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If the person is married

By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-Black OP TV/TS over a year ago

Walthamstow

Hi so if someone contacts you and comes out in the 1st message that they are married but really like you do you 1 say no thanks 2 carry on and a range a meet 3 ask does the other half know you are on here

I'm saying number 1 no thanks as I would rather not know in the 1st place

Thoughts please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi so if someone contacts you and comes out in the 1st message that they are married but really like you do you 1 say no thanks 2 carry on and a range a meet 3 ask does the other half know you are on here

I'm saying number 1 no thanks as I would rather not know in the 1st place

Thoughts please "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm saying number 1 no thanks as I would rather not know in the 1st place

Thoughts please "

I don't respond to anyone I'm not interested in and it states on the profile I'm not interested in married men, so that's another reason for not responding

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-Black OP TV/TS over a year ago

Walthamstow

I'm saying number 1 no thanks as I would rather not know in the 1st place

Thoughts please

Do you mean you’d rather they hadn’t said and that you could meet without knowing, or that you’d rather not know, as in meet, anyone who is married whether or not their partners are aware or not?"
I mean I would rather they hadn't said it and meet with out knowing I know people play away from home on here but I'd rather not know when meeting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always ask if the other person(s) are comfortable with the situation. Most say no they are not but it's much better if everyone has fun without the skeleton in the closest bursting to come out. C'est la vie.

So i would say if it's not for you and it makes you uncomfortable, walk away even if they really like you.

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I doubt I'd reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm saying number 1 no thanks as I would rather not know in the 1st place

Thoughts please

Do you mean you’d rather they hadn’t said and that you could meet without knowing, or that you’d rather not know, as in meet, anyone who is married whether or not their partners are aware or not? I mean I would rather they hadn't said it and meet with out knowing I know people play away from home on here but I'd rather not know when meeting"

I see, thanks for clarifying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

U can't ever know a person's true status on here for certain , ignorance can be bliss it's their guilty secret not yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

2 for me. It would rather hypocritical otherwise.

Most convos tend to have either 1 and 3 or 2 and 3 in them. 3 always tends to be a given when it comes to the relationship status discussion whether they want to meet you or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Option three, usually swiftly followed by option one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont care

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Id say its down to the individual, and there morals,..

Some would say least there half being honest with u...

If its a woman ..most men wil they dont care lets face it....

A few post latly were ppl lose loves (weren't good enough or good looking enough lol)..and become c@#ts..hurting everyone..having loads women on go..but they prob got mental health. .but I digress. .lol

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Someone’s marital status isn’t one of my selection criteria.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

I'd definitely rather know. My profile says no married men but if the wife knows about it and is okay with her husband playing then who am I to judge.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd definitely rather know. My profile says no married men but if the wife knows about it and is okay with her husband playing then who am I to judge. "
that would be me.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I doubt I'd reply."

What she said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes a no thanks if its individual if its a pasted one I just delete and ignore as there is nothing positive I gave give them.

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By *ob_2017Man over a year ago

the last place you look

I understand not wanting to deal with a cheater (or not caring either way) but is being married, in general, on here that big of a deal?

I mean, it's a swingers site. Open relationships are par for the course.

I don't message people so I don't mention that I'm married but it says it clearly in my profile should anyone ever bother to read it. I don't get how me (or anyone else) being married changes the dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d rather know so I know what I’m getting into. However the last couple of women I’ve met have been hotwifes and their husbands have been aware of it

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By *educedWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

I dislike it immensely if people lie about their marital status.

I'd like to think I've made a choice. Even if that choice is negative.

When someone takes away that I like to kick them in the balls/tits.

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-Black OP TV/TS over a year ago

Walthamstow

Thanks for all the comments I just don't want to be some one's bit on the side and even a marriage wrecker I know when I go to clubs that a percentage of the guys are in a relationship but that's just sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No married men, no attached men, no men with regs, no men with fbs, fwb etc for me... I don't share!! (except with girls... Together... Then it's free rein!!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want to know. If I'm lied to I'm not happy. But I'm one of those horrible people that prefer to meet married men. Married men don't try to make it more than fun. I've found single men tend to be more possessive. But I like the guys to be upfront from the start.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dislike it immensely if people lie about their marital status.

I'd like to think I've made a choice. Even if that choice is negative.

When someone takes away that I like to kick them in the balls/tits. "

this. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not bothered really. People have all manner of reasons for being here. I don't tend to pry into them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id be more concerned about them thinking they really liked me after one message.

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By *tonMessCouple over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I'd prefer to know... I knew when I met Cheffy. We didn't intend for things to develop as they did, it was just fun, I wasn't cheating, what he was doing was his business, I certainly didn't set out to wreck his marriage.

A year later he left her and 4 years on here we are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s none of my business. So 2 - carry on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I bet on this thread alone 90%and above are in some form of a relationship and their meets are ignorant of the fact

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"No married men, no attached men, no men with regs, no men with fbs, fwb etc for me... I don't share!! (except with girls... Together... Then it's free rein!!) "

Think I'm with you on this one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Marrieds are more fun

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By *riskygazMan over a year ago

birmingham

on a site like this, i find it hard to believe anyone would even consider it to be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Marrieds are more fun"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"on a site like this, i find it hard to believe anyone would even consider it to be a problem. "

Why would you say this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No married men, no attached men, no men with regs, no men with fbs, fwb etc for me... I don't share!! (except with girls... Together... Then it's free rein!!) "

Oh blimey! Say it like you mean it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"on a site like this, i find it hard to believe anyone would even consider it to be a problem.

Why would you say this? "

I was going to ask that in my next post... yes why?

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS over a year ago

France, Not in

"Thanks for all the comments I just don't want to be some one's bit on the side and even a marriage wrecker I know when I go to clubs that a percentage of the guys are in a relationship but that's just sex "

I prefer it when the guy is open about being married. For me I will still meet married men and after all its about just likely to be a one off or occasional swing/fuck sessions. Obviously very different if you are looking for a long term relationship with someone. Then I think it is very important to know the marital status from the start so that you are aware of either being a bit on the side or a marriage wrecker.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

yes i will meet someone if they tell me. I can make my own decisions then. What i wont meet is someone who doesnt tell me and then i find out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"on a site like this, i find it hard to believe anyone would even consider it to be a problem. "

You don't know what swinging is then.

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By *lex46TV/TS over a year ago

Near Wells

I've met married people whom their partner doesn't know.

Two things, I don't feel it's down to me to say to people how to run their life.

And if I did it would be extremely hypocritical of me as I have not been a saint all mine.

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS over a year ago

France, Not in

"I've met married people whom their partner doesn't know.

Two things, I don't feel it's down to me to say to people how to run their life.

And if I did it would be extremely hypocritical of me as I have not been a saint all mine. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Number 2. I dont have problems with it

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Number 2. None of my business. Their choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not my issue i dont care everyone has there reasons

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