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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At 30 what do you class as older for a matter of interest?  "
Sorry, I should have added clarity. I have always had this, even at 18. E.g. getting on well with 30 year old lady when I'm a good 10 years younger |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you? "
I'd be your friend. Your username is so apt.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you? I'd be your friend. Your username is so apt. "
Thanks 
We are now friends |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you? I'd be your friend. Your username is so apt.
Thanks
We are now friends "
I was referring to Nicecouple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you? "
Possibly, although I didn't explore that because I was in a relationship for a long time. I don't really think about if people like me and I'm only saw them ad friends because in my eyes (And by that I mean societies eyes) they were too "old" for me. Now im like..they were actually people I mentally connected with
Wait a minute. 
Fancy is a strange word. I think a lot of people lust for someone but are not necessarily attracted to them. Many people can have sex with those that they are not attracted to.
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts "
Maybe you're just an old head on young shoulders. It doesn't mean you're more attracted physically to older women but it does mean you're attracted a more mature person intellectually. This doesn't always translate into a good date though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts
Maybe you're just an old head on young shoulders. It doesn't mean you're more attracted physically to older women but it does mean you're attracted a more mature person intellectually. This doesn't always translate into a good date though."
That's my current understanding. This platform is the first time I have preferences towards older women than myself. I would be interested to test the old head theory on a string of dates. Espcially if it didn't mean sex after as I would then get a better understanding....I think |
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you?
Possibly, although I didn't explore that because I was in a relationship for a long time. I don't really think about if people like me and I'm only saw them ad friends because in my eyes (And by that I mean societies eyes) they were too "old" for me. Now im like..they were actually people I mentally connected with
Wait a minute.
Fancy is a strange word. I think a lot of people lust for someone but are not necessarily attracted to them. Many people can have sex with those that they are not attracted to.
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You're probably realising that the whole person is what counts in relationships rather than what they look like or if society approves. Go with the flow and don't overthink |
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you? I'd be your friend. Your username is so apt. "
that's very kind. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you?
Possibly, although I didn't explore that because I was in a relationship for a long time. I don't really think about if people like me and I'm only saw them ad friends because in my eyes (And by that I mean societies eyes) they were too "old" for me. Now im like..they were actually people I mentally connected with
Wait a minute.
Fancy is a strange word. I think a lot of people lust for someone but are not necessarily attracted to them. Many people can have sex with those that they are not attracted to.
You're probably realising that the whole person is what counts in relationships rather than what they look like or if society approves. Go with the flow and don't overthink "
I have never really been one to conform. I see what you are saying but this I am not talking about a relationship so to speak, even if I am in a super market and I have a 5 minute chat with a group of people, I am drawn to ladies a little older than myself. The convosations just seem to flow eaisly, the energy/atmosphere is better too |
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you?
Possibly, although I didn't explore that because I was in a relationship for a long time. I don't really think about if people like me and I'm only saw them ad friends because in my eyes (And by that I mean societies eyes) they were too "old" for me. Now im like..they were actually people I mentally connected with
Wait a minute.
Fancy is a strange word. I think a lot of people lust for someone but are not necessarily attracted to them. Many people can have sex with those that they are not attracted to.
You're probably realising that the whole person is what counts in relationships rather than what they look like or if society approves. Go with the flow and don't overthink
I have never really been one to conform. I see what you are saying but this I am not talking about a relationship so to speak, even if I am in a super market and I have a 5 minute chat with a group of people, I am drawn to ladies a little older than myself. The convosations just seem to flow eaisly, the energy/atmosphere is better too "
So, next time you're in that situation, simply say--"I find you attractive," and gauge the results. (not in a creepy voice, just naturally!).
As an older woman who finds younger men very attractive, I sometimes feel the vibe but don't want to push it.
If nothing else, it's a great compliment to hear that a younger man is appreciative. If the woman you approach is not interested, it was only a compliment.
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you?
Possibly, although I didn't explore that because I was in a relationship for a long time. I don't really think about if people like me and I'm only saw them ad friends because in my eyes (And by that I mean societies eyes) they were too "old" for me. Now im like..they were actually people I mentally connected with
Wait a minute.
Fancy is a strange word. I think a lot of people lust for someone but are not necessarily attracted to them. Many people can have sex with those that they are not attracted to.
You're probably realising that the whole person is what counts in relationships rather than what they look like or if society approves. Go with the flow and don't overthink
I have never really been one to conform. I see what you are saying but this I am not talking about a relationship so to speak, even if I am in a super market and I have a 5 minute chat with a group of people, I am drawn to ladies a little older than myself. The convosations just seem to flow eaisly, the energy/atmosphere is better too "
Haha, and in reference to the earlier thread, this is what a lot of young men say about sleeping with older women. Maybe that's it - we make better 'friends with benefits' because we are not looking for a relationship with them, all that 'tension' over that and charade goes, and it becomes all about the fun in the moment! |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Older women are sexy as fuck, can’t put my finger on why. Also younger women can be a bit annoying.
