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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer private 1:1,but the timewasters/dreamers are plentiful.
So club meets give you the private room you may require, as well as the group fun and social aspect!
Win win all round! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Private. I'm a one on one kind of guy and frankly the club horror stories sound awful..
This, apart from the one on one bit, that's flexible  "
Ok, you can bring your bestest sexy girlfriend too..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Club. If they don't show there's other options. If he prefers private we can go in a private room in the club. "
That's the way I feel but it seems to be an issue for many.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem I find with clubs for a first meet is the after sex problem....
Do you keep playing with the same person all night , leave the club , or stay and go play with other people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?"
I wouldn't meet a guy or go with him to a club, unless he's been before. I find those who've never been sooo judgemental over the club scene!
Gets on my nerves!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The problem I find with clubs for a first meet is the after sex problem....
Do you keep playing with the same person all night , leave the club , or stay and go play with other people?"
I don't stay with the same person all night but may kiss them on the way past. Quite often see people we have played with previously sometimes we play sometimes not..i enjoy chatting having a drink and a dance as well...in between the sexy antics... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple clubs is pretty much the only way I'd meet
When I've met as a single though I would never consider a club unless I'd already met socially. Not paying a fortune for a first meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?"
Its likely they were not members of the club and failed to get membership in time to meet you there. Most clubs insist on single men joining beforehand and I think most men leave it to the last minute.
I don't agree with men being made to join in advance when couples and ladies can just turn up with ID. If a club can decide on the spot if we are suitable for entry they can make the same decision about men.
They could have also not realised how much it would cost to join in addition to on the night entry fees. So changed their mind.
I only meet men who are already a member to avoid all that and I get them to prove they have been there before by asking them to explain how to get to a certain room from the bar. So for Chams how do you get to the cinema from the bar.
Its amazing how many men message me claiming to be regular members when they have never set foot through the door.
I prefer a club meet as I don't like hotel rooms and would not go to anyone's home. If they don't turn up I am not going to be at a loss for something to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cost maybe. Is getting into a club more than half a hotel room. The perceived lack of privacy. The wipe clean beds...? 
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A single man at the clubs I know would not pay more than about 30 quid so is a hotel room more than 60. Not sure myself as I am no fan of hotel rooms.....I'm too noisy!
The wipe clean beds are very clean and so comfortable. The most comfort I have been in when on my hands and knees.
There are private rooms but getting one can take time.
Only real downside is the men who grope and grab without asking. Not so much a problem if you have a man with you as they are worried they will get a smack in the face but us single ladies are fair game.
Would never use the jacuzzi........ambush alley! |
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Is prefer to private meet but i wouldnt rule out trying a club to say ive done it but would be intimidated because of the choice and just don’t understand how they work for a single be worried about just being in a bar in like a cock fest then its like what do you wear to such advents |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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Private for me more a 1 on 1 person. But would like to try a club I just cannot seem to get the nerve to step foot through door.
Very self conscious of would I measure up to others in there. Even though I am happy with what I have.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cost maybe. Is getting into a club more than half a hotel room. The perceived lack of privacy. The wipe clean beds...?
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^^ this
Hotel room all day long
Sheets on bed .tv .drink bathroom
Deffo better than a club |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cost maybe. Is getting into a club more than half a hotel room. The perceived lack of privacy. The wipe clean beds...?
A single man at the clubs I know would not pay more than about 30 quid so is a hotel room more than 60. Not sure myself as I am no fan of hotel rooms.....I'm too noisy!
The wipe clean beds are very clean and so comfortable. The most comfort I have been in when on my hands and knees.
There are private rooms but getting one can take time.
Only real downside is the men who grope and grab without asking. Not so much a problem if you have a man with you as they are worried they will get a smack in the face but us single ladies are fair game.
Would never use the jacuzzi........ambush alley!"
Hotel rooms are more than 60 on certain days/nights!
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I've done both and like both equally - hotels are of course more private and possibly more intimate as a result, but the sheer liberation and sense of hedonism that clubs give is also appealing - stopping mid-play and seeing others playing around you can be very erotic |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed. "
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?"
Either for me. One of the best first meets I ever had was at the Townhouse on the Wirral. I picked her up and we spent the evening there, mostly in a private room. Great night |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?"
private clubs are expensive for guys and if you say you're not interested you end up feeling crap and on your own
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I like both but appreciate that single men who are not club users may find it expensive. Also, others who don't know the club don't know the score there, the privacy options etc.
