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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf. 
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued  
Jo.Xx |
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By *idan31Man
over a year ago
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Just ask them out there and then. I was in the pet shop today and the lady behind the counter was stunning... so I just told her she was really beautiful as she handed me my change.
Compliments cost nothing |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx"
It would depend massively on the context of us meeting. I don't think I've ever just asked someone out on the spur of the moment though.
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx"
Ask her. Why the hell wouldn’t you? You may never having the opportunity again and who knows, she could be justbwhat you’re looking for!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I would try and make eye contact a couple of times and see how she reacted if she smiled looked away and looked back again I would then go talk to her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd ask her, gave up telling my friends about girls I fancied when I left school, the other options ??? Well it might never happen so it's a straightforward ask from me |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx"
Option A, men should take the lead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx Option A, men should take the lead."
Most definitely |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx Option A, men should take the lead.
Most definitely"
Unless they blow you out, then don't ever pursue again. The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx Option A, men should take the lead.
Most definitely Unless they blow you out, then don't ever pursue again. The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it. "
You a stockbrocker or a market trader? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first love happened via option B because I didn’t pluck up the courage to ask her at the bus stop each morning. Since then it has always been option A. Although on here I never message first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never gone up to anyone and asked them out straight off. If they laughed at me or said no thanks, it could ruin me!
I gave a girl my phone number once on the train...we’d both given each other the eyes for ages. She never rang me. We bumped into each other on a different train and we sat and chatted for an hour non stop. We dated for a while. When I asked her why she never rang, she just said that she didn’t know anything about me, so was unsure. It just happened naturally.
I like to get to know someone first. Takes away that fear factor...
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx Option A, men should take the lead.
Most definitely Unless they blow you out, then don't ever pursue again. The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it.
You a stockbrocker or a market trader?"
Nope. This site can test a man like no other as meets with certain women can be elusive. I used to have a really abundant mindset but this site can make you weak if you let it. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx Option A, men should take the lead.
Most definitely Unless they blow you out, then don't ever pursue again. The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it.
You a stockbrocker or a market trader? Nope. This site can test a man like no other as meets with certain women can be elusive. I used to have a really abundant mindset but this site can make you weak if you let it."
Oh right -just seems that you are dealing with people like commodities is all. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx Option A, men should take the lead.
Most definitely Unless they blow you out, then don't ever pursue again. The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it.
You a stockbrocker or a market trader? Nope. This site can test a man like no other as meets with certain women can be elusive. I used to have a really abundant mindset but this site can make you weak if you let it.
Oh right -just seems that you are dealing with people like commodities is all."
Don't be silly. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx Option A, men should take the lead.
Most definitely Unless they blow you out, then don't ever pursue again. The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it.
You a stockbrocker or a market trader? Nope. This site can test a man like no other as meets with certain women can be elusive. I used to have a really abundant mindset but this site can make you weak if you let it.
Oh right -just seems that you are dealing with people like commodities is all. Don't be silly."
Whyever not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx"
A - lifes too short to be thinking about "what ifs" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx
A - lifes too short to be thinking about "what ifs""
In reality that’s easier said than done though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx"
oh I just ask |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just ask them out there and then. I was in the pet shop today and the lady behind the counter was stunning... so I just told her she was really beautiful as she handed me my change.
Compliments cost nothing"
That was a nice thing to do. 
People should do it more often.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx
It would depend massively on the context of us meeting. I don't think I've ever just asked someone out on the spur of the moment though.
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Have you ever been asked?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx
Ask her. Why the hell wouldn’t you? You may never having the opportunity again and who knows, she could be justbwhat you’re looking for!!"
*Some men aren't confident to ask I guess. 
But I agree the direct approach is better, imo. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You forgot E -Stalk her until she suddenly feels the way you do"
No, I didn't forget! 
You do know that kind of behaviour is frowned upon,!
*Obviously, you're only 'joking' though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"E- Remember you have crippling commitment issues, panic then go home and cry into a cup of tea."
Or, you could ask her if she would like to share a pot with you!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd ask her, gave up telling my friends about girls I fancied when I left school, the other options ??? Well it might never happen so it's a straightforward ask from me "
Another one for A. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a question mainly for guys, but it works both ways.
So if you met a woman who you were attracted to and you wanted to take her out, do you-
A. Ask her simple as that!
B. Tell your friend so they can put in a good word on your behalf.
C. Hope that all your attempts at making her notice you pays off and she asks you out?
Or
D. Nothing if she doesn't have the confidence to ask you, you're not interested?
I'm intrigued
Jo.Xx"
Well being the shy sort... I would usually ask a mate to put in a good word or two for me 
Have had plenty of nights at the club where I see a lovely lady... we both flirt with each other but she comes with another male... and he’s a BIG bloke!  (he scares me) haha
Maybe if I see her before the end of the year I might get the courage to ask her if she would like some fun? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I prefer to ask now as soon as possible.
would you join me for a drink in the fab lounge bar on Saturday night Jo?! x"
 Thanks Ash, shall we say 10pm? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Id start with a bit of C and if that didn't work, Id be all despondant and do nothing else . Possibly some of that stalking business for a bit  "
I doubt you would have to ask!
I would think you are asked quite frequently. |
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