in the flesh “ , and I’m flummoxed as I haven’t recognised him . So I say “I’m sorry , but do we know you” ? “Forums” he says , and looks across to his wife who is wearing the dress that was in the pics I criticised !
Well I was taken aback , but commented on how she looked so much better without the fancy hazing on their profile pics , and walked off thinking how it could have gone a lot worse .
Five minutes later my mrs comes over and says we are going upstairs for a play , to the top room with the four poster bed . So I follow her up and it’s them ! My wife has never come in the forums very often , so she had no idea what had gone on , and she had asked the couple if they fancied a play not knowing of the history on the forum .
To be fair it was good fun , and we made our peace . They left fab a few months later , but it does go to show that people in person can be so different ! "
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Years ago there was a woman used the forums. We couldnt stand each other always hissing and snarling at each other. We found ourselves at the same social and she said hi _iamondsmiles. That was 9 years ago she no longer uses the forum but still best buddies |
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"Years ago there was a woman used the forums. We couldnt stand each other always hissing and snarling at each other. We found ourselves at the same social and she said hi _iamondsmiles. That was 9 years ago she no longer uses the forum but still best buddies "
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"Years ago there was a woman used the forums. We couldnt stand each other always hissing and snarling at each other. We found ourselves at the same social and she said hi _iamondsmiles. That was 9 years ago she no longer uses the forum but still best buddies
Femme! "
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"Oooh this is a great thread OP.
I generally get on well with most people in person and they get on well with me. However online I don't really "dislike" anyone on here, but just avoid them for good reasons. It would take a lot for me to actually hate someone or block them.
Some examples:
- They have the need to put people down
- People being rude/disrespectful and making below the belt comments. Taking things too far.
- Liars, deception, game players etc
There are a few fabbers men, women and couples I know I will get on well with in person, but due to the way they conduct themselves on here puts me off even meeting them at socials.
2019:
This has just given me an idea! I may have to attend some events and meet those people to see what will happen because we do have mutual friends! Could be interesting, awkward or surprising
Have you ever met anyone at a social that you disagreed with on the forum? Could be interesting.
Not yet, but because of this thread it will happen in 2019. I am going to attend places where they go. This is on you OP haha!
Glos had a happy ending. It can turn out well. Socials are fun. "
Socials are fun and I am sure it will turn out well because I personally never had any major issues with anyone. We can all respectfully disagree, but at the same time I was avoiding going to the same places they go to.
Thinking about that now I have no clue why I was doing that. So my bad! Why did you not create a thread like this in 2016 or 2017 OP? Could have helped many fabbers you know |
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I've never met most people on here so I don't tend to bother to much about what they may say. After all this isn't like meeting real people in the real world where you see so much more of the whole person.
Here it would almost be like falling out with pixels thst are lost in the ether without ever really touching my life.
In the real world, life's to short to bear grudges..... |
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"Years ago there was a couple posting on these forums about their pics . They said they had been using various special filters and dsl this that and the other . Well of course the forum was congratulating them on how wonderful they were , so classy etc.... and then I came along and said I thought they were boring pics , that they didn’t show what they really looked like , and that anyone that went to so much trouble to produce such arty farty crap were narcissistic .
Anyway , the insults went back and forth . We had plenty of graphic pics , they said they were gross and eventually we both ended up on the naughty step .
A couple of weeks later , we were at our local club and a guy comes over with his wife and says “ You guys look so much better in the flesh “ , and I’m flummoxed as I haven’t recognised him . So I say “I’m sorry , but do we know you” ? “Forums” he says , and looks across to his wife who is wearing the dress that was in the pics I criticised !
Well I was taken aback , but commented on how she looked so much better without the fancy hazing on their profile pics , and walked off thinking how it could have gone a lot worse .
Five minutes later my mrs comes over and says we are going upstairs for a play , to the top room with the four poster bed . So I follow her up and it’s them ! My wife has never come in the forums very often , so she had no idea what had gone on , and she had asked the couple if they fancied a play not knowing of the history on the forum .
To be fair it was good fun , and we made our peace . They left fab a few months later , but it does go to show that people in person can be so different !
The number of times I had to rebuild that sodding bed............
A"
I know !
I felt so sorry for it and what it had to take , up to six , seven or even more people at any given time !
Those were the days huh ?
We had a our hen/ stag night there in 2012 |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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I don't really dislike anyone... If we don't share anything in common and can't find anything to talk about they just pass under my radar...
