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over a year ago
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So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Hmmm... all for the freedom to meet others, what swringing is all about afterall. I must confess my ego couldn't take being second choice. May meet them again afew months down the line when I've forgotten all about it |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
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"But maybe their plans for the day finished early or were cancelled? "
In which case they could have dropped you a message so it didn't look like they dropped you for someone else.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that's a bit disrespectful in my opinion, and I personally wouldn't give them the benefit of the doubt.
However, to play devils advocate, I suppose it depends on how far they would have to travel to your meet, and what their reasoning was for cancelling. Like, if they cancelled due to a hospital appointment, for example, and the travel time to and from the place you're meeting would be difficult that day? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think that's a bit disrespectful in my opinion, and I personally wouldn't give them the benefit of the doubt.
However, to play devils advocate, I suppose it depends on how far they would have to travel to your meet, and what their reasoning was for cancelling. Like, if they cancelled due to a hospital appointment, for example, and the travel time to and from the place you're meeting would be difficult that day? "
That's a factor too, the travel would've been much more than to the meet they did go on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Not a chance........unless it was you dotty!!  xXx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
If your bitter don't. If your easy going meet them x |
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"No, that's just poor etiquette.
If they'd cancel and it was a genuine thing then a second chance would be fair
V x"
I'd go with that. Everyone deserves a second chance when side lined by an unexpected turn of events. |
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Depends if I really wanted to meet her also I would still ask why they couldn't meet me on that day but met someone else, They don't have to answer but their reason would help make my mind up about meeting in the future |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance?
Hmmm... all for the freedom to meet others, what swringing is all about afterall. I must confess my ego couldn't take being second choice. May meet them again afew months down the line when I've forgotten all about it "
Honest answer...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah not at all, if something has come up than fair enough arrange again, but meeting with someone else would make it seem like they cancelled our meet to meet the other person and then lied about it. Yes it's swinging, but I appreciate respect and honesty in all aspects of my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think that's a bit disrespectful in my opinion, and I personally wouldn't give them the benefit of the doubt.
However, to play devils advocate, I suppose it depends on how far they would have to travel to your meet, and what their reasoning was for cancelling. Like, if they cancelled due to a hospital appointment, for example, and the travel time to and from the place you're meeting would be difficult that day?
That's a factor too, the travel would've been much more than to the meet they did go on. "
You're providing too many excuses. If you want to give that 2nd chance then do it. Hope it goes well. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah not at all, if something has come up than fair enough arrange again, but meeting with someone else would make it seem like they cancelled our meet to meet the other person and then lied about it. Yes it's swinging, but I appreciate respect and honesty in all aspects of my life. "
Absolutely spot on, that’s exactly what I think
He had his chance and blew it big style Dotty x |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Nope! Plan B's are really not cool. Also putting the veri up like that is just disrespectful!
Things getting cancelled for whatever reason are fine but because they got a better offer? It's a no from me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No...unless they actually explained that due to the short notice and the travel time they could meet someone else and would I be ok with it.
I’d respect them for their honesty then.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Not a fucking chance |
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I’ve had similar happen where I offered to spend the weekend with him but he couldn’t due to some excuse. After it became apparent he chose someone over me Mad Mac raised her ugly head. Then stupid Mac met him again  |
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
No way,I’d be livid. Hell hath no fury and all that. And I won’t be anybody’s reserve shag either. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Up until the point where we discover they have met somebody else we would give them the benefit of the doubt. Once their devious, duplicitous ways have been discovered they are blocked and forgotten about we are not somebodies second choice. |
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
3 words
Hell freezes over
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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only a fool gives second chances.
a nice woman of fab told me this:
its easy to prioritise someone you want to meet. so no excuses work in my opinion.
work and life get in the way YES but if you want it to happen you'll make sure it does. simple |
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Not a snowballs chance! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No...unless they actually explained that due to the short notice and the travel time they could meet someone else and would I be ok with it.
I’d respect them for their honesty then...."
This for me too.
It would depend on how they let me know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"only a fool gives second chances.
a nice woman of fab told me this:
its easy to prioritise someone you want to meet. so no excuses work in my opinion.
work and life get in the way YES but if you want it to happen you'll make sure it does. simple"
Actions speak louder than words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends. I normally have made great efforts to get to know the people I arrange to meet. If they'd been courteous enough to talk to me about it then yeah. I'd remain open to meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends. I normally have made great efforts to get to know the people I arrange to meet. If they'd been courteous enough to talk to me about it then yeah. I'd remain open to meeting. "
Nothing is black and white. I don't do knee jerk or blanket reactions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Honesty is important to us, if they were truthful and explained that they wanted to be somewhere else for whatever reason then we’d be understanding.
Talk to us like cunts and we’ll wash our hands of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance?
Honesty is important to us, if they were truthful and explained that they wanted to be somewhere else for whatever reason then we’d be understanding.
Talk to us like cunts and we’ll wash our hands of you."