It depends on my mood. For a single guy to join and visit for one shag, he may as well book a suite at The Ritz . Throw in tea and I'd be tempted to come instead.
If I want greater relaxation, I'll usually go for private meets but clubs give security and back-up shag options. |
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I only live a 10 minute walk away from The Attic, although I have been numerous times, I have never played there. I went to Chams last year with a lady off here and stopped in one of their rooms for a couple of nights, I did however have a play in the club  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I only meet in clubs, but I also only meet by chance in a club unless I already know the person really well.
I'll just go to a club, socialise chat, dance have a drink and if anything else happens and I found a connection with somebody it's a bonus. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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Im not meeting on a one to one anymore unless it's someone I can meet for a coffee first who lives near me.
2019 it's about getting out there show my face make friends or more. Social events and clubs just for fun and laugher then see were I go from there. If I meet a partner in crime along the way then we can rock it together in whatever direction that may take us.
2019 here we come...... |
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
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You just need to get out of Blackpool more |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
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Actually most women I meet are from the north.
Not that I have any thing against southern women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
Actually most women I meet are from the north.
Not that I have any thing against southern women. "
Ahh you travel a bit...
I visited the South in May and found it easy to find a meet for when I arrived in Sussex. Much easier than Lancs!
I must of been lucky x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
You just need to get out of
Blackpool more "
Ahh your presuming again!
Did we ever PM and you turned me down or something? LOL |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both work for me but club takes it as can do both anyway obvs.
Also libs/big bed/busy night can't beat it with a naughty hotwife/single girl pre arranged or non. very classy place and everyone respects the rules |
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"Private. I'm a one on one kind of guy and frankly the club horror stories sound awful.."
More likely a horror story on a place private meet? Single lady meeting someone she has never met before in a hotel room.
At least in a Club there are staff and regulars to look out for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Private. I'm a one on one kind of guy and frankly the club horror stories sound awful..
More likely a horror story on a place private meet? Single lady meeting someone she has never met before in a hotel room.
At least in a Club there are staff and regulars to look out for you."
Well single women aren't without brain cells they don't meet complete strangers in hotel rooms they always get to know had have a social first in a public place like costas |
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"Whats wrong with blackpool
A lot of fun in Blackpool. He's missing out LOL.... "
I second that.
In answer to the op. I go through phases. Sometimes it’s all about the private meets. Sometimes (like currently) I don’t bother with 1-2-1 meets and just rock up to a club. As I prefer to meet couples at the moment, clubs are the easiest route. |
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Clubs for us, private one on ones are far too risky today.
As the others have said if you want privacy then there are rooms for that and if you’re an extrovert you can put on a show too.
Win, win.
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?"
We prefer Clubs, there's less pressure to play if you don't click, and nobody has to sleep in the wet-patch.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Cost maybe. Is getting into a club more than half a hotel room. The perceived lack of privacy. The wipe clean beds...?
A single man at the clubs I know would not pay more than about 30 quid so is a hotel room more than 60. Not sure myself as I am no fan of hotel rooms.....I'm too noisy!
The wipe clean beds are very clean and so comfortable. The most comfort I have been in when on my hands and knees.
There are private rooms but getting one can take time.
Only real downside is the men who grope and grab without asking. Not so much a problem if you have a man with you as they are worried they will get a smack in the face but us single ladies are fair game.
Would never use the jacuzzi........ambush alley!"
We go to Chams regularly and tend to book a room to sleep over so combining the privacy with the more social aspect. If we play we take them to our room. I always feel a bit akward meeting in a bar... |
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There's a place for both for me. I'm happier without an audience and feel freer meeting privately and that's my preferred option but have had some amazing nights at clubs.
It's a different dynamic and there's a lot to be said for having options if your plans go belly up and knowing you've got the safety of staff and others watching out for you. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Private. I'm a one on one kind of guy and frankly the club horror stories sound awful..
More likely a horror story on a place private meet? Single lady meeting someone she has never met before in a hotel room.
At least in a Club there are staff and regulars to look out for you.Well single women aren't without brain cells they don't meet complete strangers in hotel rooms they always get to know had have a social first in a public place like costas "
Horror stories and unsafe places everywhere.
Its a chance you take!
A coffee a Costa doesn't give you a guarantee 'getting to know all about you'! You can spend the same amount of time in a club fully clothed, talking to someone!
We all have to take a degree of risk to have some fun!