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Not an adherant of empirical evidence or comprehensive surveys I gather? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Older women are sexy as fuck, can’t put my finger on why. Also younger women can be a bit annoying.
Not an adherant of empirical evidence or comprehensive surveys I gather?"
I don’t know what that means. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Older women are sexy as fuck, can’t put my finger on why. Also younger women can be a bit annoying.
Not an adherant of empirical evidence or comprehensive surveys I gather?
I don’t know what that means. "
Just noting that your statement was a bit of a one size fits all approach -surely there are older women you don't find attractive or younger women you get on with? -just saying like! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Older women are sexy as fuck, can’t put my finger on why. Also younger women can be a bit annoying.
Not an adherant of empirical evidence or comprehensive surveys I gather?
I don’t know what that means. "
neither does he |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my woman friends on and off here are older.
Don't know why, I guess it's because youve been there worn the t-shirt so to speak so at ease with each other.
As you get older you worry less what people think as well.
I'll talk to anyone but when it has come to meets the women have been around my age or older |
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"You must be able to tell if you fancy them. Could it be that you're misinterpreting their friendliness and thinking they are sexually attracted to you?
Possibly, although I didn't explore that because I was in a relationship for a long time. I don't really think about if people like me and I'm only saw them ad friends because in my eyes (And by that I mean societies eyes) they were too "old" for me. Now im like..they were actually people I mentally connected with
Wait a minute.
Fancy is a strange word. I think a lot of people lust for someone but are not necessarily attracted to them. Many people can have sex with those that they are not attracted to.
You're probably realising that the whole person is what counts in relationships rather than what they look like or if society approves. Go with the flow and don't overthink
I have never really been one to conform. I see what you are saying but this I am not talking about a relationship so to speak, even if I am in a super market and I have a 5 minute chat with a group of people, I am drawn to ladies a little older than myself. The convosations just seem to flow eaisly, the energy/atmosphere is better too "
So you get on better with older people than you do with younger. That's great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts "
I get more far more interest from younger guys than older men. My filters don't go below 30 so unsure if they would like me or not |
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts
I get more far more interest from younger guys than older men. My filters don't go below 30 so unsure if they would like me or not "
I'm sure, before I increased my filters I had them as young as 19 chasing, so I am sure you would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of my closest friends is in her late 50's. We met almost 20 years ago when we worked together.
I think the age gap works well in friendship, our different experiences and approaches to things helped each other.
I don't think being friends with a certain type of person necessarily translates into being sexually attracted to that type. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts
I get more far more interest from younger guys than older men. My filters don't go below 30 so unsure if they would like me or not
I'm sure, before I increased my filters I had them as young as 19 chasing, so I am sure you would."
Same here,bloody nuisance those 19yr olds |
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts
I get more far more interest from younger guys than older men. My filters don't go below 30 so unsure if they would like me or not
I'm sure, before I increased my filters I had them as young as 19 chasing, so I am sure you would.
Same here,bloody nuisance those 19yr olds"
I'm sure they are to hot men like you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts
I get more far more interest from younger guys than older men. My filters don't go below 30 so unsure if they would like me or not
I'm sure, before I increased my filters I had them as young as 19 chasing, so I am sure you would.
Same here,bloody nuisance those 19yr olds
I'm sure they are to hot men like you "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts
I get more far more interest from younger guys than older men. My filters don't go below 30 so unsure if they would like me or not
I'm sure, before I increased my filters I had them as young as 19 chasing, so I am sure you would."
Just couldn't go that young! |
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"Happy Thursday everybody.
I have never engaged in any type of sexual activity with an older women, yet I always manage to become friends with them (work and local environments), my friendships with ladies younger than myself always fizzle out. Do any of you think I am misinterpreting my friendship for sexual attraction i.e. I feel like I am more attracted to older women but that attraction might not actaully be sexual, but that's what I am identifying it as I don't fully understand it? I would be interested to know your thoughts
I get more far more interest from younger guys than older men. My filters don't go below 30 so unsure if they would like me or not
I'm sure, before I increased my filters I had them as young as 19 chasing, so I am sure you would.
Just couldn't go that young! "
No, I never did, but there was one totally gorgeous young man on here of that age who was so mature to talk to he was like a breath of fresh air, totally beguiling. He also had one totally stunning profile pic, I'll see if I can find you the link..... |
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