I always talk to my cunt... is that similar? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance?
Honesty is important to us, if they were truthful and explained that they wanted to be somewhere else for whatever reason then we’d be understanding.
Talk to us like cunts and we’ll wash our hands of you.
I always talk to my cunt... is that similar?"
Poor clem.
To think... I used to wank over you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance?
Honesty is important to us, if they were truthful and explained that they wanted to be somewhere else for whatever reason then we’d be understanding.
Talk to us like cunts and we’ll wash our hands of you.
I always talk to my cunt... is that similar?
Poor clem.
To think... I used to wank over you "
Fucking classic |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
naaaaa bin him he picked a better offer over you, it's the ultimate insult |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
No you mad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd meet them and give the worse blow job they ever had, and not shave my legs or wash my cunt.
But only if I wanted sex and no one else was available. "
This is sage advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? naaaaa bin him he picked a better offer over you, it's the ultimate insult "
I don't mind if someone gets a better offer and goes with it.
Sometimes it's easier to pop to someone local, than travel miles, and sometimes the hotty pops up unexpectedly and can only meet on a certain day.
I'm happy to be put on hold, but I might lose interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends who it was and how badly I wanted my little NSA fix with them! The majority I’d say no to, one or two I might.
Hey, I know my limitations and place in the scheme of things. There’s PLENTY of better options than me, I get that. But if being second choice Charlie means that I still get to do naughty things with a hottie, even if it is another time, then fuck pride or self worth or whatever... I still want to shag the hottie!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? naaaaa bin him he picked a better offer over you, it's the ultimate insult
I don't mind if someone gets a better offer and goes with it.
Sometimes it's easier to pop to someone local, than travel miles, and sometimes the hotty pops up unexpectedly and can only meet on a certain day.
I'm happy to be put on hold, but I might lose interest. "
he cancelled and gave an excuse then advertised the notch sod that, I wouldn’t entertain again. |
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My thoughts...
Just because verie goes up on a certain day doesn't necessarily mean the meet was that day.
You also say distance was an issue.
They may well have had an appointment or whatever in the morning but then found they had time for a local last minute meet later on.
I don't think that's disrespectful.
Its disappointing, but it's the nature of Fab. People don't have to explain their reasons to you and they gave you plenty of notice they were cancelling.
If you really fancy them then give them a second chance.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
No chance!
His gone for the easy option maybe a local meet.
I still like you though  |
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
If someone had cancelled, I wouldn't even look to see if they'd met someone else. If they've had the manners to give decent notice then all is fine.
Cal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it meant that it was possible for them to meet with me but they cancelled to meet someone else... probably not. But you never know why so I'd give them one more chance. Maybe they met someone they wanted to meet who was only in town for a short time. Maybe they weren't ready to meet you just yet. All I care about is timewasting. Don't care who you want to shag. Just don't waste my time and we're cool. |
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"Depends. I normally have made great efforts to get to know the people I arrange to meet. If they'd been courteous enough to talk to me about it then yeah. I'd remain open to meeting. "
If something is agreed with me out of courtesy that's different, but without explanation? No, that's disrespectful. An fb did that to me and lied, so I binned him, joined fab, and found someone else to meet that night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe I'm being cynical but there don't ever seem to be second chances on fab.
If there were I wonder how they may change real life a way from here..."
omg you've sussed fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends. I normally have made great efforts to get to know the people I arrange to meet. If they'd been courteous enough to talk to me about it then yeah. I'd remain open to meeting.
If something is agreed with me out of courtesy that's different, but without explanation? No, that's disrespectful. An fb did that to me and lied, so I binned him, joined fab, and found someone else to meet that night. "
omg harsh but omg lovely bosoms |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends. I normally have made great efforts to get to know the people I arrange to meet. If they'd been courteous enough to talk to me about it then yeah. I'd remain open to meeting.
If something is agreed with me out of courtesy that's different, but without explanation? No, that's disrespectful. An fb did that to me and lied, so I binned him, joined fab, and found someone else to meet that night. omg harsh but omg lovely bosoms"
... Or she could of sat at home and cried about it!
An assertive woman! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Think you're lying though.. There's absolutely no way that a man cancelled on you.. not a chance in hell. |
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No. I had someone a couple of months back arrange to meet then cancel with a couple of hours notice. The next day they had a veri and it stated in that veri that they'd met on the day we were intending to meet. I blocked with no further comms. Be honest with me and I might entertain the idea. Lie to me and it's see you at ten past never. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you arrange to meet. They cancel with plenty of notice because something has come up that day.
But then on the day they meet someone else.
Do you give a second chance? "
Yes,they are welcome to meet whoever they want whenever suits them.
They're also welcome to message us requesting to meet again.
Not saying we would accept |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The big Fab sweet shop can be a hard place to navigate around when your horny especially if it’s a younger male. Not saying that’s the case but some are clueless and only think with their @&€)”. It would be a no and block from me. |
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