Going as far as disliking somebody is quite a negative response. I've no time for negativity. |
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Seriously? Of course this may sound harsh !!!but nobody on here is real unless you’ve met them in the flesh . So no there isn’t anyone on here who gets my goat ....... of course I’ve noticed the contrary and the wankers who disagree with every post but hey in reality and from a fab perspective he’s just an hologram with nothing positive to say |
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I'm a pretty good judge of character and I tend to get the measure of people quite early on. Currently the only person I've really taken a dislike to is the guy my mum jumped straight into a relationship with after my dad died, as a result I rarely see her anymore which is a shame considering how close we were as a family up until losing my dad  |
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"I save my dislike for people I know in real life and dont like.
Here they are just a picture and a few words arent they, you dont know the full person.
Exactly.
It's easier to avoid the people you don't like on the internet - you simply log out
In real life it's not as simple.
I'm not a fan of most people to be honest - I find them draining and am happiest with my own company.
I dislike having to compromise.
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Hahaha yes sure you do that |
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I’m not afraid of admitting I’ve changed my mind on a few people over the years on here.
I don’t block and always try not to make snap judgments.
There’s no one I actively dislike currently and yesterday’s social is further proof to me that we really are the friendliest group of perverts imaginable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Seriously? Of course this may sound harsh !!!but nobody on here is real unless you’ve met them in the flesh . So no there isn’t anyone on here who gets my goat ....... of course I’ve noticed the contrary and the wankers who disagree with every post but hey in reality and from a fab perspective he’s just an hologram with nothing positive to say "
Everyone on here is real. |
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"I'm a pretty good judge of character and I tend to get the measure of people quite early on. Currently the only person I've really taken a dislike to is the guy my mum jumped straight into a relationship with after my dad died, as a result I rarely see her anymore which is a shame considering how close we were as a family up until losing my dad "
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I’m quite a social person and get on with most people but detest those who are manipulative, play mind games (women on here) and deceptive. I have no time for drama queens or attention seekers, have a high tolerance but once you cross the line I rarely forgive and forget
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"Seriously? Of course this may sound harsh !!!but nobody on here is real unless you’ve met them in the flesh . So no there isn’t anyone on here who gets my goat ....... of course I’ve noticed the contrary and the wankers who disagree with every post but hey in reality and from a fab perspective he’s just an hologram with nothing positive to say
Everyone on here is real. "
Everyone on here is real but the person they are portraying themselves to be on here most certainly isn't in some cases. |
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"Seriously? Of course this may sound harsh !!!but nobody on here is real unless you’ve met them in the flesh . So no there isn’t anyone on here who gets my goat ....... of course I’ve noticed the contrary and the wankers who disagree with every post but hey in reality and from a fab perspective he’s just an hologram with nothing positive to say
Everyone on here is real.
Everyone on here is real but the person they are portraying themselves to be on here most certainly isn't in some cases."
^ True!
I have seen that often over the years. People sometimes act/behave differently online, but in person can be totally different. This is one of the reasons I was helping organise socials and promoting them massively last time to get more fabbers connected.
Others followed by creating new socials and that allowed more people to meet in person at safe locations all over UK. For those newbies, lurkers or established fabbers never been to an oraganised event make it happen in 2019. |
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I tend to make my mind up pretty fast whether I’m likely to get along with someone or not. However online it’s easy not to engage. Dislike is maybe too strong a word. I’m apathetic to a lot of people.
If I take against you I’m probably not going to change my mind anytime soon. That said, my blocklist is still empty so it does take a lot. |
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I struggle to get on with people who seem to have a superiority complex. There are a few I've come across in real life that are like that.
There are some that I think are a bit like that on here also, but it's difficult to properly gage on the forums, because sometimes, they only show a certain side to their personality. I wouldn't go as far as to say I truly dislike some on the forums. I just see them as not the type I feel would get on with, so choose to ignore.
As for hate. I don't have time for that shit. It's too toxic. I don't hold grudges either. Just for my own peace of mind. |
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"I'm a pretty good judge of character and I tend to get the measure of people quite early on. Currently the only person I've really taken a dislike to is the guy my mum jumped straight into a relationship with after my dad died, as a result I rarely see her anymore which is a shame considering how close we were as a family up until losing my dad
Can you go see her on her own without him being around? "
She comes to see me sometimes. She tried crowbarring him into mine and my sisters lives within a short space of losing my dad and wasn't prepared for the kick back she got from us who were still very much grieving. It was far too soon for us, and I just don't like the guy anyway. |
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