Those that don't, carry on moaning about it
Haha, bless! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cost maybe. Is getting into a club more than half a hotel room. The perceived lack of privacy. The wipe clean beds...?
A single man at the clubs I know would not pay more than about 30 quid so is a hotel room more than 60. Not sure myself as I am no fan of hotel rooms.....I'm too noisy!
The wipe clean beds are very clean and so comfortable. The most comfort I have been in when on my hands and knees.
There are private rooms but getting one can take time.
Only real downside is the men who grope and grab without asking. Not so much a problem if you have a man with you as they are worried they will get a smack in the face but us single ladies are fair game.
Would never use the jacuzzi........ambush alley!
We go to Chams regularly and tend to book a room to sleep over so combining the privacy with the more social aspect. If we play we take them to our room. I always feel a bit akward meeting in a bar..."
That's a good idea x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?
We prefer Clubs, there's less pressure to play if you don't click, and nobody has to sleep in the wet-patch.
Cal"
Agreed.but if I'm in the wet patch always swap over when she gets up for a wee.always thinking here.....always lol  |
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"The problem I find with clubs for a first meet is the after sex problem....
Do you keep playing with the same person all night , leave the club , or stay and go play with other people?
I don't stay with the same person all night but may kiss them on the way past. Quite often see people we have played with previously sometimes we play sometimes not..i enjoy chatting having a drink and a dance as well...in between the sexy antics... "
Same for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social at a pub and then club meet for play. If it's going to be a regular thing then switch it to a private meet after that but wouldn't have a first meet at our house. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Social at a pub and then club meet for play. If it's going to be a regular thing then switch it to a private meet after that but wouldn't have a first meet at our house."
Got to be careful on home meets.could be the tax man/woman in disguise to seize your assets lmfao  |
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I don't think its the club that is making them a "no show"... they probably wouldn't have turned up for a private meet either!
Clubs have a lot of positives, the social aspect, options for a "replacement" if your date doesn't turn up, different rooms, security etc.
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
You just need to get out of
Blackpool more
Ahh your presuming again!
Did we ever PM and you turned me down or something? LOL"
We did chat via PM yes, and if I remember correctly, we struck a deal; if I visit a club with you, you would do a private meet with me? Our conversation seemed to dry up at that point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We use fab to make friends and have repeat meets with couples. In a club totally different, play we those we like the look of, couples or singles but doesn't matter if we don't see again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been to a club once very strange experience was bored until i was saved by a horny beautiful girl finnished thd day with empty balls a fuzzy tongue and finger cramp
Oh and worst of all i penis shaped bruise on my forhead from some over eager cheeky cunt towel wanker wierd but funny day
But solo private is much better more intimate and personal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest we have fun with either.
We tend to arrange eti meet a few friends at a club and have a great social night out with some fun
But then we are just at home having private meets where they can be more intimate and chilled out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been to a club once very strange experience was bored until i was saved by a horny beautiful girl finnished thd day with empty balls a fuzzy tongue and finger cramp
Oh and worst of all i penis shaped bruise on my forhead from some over eager cheeky cunt towel wanker wierd but funny day
But solo private is much better more intimate and personal"
Pahahaha hilarious spin on it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
You just need to get out of
Blackpool more
Ahh your presuming again!
Did we ever PM and you turned me down or something? LOL
We did chat via PM yes, and if I remember correctly, we struck a deal; if I visit a club with you, you would do a private meet with me? Our conversation seemed to dry up at that point "
Crikey how long ago was that?
I won't travel further than Blackpool (by the way, I'm not from there, so already travelling an hour to get to the place)
I'm pretty sure I would of told you that!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats wrong with blackpool
A lot of fun in Blackpool. He's missing out LOL....
Maybe, but I don’t need to travel so far for fun "
Good for you sweetheart!
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I enjoy private meets at mine or when I travel all have an element of excitement about them. Also enjoy clubs but as others have said it can be expensive for a single guy especially if its a first visit and membership is needed. The club's offer a completely different vibe though so I'm sitting on the fence and saying i have no preference they all have something exciting to offer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In 20 years of playing, I've never been to a club, never really had the inclination.
I've had many meets, couples and single females all have been in a private home, hotel, back of my van, woodland etc.
Yet to meet anyone this time around, but if I do it wouldn't be in a club. |
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Private are so hard to set up..
There are clubs that will meet your needs.
There are private clean rooms.
You can have a fun time just chatting.
You see some amazing and strange things.
People in clubs are not fake profile.
You just need to find the club wich meet your needs..
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"Private are so hard to set up..
There are clubs that will meet your needs.
There are private clean rooms.
You can have a fun time just chatting.
You see some amazing and strange things.
People in clubs are not fake profile.
You just need to find the club wich meet your needs..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only private meets for us. We like the atmosphere that builds when we're alone with people so that we can get stuck in properly without the danger of random wandering hands. |
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By *oddamnCouple
over a year ago
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Only clubs for us. We don't pre arrange to meet anyone there, we like to turn up and see who we meet. If no one takes our fancy then we can play together while people watch, which is fun.
At least if the person has bad breath then you can start talking to someone else!
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"Only private meets for us. We like the atmosphere that builds when we're alone with people so that we can get stuck in properly without the danger of random wandering hands."
We have never had that problem there are plenty of locked rooms. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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We used to do clubs, hotels and private meets. It all depends what you want to get from the occasion.
Clubs are certainly the safest route i'd say, whether you're a couple or a single female or male. There are staff on site, security at the door, details kept of attendees (assuming it's a decent club that has memberships and logs entries) so should an unwanted incident happen there is always support on-site - something you don't get in private and hotel staff will be way less use than club staff. Hotels are good if you're wanting to keep fun away from home or are meeting someone half-way, but can be trickier for group fun. Private (home) will depend on your circumstances - having kids will generally negate these meets unless you've offloaded them on thee in-laws but there's also the privacy aspect of a relative stranger knowing your address to deal with, which is obviously different if meeting regular friends.
All options have pros and cons. But clubs offer the most flexibility, security and are also pretty cost effective - even for single males (unless they're willing to accommodate themselves of course) as they'll certainly be cheaper than a hotel.
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
You just need to get out of
Blackpool more
Ahh your presuming again!
Did we ever PM and you turned me down or something? LOL
We did chat via PM yes, and if I remember correctly, we struck a deal; if I visit a club with you, you would do a private meet with me? Our conversation seemed to dry up at that point
Crikey how long ago was that?
I won't travel further than Blackpool (by the way, I'm not from there, so already travelling an hour to get to the place)
I'm pretty sure I would of told you that!
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So, after crafting a detailed reply to your PM, I find I can't send it as you have blocked me. I wasn't having a dig at you, it was only banter. I'm sorry you took it the wrong way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both but I prefer private meetings.
I like the intimacy of a private meet that you don’t get in a club. You don’t have pillow talk on a wipe clean bed.
You must be able to find more genuine people to meet then. I find fab a very slow process and a lot of changing their minds! Maybe it's easier down South than the North West! Just a thought!
You just need to get out of
Blackpool more
Ahh your presuming again!
Did we ever PM and you turned me down or something? LOL
We did chat via PM yes, and if I remember correctly, we struck a deal; if I visit a club with you, you would do a private meet with me? Our conversation seemed to dry up at that point
Crikey how long ago was that?
I won't travel further than Blackpool (by the way, I'm not from there, so already travelling an hour to get to the place)
I'm pretty sure I would of told you that!
So, after crafting a detailed reply to your PM, I find I can't send it as you have blocked me. I wasn't having a dig at you, it was only banter. I'm sorry you took it the wrong way "
No problem! Let's keep it here, I love the exhibitionism sweetheart!
Sorry if I've pissed you off - I've done alot in the swinging world, more than the presuming/judgemental digs/comments you were expressing.
Best of luck
Merry Christmas
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?"
Probably the price and don’t like packs of towel wizards running around  |
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We only meet in clubs, we like the social aspect and being able to carry on with the night after any play. We have met privately individualy and together at private parties before but prefer the club or private parties rather than private meets. That seems to work very well for us. |
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We prefer club meets purely because of the facilities available in clubs. The one we regularly go to (The Attic) has amazing play spaces and two dungeons which fits in with our play style nicely.
The added benefit is that when we get a no-show (it happens a lot) it isn't a ruined night. |
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Oh wow this is a great informative thread for those on the fence. As a social butterfly I loved the social/club scene when I initially joined fab for the first time.
They are great to mix and mingle with people in person at safe secure venues. Some of the well organised bigger social events really go into detail to ensure we all have a fabulous time. Music/dancing is always an added bonus. Happy memories and I hope every fabber gets an opportunity to try a social/club event at least once to see if they will like it or not. You have nothing to loose, but could gain many good friends.
I have done private meets and due to the way I am sexually they are much more suited to me. No rush, no distractions and plenty of time to explore with passion and intensity.
I enjoyed reading this thread. Thanks OP |
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?"
If you meet in a club, you are competing against potentially better looking specimens. You may decide to say no to me because a kitten saving fireman walks past. |
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?
If you meet in a club, you are competing against potentially better looking specimens. You may decide to say no to me because a kitten saving fireman walks past."
But there are potentially better-looking specimens everywhere, n'est ce pas, not only in clubs? |
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"Oh wow this is a great informative thread for those on the fence. As a social butterfly I loved the social/club scene when I initially joined fab for the first time.
They are great to mix and mingle with people in person at safe secure venues. Some of the well organised bigger social events really go into detail to ensure we all have a fabulous time. Music/dancing is always an added bonus. Happy memories and I hope every fabber gets an opportunity to try a social/club event at least once to see if they will like it or not. You have nothing to loose, but could gain many good friends.
I have done private meets and due to the way I am sexually they are much more suited to me. No rush, no distractions and plenty of time to explore with passion and intensity.
I enjoyed reading this thread. Thanks OP "
No problem glad you enjoyed it..We started with private meets then went to Chams..now kinda prefer the club..i'm nosey i like to see others enjoying themselves..We have met single guys in the club and then gone on to meet them privately.. not totally against it but do feel more at ease in that setting. |
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"We arranged a meet at a club but she turned out to either be fake or just getting her kicks as a couple of weeks before she just went quiet on us. Such a shame.
Still waiting for our first meet!!"
No-one else at the Club take your fancy? |
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"Oh wow this is a great informative thread for those on the fence. As a social butterfly I loved the social/club scene when I initially joined fab for the first time.
They are great to mix and mingle with people in person at safe secure venues. Some of the well organised bigger social events really go into detail to ensure we all have a fabulous time. Music/dancing is always an added bonus. Happy memories and I hope every fabber gets an opportunity to try a social/club event at least once to see if they will like it or not. You have nothing to loose, but could gain many good friends.
I have done private meets and due to the way I am sexually they are much more suited to me. No rush, no distractions and plenty of time to explore with passion and intensity.
I enjoyed reading this thread. Thanks OP
No problem glad you enjoyed it..We started with private meets then went to Chams..now kinda prefer the club..i'm nosey i like to see others enjoying themselves..We have met single guys in the club and then gone on to meet them privately.. not totally against it but do feel more at ease in that setting. "
Chams in Darlaston is one of the best clubs in UK. I have not been for years, but recommend it. |
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Horror stories of clubs puts people off ????
People get run over its horific, we don't stop crossing roads ????
I haven't always been a happy bunny in a club but haven't really got any "horror stories". People have attempted things and Adam has put them straight. But mostly people are respectful.
At a club the other day and had the BEST club might ever, but it was marred by one d*unk. Who managed to disrupt two play areas, and the changing rooms before the staff, who were excellent, redirected them to the bar for coffee and a taxi. But one d*unk cannot take the s_ine off the evening, and I think (giving them the benefit) maybe it was a 'little" Dutch courage gone wrong, I ended the evening feeling more sorry for them, than annoyed at them.
who hasn't got accidentally squiffy ?
Don't avoid clubs because of what people say, go find out for youself, if you find it horrific it's more likely to be a person rather than "the club" and staff will help in the case of real problems. Who knows you may have 'the best time ever".
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"I only meet in clubs, but I also only meet by chance in a club unless I already know the person really well.
I'll just go to a club, socialise chat, dance have a drink and if anything else happens and I found a connection with somebody it's a bonus."
Love this it's our attitude too. Should be fun all round |
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most of my meets are private as i invest good time in the lady.
you find out all you need to know via communications so its easy to tell if its worth it or not.
only a few that i meet for sex i also take them to dinner, drinks etc. these are the ones ive formed an excellent friendship with and are worth it.
for me the right lady is an investment as the returns are good
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"I prefer to meet people in clubs and people get in touch and arrange to meet then don't show..usually single men. They seem put off by meeting in a club and prefer private meets. which do you prefer and why?
If you meet in a club, you are competing against potentially better looking specimens. You may decide to say no to me because a kitten saving fireman walks past."
Only if he was wearing his fireman's uniform and carrying the cute little kitty in his arms....then I would be putty in his hands. |
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I only have private meets, haven't got the courage to venture to a club.
In my nearly two years on here I have only had one time waster/let down so by the sounds of things I've been lucky |
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